Um, Chifukwa Chiyani Anthu Akupeza 'Death Doulas' Ndi Kuyankhula Za 'Death Wellness?'

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Tiyeni tikambirane za imfa. Zikumveka ngati zowopsa, sichoncho? Osachepera, ndi mutu womwe uli wosasangalatsa, ndipo womwe ambiri aife timaupewa mpaka titakakamizidwa kuthana nawo (BTW, ndichifukwa chake timatengera kufa kwa anthu otchuka kwambiri). Njira yatsopano yamoyo wathanzi ikuyesera kusintha izi.

Icho chimatchedwa "kayendetsedwe kabwino kaimfa" kapena "chitsimikizo chaimfa," ndikunena mwachidule, chimayamba ndikuvomereza kuti imfa ndi gawo lamoyo.

"Kuyanjana ndi imfa kumawonetsa chidwi chachilengedwe chokhudza zomwe tonsefe tidzakumane nazo m'nthawi yathu," atero a Sarah Chavez, director director a bungwe lotchedwa The Order of the Good Death komanso woyambitsa mnzake wa Death & the Maiden, nsanja ya azimayi kukambirana za imfa.

Anthu omwe akutsogolera gululi sakonda kwambiri mdima; kwenikweni, ndi zosiyana kwambiri.

"Timalankhula zambiri zaimfa," akutero Chavez, "koma modabwitsa, sizokhudza imfa kokha, koma zakukweza miyoyo yathu."

Global Wellness Institute idaphatikizanso lipoti lonse lotchedwa "Dying Well" pamndandanda wake wa Global Wellness Trends wa 2019, womwe udatulutsidwa koyambirira kwa chaka chino. Iyenso imati kuganiza za imfa ndi njira yosinthira momwe timaonera moyo. (Zokhudzana: Ngozi Yagalimoto Imene Inasintha Momwe Ndimaganizira Za Januware)

Beth McGroarty, wotsogolera kafukufuku wa GWI komanso wolemba lipotili, akulozera kuzinthu zingapo zomwe zimalimbikitsa kayendetsedwe ka umoyo wa imfa. Mwa zina: kuwuka kwa miyambo yatsopano pafupi ndi imfa pomwe anthu ambiri amadziwika kuti ndi "auzimu" osati "achipembedzo;" chithandizo chamankhwala ndi kusungulumwa kwaimfa muzipatala ndi nyumba zosungira anthu okalamba; ndi Baby Boomers akuyang'anizana ndi imfa yawo ndikukana zochitika zoipa za mapeto a moyo.

McGroarty akuti iyi si njira ina yomwe ingabwere. "Atolankhani atha kunena kuti 'imfa ndiyotentha pompano,' koma tikuwona zisonkhezero zosowa za momwe chete paimfa imapwetekera miyoyo yathu komanso dziko lathu-komanso momwe tingagwiritsire ntchito kubwezeretsa umunthu, kupatulika ndi malingaliro athu pakumwalira, "adalemba mu lipotilo.

Kaya munaziganizirapo kapena ayi, mfundo yochititsa mantha n’njakuti aliyense amamwalira—ndipo aliyense adzamva imfa ya okondedwa ake ndiponso chisoni chimene chidzatsatirapo. "Kwenikweni kukayikira kwathu kuti tisayang'ane kapena kuyankhula momasuka zaimfa zomwe zathandiza kuti pakhale makampani opanga maliro a $ 20 biliyoni omwe samathandiza kwenikweni zosowa za anthu ambiri," akutero Chavez.

Chifukwa chimodzi chimene sitikambitsirana za imfa chingakhale chodabwitsa. "Ambirife tili ndi zikhulupiriro kapena zikhulupiriro zomwe zimawoneka ngati zopanda nzeru pamtunda," akutero Chavez. "Ndizodabwitsa kwa ine kuti ndi anthu angati amene amakhulupiriradi kuti simumalankhula za imfa kapena kuyitchula chifukwa imadzetsa imfa pa inu."

Pamodzi ndi kayendetsedwe kabwino ka imfa, pakhala kukwera kwa kufa kwa doulas. Awa ndi anthu omwe amakutsogolerani pakukonzekera kumapeto kwa moyo (mwazinthu zina) - kutanthauza kuti akuthandizani kuti mupange chikalata chenicheni, papepala, chomwe chimafotokoza momwe mukufuna kuthana ndi zovuta zina zakufa kwanu. Izi zikuphatikizapo zinthu monga chithandizo cha moyo, kupanga zisankho zakutha kwa moyo, kaya mukufuna maliro kapena ayi, momwe mukufuna kusamaliridwa, ndi komwe ndalama zanu ndi katundu wanu amapita. Khulupirirani kapena ayi, izi sizongokhudza makolo ndi agogo anu okha.

"Nthawi zonse mukazindikira kuti tsiku lina moyo wanu utha, ndiyo nthawi yabwino yolumikizana ndi doula wakufa," akutero Alua Arthur, loya yemwe adasanduka doula komanso woyambitsa buku la Going with Grace. “Popeza palibe aliyense wa ife amene akudziwa kuti tidzafa liti, kwachedwa kwambiri kudikirira mpaka mutadwala.

Kuyambira pomwe Arthur adayamba ntchito zake zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi zapitazo - atamaliza ntchito yake yosamalira mlamu wake, yemwe adamwalira - akuti "ndipo" akuwona kuwonjezeka kwa kuchuluka kwa anthu omwe akumufikira onse kuti athandize. ndi maphunziro (amakhalanso ndi pulogalamu yophunzitsa ena momwe angakhalire imfa doulas). Ngakhale kampani yake ili ku Los Angeles, amalankhula zambiri pa intaneti. Ambiri mwa makasitomala ake ndi achinyamata, athanzi, akutero. "Anthu akumva za lingaliro la [death doula] ndipo akuzindikira kufunika kwake."

Ngakhale simuli omasuka ndi lingaliro la kukambitsirana za imfa yanu, kubweretsa imfa poyera-kaya ikukamba za ziweto zanu, makolo anu, agogo anu -ndi njira yopezera imfa yanu. kufa kwake, akutero Chavez. (Zogwirizana: Mlangizi Woyenda Panjanjayu Anasokonekera Pazovuta Atataya Amayi Ake ku ALS)

Nanga zonsezi zikugwirizana bwanji ndi thanzi labwino, mulimonse? Pali zofananira zina zazikulu. Ambiri a ife timayesetsa kupanga zisankho zoyenera posamalira matupi athu m'moyo, "koma ambiri aife sitikuzindikira kuti ifenso tiyenera kuteteza zosankha zathu zakufa," akutero Chavez. Gulu lachitetezo chaimfa limangolimbikitsa anthu kuti azisankha zisanachitike - monga kusankha kuyikidwa m'manda obiriwira, kapena kupereka thupi lanu ku sayansi - kuti imfa yanu ilimbikitse zomwe zinali zofunika kwa inu m'moyo.

"Timakhala ndi nthawi yochuluka yokonzekera kubadwa kwa mwana, kapena ukwati, kapena tchuthi, koma pali zochepa zokonzekera kapena kuvomereza zakufa," akutero Chavez. "Kuti mukwaniritse zolinga zomwe muli nazo, kapena mukufuna moyo wina nthawi yonse yakufa, [muyenera] kukonzekera ndikukambirana pamenepo."

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