Njira za 5 Zodabwitsa Zochezera Zamagulu Zingathandize Ubale Wanu

Zamkati

• 1. Zingakuthandizeni kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka makamaka msanga.
• 2. Zimapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuwonetsa kuyamikira S.O.
• 3. Kukondwerera zochitika zapagulu kumathandizira kukulitsa kukondana.
• 4. Zimakuthandizani kuti mukhale olumikizana ndi zochitika zambiri.
• 5. Ikhoza kukupatsani mwayi wogawana nawo.
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Malo ochezera a pa Intaneti amatenthedwa kwambiri chifukwa chosokoneza bizinesi ya maubwenzi achikondi-komanso kutulutsa zikhalidwe zosatetezeka, zansanje mwa ife tonse. Zina mwazabwino. Inde, kukhala ndi anyamata otentha kulowa mu DM yanu kapena wakale wanu akuwonjezerani pa Snapchat akhoza kukwera pamayesero. Ndipo palibe kumverera koyipitsitsa kuposa kuphimbidwa m'maso ndi mnyamata yemwe mwangomusudzulana naye ndikupezeka mu Instastory ya mtsikana wina. (Ndipo kwa anthu osakwatira, mapulogalamu azibwenzi amatha kubweretsa mavuto ambiri azaumoyo. Onani: Mapulogalamu Achibwenzi Sangakhale Oyenera Kudzilimbitsa Nokha)

"Palibe amene angatsutse kuti malo ochezera a pa Intaneti asintha momwe timakumana, kugonana, kukondana, ndi kugwa m'chikondi, koma maganizo anga ndi akuti malo ochezera a pa Intaneti asanduka mbuzi pamavuto athu aumunthu," akutero Atlanta- wothandizila pa ubale Brian Jory, Ph.D., wolemba Cupid Poyesedwa. "Ubale umalephera pazifukwa zambiri, ndipo sitiyenera kuimba mlandu malo ochezera a pa Intaneti pazovuta zomwe tadzipangira tokha." Touche.

Nthawi iliyonse pakakhala ukadaulo watsopano wamagalimoto-maimelo, maimelo, ma vibrator-timayenera kuphunzira momwe tingasinthire momwe amasinthira zibwenzi, maubale, komanso ubale wapamtima, akutero. Jory akuwonetsa kafukufuku wa Pew Research Center wa 2014 womwe udapeza kuti anthu ambiri-72%-samva ngati media media kapena intaneti zimakhudza ubale wawo. Ndipo mwa omwe amatero, ambiri amati ndi zotsatira zabwino.

Inde inde, zoulutsira mawu zitha kupangitsa kuti kukhale kovuta kukhala ndi ubale wabwino mu 2019. Koma palinso zopitilira muyeso zomwe zingalimbitse ubale wanu. Nazi zisanu kuphatikiza zina zothandiza ndi zomwe musachite, malinga ndi maubwino a ubale.

1. Zingakuthandizeni kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka makamaka msanga.

DTR convo imakuthandizani kuti mumve ngati muli patsamba lomwelo ndi S.O yanu yatsopano, koma chilimbikitso chowonjezera chingapitebe patsogolo. “Kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi, kugawana chithunzi cha inu muli limodzi kunganene kuti mukutsimikiza za nkhaniyi,” akutero mphunzitsi wa maubwenzi wa ku New York Donna Barnes.

"Kulonjeza kukhala okwatirana sizinthu zomwe zimachitika mobisa pakati pa anthu awiri - ndizochitika zomwe zimayika malire paubwenzi wawo ndikudziwitsa ena kuti pali kugwirizana pakati pawo komwe sikophweka; "Jory akuti, ndikuwonjezeranso kuti ndi mwendo wofunikira kwambiri pamakona atatu achikondi, chibwenzi, komanso kudzipereka.

FYI, akatswiri onsewa amavomereza kuti ndichinthu chomwe muyenera kukambirana koyamba kutumiza chithunzi cha wina kapena kusintha ubale wanu pa Facebook osalankhula za izi kungangoyambitsa mikangano pakati panu.

2. Zimapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuwonetsa kuyamikira S.O.

Zolinga zamagulu zimakupangitsani kukhala kosavuta kuti mugawane zinthu zomwe mumanyadira ndi mnzanu pomaliza ntchito, kulandira kukwezedwa, chilichonse chomwe agwirapo ntchito, akutero a Barnes. "Kuzindikira wokondedwa wako moyenera ndi njira yabwino yosungitsira kulumikizana kwanu mwachikondi, ndipo malo ochezera a pa Intaneti amakupangitsani kukhala kosavuta kuwonetsa momwe mumawayamikirira," akutero. (Zogwirizana: Mwachiwonekere, Kungoganizira za Munthu Amene Mumamkonda Kungakuthandizeni Kulimbana ndi Mavuto Opanikizika)

Apanso, ingotsimikizani kuti muli patsamba lomwelo pazomwe mumamasuka ndi dziko lapansi kudziwa. Kutumiza poyera kungapindulitse ubale, koma muyenera kukhazikitsa malamulo oti mugawane nawo pa intaneti-ndipo lamuloli liyenera kukhala lopangitsa kuti malingaliro anu azikhala ndi moyo weniweni. "Pangani mgwirizano kuti malingaliro anu kwa wina ndi mnzake ndi anu-osati dziko lonse lapansi-ndipo malingaliro amenewo amakhala olimba akakhala achinsinsi," akutero Jory.

Ngati mudakali achichepere kwambiri kuti muyambe kukambirana, tsatirani lamulo loti musanyalanyaze: Kutumiza zinthu zachinsinsi kapena zoyipa kumachepetsa chidwi cha omwe akuwulula, akutero kafukufuku Makompyuta M'makhalidwe Aanthu.

3. Kukondwerera zochitika zapagulu kumathandizira kukulitsa kukondana.

"Kupanga scrapbook ya ubale wanu pa intaneti ndikukondwerera zochitika zazikulu-ulendo wanu woyamba limodzi, chaka chanu chokumbukira chaka chimodzi-ndikwabwino kumanga ubale wapamtima, makamaka muubwenzi watsopano," akutero Barnes. Ndipo ngakhale mutha kugawana zambiri, kulemba zoyambira zazikulu kungathandizenso anzanu ndi abale anu kudziwa S.O yanu yatsopano. ndikuwatsimikizira kuti ndiabwino kwa inu, akuwonjezera.

"Kusankha kuti ndi zithunzi kapena makanema ati omwe mungatumize, nkhani yoti mukanene, zomwe ndizoseketsa ndi zomwe sizili masewera a mabanja ambiri," akutero Jory. Kusewera mozungulira momwe mumagawana zidziwitso ndi zochitika zazikulu monga banja zitha kuwonjezera pazomwe zidachitikazo.

4. Zimakuthandizani kuti mukhale olumikizana ndi zochitika zambiri.

Ngati mwatumizapo S.O. Instagram DM ya meme yoseketsa yomwe idakukumbutsani kwathunthu za iwo, kapena Snapchat ya galu wokongola yemwe mudamuwona panjira, ndiye mukudziwa kuti zoulutsira nkhani zitha kukhala njira yosangalatsa yolumikizirana ndi miyoyo ya wina ndi mnzake, ngakhale mutha khalani limodzi mwakuthupi.

Kafukufuku wa Pew adathandizira izi: Mabanja omwe akhala nthawi yayitali ati kutumizirana mameseji kumawathandiza kuti azitha kulumikizana akakhala kuti akulekana-kuntchito kapena akakhala paulendo wabizinesi - ndipo ena akuti kuwona anzawo omwe ali nawo pazithunzi kudawabweretsa pafupi. "Anthu ena okwatirana [amatumizirana mameseji ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti] kuti azipanga chilakolako chogonana pogwiritsa ntchito malankhulidwe kapena zonena zakugonana - zitha kukhala zosangalatsa komanso zolimbikitsa," akutero Jory. (Muthanso kuyesa malo 10 ogonana osiyanasiyana kuti mumve zonunkhira usikuuno.)

5. Ikhoza kukupatsani mwayi wogawana nawo.

"Zokumana nazo zomwe timagawana ndizo maziko opangira ubale womwe umakhala wabwino kwa nthawi yayitali," akutero Jory. Izi ndi zinthu zomwe zimakulepheretsani "kulekana" kapena kutaya chidwi ndi wina ndi mnzake. Gawo limodzi laubwenzi wapamtima ndi zomwe mumagawana pakati pa inu nonse pamasom'pamaso zokambirana, kuyang'ana zogonana - koma gawo lalikulu la kukondana ndi kulumikizana "m'manja" - zomwe mumakonda kugawana samangoyang'ana pa wina ndi mnzake koma m'malo mongokhala ndi chidwi, cholinga, kapena munthu wakunja.

Zotengera izi: "Mukatumiza chithunzi cha mwana wanu, ndimakhala kholo limodzi," akutero Jory. Zachidziwikire, mwina ndi za Agogo, nawonso, koma atha kukufikitsaninso inu ndi mnzanu. (Chimodzimodzinso ndi chiweto!)

Kugwira kofunikira kamodzi? Onetsetsani kuti mwasankha nthawi zopanda skrini ndi S.O yanu. Phunziro mu Psychology ya Chikhalidwe Chotchuka Cha Media malipoti kuti kuyang'ana foni yanu nthawi zonse mukakhala ndi wokondedwa wanu kumapangitsa nsanje. "Kuti tikhale athanzi m'maganizo ndi m'thupi, timafunikiranso kuyanjana kwa maso ndi maso-kukhudza khungu lenileni, kuyang'ana m'maso enieni omwe akuthwanima kapena kulira," akutero Jory. Malo ochezera a pa Intaneti amatha kuthandizira maziko omwe mumapanga popanda intaneti, koma maubwenzi enieni amatenga zokambirana zenizeni, ngati mawu otuluka mkamwa mwanu ndi ziganizo zathunthu. "Ndi za chisamaliro ndi kudzipereka mu thupi lonse."

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