Momwe Kukhumudwa Kumatsala pang'ono Kusokoneza Ubwenzi Wanga

Zamkati

• Matenda okhumudwa amawononga ubale
• Ndikupezeka kunapezeka mpumulo - {textend} komanso manyazi
• Kukhala zenizeni zakukhumudwa ndikupeza chithandizo

Mzimayi wina amafotokoza momwe kukhumudwa kosadziwika komwe kunatsala pang'ono kuthetsa chibwenzi chake komanso momwe anapezera thandizo lomwe amafunikira.

Linali Lamlungu lopuma, bwenzi langa, B, adandidabwitsa ndi khadi yamphatso yakunyumba yapafupi. Ankadziwa kuti ndimasowa okwera pamahatchi. Ndinatenga maphunziro kuyambira zaka 8, koma ndinayima pomwe nkhokweyo idagulitsa zaka zingapo m'mbuyomu. Kuyambira pamenepo, ndidayenda maulendo angapo ndikuphunzira pang'ono, koma palibe chomwe chimamvanso chimodzimodzi.

B anali atafika kwa woyang'anira nkhokwe ndipo adatikonza kuti tipite kukakumana ndi akavalo ena omwe amapezeka pagulu (lomwe limakupatsani mwayi wolipira mwezi uliwonse kukwera kavalo kangapo pa sabata).

Ndinali wokondwa modabwitsa. Tinapita pagalimoto ndipo tinakumana ndi mwini mahatchi angapo okongola. Nditasanthula paddock, maso anga adatera pagulidwe lokongola, lakuda la Friesian lotchedwa Guinness - {textend} mozizwitsa mowa wokondedwa wa B. Zinkawoneka ngati zikuyenera kukhala.

Ndidakhala Lamlungu lotsatiralo kunkhokwe ndikumudziwa Guinness ndikupita naye kokayenda. Ndinamva kukhala wachimwemwe.

Patadutsa milungu ingapo, ndipo Lamlungu lina, ndinali nditakhala pabedi masana ndikudya kwambiri Netflix. B adalowa mchipinda ndikundipempha kuti ndipite kukanyumba.

Ndinayamba kulira.

Sindinkafuna kupita ku khola. Ndinkafuna kugona pabedi. Kuyambira mochedwa, zonse zomwe ndimafuna kuchita zinali kugona pakama, ndipo sindimadziwa chifukwa chake.

B adandilimbikitsa ndikunditsimikizira kuti zonse zili bwino. Kuti ngati sindinkafuna kukwera, sindinayenera. Kuti tonsefe timafunikira tsiku loti tigone nthawi ndi nthawi.

Ndinakakamiza kumwetulira ndikulira ndikulira - {textend} ngakhale ndimadziwa kuti "nthawi ndi nthawi" zimasandulika kukhala zachilendo kwa ine.

Matenda okhumudwa amawononga ubale

Kwa miyezi ingapo yotsatira, ndinali womvetsa chisoni kukhala nawo. B sakananena konse, koma ndimadziwa kuti ndinali. Nthaŵi zonse ndinali wotopa, wokonda kukangana, wamwano, ndi wosasamala. Ndimalephera ngati mnzanga, mwana wamkazi, komanso bwenzi.

Ndinkapereka ndalama pamalingaliro okhalabe mnyumba ndikudzipatula kwa omwe ndimayandikira kwambiri. Anzathu akamabwera kudzasewera mpira Lamlungu, ndinali nditatsekeredwa m'chipinda chathu tulo kapena tawonera TV yosaganizira. Ngakhale sindinakhalepo womasuka, mchitidwewu unali wodabwitsa kwa ine, ndipo unayamba kundibweretsera mavuto.

Potsirizira pake, ndinayamba kumenya ndewu ndi B komwe ndewu sizinkafunika kutengedwa. Ndinali wotsutsa komanso wosatetezeka. Kutha kunaopsezedwa kangapo. Tidakhala limodzi zaka zitatu panthawiyi, ngakhale tidadziwana kwa nthawi yayitali.

Zinali zowonekera bwino kwa B kuti china chake sichili bwino. Sindinali munthu wobwerera m'mbuyo, wosangalala, komanso waluso yemwe amamudziwa kwazaka zambiri.

Ngakhale ndinali ndisanatchule zomwe zimandichitikira, ndidadziwa kuti ndichinthu china.

Ndidadziwa kuti ngati ndikufuna kuti ubale wanga ndi B ukhale bwino, ndiyenera kukhala bwino poyamba.

Ndikupezeka kunapezeka mpumulo - {textend} komanso manyazi

Ndinakumananso ndi dokotala wanga ndikumufotokozera momwe ndimamvera. Anandifunsa ngati ndinali ndi mbiri yovuta ya banja. Ndidatero: Agogo anga aakazi ali ndi vuto la kusowa kwa mankhwala komwe kumafuna kuti azigwiritsa ntchito mankhwala.

Anatinso zisonyezo zanga zinali zachisoni komanso mwina nyengo zina, ndipo adandiuza kuti ndiyambe kumwa serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI).

Nthawi yomweyo ndidang'ambika pakati pakumasulidwa kuti panali malongosoledwe amachitidwe anga aposachedwa komanso manyazi kuti ndikupezeka ndi matenda amisala ndikundipatsa antidepressant.

Ndimakumbukira ndikuyimbira B ndikumachita manyazi ndikamavina pamutu wamankhwala. Ndinamufunsa momwe tsiku lake limayendera, ndinamufunsa zomwe akufuna kuchita chakudya chamadzulo usiku womwewo - {textend} wokongola kwambiri chilichonse chomwe chingaletse zokambirana zomwe sizingapeweke zomwe tikufuna kukhala nazo.

Pomaliza, ndidavomereza kuti dotoloyo amaganiza kuti ndili ndi matenda a maganizo ndipo andipatsa kena kake. Ndinaumiriza kuti sindikufuna kumwa mankhwala ndipo mwina adotolo anali kuchita mopitirira muyeso.

Ndanena chilichonse chomwe ndikudalira kuti B itsimikizira lingaliro langa. Sanatero.

M'malo mwake, adachita chinthu champhamvu kwambiri. Anavomera kuti andipeze ndipo adandilimbikitsa kuti ndimvere dokotala komanso kumwa mankhwalawo. Adandikumbutsa kuti thanzi lamisala silosiyana ndi vuto lina lililonse kapena kuvulala. “Ukadakhala wathyoka mkono, sichoncho? Izi ndizosiyana. ”

Kumva kulimbikitsidwa kwa B komanso momwe amachitira zinthu moyenera kunandipangitsa kukhala womasuka komanso wodekha.

Ndinadzaza mankhwala anga, ndipo patatha milungu ingapo, tonse awiri tawona kusintha kwakukulu pamalingaliro anga, malingaliro, ndi mphamvu. Mutu wanga unamveka bwino, ndimakhala wachimwemwe, ndipo ndinali wachisoni chifukwa chosafulumira kulandira chithandizo.

Kukhala zenizeni zakukhumudwa ndikupeza chithandizo

Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndipo mukukhala ndi nkhawa, nazi malangizo omwe angakuthandizeni:

1. Lankhulani. Kuyankhulana ndi mnzanu ndikofunika. Khalani omasuka kunena za momwe mukuchitira.
2. Funsani thandizo. Ngati mukufuna thandizo kapena chithandizo, funsani. Wokondedwa wanu sangathe kuwerenga malingaliro anu.
3. Dziwani kuti sizabwino. Osati tsiku lililonse padzakhala utawaleza ndi kuwala kwa dzuwa, ndipo zonsezo nzabwino.
4. Phunzitsani. Chidziwitso ndi mphamvu. Chitani kafukufuku wanu. Phunzirani zomwe mungathe pamtundu wanu wamavuto komanso mankhwala anu. Onetsetsani kuti wokondedwa wanu waphunzitsidwa pa mutuwo.

Iyi ndi nkhani yanga yokhudza kukhumudwa. Ndili ndi mwayi kukhala ndi wina womvetsetsa komanso wosaweruza ngati B, yemwe ndili ndi mwayi womuyimbira bwenzi langa.

Ngati mukukhala ndi nkhawa, dziwani kuti zimakhala zosavuta kwambiri mukamathandizidwa ndi okondedwa anu.