Zizindikiro za 10 za Covert Narcissism

Zamkati

• Kutengeka kwakukulu pakutsutsidwa
• Kupsa mtima
• Chizolowezi chodziyesa pansi
• Chikhalidwe chamanyazi kapena chodzipatula
• Zolingalira zazikulu
• Kumva kukhumudwa, kuda nkhawa, komanso kudziona ngati wopanda ntchito
• Chizolowezi chosungirana chakukhosi
• Kaduka
• Kudzimva wosakwanira
• 'Kumvera ena chisoni'
• Mfundo yofunika

Mawu oti "narcissist" amaponyedwa mozungulira kwambiri. Amagwiritsidwa ntchito mobwerezabwereza kuti afotokoze anthu omwe ali ndi mikhalidwe iliyonse yamankhwala osokoneza bongo (NPD).

Anthu awa atha kuwoneka ngati odzikonda kapena osaganizira kwambiri za kufunikira kwawo kotero kuti ataya mwayi wowona zenizeni. Kapenanso samawoneka kuti amasamala za ena ndipo amadalira kunyengerera kuti apeze zomwe akufuna.

Zowona, NPD siyophweka. Zimachitika pamtundu waukulu womwe umakhala ndi zikhalidwe zingapo. Akatswiri ambiri amavomereza kuti pali magawo anayi osiyana. Chimodzi mwazinthuzi ndi kubisa kwachinsinsi, komwe kumatchedwanso kuti narcissism.

Kupititsa patsogolo narcissism nthawi zambiri kumakhudzana ndi zizindikilo zochepa zakunja kwa "classic" NPD. Anthu amakumanabe ndi njira zodziwikira koma ali ndi mikhalidwe yomwe nthawi zambiri imakhudzana ndi nkhanza, monga:

• manyazi
• kudzichepetsa
• kutengeka ndi zomwe ena amaganiza za iwo

Zizindikiro zotsatirazi zitha kulozeranso kubisala. Kumbukirani kuti ndi akatswiri okhawo azamisala omwe angapeze matenda amisala.

Ngati mwawona mikhalidwe iyi mwa wokondedwa, alimbikitseni kufunafuna chithandizo kwa othandizira omwe aphunzitsidwa kuthandiza anthu omwe ali ndi mavuto amunthu.

Kutengeka kwakukulu pakutsutsidwa

NPD nthawi zambiri imakhudza kudzidalira komanso kudzidalira mosavuta. Izi zitha kuwonetsedwa mwachinsinsi ngati chidwi chachikulu pakutsutsidwa.

Kumvetsetsa kumeneku sikuli kwa NPD, kumene. Anthu ambiri sakonda kutsutsidwa, ngakhale kudzudzula kopindulitsa. Koma kumvetsera momwe wina amayankhira pakutsutsidwa kwenikweni kapena kozindikirika kumatha kukupatsirani chidziwitso ngati mukuyang'ana kukhudzidwa kwa narcissistic.

Anthu omwe ali ndi chinsinsi chobisalira amatha kupanga mawu osuliza kapena onyodola ndikuchita ngati kuti ali pamwamba pa kutsutsidwa. Koma mkati, atha kumva kuti alibe kanthu, achita manyazi, kapena akwiya.

Kudzudzula kumawopseza momwe amadzionera. Akalandira chidzudzulo m'malo moyamikiridwa, amatha kuchitapo kanthu molimbika.

Kupsa mtima

Anthu ambiri mwina amagwiritsa ntchito njirayi nthawi ina kapena ina, mwina mosazindikira. Koma anthu omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chobisalira nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito nkhanza posonyeza kukhumudwa kapena kudzipangitsa kuwoneka apamwamba.

Zifukwa ziwiri zazikulu zimayendetsa izi:

• chikhulupiriro chakuya "wapadera" kwawo kumawapatsa mwayi wopeza zomwe akufuna
• chikhumbo chobwezera anthu omwe adawalakwira kapena adachita bwino kwambiri

Khalidwe lokhalitsa kungaphatikizepo:

• kuwononga ntchito kapena zibwenzi za wina
• Mawu achipongwe kapena onyoza omwe amakhala nthabwala
• kusalankhula
• kusuntha kosabisa kwachinsinsi komwe kumapangitsa anthu ena kukhumudwa kapena kukayikira zomwe zidachitikadi
• kuzengereza pantchito zomwe amawona pansi pawo

Chizolowezi chodziyesa pansi

Kufunikira kuyamikiridwa ndichikhalidwe chachikulu cha NPD. Chosowachi nthawi zambiri chimapangitsa anthu kudzitama chifukwa cha zomwe adachita, nthawi zambiri ndikukokomeza kapena kunama.

Maury Joseph, PsyD, akuwonetsa kuti izi zitha kukhala zokhudzana ndi kudzidalira kwamkati.

"Anthu omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chomwa mankhwalawa ayenera kuthera nthawi yochuluka akuonetsetsa kuti samva kuwawa, kuti samva kukhala opanda ungwiro kapena amanyazi kapena ochepa kapena ochepa," akufotokoza.

Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lodzitchinjiriza amadaliranso ena kuti adzilimbikitse, koma m'malo modzilankhula okha, amadzipeputsa.

Amatha kuyankhula modzichepetsa pazopereka zawo ndi cholinga chopeza mayamiko ndi kuzindikira. Kapenanso atha kuthokoza kuti awabwezere.

Chikhalidwe chamanyazi kapena chodzipatula

Covert narcissism imalumikizidwa kwambiri ndikulowetsamo kuposa mitundu ina ya narcissism.

Izi zimakhudzana ndi kusatetezeka kwa nkhanza. Anthu omwe ali ndi NPD amawopa kwambiri kuti ena awona zolakwa zawo kapena zolephera zawo. Kuvumbula malingaliro awo amkati a kudziona kukhala otsika kukasokoneza chinyengo chawo cha kudzikuza. Kupewa kuyanjana pakati pa anthu kumathandizira kuchepetsa mwayi wowonekera.

Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lodzitchinjiriza amathanso kupewa mayanjano kapena maubwenzi omwe alibe phindu lililonse. Nthawi yomweyo amadzimva kuti ndiopambana ndipo samakhulupirira ena.

Kafukufuku wochokera ku 2015 akuwonetsanso kuti kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe zimakhudzana ndi NPD kumatha kutopetsa mtima, kusiya mphamvu zochepa zopangira ubale wabwino.

Zolingalira zazikulu

Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lodzinyenga nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nthawi yambiri akuganizira za kuthekera kwawo komanso zomwe akwaniritsa kuposa kuyankhula za iwo. Amatha kuwoneka onyadira kapena amakhala ndi "Ndikuwonetsani".

"Atha kukhala achinyengo, kulowa m'dziko lamkati lamkati lomwe silofanana ndi zenizeni, pomwe adakweza kufunika, mphamvu, kapena kutchuka komwe kumatsutsana ndi momwe moyo wawo uliri," akutero a Joseph.

Zolingalira zitha kuphatikizira:

• kudziwika chifukwa cha maluso awo ndikukwezedwa pantchito
• kutamandidwa chifukwa cha kukongola kwawo kulikonse komwe amapita
• kulandira matamando chifukwa chopulumutsa anthu ku tsoka

Kumva kukhumudwa, kuda nkhawa, komanso kudziona ngati wopanda ntchito

Kuphwanya narcissism kumakhudza chiopsezo chachikulu chodzetsa nkhawa komanso nkhawa kuposa mitundu ina yamankhwala osokoneza bongo.

Pali zifukwa zikuluzikulu ziwiri izi:

• Kuopa kulephera kapena kuwonetsedwa kumatha kubweretsa nkhawa.
• Kukhumudwa chifukwa chakuyembekezera zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi moyo weniweni, komanso kulephera kuyamikiridwa ndi ena, kumatha kuyambitsa kukwiya komanso kukhumudwa.

Kudzimva wopanda pake komanso malingaliro ofuna kudzipha kumalumikizidwanso ndi nkhanza zachinsinsi.

“Anthu omwe ali pampanipani wofuna kukhala osangalatsa komanso okondedwa ndi iwo eni akuyenera kuchita zonse zomwe angathe kuti azisunga ulemu wawo ndikusungabe kudzidalira kwawo. Kulephera kusunga chinyengo kumakhudzanso malingaliro olakwika omwe amabwera chifukwa cholephera, ”akutero a Joseph.

Chizolowezi chosungirana chakukhosi

Wina yemwe ali ndi chinsinsi chobisalira amatha kusungirana mkwiyo kwa nthawi yayitali.

Akakhulupirira kuti winawake adawachitira zachinyengo, atha kukwiya koma osanena kanthu pakadali pano. M'malo mwake, amakhala akudikirira mpata wabwino wopangitsa winayo kuwoneka woipa kapena kubwezera mwanjira ina.

Kubwezera kumeneku kumatha kukhala kwanzeru kapena koopsa. Mwachitsanzo, akhoza kuyamba mphekesera kapena kuwononga ntchito ya munthuyo.

Akhozanso kusungira chakukhosi anthu omwe amalandira matamando kapena kuzindikira komwe akuganiza kuti ali ndi ufulu, monga wogwira naye ntchito yemwe amalandira kukwezedwa koyenera.

Kukwiya kumeneku kumatha kubweretsa mkwiyo, mkwiyo, komanso chidwi chobwezera.

Kaduka

Anthu omwe ali ndi NPD nthawi zambiri amasirira anthu omwe ali ndi zinthu zomwe akuwona kuti ndizoyenera, kuphatikiza chuma, mphamvu, kapena udindo. Amakhulupiriranso kuti ena amawasirira chifukwa ndiopambana komanso apamwamba.

Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lodzitchinjiriza mwina sangakambirane zakukhosi kwawo, koma atha kuwonetsa mkwiyo kapena kukwiya akapanda kupeza zomwe akukhulupirira kuti ndizoyenera.

Kudzimva wosakwanira

Anthu omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chobisalira sangathe kutsatira miyezo yapamwamba yomwe amadzipangira, atha kudziona kuti ndiwosakwanira poyankha kulephera kumeneku.

Kudzimva koperewera kumatha kuyambitsa:

• manyazi
• mkwiyo
• kudzimva wopanda mphamvu

Joseph akuwonetsa kuti izi zatengera ziwonetsero.

Anthu omwe ali ndi NPD ali ndi miyezo yosatheka kwa iwo okha, chifukwa chake mosazindikira amaganiza kuti anthu enanso amawatsatira. Kuti akhale mogwirizana ndi iwo, amayenera kukhala oposa anthu. Akazindikira kuti alidi anthu, amachita manyazi ndi "kulephera" uku.

'Kumvera ena chisoni'

Mosiyana ndi zomwe ambiri amakhulupirira, ndizotheka kuti anthu omwe ali ndi NPD akhale osachepera onetsani kumvera ena chisoni. Koma amathera nthawi yochuluka akuyesa kukulitsa kudzidalira kwawo ndikukhazikitsa kufunikira kwawo kwakuti izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala panjira, malinga ndi Joseph.

Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lodzitchinjiriza, makamaka, angawoneke ngati akumvera ena chisoni. Amawoneka ngati ofunitsitsa kuthandiza ena kapena kuchita zina.

Mutha kuwawona akuchita zinthu mokoma mtima kapena mwachifundo, monga kupereka ndalama ndi chakudya kwa wina akugona mumsewu, kapena kupereka chipinda chawo chogona kwa wachibale yemwe wachotsedwa.

Koma nthawi zambiri amachita izi kuti akondweretse ena. Ngati salandira matamando kapena kuyamikiridwa chifukwa cha kudzipereka kwawo, atha kumva kuwawa ndikukwiya ndikulankhula za momwe anthu amapindulira nawo osawayamikira.

Mfundo yofunika

Narcissism ndi yovuta kwambiri kuposa momwe amapangidwira kukhala pachikhalidwe cha pop. Ngakhale kuti anthu omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zodzisokoneza angawoneke ngati maapulo oyipa omwe ayenera kupewedwa, a Joseph akufotokoza kufunikira kokhala ndi chidwi ndi mphamvu zamankhwala osokoneza bongo.

“Aliyense ali nawo. Tonsefe timafuna kuti timve bwino m'maso mwathu. Tonsefe tapanikizika kuti tikhale monga zolinga zathu, kuti tidzipange kukhala fano linalake, ndipo timachita zinthu zosiyanasiyana kuti tipeze chinyengo chakuti tili bwino, kuphatikizapo kudzinamiza tokha ndi ena, "akutero.

Anthu ena amakhala ndi nthawi yosavuta kuposa ena kuwongolera momwe akumvera ndikumverera. Omwe amalimbana nawo atha kukhala ndi vuto la NPD kapena vuto lina laumunthu.

Ngati wina amene mumamudziwa ali ndi zizindikiro za NPD, onetsetsani kuti mudzisamaliranso. Chenjerani ndi zizindikiro za nkhanza ndipo gwirani ntchito ndi wothandizira yemwe angakupatseni chitsogozo ndi chithandizo.

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