Kukonzekera Kulandila Khanda Mumliri: Momwe Ndikupirira

Zamkati

• Ndi nthawi yolingalira
• Ndi nthawi yodzisamalira, inunso

Moona, ndizowopsa. Koma ndikupeza chiyembekezo.

Mliri wa COVID-19 ukusintha dziko pakadali pano, ndipo aliyense amachita mantha ndi zomwe zikubwera. Koma ngati munthu yemwe wangotsala ndi milungu ingapo kuti abadwe mwana wake woyamba, mantha anga ambiri amayang'ana pa zomwe kuti tsiku lidzabweretsa.

Ndikudabwa kuti moyo ukhala bwanji ndikayenera kupita kuchipatala kukatenga gawo langa la C-gawo. Zikhala bwanji ndikachira. Zikhala bwanji kwa mwana wanga wakhanda.

Ndipo zonse zomwe ndingathe kuchita ndikutsatira nkhani ndi malangizo achipatala ndikuyesera kukhalabe ndi chiyembekezo, chifukwa aliyense amadziwa kupsinjika ndi kusachita bwino sikuli koyenera kwa mayi wapakati.

Nditangomva za matendawa sindinade nkhawa mopitirira muyeso. Sindinaganize kuti zitha kufalikira mpaka pano, pomwe zimakhudza ndikusintha miyoyo yathu ya tsiku ndi tsiku.

Sitingathe kuwonanso anzathu kapena abale athu kapena kupita kukamwa mowa. Sitingathenso kupita kokayenda pagulu kapena kukagwira ntchito.

Ndinali kale patchuthi changa cha umayi pamene chinthu chonsechi chinayamba kukhudza dziko lino, mwamwayi ntchito yanga sinakhudzidwepo. Ndili ndi denga pamutu panga ndipo ndimakhala ndi mnzanga. Chifukwa chake, ngakhale zonsezi zikuchitika, ndimamva kukhala wotetezeka.

Chifukwa chokhala ndi pakati komanso kukhala ndi matenda ashuga obereka, ndalangizidwa kuti ndizidzipatula kwa milungu 12. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ndidzakhala kunyumba ndi okondedwa wanga masabata atatu mwana asanabwere komanso masabata 9 pambuyo pake.

Ndi nthawi yolingalira

Sindikukhumudwa ndi izi. Ndili ndi pakati, pali zinthu zambiri zomwe ndingachite panthawiyi.

Nditha kuyika zipinda zomaliza kuchipinda cha mwana wanga, ndimatha kuwerengera mimba komanso mabuku omwe angakhale nawo. Ndimatha kugona pang'ono ndisanataye zonse akakhala pano. Nditha kulongedza chikwama changa cha kuchipatala, ndi zina zambiri.

Ndikuyesera kuti ndiyang'ane ngati milungu itatu kuti ndisonkhanitse zonse, m'malo mwamasabata atatu atakhazikika mnyumbamo.

Akangofika, ndikudziwa kuti kusamalira mwana wakhanda kumakhala kovuta komanso kuti sindifuna kutuluka mnyumbamo zivute zitani.

Zachidziwikire ndipita kukachita masewera olimbitsa thupi tsiku lililonse - kuyenda ndekha ndi mwana wanga, kuti akapeze mpweya wabwino - koma kwa mayi watsopano, kudzipatula sikuwoneka ngati kutha kwa dziko lapansi.

Ndikulingalira za mphatso yakanthawi ndi mwana wanga watsopano.

Chinthu chimodzi chomwe ndalimbana nacho ndikuti chipatala chomwe ndikuberekera chawonjezera zoletsa zatsopano kwa alendo. Ndiloledwa bwenzi limodzi lobadwa, yemwe adzakhala mnzake - bambo wa mwanayo, koma pambuyo pake, ndiyenso yekhayo amene amaloledwa kudzandichezera komanso mwana ndikakhala mchipatala.

Zachidziwikire kuti ndimafuna kuti amayi anga abwere kudzatiwona pambuyo pobadwa, kudzamugwira mwana wanga ndikumulola kuti agwirizane. Ndinkafuna abale apabanja kuti azikhala ndi nthawi yocheza naye. Koma ndikuyesetsanso kuyang'ana mbali yowala ndikulingalira motere: Tsopano ndikhala ndi nthawi yowonjezera ndi ine, mnzanga, ndi mwana wathu wamwamuna kuti titha kukhala nthawi yolumikizana popanda zosokoneza.

Ndipeza khungu ndi khungu ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna momwe ndimafunira popanda kuda nkhawa za anthu ena obwera mchipindamo ndikufuna kumugwira. Kwa masiku awiri, momwe ndimagonera mchipatala, titha kukhala banja lopanda wina aliyense amene akukhudzidwa. Ndipo izi zikumveka bwino.

Tsoka ilo, zoletsedwazo zipitilira ndikakhala kunyumba ndi mwana wanga wakhanda.

Palibe amene adzaloledwe kuchezera chifukwa tili ndi zomwe sizili bwino, ndipo palibe amene adzakhale ndi mwana kupatula ine ndi mnzanga.

Ndinavutitsidwa ndi izi poyamba, koma ndikudziwa kuti pali ena kunja uko omwe amakhala okhaokha ndipo akutalikirana ndi dziko lapansi. Pali ena omwe ali ndi makolo odwala, okalamba omwe amaganiza ngati adzaonanenso.

Ndili ndi mwayi kuti ndidzakhala ndi banja langa laling'ono kunyumba bwinobwino bwinobwino. Ndipo nthawi zonse pamakhala zomwe amakonda Skype ndi Zoom kuti nditha kupeza makolo anga ndi abale ena kuti ndiwawonetse mwanayo - ndipo angoyenera kukhala ndi msonkhano wapaintaneti! Zikhala zovuta, inde, koma ndichinthu china. Ndipo ndine woyamikira chifukwa.

Ndi nthawi yodzisamalira, inunso

Zachidziwikire kuti ino ndi nthawi yopanikizika kwambiri, koma ndikuyesera kukhala chete ndikuganiza za zabwino, ndikuwunika zomwe ndingathe ndikuiwala zomwe zatuluka mmanja mwanga.

Kwa amayi ena aliwonse apakati omwe ali okhaokha pakadali pano, gwiritsani ntchito ngati nthawi yokonzekera mwana wanu komanso yochitira zinthu kunyumba zomwe simudzakhala ndi nthawi yochita ndi mwana wakhanda.

Khalani ndi nthawi yayitali, kusamba kofunda, kuphika chakudya chapamwamba - chifukwa zidzakhala zilizonse mufiriji kwa nthawi yayitali.

Dzazani nthawi yanu powerenga mabuku kapena kugwira ntchito kunyumba ngati ndizomwe mukuchita. Ndagulanso mabuku ochezera achikulire ndi zolembera kuti ndidutse nthawiyo.

Kutambasula kwanyumbaku kudzangokhala kukonzekeretsa zonse mwana wanga akabwera. Ndili ndi mantha ndi zomwe zichitike pambuyo pake komanso komwe dziko lidzakhale, koma ndichinthu chomwe sindingachite chilichonse kupatula kutsatira malangizo ndi zoletsa, ndikuyesera kuteteza banja langa.

Ngati muli ndi nkhawa, yesetsani kukumbukira kuti zonse zomwe mungachite ndizotheka. Dziko ndi malo owopsa pakadali pano, koma muli ndi mwana wakhanda wokongola yemwe adzakhala dziko lanu likubwera posachedwa.

• Kumbukirani kukaonana ndi dokotala komanso mzamba wanu kuti akuthandizeni.
• Yang'anani m'magazini azovuta kuti mutha kuwunika momwe mukumvera.
• Yesani kuwerenga mabuku ochepetsa nkhawa.
• Pitilizani ndi mankhwala aliwonse omwe mumamwa.
• Ingoyesani kusunga mawonekedwe abwinobwino pakadali pano - chifukwa ndichinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungachite kwa inu ndi mwana wanu.

Palibe vuto mantha pakadali pano. Tivomerezane, tonsefe tili. Koma titha kupyola. Ndipo ndife omwe tili ndi mwayi omwe tipeze mtundu wachikondi padziko lapansi munthawi yovutayi.

Chifukwa chake yesetsani kuyang'ana pa izo, ndi zinthu zabwino zomwe zikubwera - chifukwa padzakhala zambiri.

Hattie Gladwell ndi mtolankhani wa zaumoyo, wolemba, komanso woimira milandu. Amalemba za matenda amisala akuyembekeza kuti achepetsa manyazi ndikulimbikitsa ena kuti alankhule.