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Pamene mnansi wanu akukufunsani kuti muthandize posonkhanitsa ndalama kapena mnzako wakale akuumiriza kuti upite kuphwando lake la chakudya chamadzulo, kuchepa sikophweka nthawi zonse, ngakhale mutakhala ndi chifukwa chomveka. "Akazi amaphunzitsidwa kusamalira, ndipo amawopa kuti kukana zopempha kudzawapangitsa kuti aziwoneka ngati odzikonda," atero a Susan Newman, Ph.D., katswiri wama psychology komanso wolemba Bukhu la No: Njira 250 Zonena Izi-ndi Kutanthauza. "Koma ambiri aife timalingalira mopambanitsa kuti kukana kungakhumudwitse munthu. Kunena zoona, anthu ambiri samangoganizira za kukana kwanu - amangopitirira."

Nthawi ina mukadzakumana ndi chilichonse chochokera kuphwando ndikukupemphani kuti mugulitse zinthu zophikira, yesani kuyankha kuti inde ndikudzifunsa kuti, Kodi ndikuyembekezera kapena kuchita mantha? Ngati ndi yomaliza, chepetsani. (Yesani, “Ndingakonde kutero, koma ndangotanganidwa kwambiri.”) Pambuyo pokana zopempha zingapo ndi kuzindikira kuti zina sizikuimiridwa ndi kukana kwanu, mudzasiya kudzimva kukhala wa liwongo. "Kuphatikizanso, mudzamasulidwa chifukwa mudzalandanso nthawi yoti muchite zomwe mukufuna," akutero a Newman. Chizolowezi chatsopano, nthawi yopumula kwawekha, komanso nthawi yochulukirapo ndi ana anu zonse ndi zanu pamtengo wamawu amodzi okha.

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