Kukhala ndi Nkhani Yokhudza Mpikisano ndi Tsankho ndi Ana Athu

Zamkati

• Nthawi yoyenera ndi ino
• Kukhala watsopano pamacheza sikukutanthauza kuti zokambiranazo ndi zatsopano
• Kuti muthandizidwe kudziwa zomwe munganene ...
• Nkhani ikatha pakubwera ntchito

Kukhala ndi kukambirana koona mtima pazinthu zomwe tikuziwona lero zimafunikira kuthana ndi zovuta za mwayi komanso momwe zimagwirira ntchito.

"Tsopano chikhulupiriro ndicho chikhazikitso cha zinthu zoyembekezeredwa, umboni wa zinthu zosawoneka." Ahebri 11: 1 (NKJV)

Iyi ndi imodzi mwamavesi omwe ndimawakonda kwambiri m'Baibulo. Monga kholo ndikulakalaka mwana wanga wamwamuna wazaka 5. Ndili ndi chikhulupiriro kuti chilichonse chomwe ndikuyembekeza, chilichonse chomwe sindikuwona pano, chidzapezeka kwa iye. Pamwamba pamndandanda wazinthu zomwe ndikuyembekeza ndi moyo wautali.

Ndife akuda, ndipo zomwe zawonekera m'masabata awiri apitawa, ndikuti kuda kwathu ndi vuto. Ndizowopsa m'miyoyo yathu, kuthekera kwathu kutulutsa mpweya momasuka, osafunsidwa kapena kuphedwa chifukwa cha izo.

Ngakhale ndikudziwa izi, mwana wanga sali, ndipo tsiku lina posachedwa, posachedwa, adzafunika kudziwa. Adzafunika kudziwa malamulo okhalira awiri - wodziwitsa kawiri W.E.B. DuBois adakambirana koyamba kumapeto kwa zaka za zana la 19 - ayenera kuyesetsa kuti apulumuke.

Ndiye ndimacheza bwanji? Kodi kholo lililonse limakhala bwanji ichi kucheza ndi mwana wawo? Kodi timafotokozera bwanji nkhani yomwe ikusintha ndikumwalira kwatsopano, pazochitika zilizonse zoyipa komanso zoyipa zomwe zitha kubweretsa zotsatira zosiyana ngati khansa ya pakhungu la ozunzidwayo idakanidwa?

Nthawi yoyenera ndi ino

Onse awiri a Jennifer Harvey, pulofesa wazikhalidwe zachikhristu ku Drake University ku Des Moines, Iowa, ndi Dr. Joseph A. Jackson, dokotala wa ana ku Duke University School of Medicine, amakhulupirira kuti zokambirana izi zokhudzana ndi mafuko, tsankho, ufulu, ndi kumasulidwa kwa anthu akuda zikuyamba pakubadwa.

"Ngati makolo anga adayamba ndi ine pobadwa, ndikadakhala mnzake posachedwa m'moyo wanga ndikupanga zolakwitsa zochepa ndikumapweteketsa anthu ochepa paulendo wanga wophunzirira," adatero Harvey polankhula pafoni.

Kwa Jackson, ayenera nkhani ndi aliyense mwa ana ake asanu ndi mmodzi. Kwa mwana wake wamkazi wazaka 4, chidwi chake chimamutsimikizira pakuda kwake, mu kukongola kwake, pakutha kwake kuwona kukongola mosiyana. Kwa ana ake aamuna asanu zokambiranazi zimasiyanasiyana ndi mwana aliyense.

"Ndili ndi magulu atatu, mmodzi wa iwo ndikuganiza kuti sakudziwa zomwe zikuchitika ponseponse, kenako ndili ndi wina yemwe wasweka kwathunthu pamavuto padziko lapansi," adatero Jackson. "Chifukwa chake, ndimacheza omwe ndimayesetsa kulowa nawo, munthawi yoyenera kuti ndifunse mafunso ambiri kuti ayankhe."

Koma palibe zaka zenizeni zoyenerera za imfa yakuda, komanso kupha dala anthu akuda ndi omwe ali pamphamvu omwe amatetezedwa ndi azungu oyang'anira dziko lonse lapansi - gulu lamphamvu lankhanza lomwe lakhala likugwira ntchito ndikukakamizidwa kuyambira 1619.

"Ndikuganiza kuti chimodzi mwazinthu zolemetsa kwambiri nyengo ino ndikuti pali nkhani zomwe sizimandidabwitsa," adatero Jackson.

Kukhala watsopano pamacheza sikukutanthauza kuti zokambiranazo ndi zatsopano

Zovuta komanso zoyambitsa momwe zimakhalira kuwona mphindi zomaliza za moyo zitasanduka kuchokera mthupi la munthu wina atapempha kuti apume, sizatsopano. America ili ndi mbiri yakuwona anthu akuda akuvutika komanso / kapena kufa chifukwa chamasewera.

Zaka zana limodzi ndi chimodzi pambuyo pa Chilimwe Chofiira zikuwoneka kuti dziko lathu lilinso. M'malo mokokedwa ndi anthu akuda m'nyumba zawo ndikupachikidwa pamitengo ikuluikulu m'mabwalo a anthu paphwando lamanyazi, tsopano tawomberedwa m'nyumba zathu, m'matchalitchi athu, mgalimoto zathu, pamaso pa ana athu, ndi zina zambiri, zambiri Zambiri.

Kwa mabanja akuda kukhala nawo nkhani Ponena za mtundu ndi kusankhana mitundu ndi ana awo pali malire omwe tiyenera kuchita pakati pakuphunzitsa zenizeni ndikuyesera kuti tisakule m'badwo womwe umakhala mwamantha.

Kwa mabanja azungu omwe ali nawo nkhani, Muyenera kumvetsetsa mbiri yakale komanso momwe munabadwira komanso kupindula chifukwa cha mwayi wakhungu lanu. Ndiye ntchito yabodza kuyanjanitsa zinthu izi popanda kukhala wonyalanyaza, kudzitchinjiriza, kapena kudzazidwa ndi chikumbumtima mumakhala wopanda chidwi - kapena choipirapo, osokonezeka mtima kotero kuti simungathe kuziyang'ana panokha.

Harvey adati, "Kudzitchinjiriza kwa azungu kumakhala kwakukulu, nthawi zina ndichifukwa choti sitisamala ndipo ili ndi vuto, ndipo nthawi zina ndichifukwa sitikudziwa choti tichite ndi zolakwa zathu. . . [Sitiyenera] kudzimva kuti ndife olakwa nthawi zonse. Titha kulowererapo ndikuchitapo kanthu ngati othandizana nawo pankhondo yolimbana ndi tsankho. ”

Kuti muthandizidwe kudziwa zomwe munganene ...

Healthline adalemba mndandanda wazinthu zotsutsana ndi tsankho kwa makolo ndi ana. Timazisintha pafupipafupi, ndipo tikulimbikitsa makolo kuti apitilize maphunziro awo momwe angalere ana ophatikizira, olungama, komanso odana ndi tsankho.

Nkhani ikatha pakubwera ntchito

Komabe, payenera kukhala zochulukirapo kuposa kungolankhula pamilomo pazogwirizana komanso kuyimilira mogwirizana. Zonse zikumveka bwino, koma kodi muwonetsa?

Mwayi umakwaniritsa cholinga. Zakhala zikugwiritsidwa ntchito kulimbikitsa ambiri mdziko muno kwa nthawi yayitali, ndikosavuta kumvetsetsa momwe azungu samayang'anitsitsa zowawa za anthu akuda. Ndikumva kupweteka komwe Dr. Jackson akumva ngati kwake.

"Mphindi ino, tonse tawona kanemayo, ndipo tikudziwa kuti moyo watayika, makamaka chifukwa cha mtundu wa khungu [la George Floyd]. Panali mwayi womwe anthu ena omwe adayimilira anali nawo munthawiyo ndipo sanataye pansi. "

Kukhala ndi kukambirana koona mtima pazinthu zomwe tikuziwona lero zimafunikira kuthana ndi zovuta za mwayi komanso momwe zimagwirira ntchito. Zimafunikira kukhala ndi zokambirana zosasangalatsa pamtundu, kusankhana mitundu, kukondera, komanso kuponderezana, ndipo tonsefe tikuyesetsa kuchita bwino kuposa m'badwo womwe udalipo kale.

Udindo suli kwa anthu akuda kuti aziphunzitsa azungu momwe sayenera kusankhana mitundu. Mzungu aliyense - mwamuna, mkazi, ndi mwana - adzayenera kugwira ntchito yolimba ya moyo wonse kuti athe kusintha kosatha.

Harvey adati, "Ndikuganiza kuti ngati tingapeze azungu ochulukirapo kuti akhale kutali, kusintha kuyenera kudza. Azungu amamvetsera mwanjira ina, zomwe sizolondola, koma ndi zina mwazomwe magwiridwe antchito oyera. "

Pomwe ife monga anthu akuda tikupitilizabe kusenza mavuto a anthu athu, kuleza mtima ndi kuleza mtima ndi azungu aku America si maphunziro okhawo omwe tiyenera kupereka kwa ana athu. Monga momwe mbiri yathu idakhalira ndi zowawa komanso zoopsa zimakhazikikanso ndichimwemwe, chikondi, komanso kupirira.

Chifukwa chake, pomwe kukula ndi kufalikira kwa nkhani idzakhala yosiyana kunyumba ndi nyumba, banja ndi banja, komanso mpikisano wothamanga, ndikofunikira.

Zidzakhala zofunikira kuti mabanja akuda azikhala pakati pa zowawa, mantha, kunyada, ndi chisangalalo.

Kudzakhala kofunikira kuti mabanja azungu azigwirizana pakati pa kumvetsetsa, kuchititsa manyazi, kudziimba mlandu, komanso njira zodzitetezera m'maondo.

Koma pakulankhula konseku, pokambirana konseku, sitiyenera kuyiwala kugwiritsa ntchito zomwe taphunzitsidwa.

"Ndikufuna kuti anthu azitha kukambirana koma kuti azikhaladi," atero a Jackson.

"Ntchito ya azungu aku America pakadali pano ndikuyang'ana pozungulira ndikuwona komwe tikupemphedwa kuti tithandizire ndi m'njira ziti, ndikuchita izi," adatero Harvey.

Sindingagwirizane nawo kwambiri.

Nikesha Elise Williams ndi wolemba mbiri yemwe adapambana mphotho ya Emmy komanso wolemba wopambana mphotho. Adabadwira ku Chicago, Illinois, ndipo adapita ku Florida State University komwe adamaliza maphunziro a Bachelor of Science mukulumikizana: maphunziro atolankhani ambiri ndikulemekeza zolemba zaku English. Buku loyambirira la Nikesha, "Akazi Anai," adapatsidwa Mphotho ya Purezidenti wa Florida Author and Publishers Association mgulu la Adult Contemporary / Literary Fiction. "Akazi Anai" adazindikiridwanso ndi National Association of Black Journalists ngati Ntchito Yopambana Yolemba. Nikesha ndi mlembi wanthawi zonse komanso mphunzitsi wazolemba ndipo wadzichitira pawokha zofalitsa zingapo kuphatikiza VOX, Very Smart Brothas, ndi Shadow and Act. Nikesha amakhala ku Jacksonville, Florida, koma nthawi zonse mumamupeza pa intaneti ku [email protected], Facebook.com/NikeshaElise kapena @Nikesha_Elise pa Twitter ndi Instagram.