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Mungaganize kuti ukwati womwe mnzanu akubera ndi ukwati pamapazi ake omaliza, sichoncho? Kafukufuku watsopano woperekedwa pamsonkhano wa 109th wa American Sexological Association akufuna kuti asiyane. Okwatirana ambiri ali okondwa m'banja lawo-komanso akufunafuna chibwenzi, kafukufuku wa amayi 100 azaka zapakati pa 35 ndi 45 anapeza. (Chidziwitso: Tengani izi ndi mchere, popeza ophunzira nawo analinso a AshleyMadison.com, tsamba la anthu omwe amafuna kuchita zibwenzi.) Koma gawo losangalatsa kwambiri pa kafukufukuyu? Palibe aliyense mwa azimayi omwe anali nawo phunziroli yemwe adawonetsa chidwi chofuna kusiya ukwati wawo. Makumi asanu ndi awiri mphambu asanu ndi awiri adasochera chifukwa amafuna "kukondana" kwambiri.

Ndipo ngakhale zitha kumveka ngati zikadakhala zovuta zocheperako kukhazikitsa tsiku usiku, ofufuza omwe akuchita nawo kafukufukuyu akuti sizigwira ntchito mwanjira imeneyi. "Kupeza kwanthawi yayitali zakugonana ndikuti kugonana ndi munthu yemweyo kumakhala kosasangalatsa," akufotokoza wolemba kafukufuku Eric Anderson, Ph.D., pulofesa wamwamuna ku University of Winchester ku England, komanso wamkulu wa sayansi ku AshleyMadison.com .

Ndipo kufunafuna zogonana kwina kungagwire ntchito kwa maanja ena (ganizirani Frank ndi Claire Underwood mu Nyumba ya Makadi), si njira yokhayo yopitira (kapena yankho labwino kwambiri!). Yambani, m'malo mwake, kungolankhula. "Mabanja ambiri, ngakhale omwe amakondana kwambiri, sadziwa momwe angalankhulire za kugonana," akutero a Jenni Skyler, Ph.D., wogonana komanso wothandizira maubwenzi komanso director of The Intimacy Institute ku Boulder, CO .

Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mukuwoneka kuti simumvetsa bwino nkhaniyi - koma onse awiri akufuna kubweretsa zonunkhira zambiri kuchipinda-lowani nawo malo ogulitsira malo ogulitsira usiku wotsatira, akatswiri akutero. Zingakuthandizeni kuti nonse mukhale omasuka kulankhula zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala-komanso zomwe sizitero. Zovala zimasiyidwa, koma kukhala ndi katswiri wolankhula njira zosiyanasiyana ndi malangizo kungakupangitseni kuti mutsegule mukatha kalasi komanso kusangalala ndikuchita zinazake zachigololo. pamodzi.

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