Ndinkafuna Kuonetsa Kukhala Mayi Sindingandisinthe

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• Phwando la chakudya chamadzulo - ndi zomwe ndidaphonya
• Maulalo omwe ndikufuna kusunga

Phwando lodyera lomwe ndidapatsidwa ndili ndi pakati lidapangidwa kuti lithandizire anzanga kuti "ndidali ine" - koma ndidaphunziranso zina.

Ndisanakwatirane, ndinkakhala ku New York City, kumene ine ndi anzanga odyera chakudya tinkakonda kudya palimodzi ndikukambirana mozama mpaka madzulo. Mwachilengedwe, nditakhazikika kumadera ozungulira, sindinkacheza kwambiri ndi anzanga akumzindawo, koma sanadandaule mpaka nditalengeza kuti ndili ndi mwana.

M'malo mongondiyamikira, gulu langa lalikulu lidandichenjeza kuti ndisakhale wokonda kutengera mizinda yakumatauni. M'modzi mwa iwo adati: "Chonde musakhale m'modzi mwa amayi omwe amalankhula za ana awo osati china chilichonse." Ouch.

Chifukwa chake amayi atakhala kuti akutseka mwachangu, ndidaganiza zowatsimikizira anzanga okayikira (ndipo chabwino, inemwini) kuti ndine wachikulire yemweyo. Bwanji? Mwa kupangira phwando labwino kwambiri la chakudya chamadzulo kwa anzanga atatu oyandikira kwambiri ndi ena odziwika. Palibe mwana panjira yemwe angandilepheretse kuphika mbale zisanu ndi chimodzi kuyambira pomwepo, kulandira chakudya chamadzulo kwa asanu ndi atatu ndikuwonetsa aliyense momwe ndimasangalalira!

Phwando la chakudya chamadzulo - ndi zomwe ndidaphonya

Ndinali ndi pakati miyezi 7, mimba yonse, ndikunyinyirika kuti ndiyang'ane nsomba mu broiler ndikufika pamtengo wogulitsa mbale pamwamba pa firiji. Anzanga ankangokhalira kupempha kuti andithandize, koma ine ndinangowathamangitsa. Chotsatira chake chinali chakudya chokoma chomwe sindinayesezenso kuyambira, zaka zingapo ndi ana awiri pambuyo pake - koma ndinali wotanganidwa kwambiri kuti ndizisangalala.

Nthawi zambiri ndimaganizira za usiku womwewo ndikamakhala ndi nthawi yabwino ndi ana anga koma malingaliro anga ali kwina. Amafuna kuti ndiyambe kuvala kapena kuwawerengera buku lokonda kwambiri. Ndikuganiza zoyamba chakudya chamadzulo kapena kulemba nkhani yomwe ikuyenera kubwera mawa. Koma mmalo mongothamangira ndikuwononga zosangalatsa, ndimadzikumbutsa kuti ndichepetse ndikusangalala nthawiyo.

Usiku wa phwando langa lodyera inali nthawi yomaliza yomwe abwenzi onse asanu ndi atatu adakumana chaka chathunthu. Ndinkasowa tulo, ndimazolowera moyo wamwana wakhanda. Ena anali otanganidwa ndi zachilendo zokhala pachibwenzi, kukonzekera maukwati.

Nthawi zambiri ndadandaula kuti sindinatenge nthawi kusangalala ndi kucheza nawo usiku wamadzulo, m'malo mwake ndimangoyang'ana mphamvu yanga pachakudya. Mwamwayi, zomwe zidachitikazi zidasintha momwe ndimawonera nthawi yocheza ndi anthu ofunikira. Ndipo palibe wina wofunika kwambiri kuposa ana anga.

Ndazindikira kuti palibe mzere womaliza wokhala mayi ngati pali phwando la chakudya chamadzulo, ndipo ngati ndimangokhalira kuchita zinthu moyenera ana anga akamaponderezedwa, ndiphonya nthawi zomwe zimapangitsa kukhala mayi ofunika.

Mkati mwa chakudya changa chamadzulo, ndinamva kuseka kuchokera pachipinda chochezera kwinaku ndikumenyetsa mbale kukhitchini, koma ndinasankha kudumpha zosangalatsa. Ndayesetsa kuti ndisachite izi ndi ana anga. Ndimakhala pansi nawo. Ndikuseka ndikuseka. Ndimachita mawu opusa ndikawawerenga. Ndimavina, kusewera, ndikuganiza kuti ndine nthano ndi chidwi. Kudya kungadikire. Ana anga adzakhala ochepa kwakanthawi kochepa.

Pakadali pano, ndikuyesetsa kuti ndilingalire za mwana wanga wamwamuna ndi wamkazi. Koma umayi sunandisandutse drone wamaganizidwe amodzi omwe amangofuna kukamba za zochitika zazikulu za ana, zovuta zamaphunziro, ndi njira zolerera, monga mzanga wopanda nzeru kwambiri ananeneratu zaka zapitazo. Kukhala mayi sikunasinthe chikhumbo changa chokumana ndi anzanga akale kwambiri, okondedwa kwambiri pachakudya chamadzulo ndikukambirana momveka. M'malo mwake, zandilimbikitsa kuti ndilumikizane ndi ana anga m'mbuyomu.

Maulalo omwe ndikufuna kusunga

Ngakhale nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kunyamula ana awiri kulowa mumzinda - makamaka pomwe panali zikwama za thewera ndi zofundira za anamwino zoti athane nazo - ndalankhula kuti ndiziwona anzanga akale nthawi zambiri mokwanira kuti ana anga aziwakonda monga ena mwa abale awo. Aliyense amapambana: Sindikuphonya maubwenzi okhazikika, ana anga amakopeka ndi achikulire, ndipo anzanga amawadziwa monga aliyense m'malo momangoganiza za "ana."

M'zaka zochepa, ana anga adzafuna kudziwa momwe ndinalili ndisanakhale mayi, ndipo abwenzi anga akale ndi omwe ndikufuna kuyankha mafunso awa. Ndikadakhala kuti ndagonjetsedwa kwathunthu ndi moyo wakumatawuni ndikutaya kulumikizana ndi anzanga, zonsezi sizikanatheka.

Koma ndimadzipereka, mopanda chisoni, kuzinthu zina zakukayikira kwamnzanga za umayi. Ndadzipeza ndekha ndikulakalaka kusintha kwa ana anga, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ndadzaza zala, mafumu achifumu a Disney, nyimbo za Taylor Swift, ndi zina zambiri.

Koma ubale wanga ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna ndi wamkazi suyenera kukhala wokhudza zofuna zawo zokha, chifukwa chake tidawerenga mabuku azithunzi omwe ndimakonda kwambiri m'ma 1970. Tikusewera masewera omwe sakondedwa, tsopano Candy Crush iposa Red Rover. Ndipo taphika palimodzi kuyambira pomwe ana anga anali makanda, chifukwa ndi chimodzi mwazokhumba zanga… ndipo chifukwa ndikufuna iwo adzathe kukonzekera madyerero okwanira a anzawo tsiku lina, ngati malingaliro atha.

Nditakhala ndi tsiku loyesa makamaka - ndikulira ndi kutuluka kwa nthawi komanso zoseweretsa paliponse - ndipo pamapeto pake ndikagonetsa aliyense, ndimakhala wotopa koma wokhutitsidwa, podziwa kuti ndikupatsa ana anga zonse zomwe ndilibe ndikunyalanyaza dzina langa, ndipo akutukuka. Ndikukumbutsa pang'ono momwe ndimamvera kumapeto kwa phwando langa lakale lodyera.

Anzanga atachoka ndipo ndinadzazidwa kuchokera pachakudya ndikukhala ndi khitchini yodzaza ndi mbale zonyansa, ndinakhala nthawi yayitali, ndikulilowetsa kuti ndinali ndi pakati komanso ndatopa kwambiri. Koma sindinathe kusiya kumwetulira, chifukwa ndinazindikira kuti nthawi yamadzulo, ndatha kutsimikizira wotsutsa wofunikira kwambiri mayi ameneyu sangasinthe yemwe ndinali mkati: Ine .

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