Musasinthe Kusintha

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Muli ndi moyo wabwino - kapena mukuganiza kuti mwachita. Apa m'pamene mnzanu asananene kuti apeza ntchito yatsopano, yokhala ndi masheya. Kapena anthu oyandikana nawo adasamukira kudera lokwezeka kwambiri. Posakhalitsa mukudabwa ngati mukuyenera kusanthula mindandanda ya ntchito. Ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani nyumba yanu mwadzidzidzi imamva pang'ono - yaying'ono? Ndi dziko lomwe likuyenda mwachangu, ndipo tonsefe timamva kukakamizidwa kuti tisunge mayendedwe.

"Tikuyenda mofulumira kwambiri, tiribe nthawi yoganiza. Timangochitapo kanthu pa moyo wotizungulira," akutero Beth Rothenberg, katswiri wa zamalonda ndi mlangizi wa moyo ku Los Angeles. "Ndipo zomwe zimachitika kwa ambiri omwe amalipira patsogolo mosaganizira tsiku lina amazindikira, 'Ndili ndi ndalama zambiri, nyumba yayikulu, koma sindine wokondwa."

Ndi mauthenga ambiri achindunji ndi osalunjika oti tiwongolere ntchito zathu, nyumba zathu, ndi miyoyo yathu kuchokera kwa akatswiri a maphunziro, mabuku, achibale ngakhalenso ife eni odzifunira tokha, timadziwa bwanji nthawi yoti titontholetse mawuwo ndi kukhala okhutira pamene tili? Ndiosavuta kuposa momwe zingawonekere. Rothenberg akuti: "Chinsinsi chopanga zisankho zomwe zingakusangalatseni ndikutanthauzira zomwe mumayendera, kenako ndikuwona ngati chisankho chikugwirizana ndi mfundozo."

Musanadye apulo iliyonse yokopa, ganiziraninso zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri kwa inu, akutero Rothenberg. Mutafotokozera zomwe mukufuna kuti mukhale ndi moyo wolemetsedwa, mudzatha kulekanitsa opusa ndi osayankhula. Ndipo nthawi yotsatira sitima ikawoneka kuti ikukudutsani, mutha kukhala osangalala mukungoyimilira aliyense amene akukwera.

Makiyi a chimwemwe chanu

Musanasinthe: Lembani zinthu zitatu kapena zinayi zimene mumayendera pa moyo wanu. Awa ayenera kukhala malangizo anu mukamaganizira kusintha kulikonse. “Ngati chimodzi cha mfundo zanu chikugwira ntchito m’malo olenga zinthu, mwachitsanzo, kugwira ntchito m’malo osapanga zinthu, mosasamala kanthu za phindu lake, sikungakhutiritse chimodzi mwazofunikira zanu,” akutero Beth Rothenberg. Ndipo pamene moyo wanu suli wolinganizika m’njira imene ili yofunika kwa inu, moyo wanu wonse umasoŵa. Makhalidwe abwino ndi okhudza munthu aliyense payekha komanso payekha: Zomwe mungaphatikizepo kukhala ndi nthawi yochuluka momwe mungathere ndi banja; kupereka gawo lofunikira pamunda wosankhidwa; kapena kukhala ndi chitetezo komanso nthawi yokwanira yaulere.

Kenako: Dziwani chifukwa chake mtengo uliwonse uli wofunika kwa inu, ndiyeno ganizirani mmene mungamvere mutavomera kusintha kumene sikukugwirizana ndi mtengo umenewo. Mwina kufunafuna digiri ya ntchito yabwino kuyenera kudzipereka munthawi ndi madola. Kapena mwina nyumba yomwe ili paphiri sikuwoneka yokongola kwambiri pafupi ndi ola lowonjezera lomwe muyenera kuyiyika paulendo wanu.

Kodi ndinu wosinthira?

Kodi mumakopeka kuti musinthe pazifukwa zolakwika? Dzifunseni nokha.

1. Kodi nthawi zambiri mumavomera kuchita zomwe simukufuna kwenikweni?

Anthu ambiri zimawavuta kunena kuti 'ayi' kwa wina aliyense, ngakhale zitakhala bwino kuti akhale ndi thanzi labwino.

2. Kodi munayamba mwavomerapo ntchito kuti muwonjezere kuyambiranso kwanu kapena kupanga ndalama zambiri ndikukhala womvetsa chisoni?

Ngati kutchuka ndi ndalama zili pamwamba pazomwe mumayang'ana, ndiye kuti ntchito yotere ikhoza kukukhutiritsani. Koma anthu ambiri amanyalanyaza chimwemwe, poganiza kuti apanga ndalama tsopano kuti achite zomwe akufuna mtsogolo. Tsoka ilo, "pambuyo pake" nthawi zina amabwera mochedwa.

3. Kodi nthawi yochulukirapo yocheza ndi banja lanu ndiyofunika yomwe mumavutika nayo?

Anthu ambiri amalembetsa izi pamikhalidwe yawo. Ndikofunika kudzifunsa zomwe zimachitika ngati simukukhala ndi makhalidwe amenewa. Kodi kusinthanitsa kuli koyenera? Kodi mungasinthe pang'ono (kuchepetsa maola angapo kuntchito kapena kuchita zina zambiri pa nkhomaliro) kuti mukhale ndi moyo womwe mukufuna?

4. Kodi munagwirapo ntchito molimbika kuti mukwaniritse cholinga - ndipo munakhumudwa mukachikwaniritsa?

Anthu ambiri amayankha zolankhulira kuti akhazikitse zolinga, koma sakhutira akakwaniritsa zolingazo. Nthawi zambiri, n’chifukwa chakuti sanaganizire kaye ngati zolinga zawozo zinali zogwirizana ndi mfundo zawo.

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