Meghan Markle Anati "Sanafunenso Kukhala Ndi Moyo" Pomwe Amakhala Wachifumu

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Pamafunso omwe analipo pakati pa Oprah ndi a Duke wakale ndi a Duchess aku Sussex, Meghan Markle sanabwezere chilichonse - kuphatikiza zatsatanetsatane wamaganizidwe ake panthawi yomwe anali mfumu.

A Duchess akale adawululira Oprah kuti ngakhale "aliyense [m'banja lachifumu] amulandira [iye]," moyo monga gawo lachifumu unali wosungulumwa komanso wopatula. Kwambiri, kwenikweni, kuti kudzipha kunakhala "komveka bwino komanso koona komanso koopsa komanso kosalekeza," a Markle adauza Oprah. (Zokhudzana: Kupeza Kukhala Wathanzi Kunandibweretsanso ku Brink of Suicide)

"Ndinkachita manyazi kunena panthawiyo ndipo ndinkachita manyazi kuti ndivomereze kwa Harry. Koma ndimadziwa kuti ndikapanda kunena, ndiye kuti ndichita," a Markle adalongosola. "Sindinkafunanso kukhala ndi moyo."

Monga a Markle adafotokozera poyankhulana (ndipo dziko lapansi lidayang'ana pamitu yayikulu), adachoka msanga kuti awoneke ngati membala watsopano wosangalatsa wa banja lachifumu ndikuwonetsedwa ngati wotsutsana komanso wopusa. Potsegulira momwe adayang'aniridwa ndi atolankhani aku Britain, a Markle adauza Oprah kuti akuwona kuti ndi vuto kubanja lachifumu. Zotsatira zake, ananena kuti "anaganiza kuti [kudzipha] kungathetsere chilichonse kwa aliyense." Markle adati pamapeto pake adapita ku dipatimenti yantchito yantchito yachifumu kuti akathandizidwe, koma adangouzidwa kuti palibe zomwe angachite chifukwa "sanali membala wolipidwa." Osati zokhazo, koma Markle adati adauzidwa kuti sangapemphe thandizo kuti akhale ndi thanzi lam'mutu chifukwa kutero "sikungakhale kwabwino ku bungweli." Ndipo kotero, m'mawu a Markle, "Palibe chomwe chidachitikapo." (Zokhudzana: Ntchito Zaulere Zaumoyo Waubongo Zomwe Zimapereka Thandizo Lotsika mtengo komanso Lopezeka)

Markle adakumbukiranso momwe zimakhalira zovuta kubisa zovuta zake ndi thanzi lake m'maso mwa anthu. "Tidayenera kupita ku mwambowu ku Royal Albert Hall nditauza Harry kuti sindikufunanso kukhala ndi moyo," adauza Oprah. "Pazithunzizi, ndikuwona momwe zigamba zake zikugwirira mozungulira zanga. Tikumwetulira, tikugwira ntchito yathu. Mu Royal Box, magetsi atazima, ndimangolira."

Asanafotokozere zomwe adakumana nazo ndi malingaliro ofuna kudzipha, Markle adawululira Oprah kuti ngakhale kumayambiriro kwa nthawi yake yachifumu, adasungulumwa kwambiri. Anatinso akufuna kupita ku nkhomaliro ndi abwenzi ake koma m'malo mwake adalangizidwa ndi banja lachifumu kuti agone pansi ndikudzudzulidwa chifukwa chokhala "paliponse" pazofalitsa - ngakhale, kwenikweni, a Markle adadzipatula mkati, zenizeni , kwa miyezi.

"Ndachoka m'nyumba kawiri m'miyezi inayi - ndili paliponse koma palibe paliponse," adauza Oprah za nthawi imeneyo pamoyo wake. Aliyense anali ndi nkhawa ndi ma optics - momwe zochita zake zingawonekere - koma, monga a Markle adagawana ndi Oprah, "pali aliyense amene walankhula za momwe zimamvera? Chifukwa pakadali pano sindimatha kukhala wosungulumwa."

Kusungulumwa si nthabwala. Ukazolowera mosalekeza, umatha kubweretsa zovuta zoyipa. Kusungulumwa kumatha kukhudza kuyambitsa kwa dopamine ndi serotonin (ma neurotransmitters omwe amakupangitsani kumva bwino) muubongo wanu; pamene kutsegulira kwawo kumachedwetsa, mutha kuyamba kudzikayikira, mwina kukhumudwa, kapena kuda nkhawa. Mwachidule: kusungulumwa kumatha kukulitsa chiopsezo cha kukhumudwa.

Pankhani ya Markle, kusungulumwa kunkawoneka ngati chida chachikulu cha malingaliro ofuna kudzipha omwe adanena kuti adakumana nawo. Mosasamala kanthu za zochitika zenizeni, komabe, mfundo ndi yakuti, monga momwe moyo wa munthu ungawonekere pamwamba, sudziwa zomwe angakhale akulimbana nazo mkati.Monga a Markle adauza Oprah: "Simudziwa zomwe zikuchitika kwa munthu wobisika. Khalani ndi chifundo ndi zomwe zikuchitika."

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