Ndinkasinkhasinkha Tsiku Lililonse Kwa Mwezi Wathunthu Ndikulira Kamodzi

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• Kupeza Zomwe Zinandigwirira Ntchito
• Gawo Loyamba
• Nthawi Yosinthira
• Zotsatira
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Miyezi ingapo iliyonse, ndimawona zotsatsa za zochitika zazikulu zosinkhasinkha za 30-Oprah Winfrey ndi Deepak Chopra. Amalonjeza kuti "adzawonetsa tsogolo lanu m'masiku 30" kapena "kupanga moyo wanu kukhala wopambana." Nthawi zonse ndimasaina, ndikumva kukhala wokonzeka kuchita kusintha kwakukulu pamoyo - kenako ndikupanga zifukwa zonse pansi pano chifukwa chake ndilibe mphindi 20 patsiku langa lotseka maso ndikukhala chete.

Koma mu Seputembala, china chake chidasintha. Ndidakwanitsa zaka 40 ndipo ndidaganiza zogwiritsa ntchito mwayiwu kuti ndichotse zomwe zidalipo kale, ndikuchotsa zomwe zidandichitikira, ndikuyambiranso moyo wanga. Ndinkafuna kuti ndikhalepo monga mayi ndi mkazi, kukhala wosankha komanso wotsutsa pazochitika zanga za ntchito, komanso, kukhala wokhazikika kwambiri kuti ndisangalale ndi moyo wanga popanda nyimbo za "bwanji" kapena "chifukwa chiyani ine" zolemera ine. Chifukwa chake, pamapeto pake ndidaganiza zotaya zifukwa ndikuchita zomwe Oprah ndi Deepak akhala akuvuta kwazaka zambiri: sinkhasinkha masiku 30 molunjika.

Kupeza Zomwe Zinandigwirira Ntchito

Kwa iwo amene sadziwa, phindu la kusinkhasinkha ndi laulemerero. Kusinkhasinkha kumadziwika kuti kukulitsa chidwi chanu, kuchepetsa nkhawa, kuwonjezera mphamvu, kukulitsa mphamvu, ndikupangeni kukhala othamanga bwino.

Ndidadziwa kuti kuti ndiyambe chizolowezi chatsopano, ndiyenera kuchepetsa kuchepa ndi zolinga zenizeni - makamaka ngati ndikufuna kuzisintha kukhala chizolowezi. Ndidatsitsa pulogalamu yosinkhasinkha yotchedwa Calm ndikudzipereka kusinkhasinkha kwa masiku 30. Komabe, ndisanayambe, ndinaonetsetsa kuti ndisadziikire malire a utali wa kusinkhasinkha kwa tsiku lililonse. Ndinangodziwa kumbuyo kwa malingaliro anga kuti ndikufuna kumanga ndekha mpaka mphindi 20.

Gawo Loyamba

Pa tsiku loyamba, ndidapita pang'ono kwambiri ndipo ndidaganiza zoyesa mawonekedwe a "kupuma bwino" pa pulogalamu Yodekha. Zimakhudza kuyang'ana bwalo ndikukoka mpweya wanga momwe umakulira ndikutulutsa mpweya pomwe umakhala wocheperako. Pambuyo pakupuma pafupifupi 10 ndinayitcha kuti ikutha, ndikumva kukhutira ndi kupita patsogolo kwanga. (Mukufuna kuyamba kusinkhasinkha? Onani malangizo oyambira awa.)

Tsoka ilo, silinachite chilichonse kuti likhazikike kapena kusintha tsiku langa. Ndinali kumangokhalira kukwatirana ndi mamuna wanga ndikumakhumudwa ndi kamwana kanga, ndipo ndinamva kuti mtima wanga ukugunda pomwe wondilembera anandiuza kuti zomwe ndikufuna kupezazo m'mabuku zinalandiridwanso.

Patsiku lachiwiri, ndidaganiza zopanga notch ndikuyesa kusinkhasinkha kwa nkhawa. Ndinatseka maso anga ndikulola kuti mawu otonthoza a mlangizi wa kusinkhasinkha anditsogolere pamalo abwino. Monga mwamwayi, nthawi yogona inali itatsala pang'ono kugona kotero ndidalowa pansi pa zofunda, ndikukakamira mtsamiro wanga, ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndinagona. Ndinadzuka mawa lake ndikudzifunsa ngati kusinkhasinkha uku kunalidi kwa ine.

Nthawi Yosinthira

Komabe, ndinali wotsimikiza kutsatira ndondomeko yanga ya masiku 30. Ndipo ndine wokondwa kuti ndidatero chifukwa sichinafike mpaka tsiku la 10 pomwe china chake chidadina.

Ndimakonda kuganiza zoyipitsitsa nthawi zambiri-ndipo sizikhala zathanzi kapena zopindulitsa. Ndikotopetsa kukhala pankhondo yolimbana ndi ubongo wanu nthawi zonse, ndipo ndimadziwa kuti ndikufuna mtendere. Chifukwa chake, ndidatseka maso ndikukakamiza malingaliro anga kuti asayende kapena kundigonetsa kuti ndigone. (Zogwirizana: Njira Zisanu ndi ziwiri Zopanikizika-Zochepera Pothana ndi Nkhawa pa Yobu)

Pofika pano, ndinali nditaphunzirapo kuti kusinkhasinkha pabedi kunali kofanana ndi kutenga Ambien. Chifukwa chake ndidayamba kugwiritsa ntchito pulogalamu ya Calm nditakhala pansi, ndikubwerera molunjika komanso manja ali m'malo opemphera pamtima panga. Kwa mphindi zingapo zoyambirira, sindinathe kukhazikika. Ubongo wanga unandinyoza ndi zododometsa: Kodi ndasiya uvuni ndikuyatsa? Kodi makiyi anga akadali pakhomo lakumaso? Ndiyenera kudzuka kuti ndikawone, sichoncho? Ndipo zonse zidakhala bata.

Kusintha kunachitika ndipo ubongo wanga unandikakamiza kuti ndisamangoyang'ana pomwe mafunso ovuta adayamba kuwuluka mokwiya-Ndinu osangalala? Kodi n’chiyani chingakusangalatseni? Kodi ndinu oyamikira? Kulekeranji? Kodi muli komwe muyenera kukhala? Kodi mungafike bwanji kumeneko? Kodi mungasiye bwanji kuda nkhawa - mukuda nkhawa ndi chiyani? Sindingachitire mwina koma kuyankha mwakachetechete.

Ndisanadziwe, zinali ngati dambo laphulitsidwa kwambiri ndipo ndinayamba kulira mosatonthozeka. Kodi izi ndi zomwe zimayenera kuchitika? Ndinaganiza kuti kusinkhasinkha kunali kwabata komanso kwamtendere-koma uku kunali kuphulika, phiri lamapiri lamphamvu lomwe limasokoneza chilichonse. Koma ndidaganiza zokankha ndikudutsa tsidya lina. Kusinkhasinkha kunatha ndipo ndinadabwa kuwona kuti mphindi 30 zidadutsa. Ndinatsimikiza kuti zisanu zokha, mwina mphindi 10 zadutsa. Koma nthawi imathamanga mukaganiza zodziwa ndikumvera nokha.

Zotsatira

M’kupita kwa milungu ingapo yotsatira, ndinayamba kulakalaka nthaŵi imeneyo ndekhandekha. Kukhala chete ndi kuthera nthawi yabwino ndi kudzikonda kwanga ndi momwe ndikumvera kunandibweretsera mtendere ndi kumvetsetsa kwakukulu. Inakhala nthawi yanga yoganizira za chifukwa chomwe ndimamenyera kamwana kanga - zinali chifukwa choti samaliza kudya, kapena chifukwa ndimachotsa nkhawa yanga posowa nthawi yomugwirira ntchito? Kodi amuna anga anali kundikwiyitsa kapena ndinali wokhumudwa ndekha chifukwa chosagwira ntchito, kusapeza tulo tokwanira, komanso kusapanga QT kwa ife patsogolo sabata imeneyo? Zinali zodabwitsa momwe ndinadzipatsira mphindi kuti ndiganizire, komanso kufunsa ndipo yankhani mafunso ovuta, ndinakhazikitsa bata ndikuchepetsa nkhawa zanga.

Tsopano, ndimayesetsa kusinkhasinkha tsiku lililonse-koma momwe ndimachitira zikuwoneka mosiyana. Nthawi zina ndimakhala mphindi zochepa pakama pomwe mwana wanga wamkazi amamuyang'ana Nick Jr. Nthawi zina ndimatha mphindi zochepa ndikadzuka ndili chigonere. Masiku ena ali panja pa bolodi langa kwa 20 olimba, kapena ndi chilichonse chomwe ndingakwanitse patebulo langa kuti timadziti tanga tambiri tiziyenda.Chodabwitsachi ndichakuti, mukamayesera kwambiri ndikuyipanga kukhala yoyenera m'moyo wanu, zimamveka zochepa ngati ntchito.

Izi zikunenedwa, sindine wangwiro. Ndimamuyang'anabe mwamuna wanga ndipo ndimasowa tulo ndikudzifunsa ngati mwana wanga adzakhala ndi zipsera kwa moyo wake wonse chifukwa ndinamuika nthawi yake. Ndimakumbukirabe zoyipitsitsa ntchito ikagwa kapena mkonzi atandipatsa mzukwa. Ndine munthu. Koma zosintha zobisika - mfundo yoti ubongo wanga watontholetsa (zambiri) "bwanji ngati" ndi "bwanji ine" amalankhula komanso kuti mtima wanga sumayamba kutuluka pachifuwa changa zinthu zikalakwika - zandikulirakulira. kusiyanasiyana kwamakhalidwe anga ndi kuthekera kwanga kukwera mafunde akusintha, kukhumudwitsidwa ndipo, chabwino, moyo!

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