Mmene Kuthandiza Ena Kumandithandizira Kupirira

Zamkati

• Kutuluka panokha
• Mwayi wawung'ono wopanga moyo kukhala chopereka

Zimandipatsa kulumikizana komanso cholinga chomwe sindimamva ndikakhala za ine ndekha.

Agogo anga aakazi nthawi zonse amakhala owerengeka komanso otulutsa mawu, kotero kuti ngati mwana wamng'ono sitinalumikizane kwenikweni. Amakhalanso mumtundu wina, chifukwa sizinali zophweka kulumikizana.

Komabe, kumayambiriro kwa malo ogona, ndidadzipeza ndekha ndikungoyendetsa ndege yopita kunyumba kwawo ku Washington.

Monga mayi wopanda kholo yemwe ali ndi mwana atangochoka pasukulu mwadzidzidzi, ndimadziwa kuti ndiyenera thandizo la banja langa kuti ndipitilize kugwira ntchito.

Ndili wodala kuti ndimatha kugwira ntchito kuchokera kunyumba panthawiyi, koma kusamalira mwana wanga wamwamuna yemwe ali ndi ntchito yanthawi zonse kumakhala kovuta.

Titakwera ndege yovuta kwambiri paulendo wapaulendo wopanda kanthu, ine ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna tinadzipeza tili kunyumba kwathu tili ndi masutikesi akuluakulu awiri komanso tsiku loti tisamuke.

Takulandilani ku zachilendo.

Masabata angapo oyambilira anali ovuta. Monga makolo ambiri, ndimathamangira uku ndi uku pakati pa kompyuta yanga ndi masamba a mwana wamwamuna wosindikizidwa "homechool", kuyesera kuwonetsetsa kuti akupeza mawonekedwe ofanana owonjezera kuti athetse nthawi yochulukirapo.

Mosiyana ndi makolo ambiri, ndili ndi mwayi wokhala ndi makolo anga omwe atha kuchita nawo masewera a board, kukwera njinga, kapena kuchita ntchito yolima. Ndikuthokoza nyenyezi zanga zamwayi chifukwa cha banja langa pompano.

Kumapeto kwa mlungu, tonsefe tinkakhala ndi nthawi yopuma.

Ndinaganizira za agogo anga aakazi, amene tinali mwadzidzidzi m'nyumba yawo. Ali mgulu loyambirira la Alzheimer's, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti kusintha sikunakhale kovuta kwa iye, mwina.

Ndinalowa naye kuchipinda chake komwe amakhala nthawi yayitali akuwonera nkhani ndikuseweretsa galu wake, Roxy. Ndinakhazikika pansi pafupi ndikumuyambiranso ndipo ndinayamba ndi zokambirana zazing'ono, zomwe zidasanduka mafunso okhudza zakale, moyo wake, ndi momwe akuwonera zinthu tsopano.

Pambuyo pake, zokambirana zathu zidasunthira pashelefu yake yamabuku.

Ndinamufunsa ngati wakhala akuwerenga posachedwapa, podziwa kuti ndi imodzi mwazinthu zomwe amakonda. Anayankha kuti ayi, kuti samatha kuwerenga kwa zaka zingapo zapitazi.

Mtima wanga udamulirira.

Kenako ndinafunsa, “Kodi mungakonde kuti ndiwerenge kuti iwe? ”

Anawala mwanjira yomwe ndinali ndisanawonepo kale. Ndipo kotero tidayamba mwambo wathu watsopano wamutu umodzi usiku usanagone.

Tinayang'ana m'mabuku ake ndipo tinagwirizana pa "The Thandizo." Ndakhala ndikufuna kuliwerenga, koma sindinapeze nthawi yambiri yowerenga nthawi yopuma. Ndidamuwerengera chidule kumbuyo ndipo adakwera.

Tsiku lotsatira, ndinalowanso agogo anga kuchipinda kwawo. Ndinamufunsa zomwe amaganiza za kachilomboka ndi malo onse osafunikira kutsekedwa.

"Kachilombo? Ndi kachilombo kabwanji? ”

Ndinadziwiratu kuti akhala akuonera nkhani mosalekeza kuchokera pomwe tidafika. Nthawi iliyonse ndikamadutsa pakhomo pake, ndimawona mawu oti "coronavirus" kapena "COVID-19" akudutsa ticker.

Ndinayesa kufotokoza, koma sizinakhalitse. Zinali zowonekeratu kuti samakumbukira.

Kumbali inayi, sanaiwale gawo lathu lowerenga usiku watha.

"Ndakhala ndikuyembekezera tsiku lonse," adatero. "Ndi zabwino kwambiri za inu."

Zinandikhudza. Zikuwoneka kuti, ngakhale amadzazidwa ndi zambiri nthawi zonse, palibe chomwe chidakanika. Atangokhala ndi zina zake, zamunthu, komanso zenizeni zoti aziyembekezera, adakumbukira.

Nditawawerengera usiku womwewo, ndidazindikira kuti inali nthawi yoyamba kuchokera pomwe ndidafika kuti sindimva kupsinjika kapena kuda nkhawa. Ndinamva mumtendere, mtima wanga uli wodzala.

Kumuthandiza kunali kundithandiza.

Kutuluka panokha

Ndakumanapo ndi izi mwanjira zinanso. Monga mphunzitsi wa yoga ndi kusinkhasinkha, nthawi zambiri ndimawona kuti kuphunzitsa njira zophunzitsira ophunzira anga kumandithandiza kuti ndisakhale ndi nkhawa limodzi nawo, ngakhale ndikamachita ndekha sikutero.

Pali china chake chogawana ndi ena chomwe chimandipatsa kulumikizana komanso cholinga chomwe sindingathe kuchipeza ndekha.

Ndidapeza kuti izi ndizowona ndimaphunzitsa ana asukulu yasekondale ndikuyenera kuyang'ana anawo kwa maola angapo nthawi zina, nthawi zina ngakhale zopuma zam'mbuyomu kuti tisunge magawanidwe athu mkalasi.

Ngakhale sindimalimbikitsa kuti ndichisunge kwa nthawi yayitali, ndidaphunzira momwe, nthawi zambiri, kusiya zofuna zanga zidandithandizira kuchira.

Nditatha kuseka ndikusewera ndi ana kwa maola - makamaka kukhala mwana ndekha - ndidapeza kuti sindinathe nthawi yambiri kuganizira mavuto anga. Ndinalibe nthawi yodziderera kapena kulola malingaliro anga kuyendayenda.

Ndikatero, anawo amandibwezera nthawi yomweyo mwa kuwaza utoto pansi, kugogoda pampando, kapena kudzaza thewera lina. Unali machitidwe abwino osinkhasinkha omwe ndidakumana nawo.

Nditangomva nkhawa zonse za COVID-19, ndidaganiza zoyamba kupereka kusinkhasinkha kwaulere ndi zosangalatsa kwa aliyense amene angafune kuzitenga.

Sindinachite chifukwa ndine Amayi Theresa. Ndinazichita chifukwa zimandithandizira zochuluka, mwinanso kuposa, kuposa momwe zimathandizira omwe ndimawaphunzitsa. Ngakhale sindine woyera, ndikhulupilira kuti mwa kusinthanaku ndikupereka bata pang'ono kwa omwe andilowa.

Moyo wandiphunzitsa mobwerezabwereza kuti ndikadzilimbikitsa kutumikira ena pachilichonse chomwe ndimachita, ndimakhala wachimwemwe, wokhutira, komanso wokhutira.

Ndikaiwala kuti mphindi iliyonse itha kukhala njira yotumikirira, ndimakhala ndi nkhawa zanga momwe ndimaganizira kuti zinthu ziyenera kukhalira.

Kunena zowona, malingaliro anga, malingaliro anga, komanso kudzudzula kwanga padziko lapansi sizosangalatsa kapena zosangalatsa kuti ndizilingalire. Kuganizira zinthu zomwe sizili zanga, makamaka kuyang'ana kutumikira ena, kumangokhala bwino.

Mwayi wawung'ono wopanga moyo kukhala chopereka

Izi zomwe zakhala zikundichitikira zandionetsa kwambiri kuti sindidatengeke ndi moyo wanga momwe ndingafunire.

Ndizosavuta komanso zaumunthu kusokonezedwa ndi tsiku ndi tsiku ndikuyang'ana zosowa zanga, zofuna, ndikukhumba kupatula gulu langa lonse komanso banja laanthu.

Ndinafunika kuyambiranso pakali pano. Kudziika pandekha kwandikonzera kalilole. Nditawona kusinkhasinkha kwanga, ndinawona kuti panali malo oti nditsimikizirenso pazikhalidwe zanga.

Sindikutanthauza kuti ndikuganiza kuti ndiyenera kusiya chilichonse ndikuyamba kuchitira aliyense zabwino. Ndiyenera kukwaniritsa zosowa zanga ndikulemekeza malire anga kuti ndithandizedi.

Koma mochulukira, ndikukumbukira kuti ndidadzifunsa tsiku lonse kuti, "Kodi chochita chaching'ono ichi chingakhale ntchito yotani?"

Kaya kuphikira banja, kutsuka mbale, kuthandiza bambo anga kumunda wawo, kapena kuwerengera agogo anga, uliwonse ndi mwayi wopereka.

Ndikadzipereka ndekha, ndimakhala kuti ndikupanga zomwe ndikufuna.

Crystal Hoshaw ndi mayi, wolemba, komanso wodziwa yoga kwa nthawi yayitali. Adaphunzitsiranso muma studio apayekha, malo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi, komanso m'malo a munthu m'modzi ku Los Angeles, Thailand, ndi San Francisco Bay Area. Amagawana njira zokumbukira nkhawa kudzera pa intaneti. Mutha kumupeza pa Instagram.