Momwe Kudya Kwanga Kovutikira Kumakulitsa Nkhawa Zoyambira

Zamkati

• Kusankha zomwe mungadye tsiku loyamba kumakhala kowawa ngati kutumiza uthenga woyamba
• Kudya tsiku loyamba kumatha kumva ngati kumezera moyo wanu weniweni
• Kupanikizika kosanenedwa kuti muwoneke angwiro, ngakhale osafunsidwa kuti mukhale

"Sindikudziwa momwe mumadyera pano," bambo wina yemwe ndinamupeza wokongola atagwetsa mulu waukulu wa pesto pasitala patsogolo panga, "koma ndikhulupilira kuti izi ndikwanira."

Malingaliro miliyoni adadutsa m'mutu mwanga pomwe ndimayika foloko mu caloric misa. Osati pano. Si nthawi. Msuzi wotsetsereka kavalidwe kanga sikunali nkhawa yanga. M'malo mwake, lidali lingaliro lakundilola kutero idyani kwenikweni -monga kubwerera kumbuyo ndikusangalala ndi njala yabwinoyi - yomwe idasokoneza malingaliro anga. Zinkawoneka ngati zosayembekezereka kuti zichitike ndikamunong'oneza zinsinsi zakuda kwambiri, zakuya za moyo wanga.

Ndipo ndikudziwa kuti sindili ndekha pankhaniyi.

Kusankha zomwe mungadye tsiku loyamba kumakhala kowawa ngati kutumiza uthenga woyamba

Kwa akazi, kukondana ndi wina watsopano kuli ngati kuchita matsenga a miyezi ingapo. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono timaloleza omwe tikugwirizana nawo kuti aziona zazing'ono m'miyoyo yathu, kuwapatsa zambiri zokwanira kuti zigwirizane ndi malingaliro athu.

Ndizovuta kunamizira kuti mkangano wokhudzana ndi chakudya wamkatiwu mulibe mwa azimayi ambiri. Zikuwoneka ngati zopanda chilungamo kuweruza wina potengera zomwe adya tsiku loyamba, koma zimachitika. Ngakhale mawu asadasinthidwe, zomwe timachita kapena zomwe timadya sizimayimira zomwe tili.

M'malo mwake, mu kafukufuku wochokera ku Yunivesite ya Aarhus, adawonetsa ophunzira 80 aku koleji zithunzi za anthu ndipo adafunsa kuti adziyese potengera kukongola. Gawo lachiwiri la kafukufukuyu, adafunsidwa kuti ndiwotani ndalama zomwe angafune kugwiritsa ntchito maswiti ndi zokhwasula-khwasula poyerekeza ndi zakudya zopatsa thanzi.

Amayiwo atavotera amuna ojambulidwawo kuti ndiwokongola, anali ndi mwayi wowononga ndalama pogulira chakudya chopatsa thanzi. Amayi omwe sanakopeke ndi nkhaniyi, komanso amuna onse, sanatengere mwayi wopanga zisankho zabwinozo.

Ngakhale sizikudziwika ngati azimayiwa ali ndi vuto la kudya, ubale wovuta wa chakudya, mawonekedwe amthupi, komanso mawonekedwe oyamba amakhala olumikizana nthawi zonse.

Nkhunda idatulutsa kafukufuku wokwanira mu 2016 wokhudza kudzidalira komanso kudzidalira, kufunsa akazi 10,500 m'maiko 13. Adapeza kuti 85 peresenti ya azimayi ndi 79 peresenti ya atsikana atha kusiya zochitika pomwe sakonda momwe amawonekera. Momwe amadzionera zimakhudza momwe iwonso amasankhira zochita.

• Atsikana 7 mwa 10 omwe ali ndi vuto lodziona kuti ndi otsika adanenanso kuti sangakhale olimba mtima posankha zochita
• Amayi 9 mwa amayi 10 anena kuti asiye kudya kapena kuika thanzi lawo pachiswe

Kudya tsiku loyamba kumatha kumva ngati kumezera moyo wanu weniweni

Amelia S., 27, waku Washington DC, adakhazikika pambali yoletsa kwambiri chakudya chake, kotero kuti adachepa kuchoka pachimake mpaka chochepa thupi. Kwa zaka zambiri, zoletsa zidakhazikitsa ndandanda yolondola, imodzi yomwe sinalolere chibwenzi. Malingana ngati kulemera kwake kutsika, amakhala otetezeka.

Ndiye kuti, kufikira pomwe adakumana ndi Quentin mu lesitilanti ya aphunzitsi kuntchito. "Ndinali ndi chakudya chamasana cha ana ndi apulo wobiriwira, monga ndimachitira tsiku lililonse. Nditatha kuyankhula ndikuseka, ndinaphika mbale yanga yonse mu zinyalala ndikusunga apulo wanga wobiriwira kuti adzagwiritse ntchito mtsogolo. ” Mzerewo udakokedwa mumchenga: amamukonda, amatha kudziwona ali naye, motero sanawoneke akudya.

Nthawi yoyamba kugona, adamva kuti wakale anali ndi ambuye atatu ndi PhD. Nthawi yomweyo, Amelia adadziona kuti ndi wotsika. Koma m'malingaliro ake, adakhalabe "wabwinoko" kuposa wakale pamtundu umodzi: anali wowonda.

Pamene ubale wawo udakulirakulira, anali ndi "osafunsa kwenikweni, osanenanso za chakudya." Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, patatha miyezi yolumikizana, kudalirana, komanso kukhala otseguka, malingaliro a Amelia otetezeka adakula. Zakudya zoletsedwa kale, kuyambira McDonalds kupita ku Thai, pang'onopang'ono zidakhala masewera osakondera.

Koma sizinathe. Usiku womwe adasiyana, adatsuka makatoni asanu ndi atatu a ayisikilimu kutsetsereka.

"Atalimbikitsidwa ndipo sindinatero, nkhawa yanga inali yoyipa kwambiri moti sindinkafuna kudya," Amelia amagawana. “Popanda iye, ndingachite chilichonse chomwe ndikufuna. Pakadali pano, ikudya zopatsa thanzi. "

Koma nthawi zambiri, maubwenzi otukuka, othandizira amakhala mu kusintha kwa chizindikiritso ndikuchira pamavuto akudya. Izi n’zimene zinachitikira Penny C., wazaka 24, wa ku Michigan.

Penny C adayamba bulimia nervosa m'miyezi yoyamba yaubwenzi wake watsopano ndi bambo wachikulire. "Kuti andisunge -" kamtsikana kopusa "- ndidamva kuti ndiyenera kuchepa." Ndipo adatero, mwina posanza kapena poletsa chakudya chilichonse chomwe adadya popanda iye.

"Nditaimirira pafupi naye, ndimadzimva kukhala wamisala komanso wamisala, koma wochepa thupi kuti ndikhale mnzake. Ndinadzilola kudya zakudya zomwe tinali nazo limodzi: pizza, pasitala, zakudya zonse zomwe 'sizinaloledwe' m'moyo wanga wabwinobwino. Zinali zosangalatsa kusasamala za kalori iliyonse. Naye, sindinadziimbe mlandu kwambiri. Ndipo pang'onopang'ono, pamene miyoyo yathu inalumikizana ndipo tinayamba kukhalira limodzi ndikukhala ogwirizana, kuyeretsa kunasiya. ”

Pambuyo pake, Penny adauza mnzake za bulimia yake, ndikuchotsa malire omaliza pakati pawo. "Nditamuuza, ndidali kumulola kuti andiwonedi kwa nthawi yoyamba. Pamapeto pake anali ndi chithunzi chonse. Ndipo sanandisiye. ”

Kupanikizika kosanenedwa kuti muwoneke angwiro, ngakhale osafunsidwa kuti mukhale

Megan K., wazaka 26, waku Indianapolis, saganizira kwambiri za chakudya patsiku ndipo sanakhalepo ndi vuto lakudya. "Ndakhala ndikuganiza kuti ngati mnzanga sangayamikire kutsitsa burger wamkulu ndi ine, ndiye kuti ndibwino kuti ndizichita ndekha," akutero. "Sindingathe kuyitanitsa china chake chosokonekera m'masiku ochepa oyamba, koma kupatula apo, ayi."

Kwa Megan, chotchingacho ndichinthu china chomwe chidachitika m'banja lake. Ali ndi zaka 16, amayi ake adadzipha. "Sindikulera amayi anga kapena momwe adamwalira," Megan akuvomereza. "Omwe sanaphunzirepo sanayenera kulandira. Sadzandidziwa. ”

Zachidziwikire, ndizomwe kudya ndi tsiku latsopano kumabwera, sichoncho? Mtundu wofunsidwa, "kununkhiza." Chakudya chimathandizira kukambirana, chidutswa cha chess podziwa wina. Titha kubisala kuseri kwa kulumidwa, kumeza mawu omwe tikufuna kunena - titasankha ngati munthu amene wakhala pafupi nafe akuyenera kuwamva.

Pokuseka ndi kuseka, pakati pakuluma pang'ono kwa pesto pasitala, ndimakulitsa watsopano wanga wokongola, ndikuwonera zolankhula zamthupi ndikumenyera chizindikiro cha mbendera zofiira, pachilichonse cholakwika. Kuyang'ana, kuyembekezera, kuti apeze chifukwa chosandifunanso.

Pamene mantha sasandulika, ndimatenganso.

Kenako china.

Chifukwa anthu omwe timakumana nawo tikamakhala pachibwenzi atha kukhala anthu omwe timasankha kuyanjana nawo pamoyo wathu. Zitha kukhala zina mwazifukwa zomwe timadzimasula tokha ndikupeza mtendere. Zonsezi zokhala pachibwenzi ndi kudya komanso moyo zitha kuyamba mopanda ungwiro, komabe zitha kutha moona mtima.

Kodi munthu angadye pasitala wa pesto ndikuyang'ana pagalasi patapita maola osadandaula? Yankho mwina. Tonsefe tili nacho mwa ife kuyesera.

Mavuto akudya ndi matenda akulu omwe angayambitse mavuto owopsa chifukwa cha kuperewera kwa zakudya m'thupi kapena kuchepa kwa michere. Zizindikiro za vuto la kudya Zitha kuphatikizaponso kusamba kwa akazi, kufooka kwa minofu, kuwonda tsitsi ndi misomali, ndi zina zambiri. Kuti muthandizidwe, funsani Nambala Yothandiza ya National Eating Disorders Association ku 1-800-931-2237. Kuti muthandizidwe maola 24, lembani "NEDA" ku 741741.

Allison Krupp ndi wolemba waku America, mkonzi, komanso wolemba zamatsenga. Pakati pa zakutchire, maulendo osiyanasiyana, amakhala ku Berlin, Germany. Onani tsamba lake Pano.