Kodi Muli ndi Mnzanu Wolakwa?

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Tonse takhalapo: Mumakonzekera chakudya chamadzulo ndi mnzanu, koma ntchito imaphulika kuntchito ndipo muyenera kukhala mochedwa. Kapenanso pali phwando la kubadwa, koma mukudwala kwambiri kwakuti simungathe kukwawa pampando. Ziribe chifukwa chake, muyenera kuletsa mapulani - ndipo mukumva zowawa kuchita izi.

Zimenezo zimatchedwa “kulakwa kwa mnzako,” ndipo akatswiri akuti zikuchulukirachulukira. [Tweet izi!] "Mnzanu wolakwa ndikuchulukirachulukira pakati pa masiku 20," akutero Carlin Flora, katswiri wodziwa zaubwenzi komanso wolemba Ubwenzi: Njira Zodabwitsa Mabwenzi Amatipangira Kukhala Ndife. "Ngakhale atani, amamva ngati sakukhala abwenzi lokwanira." Nthawi zonse pamakhala wina yemwe "mukuyenera" kumuyimbira, ola labwino lomwe "muyenera" kukhalapo, kapena imelo yomwe "muyenera" kuyankha kalekale - kapena mukuganiza choncho. Koma nachi: Ngakhale kumva mwanjira imeneyi kumatanthauza kuti muli ndi zolinga zabwino, kuyesa kusangalatsa aliyense sikutheka - mpaka kungakuchititseni kumva kuti mukuipiraipira.

Sosaite Yathu "Yambiri" = Kukhala Olakwa Kwambiri

Nchiyani chikutipangitsa ife tonse kuganiza kuti ndife abwenzi oyipa? Choyamba, pali zambiri zomwe zikuchitika. Kuphatikiza pakugwira ntchito maola ochulukirapo, pali zochitika zambiri zoti mudzakhalepo - chifukwa chake, zambiri zoti muphonye. "Zonsezi zimabwerera kukukula kwa chikhalidwe cha intaneti," akufotokoza Catherine Cardinal, Ph.D., katswiri wodzidalira komanso woyambitsa ntchito yophunzitsa moyo Wise Women Rock. "Anthu ali ndi mwayi wodziwa zambiri, choncho akugwira nawo ntchito zambiri. Ndiyeno akuitana aliyense m'malo awo ochezera a pa Intaneti kuti abwere ku zochitika zawo, choncho pamapeto pake zimakhala zovuta zazikuluzikulu za misonkhano yambiri." Ndipo popeza mwina simukufuna kuthamangira m'moyo wanu ndikuyesera kugunda chochitika chilichonse, mumadzimva kuti ndinu olakwa pa zomwe mwadumpha.

Chifukwa chinanso chomwe mzanga amadziwonera chikuchulukirachulukira, chodabwitsa, nkhanza. "Zolinga zamankhwala zasintha anthu ambiri kukhala zolengedwa zodzikonda," atero a Christine Hassler, katswiri wazaka zikwizikwi komanso wolemba 20-Chinachake, 20-Chirichonse. "Anthu amaganiza kuti kupezeka kwawo kuli kofunika kwambiri kuposa momwe zimakhalira komanso kuti posawonetsa, phwando silikhala lathunthu kapena wolandirayo adzasweka mtima, pomwe nthawi zambiri aliyense amamvetsetsa bwino."

Khalani ndi Chikumbumtima Choyera

Mwamwayi mutha kusiya ulendo wolakwa wa anzanu: Zonse zimatengera kuyika masamba anu m'mutu mwanu, inde, osati mokweza! - ndikuyika zabwino zanu patsogolo. “Anzako ndi mabwenzi apamtima sakhala ndi kulemera kofanana kotero kuti salandira chithandizo chofanana,” akutero Flora. Ngati mukulephera kupitiriza kupeza nthawi yocheza ndi mnzanu yemwe wakhalapo nthawi zonse pakutha, ntchito yatsopano, imfa ya galu wanu, ndi zina zambiri, inu ayenera mverani chisoni chifukwa ndi gawo lalikulu la moyo wanu, Flora akufotokoza. Koma mwaulemu kukana pempho la mnzanu kapena kumukhululukira nthawi zina sichinthu chodandaula.

"Kudziimba mlandu molakwika kwa anzanu omwe ali mgulu lachitatu komanso lachinayi kumatha kubweretsa nkhawa zopanda pake komanso kukutopetsani mphamvu," akutero Flora. "Ngati mumangokhalira kudandaula za anthu omwe samakukondani kwambiri, zimatha kukhudza kudziona kwanu ndikupangitsani kudziona kuti ndinu anzanu oyipa, omwe simuli."

Kuti mutsimikizire kuti izi sizichitika, musalole mopanda nzeru kuvomereza kuyitanidwa. Ganizilani za iwo mozama, sankhani kuti ndi chochitika chiti chimene chiyenera kukhala patsogolo, ndiyeno pitirizani ndi kuvomereza kuti inde kapena ayi. [Tweet nsonga iyi!] "M'dziko lamakono la FOMO, sitikufuna kuphonya kalikonse, kotero timanena kuti mwina ku chilichonse kuti tidzilole kuchita zambiri. kuyembekezera zabodza, zomwe zimakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu olakwa kwambiri mukapanda kutsatira izi, "a Hassler akufotokoza.

Mukanena kuti inde, lembani deti lanu panthawi yomwe mwadutsa ndipo dutsani zala zanu kuti pasachitike ngozi zapomaliza. Ngati mukukana, sungani zinthu zaulemu komanso zazifupi. "Kufotokozera kwanthawi yayitali chifukwa chake simungapite kumalimbikitsa kudzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa chifukwa zimakupangitsani kumva ngati kuti mwalakwitsa zinazake," a Hassler akutero. Ndipo inu simunatero-kotero kuti mulole izo zipite.

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