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1. Mumapita kuphwando komwe mumangodziwa kuchereza alendo. Inu:

a.

khalani pafupi ndi tebulo la buffet - mungakonde kusiya zakudya zanu kusiyana ndi kukakamizidwa kulankhula ndi alendo!

b. yambani kucheza za tsiku lanu kwa munthu wapafupi ndi inu.

c. pitani ku gulu la anthu omwe amawoneka osangalatsa ndikupereka ndemanga yoyenera panthawi yabwino.

Kuzindikira mwachangu Zachidziwikire, sizosangalatsa kwenikweni ngati simukudziwa aliyense, koma osataya mwayi wokumana ndi anthu atsopano. Yang'anani zomwe zikuchitika ndikulunjika anthu omwe akuwoneka ochezeka, kusankha gulu laling'ono kuposa lalikulu. Zikawoneka kuti kukambirana kwadekha, nyamukani ndikudzidziwitse nokha. "Khalani achilengedwe komanso otseguka," atero a Judith McManus, Purezidenti wa Judith McManus, LLC, komanso mphunzitsi wolankhula zamalonda ku Tucson, Ariz. "Uzani gulu lanu kuti mwatsopano, kenako funsani mafunso oti [omwe angathe" ayankhidwa kuti inde kapena ayi] pomwe anthu amadziwonetsa. "

2. Mwangobwera kumene kuchokera kuulendo wodabwitsa wopita ku Hawaii womwe mukufuna kuti muwafotokozere anzanu. Inu:

a. osanena kanthu. Ndani amasamala za ulendo wanu?

b. pitirizani ulendowo kupita kwa aliyense amene angamvetsere kwa inu.

c. yambitsani mutuwo, kenako pangani ena za maulendo omwe adatenga.

Kuzindikira kwakanthawi Kugawana nthano yanokha, makamaka yomwe imakusangalatsani, kungathandize kuyambitsa zokambirana zatsopano. Ingosamala kuti musamangoganizira za inu nokha. Komanso, pewani zomwe Susanne Gaddis, Ph.D., katswiri wokamba nkhani komanso mphunzitsi wamkulu ku Chapel Hill, N.C., amachitcha one-OOPS (nkhani yathu yathu) -ubwana. "Ngati mumangokhalira kuchita zazikulu kapena kuchita bwino, ndinu anthu OOPSing," Gaddis akutero. M'malo mwake, gawani nkhani yanu ndikuwongolera zokambiranazo pofunsa ngati wina aliyense wapita ku Hawaii kapena ali ndi maulendo osangalatsa. "Yesetsani kulankhulana bwino polankhula 40 peresenti ya nthawiyo ndikumvetsera 60 peresenti," Gaddis akutero.

3. Mukuyimirira pafupi ndi azimayi ena atatu paphwando pamene muwona kuti mmodzi wa iwo sakulankhula. Inu:

a. mumvereni chisoni; pambuyo pa zonse, simukupereka zambiri nokha.

b. pitilizani ndi zokambiranazo, poganiza kuti alowererapo.

c. chitani naye poyang'ana m'maso, kumwetulira ndikumufunsa funso.

Kuzindikira kwakanthawi Yang'anani mayendedwe amthupi a mayiyo ndikuwona ngati mukumvetsetsa zomwe akumva. Kodi akuwoneka wokhutira ndikungomvetsera? Ngati akuwoneka kuti sakumasuka kapena akuchita mantha, mutengereni chidwi chake ndiyeno muyambe kucheza ndi munthu mmodzi. Sungani zokambiranazo mopepuka. "Nthabwala ndi chida chodabwitsa pazochitika zilizonse, makamaka ngati mukuyesa kutulutsa wina," akutero McManus.

4. Mukucheza ndi mnzako yemwe sasiya kukamba za iye yekha. Inu:

a. mvetserani mwaulemu.

b. mutulutseni ndikuyang'ana chowiringula chosiya kukambirana.

c. kulumphirani mkati momwe mungathere ndikupeza mwayi wofotokoza nkhani yanu.

Kuzindikira mwachangu Wokambirana wanzeru amatenga nawo mbali poyang'ana, kufunsa ndikuwulula. Ngakhale kufunsa mafunso kumapangitsa kuti zokambirana ziziyenda, ndikukupemphani kuti mukakamize kwambiri kuti musiye pansi. "Nthawi zambiri timaganiza kuti anthu amangokhalira kukambirana, koma m'malo mwake, tangosiya nthawi yathu yolankhula," atero a Susan RoAne, mlangizi wazolumikizana ku San Francisco komanso wolemba Momwe Mungapangire Luso Lanu (John Wiley & Ana, 2004). Kukonza? Funsani funso, mverani kuyankha kwake, kenako bwerani kuti munene nkhani yanu. Ngati sakakulolani kuti mulankhule, funsani funso lomwe lingakupangitseni yankho loti inde kapena ayi kenako mutenge nthawi.

5. Pa chakudya chamadzulo cha anzanu ogwira nawo ntchito, mwakhala pansi pafupi ndi bambo yemwe simukumudziwa. Mwadziwonetsera nokha, koma simungayambitse zokambirana. Inu:

a. khala nthawi yambiri yamadzulo ndikudya mwakachetechete.

b. perekani ndemanga zabodza zokhudza chakudya kapena alendo, mosasamala kanthu kuti akuwoneka kuti akufuna.

c. yambitsani mitu ingapo usiku wonse pofuna kumupangitsa kuti anene za iye mwini.

Kuzindikira mwachangu Ngati simukhala pafupi ndi mwamuna ameneyu, kukambirana mwaubwenzi kungachititse kuti chakudya chanu chikhale chosavuta kumva. Choyamba, tsegulani ndi losavuta, "Moni, muli bwanji?" Kenako funsani mafunso omwe amabweretsa mayankho olondola, monga, "Mukudziwa bwanji wothandizira alendo?" kapena "Mumakhala kuti?" Ngati simukuyankhabe pang'ono kuchokera kwa iye, pitirizani kulumphira ku nkhani zosiyanasiyana mpaka mutapeza malo oti mugwirizane.

Kugoletsa

Ngati mwayankha makamaka ma A, ndinu:

> Wamanyazi Kwambiri Kapena mwina mumangokhala osadzidalira. Choyamba, dziwani kuti palibe amene amasamala zomwe munganene kapena kuti mulibe chilichonse choti mupereke. Kuti muzikhala ndi zoyambitsa zokambirana nthawi zonse, kulembetsa ku nyuzipepala kapena kuwona makanema aposachedwa ndikubwera kumisonkhano ndi mitu itatu.

Ngati mudayankha nthawi zambiri ma B, ndinu:

> Kulamulira Zokambirana Dzithetseni nokha ndi kusiya kulamulira zokambirana. Pomwe anthu amafuna kumva nkhani zanu, amafunanso kugawana nawo. Apatseni anthu ena mwayi wolankhula - mawu awo awulula zomwe akufuna kukambirana.

Ngati mudayankha nthawi zambiri ma C, ndinu:

> Wopatsidwa Mphatso Zabwino Kwambiri Mumamvetsera kwambiri kuposa kuyankhula, ndipo mphamvu yanu yayikulu imapangitsa anthu kumva kuti mumangowayang'ana akamalankhula. Mosakayikira muli pamndandanda wa alendo onse, chifukwa chake samalani kuti musadzifalitse kwambiri nthawi yatchuthiyi!

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