Ndinakhulupirira Kuti Mwana Wanga Amwalira. Kunali Kungokhala Kuda Nkhawa Kungoyankhula.

Zamkati

• Kodi nkhawa yakubereka pambuyo pobereka ndi chiyani?
• Amayi omwe ali ndi PPA amalankhula za mantha awo omwe amakhala nawo nthawi zonse
• Kodi ndingatani pazovuta zanga?

Thanzi ndi thanzi zimakhudza aliyense wa ife mosiyanasiyana. Iyi ndi nkhani ya munthu m'modzi.

Nditabereka mwana wanga wamwamuna woyamba kubadwa, ndinali nditangosamukira kutauni yatsopano, patatsala maola atatu kuchokera kwathu.

Mwamuna wanga ankagwira ntchito maola 12 patsiku ndipo ndinali ndekha ndi mwana wanga wakhanda - tsiku lonse, tsiku lililonse.

Monga mayi aliyense watsopano, ndinali wamanjenje komanso wosatsimikiza. Ndinali ndi mafunso ambiri ndipo sindimadziwa kuti ndiyenera kukhala bwanji ndi mwana watsopano.

Mbiri yanga pa Google kuyambira nthawi imeneyo idadzazidwa ndi mafunso ngati "Kodi mwana wanga akuyenera kuti azinyamula kangati?" “Kodi mwana wanga ayenera kugona nthawi yayitali bwanji?” ndiponso “Kodi mwana wanga ayenera kuyamwitsa kangati?” Amayi abwinobwino amadandaula.

Koma patadutsa milungu ingapo yoyambirira, ndidayamba kuda nkhawa kwambiri.

Ndinayamba kufufuza za matenda a khanda mwadzidzidzi (SIDS). Lingaliro loti mwana wathanzi atha kufa osachenjezedwa lidanditengera mphepo yamkuntho.

Ndinkalowa m'chipinda chake mphindi zisanu zilizonse akugona kuti atsimikizire kuti ali bwino. Ndinamuyang'ana akugona. Sindinamulole kuti achoke pamaso panga.

Kenako, nkhawa yanga idayamba kutuluka.

Ndinatsimikiza mtima kuti wina angayitane anthu othandizira anthu kuti amuchotsere ine ndi amuna anga chifukwa anali wosagona bwino ndipo amalira kwambiri. Ndinada nkhawa kuti amwalira. Ndinada nkhawa kuti pali china chake cholakwika ndi iye chomwe sindinachizindikire chifukwa ndinali mayi woyipa. Ndinkada nkhawa kuti wina angakwere pazenera ndikumubera pakati pausiku. Ndinada nkhawa kuti ali ndi khansa.

Sindinkagona usiku chifukwa ndinkaopa kuti agonja ku SIDS ndikamagona.

Ndinkada nkhawa ndi chilichonse. Ndipo nthawi yonseyi, chaka chake chonse choyambirira, ndimaganiza kuti izi zinali zabwinobwino.

Ndimaganiza kuti amayi onse atsopano ali ndi nkhawa ngati ine. Ndinaganiza kuti aliyense amamva chimodzimodzi ndipo anali ndi nkhawa zofananira, motero sizinaganizepo kuti ndilankhule ndi wina za izi.

Sindinadziwe kuti ndimakhala wopanda nzeru. Sindinadziwe malingaliro olowerera omwe anali.

Sindinadziwe kuti ndinali ndi nkhawa pambuyo pobereka.

Kodi nkhawa yakubereka pambuyo pobereka ndi chiyani?

Aliyense amvapo za vuto la postpartum (PPD), koma si anthu ambiri omwe adamva za nkhawa yapa postpartum (PPA). Malinga ndi kafukufuku wina, azimayi amakhala ndi nkhawa pambuyo pakubereka.

Katswiri wa zachipatala ku Minnesota, Crystal Clancy, MFT akuti chiwerengerochi mwina ndichokwera kwambiri, chifukwa zida zowunikira komanso zamaphunziro zimakonda kutsindika PPD kuposa PPA. "Ndizotheka kukhala ndi PPA popanda PPD," Clancy akuuza Healthline. Ananenanso kuti chifukwa chaichi, nthawi zambiri sichimasinthidwa.

"Amayi amatha kuwonedwa ndi omwe amawapatsa, koma zowunikira nthawi zambiri zimafunsa mafunso okhudzana ndi kusokonezeka kwa malingaliro ndi kukhumudwa, komwe kumaphonya bwato pankhani yokhudza nkhawa. Ena ali ndi PPD koyambirira, koma pomwe izi zikuyenda bwino, zimawulula nkhawa zomwe zimayambitsa kukhumudwa koyambirira, "akufotokoza Clancy.

Kuda nkhawa pambuyo pobereka kumakhudza amayi 18 pa 100 aliwonse. Koma chiwerengerocho chikhoza kukhala chachikulu kwambiri, chifukwa amayi ambiri sapezeka ndi matendawa.

Amayi omwe ali ndi PPA amalankhula za mantha awo omwe amakhala nawo nthawi zonse

Zizindikiro zodziwika ndi PPA ndi izi:

• kuuma ndi kukwiya
• nkhawa nthawi zonse
• malingaliro olowerera
• kusowa tulo
• mantha

Zina mwazodandaula ndizodzifunsa mafunso kwa makolo atsopano. Koma ngati ayamba kusokoneza kuthekera kwa kholo kudzisamalira kapena kusamalira mwana wawo, atha kukhala matenda amantha.

SIDS ndiyomwe imayambitsa amayi ambiri okhala ndi nkhawa pambuyo pobereka.

Lingaliro ndi loopsa mokwanira kwa amayi wamba, koma kwa kholo la PPA, kuyang'ana pa SIDS kumawakakamiza kulowa m'malo amantha.

Kugona komwe kumakhalapo usiku wonse kuyang'anitsitsa khanda lamtendere, kuwerengera nthawi yomwe imadutsa pakati pa kupuma - ndikuchita mantha ngati kuli kuchedwa pang'ono kwambiri - ndichizindikiro cha nkhawa yobereka pambuyo pobereka.

Erin, mayi wazaka 30 wazaka zitatu wochokera ku South Carolina, adakhalapo ndi PPA kawiri. Nthawi yoyamba, adalongosola za mantha komanso nkhawa yayikulu pakufunika kwake ngati mayi komanso kuthekera kwake kulera mwana wake wamkazi.

Ankadanso nkhawa kuti azimupweteketsa mwana wake wamkazi atanyamula. "Ndinkamunyamula pakhomo pakhomo nthawi zonse, chifukwa ndinkachita mantha kuti ndimuphwanya mutu wake pazenera ndikumupha," avomereza.

Erin, monga amayi ena, amadandaula za SIDS. "Ndinadzuka ndikuchita mantha usiku uliwonse, ndikutsimikiza kuti amwalira atagona."

Ena - monga mayi a Pennsylvania a Lauren - amanjenjemera pamene mwana wawo ali ndi wina aliyense kupatula iwo. "Ndinkaona ngati mwana wanga sanali otetezeka ndi wina aliyense kupatula ine," akutero a Lauren. “Sindingathe kumasuka wina akamugwira. Akalira, kuthamanga kwanga kwa magazi kumatha kukwera rocket. Ndinkayamba kutuluka thukuta ndipo ndinkamva kufunika kofuna kumukhazika mtima pansi. ”

Akufotokoza zakumva kuwawa komwe kumachitika chifukwa cha kulira kwa mwana wake kuti: "Zinali ngati sindingathe kumuletsa, titha kufa."

Kuda nkhawa komanso mantha kumatha kukupangitsani kuti musamve zowona. Lauren akufotokoza chimodzi cha zoterozo. “Nthawi ina titangokhala kunyumba [kuchokera kuchipatala] ndidagona pakama pomwe amayi anga (otetezeka kwambiri komanso otha kuchita bwino) amayang'ana mwanayo. Ndinadzuka ndikuyang'anitsitsa ndipo [mwana wanga wamkazi] anali magazi okhaokha. ”

Akupitiliza kuti, "Zinali kutsanulira mkamwa mwake, bulangeti lonse atakulungidwa, ndipo sanali kupuma. Inde, sizomwe zinachitikadi. Anali wokutidwa ndi bulangeti laimvi ndi lofiira ndipo ubongo wanga unangoyambika nditangodzuka. ”

Kuda nkhawa pambuyo pobereka kumatha kuchiritsidwa.

Kodi ndingatani pazovuta zanga?

Monga kupsinjika kwa pambuyo pobereka, ngati sanalandire chithandizo, nkhawa yobereka pambuyo pobereka imatha kulumikizana ndi mwana wake. Ngati akuwopa kusamalira mwanayo kapena akumva kuti ndi woipa kwa mwanayo, pangakhale zovuta zomwe zingakule.

Momwemonso, pakhoza kukhala kulumikizana pakati pa ana omwe amayi awo anali ndi nkhawa mosalekeza panthawi yobereka.

Amayi omwe amakumana ndi izi, kapena zizindikilo zomwe zimakhudzana ndi PPD, ayenera kufunafuna thandizo kuchokera kwa akatswiri azaumoyo.

Izi zimatha kuchiritsidwa. Koma ngati sanalandire chithandizo, amatha kukulirakulira kapena kuzengereza kupitirira nthawi yobereka, kusandulika kukhala kukhumudwa kwamankhwala kapena kusokonezeka kwa nkhawa.

Clancy akuti mankhwalawa amatha kukhala opindulitsa ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala ochepa. PPA imayankha pamankhwala osiyanasiyana, makamaka amachitidwe azidziwitso (CBT) ndi chithandizo chovomerezeka ndi kudzipereka (ACT).

Ndipo malinga ndi Clancy, "Mankhwala atha kukhala njira, makamaka ngati zizindikilo zikukulira zomwe zingasokoneze magwiridwe antchito. Pali mankhwala ambiri omwe ndi oyenera kumwa mukakhala ndi pakati komanso mukamayamwitsa. ”

Ananenanso kuti njira zina ndi izi:

• kusinkhasinkha
• maluso olingalira
• yoga
• kutema mphini
• zowonjezera

Ngati mukuganiza kuti mukuwonetsa zisonyezo za nkhawa mukabereka, pitani kwa dokotala kapena wamisala.

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