A Therapy App Inandithandizira Kupsinjika Kwa Pambuyo Pakubereka - Onse Osatuluka M'nyumba

Zamkati

• Amayi ambiri obadwa kumene amafunika kuthandizidwa ndi nkhawa yomwe akabereka
• Kusankha kuti inali nthawi yoti athandizidwe
• Ndinayesa pulogalamu yamankhwala kuti ndithandizidwe osachoka panyumba panga

Timaphatikizapo zinthu zomwe timaganiza kuti ndizothandiza kwa owerenga athu. Ngati mutagula maulalo omwe ali patsamba lino, titha kupeza ndalama zochepa. Nayi njira yathu.

Thanzi ndi thanzi zimakhudza aliyense wa ife mosiyanasiyana. Iyi ndi nkhani ya munthu m'modzi.

Inali 8:00 p.m. nditapereka mwana kwa mamuna wanga kuti ndikagone. Osati chifukwa ndinali nditatopa, zomwe ndinali, koma chifukwa ndinali ndi mantha.

Adrenaline yanga inali kukulirakulira ndipo mtima wanga umagunda, zonse zomwe ndimaganiza zinali Sindingathe kuchita mantha pompano chifukwa ndiyenera kusamalira mwana wanga. Lingaliro limenelo linatsala pang'ono kundilaka.

Mwana wanga wamkazi anali ndi mwezi umodzi usiku womwe ndinagona pansi ndi mapazi anga mlengalenga, kuyesera kukakamiza magazi kuti abwerere m'mutu mwanga kuti aletse dziko lapansi kuti lizungulire.

Nkhawa yanga inali ikuwonjezereka msanga kuyambira pomwe mwana wanga wakhanda ankagonekedwa m'chipatala chachiwiri. Anali ndi vuto lakupuma atabadwa, kenako anatenga kachilombo koyambitsa matenda opuma.

Tidamupititsa ku ER kawiri m'masiku ake 11 oyamba amoyo. Ndidamuwonera pomwe oyang'anira ake a oxygen adamira moyipitsitsa maola angapo pambuyo pakupuma. Tili mchipatala cha ana, l ndinamva mafoni angapo a Code Blue, kutanthauza kuti kwinakwake pafupi mwana anali atasiya kupuma. Ndinamva mantha komanso kusowa mphamvu.

Amayi ambiri obadwa kumene amafunika kuthandizidwa ndi nkhawa yomwe akabereka

Margret Buxton, namwino wodziwika bwino, ndiye woyang'anira madera azachipatala a Baby + Company. Ngakhale nkhawa za pambuyo pobereka komanso PTSD yokhudzana ndi kubadwa imakhudza azimayi 10 mpaka 20% ku United States, Buxton akuuza Healthline kuti "mwina 50 mpaka 75% ya makasitomala athu amafunikira thandizo lokwanira kudzera paulendo wobereka."

Kuda nkhawa pambuyo pobereka sikupezeka - mwina osati mwalamulo. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disways 5, buku lothandizira za American Psychiatric Association, limasokoneza nkhawa pambuyo pobereka m'gulu lomwe limatcha kuti matenda amisala.

Kukhumudwa kwa postpartum ndi postpartum psychosis amadziwika kuti ndi matenda osiyana, koma nkhawa imangotchulidwa ngati chizindikiro.

Sindinakhumudwe. Komanso sindinali wamisala.

Ndinali wokondwa komanso wogwirizana ndi mwana wanga. Komabe ndinali wokhumudwa kwambiri komanso wamantha.

Sindinathe kupitirira kukumbukira zokuyimbira kwathu pafupi. Sindinkadziwanso momwe ndingapezere chithandizo ndikusamalira ana aang'ono awiri.

Pali akazi ena onga ine kunja uko. American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) posachedwapa adasindikiza zosintha zomwe zikuwuza madokotala kuti njira yabwino ndikulumikizana ndi amayi atsopano asanakonzekere milungu isanu ndi umodzi kuti awone momwe akuchitira. Izi zikuwoneka ngati zanzeru, koma ACOG idalemba kuti pakadali pano azimayi amayenda okha milungu isanu ndi umodzi yoyambirira.

Kupsinjika ndi nkhawa za pambuyo pa kubereka, ngakhale sizikhala zazitali, zitha kukhudza kwambiri ubale wamayi ndi mwana komanso moyo wabwino. Masabata awiri kapena 6 oyamba ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri yothanirana ndi thanzi lam'mbuyomu, lomwe lingapangitse kupeza chithandizo chamankhwala kukhala kovuta kwambiri. Nthawi imeneyi ilinso nthawi yomwe makolo atsopano samagona tulo komanso kuthandizidwa ndi anzawo.

Kusankha kuti inali nthawi yoti athandizidwe

Pomwe ndimkagwirizana ndi mwana wanga bwino, nkhawa yanga yobereka pambuyo pobereka inali kuwononga kwambiri nkhawa zanga komanso thanzi langa.

Tsiku lililonse ndinali pafupi kuchita mantha, ndikumayang'ana mobwerezabwereza ndikuyambiranso kutentha kwa mwana wathu wamkazi. Usiku uliwonse amagona m'manja mwanga atalumikizidwa ndi makina owunikira mpweya kunyumba omwe sindimadalira konse.

Ndidakhala maola 24 ndikutsimikiza kuti malo ake ofewa anali akuthwa, zomwe zikadakhala zikuwonetsa kupanikizika kwakukulu pachikuto chake kuchokera ku matenda akulu. Ndidatenga zithunzi zambiri kuti ndiziwunika, ndikujambula mivi ndikuwonetsa madera oti ndilembere kwa dokotala wathu.

Mwamuna wanga adadziwa nditachita mantha kuti izi ndizoposa zomwe tingathe kudzichitira tokha. Anandifunsa kuti ndithandizidwe ndi akatswiri kuti ndizisangalala ndi mwana wanga ndipo pamapeto pake ndimapuma.

Anali womasuka komanso woyamikira kukhala ndi mwana wathanzi, pomwe ine ndinakhala wamanjenje ndi mantha kuti china chake chikubwera kudzamutenga.

Cholepheretsa chimodzi kupeza chithandizo: sindinali wokonzeka kupita ndi mwana wanga wakhanda kuchipatala. Amayamwitsa maola awiri aliwonse, inali nyengo ya chimfine, nanga bwanji ngati amalira nthawi yonseyi?

Kuda nkhawa kwanga kunandithandizanso kuti ndizikhala kunyumba. Ndinaganiza kuti galimoto yanga ikuphwanyidwa chifukwa cha kuzizira ndikulephera kutenthetsa mwana wanga wamkazi kapena wina kuyetsemula pafupi naye mchipinda chodikirira.

Wothandizira wina wakomweko adayendera nyumba. Koma pafupifupi $ 200 pa gawo, sindingakwanitse kusungitsa nthawi zambiri.

Ndinkadziwanso kuti kudikirira sabata kapena kupitilira apo kuti ndikhale ndikungotembenuka ndikudikirira masiku kapena masabata kuti ndikhale ndi nthawi ina sikunali kofulumira kwenikweni.

Ndinayesa pulogalamu yamankhwala kuti ndithandizidwe osachoka panyumba panga

Mwamwayi, ndinapeza njira ina yothandizira: teletherapy.

Talkspace, BetterHelp, ndi 7Cups ndi makampani omwe amapereka chithandizo kuchokera kwa akatswiri azachipatala omwe ali ndi zilolezo kudzera pafoni kapena kompyuta yanu. Ndi mitundu ndi mapulani osiyanasiyana, onse amapereka chithandizo chotsika mtengo kwa odwala omwe ali ndi intaneti.

Pambuyo pazaka zam'mbuyomu zamankhwala, ndilibe vuto logawana mavuto anga kapena zakale. Koma pali china chake chokhwimitsa pang'ono komanso chosamveka pakuwona zonse mu mawonekedwe amalemba.

Mtengo wa gawo limodzi lokhala muofesi ndidatha kupeza mwezi umodzi wamankhwala tsiku lililonse kudzera pulogalamu. Nditayankha mafunso angapo, ndidafanana ndi madokotala angapo omwe anali ndi zilolezo zoti ndisankhepo.

Kukhala ndiubwenzi wochiritsira kudzera pafoni yanga kunali kovuta poyamba. Sindikulemberana mameseji tsiku lililonse, motero kulemba nkhani yamoyo wanga m'mauthenga akuluakulu kunazolowera.

Kuyanjana koyamba kunamverera kokakamizidwa komanso kosamvetseka. Pambuyo pazaka zam'mbuyomu zamankhwala, ndilibe vuto logawana mavuto anga kapena zakale. Koma pali china chake chokhwimitsa pang'ono komanso chosamveka pakuwona zonse mu mawonekedwe amalemba. Ndimakumbukira kuwerenganso gawo kuti ndiwonetsetse kuti sindimveka ngati mayi wosayenera, wamisala.

Pambuyo poyambira pang'onopang'ono, kulemba zovuta zanga pakati pa unamwino kapena nthawi yopumula kunakhala kwachilengedwe komanso kochiritsira. Kungolemba kuti "Ndawona momwe zingakhalire zosavuta kutaya mwana wanga ndipo tsopano ndikungoyembekezera kuti amwalire" zidandipangitsa kuti ndizimva kupepuka pang'ono. Koma kukhala ndi wina womvetsetsa kulemba kunali mpumulo wodabwitsa.

Kawirikawiri, ndinkabwereranso m'mawa ndi usiku, ndi chilichonse kuchokera kuchithandizo chonse ndikulongosola njira zoyendetsera kuti ndiyankhe mafunso ovuta komanso ofufuza. Ntchito yomwe ndimagwiritsa ntchito imalola ogwiritsa ntchito kutumiza mameseji opanda malire papulatifomu yachinsinsi ndi wowerenga yemwe amawerengedwa ndikuyankha kamodzi patsiku, masiku asanu pa sabata. Ogwiritsa ntchito amatha kutumiza makanema ndi mawu am'malo m'malo molemba mawu kapena ngakhale kudumphira m'macheza omwe amathandizidwa ndi omwe ali ndi zilolezo zamagulu.

Ndidapewa izi kwa milungu ingapo, kuwopa kuti amayi anga sanasambe, atatopa kunja zitha kundipangitsa kuti andithandizire.

Koma ndimayankhula mwachilengedwe ndipo chinthu chodabwitsa kwambiri chomwe ndidachita ndikungodzilola kuti ndizilankhula momasuka kudzera pavidiyo kapena mawu amawu, osatha kuwerenganso ndikusintha malingaliro anga.

Kulemba nkhawa zanga pakati pa unamwino kapena nthawi yopumula kunakhala kwachilengedwe komanso kochiritsira.

Kulankhulana pafupipafupi kunali kofunika kwambiri polimbana ndi nkhawa yanga. Nthawi zonse ndikakhala ndi china choti ndinene ndimangodumphira mu pulogalamuyi kuti nditumize uthenga. Ndinali ndi kwina koti ndipite ndi nkhawa yanga ndipo ndinatha kuyamba kuthana ndi zochitika zomwe zidandipangitsa kuti ndikhale wolimba.

Ndinalinso ndi mayendedwe apakanema apamwezi mwezi uliwonse, omwe ndimachita nditakhala pabedi langa pomwe mwana wanga wamkazi amayamwa kapena kugona kunja kwa chimango.

Kuda nkhawa kwanga kwakukulu kumalumikizidwa ndikulephera kwanga kuwongolera zinthu, kotero tidangoyang'ana pazomwe ndingathe kuwongolera ndikulimbana ndi mantha anga ndi zowona. Ndidagwira ntchito yopumula ndipo ndimakhala ndi nthawi yambiri ndikugwiritsa ntchito kuthokoza komanso chiyembekezo.

Pamene nkhawa yanga yayikulu idatha, wondithandizira adandithandizira kupanga mapulani oti ndithandizire ena kuderalo. Patatha miyezi ingapo tidatsanzikana.

Ndinafikira amayi omwe ndimawadziwa ndikuyika madeti osewerera. Ndinalowa nawo gulu la azimayi akomweko. Ndinapitiliza kulemba za chilichonse. Ndinapita kuchipinda chaukali ndi mnzanga wapamtima ndikuphwanya zinthu kwa ola limodzi.

Kukhala wokhoza kupeza chithandizo mwachangu, pamtengo wokwanira, komanso popanda kudzidetsa nkhawa kapena banja langa kwandithandizira kuchira mwachangu. Ndikulimbikitsa amayi ena atsopano kuti awonjezere teletherapy pamndandanda wawo wazomwe angasankhe, ngati angafune thandizo.

Megan Whitaker ndi namwino wovomerezeka yemwe amakhala wolemba nthawi zonse komanso mayi wa hippie. Amakhala ku Nashville ndi amuna awo, makanda awiri otanganidwa, ndi nkhuku zitatu zakumbuyo. Akakhala kuti sali ndi pakati kapena akuthamangira ana aang'ono, akukwera thanthwe kapena kubisala pakhonde pake ndi tiyi ndi buku.