Pewani Kutopetsa Kuchokera M'chipinda Chogona

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Kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi chanu, panali magetsi, kukondana, komanso kugonana-tsiku ndi tsiku, mwina osati ola limodzi! Patapita zaka, zimakhala zovuta kukumbukira nthawi yomaliza yomwe munali maliseche. (Lachinayi lapitalo-kapena dikirani, kodi mwezi watha?) N'zosadabwitsa ngati simungakumbukire: Mabanja ambiri odzipereka sakuwotcha mapepala monga momwe ankachitira kale, nthawi zambiri chifukwa amayi ataya chilakolako. Pakafukufuku wina wokhudza akazi pafupifupi 1,000, ofufuza anapeza kuti 65 peresenti ya anthu amene ali pachibwenzi kwa chaka chimodzi kapena kucheperapo ananena kuti amafuna kugonana kaŵirikaŵiri, poyerekeza ndi 26 peresenti yokha ya akazi amene anakhala okwatirana kwa zaka zitatu. Kupatula kuwononga moyo wanu wachikondi, kusachita chidwi ndi nkhani zogonana ndi nkhani zoipa pa thanzi lanu. "Kafukufuku wochuluka akuwonetsa kuti anthu omwe ali ndi chiwerewere amakhala ochepa mtima, amawonjezera mphamvu, komanso chitetezo champhamvu chamthupi," atero a Beverly Whipple, Ph.D., wofufuza zachiwerewere ku Vorhees, New Jersey, komanso wolemba nawo Sayansi ya Orgasm. Nazi zifukwa zisanu ndi chimodzi zenizeni zakufuna kwanu kogonana mwina kwachepa, komanso njira zosavuta kukuthandizani kuti muyanjanenso ndi matupi anu akuthupi.

"Ndili wopsinjika kwambiri."

Matenda okhudzidwa kwambiri amatha kusokoneza chibwenzi. "Kupsinjika maganizo kumapangitsa kupanga mahomoni omenyera kapena kuthawa ngati cortisol, omwe amalepheretsa kuyankha kopumula kofunikira pakayambika kudzuka," akutero Myrtle Wilhite, MD, wofufuza zaumoyo ku Madison, Wisconsin. Kuti muchepetse kupsinjika maganizo, chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi osachepera mphindi 30 patsiku, ndipo ngati n'kotheka, konzekerani masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi yomwe mwakonzekera kuti mufike mopingasa. Ofufuza ku Yunivesite ya British Columbia adapeza kuti azimayi adadzuka kwambiri atawonera kanema wokonda zachiwerewere atachita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwa mphindi 20 zisanachitike. "Ngakhale kuyenda mwachangu kungakuthandizeni kuti muyatse mwachangu powonjezera kutuluka kwa magazi, zomwe zimakulitsa chidwi," akufotokoza Wilhite. Bonasi: Kugonana kumakhalanso kovuta kwambiri. "Mudzakhala omasuka mukayamba kukondana chifukwa ma orgasms amawonjezera kuchuluka kwa timadzi tating'onoting'ono ta oxytocin, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti munthu azimva kugona," akutero Anita Clayton, MD, pulofesa mu dipatimenti ya zachipatala ndi neurobehavioral science. University of Virginia komanso wolemba wa Kukhutira: Akazi, Kugonana, komanso Kufunafuna Chibwenzi.

"Ndatopa nazo kugonana. Ndimakonda kuonera kanema wabwino."

Ndi zinthu zochepa zomwe zingakupangitseninso chidwi chanu, chabwino, kukhudzika bwino kwambiri kuposa kudziwa kuti muli pachimake chachikulu patsogolo panu. Kupanga ziphuphu zamphamvu komanso zosangalatsa ndi imodzi mwamaubwino olimbitsa thupi m'chiuno, choponyera cha minofu yomwe imathandizira chikhodzodzo, urethra, ndi nyini. (Ndi minofu yomweyi yomwe imakulolani kuti muyimitse kutuluka kwa mkodzo pakati pa mitsinje.) Kafukufuku wina wochokera ku Journal of Clinical Psychiatry anapeza kuti amayi omwe ali ndi chiuno chofooka sakhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi orgasms kusiyana ndi omwe ali ndi mphamvu. Umu ndi momwe mungapangire minofu imeneyi, yomwe imafooka pang'onopang'ono ndi ukalamba, kulimbitsa thupi, komwe kumadziwika kuti Kegels: Ingoganizirani pansi panu ngati chikepe chomwe chimakwera ndege zinayi, mulingo wapamwamba uli m'chiuno mwanu. Kwezani ndi kufinyira kuti mupite ku chipinda chilichonse, kugwirizira kwa mphindi iliyonse "kuyima" kulikonse. Ndiye pitani pansi kachiwiri, pansi kamodzi pa nthawi. Kuti mupeze zotsatira zabwino, bwerezani 10 kawiri kapena katatu patsiku.

Kuti muwonjezerenso chikhumbo, ganizirani kunja kwa chipinda chogona. Yesetsani kukumbukira masiku anu atsopanowa pochita china chosiyana limodzi. Ntchito zabwino kwambiri ndizomwe zimapangitsa kuti adrenaline ikukoka, monga kukwera mwamphamvu, kuphunzira kusefera, kapena ngakhale kuwonera zosangalatsa zambiri. Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., pulofesa wofufuza pa yunivesite ya Michigan anati: “Kukhala ndi kugunda kwa mtima koteroko kumakusangalatsani, kumakulitsa kugonana kwanu.”

> "Wotsogola wake amafunika kugwira ntchito. Sindimayatsa."

Kungolowa pansi pazovundikirako kumatha kukhala koyenera kwa iye, koma azimayi ambiri amafunika kulimbikitsidwa. Cholinga chanu? Kuti mubwezeretse kulakalaka komwe mudamva mukakumana koyamba. Lolani kuyembekezera kumangidwe ndi nthawi yanyengo yodyera kapena kukopana kwachikale. Lana Holstein, MD, katswiri wodziwa za kugonana amene amayendetsa pulogalamu ya okwatirana ku Miraval Spa ku Tucson, Arizona, anati: Mukakhala m'chipinda chogona, fufuzani kupyola malo osangalatsa. "Kulimbikitsidwa kwa makutu ndi khosi kumatha kudzutsa chidwi," akutero a Whipple. Yesetsani mitundu ingapo yolumikizirana, monga kuyabwa ndi kutikita.

"Ndayamba kunenepa posachedwa ndipo sindikumva ngati wokongola."

Ndi zachilendo kuganiza kuti simuli ofunikira pamene mukunyamula mapaundi owonjezera. Koma khulupirirani kapena ayi, mwina mnzanuyo sanazindikire. Chofunika kwambiri ndikuti mukumbukire kuti ndinu wokongola, akutero Orbuch. Yesani luso lake lodzidalira nthawi iliyonse mukayang'ana pagalasi: Pezani makhalidwe osachepera asanu omwe mumakonda, ngakhale atakhala ochepa bwanji. Mukukonda ana anu amphongo? Wodala ndi chiuno chopindika? Kusunga malingaliro awa kumawonjezera kulimba mtima kwa thupi lanu- "Nanga bwanji ndikadakula? Ndili ndi masaya odabwitsa" - ndikuthandizani kuti mukhale omasuka pakhungu lanu (lamaliseche).

"Tatanganidwa kwambiri."

M'nthawi ino ya kulera m'magulu amagulu komanso masabata ogwirira ntchito a maola 60, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kukhala olumikizana. Koma kafukufuku waposachedwapa wochokera ku yunivesite ya Arizona akusonyeza kuti okwatirana amakhumbirana kwambiri m’nyengo za kugwirizana kwakukulu m’maganizo. Njira imodzi yoyambira kulumikizanso ndikutulutsa TV kuchipinda: Amuna ndi akazi opanda iwo amagonana kawiri kuposa omwe amakhala nawo, malinga ndi kafukufuku waku Italy. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yanu isanakwane kuti mulankhule m'malo mwake, akulangiza pulofesa wa University of Minnesota Paul Rosenblatt, Ph.D., wolemba Awiri Pabedi. "Pamene abwenzi akulumikizana, amakhudzidwa kwambiri, zomwe pamapeto pake zimatha kuyambitsa zogonana," akufotokoza. Muyeneranso kuyesa kuthawa kangapo pachaka, ngakhale mutabera ku hotelo mumzinda wanu womwewo. "Mukamasuka komanso kukhala ndi nthawi yopumula, mumagonana kwambiri," akufotokoza motero Alice Domar, Ph.D., katswiri wazamisala ku Beth Israel Deaconness Medical Center ku Boston.

> "Sakuwoneka."

Kodi amuna sayenera kulingalira za kugonana, monga, masekondi asanu aliwonse? Nanga n’cifukwa ciani zimaoneka ngati nthawi zonse amangoyang’ana pa imelo kapena kuonelela TV m’malo mokunyengererani kuti mulowe kuchipinda? Mavuto kuofesi kapena kuda nkhawa ndi zandalama zanu kumatha kukhudza zachiwerewere, atero a Holstein. "Amuna nthawi zambiri sagawana zomwe zimawasokoneza, chifukwa chake mwina simudziwa kuti china chake chalakwika," akufotokoza. "Koma ngati akubisirani zinthu, atha kumva kuti ali kutali kwambiri mwamalingaliro komanso mwakuthupi." Funsani mafunso kuti atsegule; kuyankhula za nkhawa zake kumuthandiza kuzindikira kuti safunika kuthana ndi mavuto yekha. Kufotokozera kwina kwa kutsika kwake kwa libido: Ngati mwakhala mukukana kupita patsogolo kwake posachedwa, atha kukhumudwa. "Palibe amene akufuna kukanidwa mobwerezabwereza," akutero a Holstein. "Pakapita nthawi akuwona kuti simukufuna, ndipo amasiya kuyesa pafupipafupi." Ngati mnzanu akukuuzani zakugonana pomwe simukuchita, musamudzudzule ayi. M'malo mwake, funsani cheke cha mvula kuti mupeze nthawi yomwe ingakhale yabwinoko kwa inu-monga kudzuka theka la ora m'mbuyomu kuti mukhale ndi gawo lokhazikika pakati pa-mapepala asanayambe ntchito.

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