Zinthu 14 Zomwe Amayi Awo Azaka Za m'ma 50 Amati Akanachita Mosiyana

Zamkati

• "Ndikufuna kuphunzira zambiri"
• "Ndimadzidalira ndekha komanso maluso anga"
• "Ndikudziwa zomwe ndikufuna ..."
• “Ndimakhala ndi nthawi yambiri yocheza ndi mwana wanga”
• "Ndikadavina kwambiri"
• "Sindingadere nkhawa za mawonekedwe anga"
• "Ndikufuna kuwonjezera chisomo changa kwa ine"
• "Sindingadzimve kuti ndikukumana ndi olemba anzawo ntchito"
• Nzeru zambiri ndi chitonthozo zimadza ndi nthawi

Mukamakula, mumayamba kuona bwino kuchokera pagalasi loyang'ana kumbuyo kwa moyo wanu.

Kodi kukalamba ndi chiyani komwe kumapangitsa amayi kukhala achimwemwe akamakalamba, makamaka azaka zapakati pa 50 mpaka 70?

Kafukufuku waposachedwa kuchokera ku Australia, yemwe adatsata amayi kwa zaka 20, akuti zina mwa izi ndizakuti azimayi amalandila nthawi yochulukirapo ya "ine" akamakalamba.

Ndipo ndi "ine" nthawiyo amabwera mavumbulutso ambiri okhutiritsa.

Ndidayankhula ndi azimayi 14 azaka za m'ma 50 pazomwe akadachita mosiyana akadali achichepere - zikadakhala kuti akudziwa, zomwe akudziwa tsopano:

“Ndikulakalaka ndikadavala malaya opanda manja ... ” - Kelly J.

“Ndinkamuuza wachinyamata wanga kuti asiye kuopa kusungulumwa. Ndidapanga zisankho zambiri kuti nditsimikizire kuti sindingakhale wopanda wokonda masekondi 10."- Anatero Barbara S.

“Sindikadayamba kusuta. Ndimaganiza kuti ndi bwino - ndizabwino. " - Jill S.

“Ndikadakhala kuti ndalandila wolandila-ndikuganiza kuti ndinali pamwambapa akugwira ntchito kwa senema waku U.S.. ” - Amy R.

“Ndikulakalaka [ine] sindinalole kuti mantha / kusazindikira kwa anthu ena kundikhudze kwambiri kotero kuti ndikadasokoneza zokhumba zanga / maloto anga kuti ndiwasangalatse. Zanditengera zaka makumi ambiri kuti ndisinthe mikhalidwe ya 'msungwana wabwino' uja."- Kecia L.

"Ndikufuna kuphunzira zambiri"

"Ndikadakhala kuti ndimalimbikira kuphunzira kuwerenga ndi kumasulira kusukulu yasekondale," akutero a Linda G., dokotala wa mano wazaka za m'ma 50. "Ndiyenera kuti ndiwerenge kena katatu, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimafunikanso maphunziro aukadaulo, pomwe sindimamvetsetsa."

Linda akuwona kuti makolo ake sanayang'ane maphunziro ake, motero zidagwera m'ming'alu.

“Ndinali mwana wachitatu. Chifukwa chake, makolo anga amkandikonda koma anali otayirira. Sindikudzidalira kulosera zomwe ndingachite ndi odwala anga chifukwa ndimavutika kupanga zidziwitso. "

Chifukwa cha izi, Linda amalimbana ndi vuto lamkati.

"Ndimamva ngati kuti ndagwira ntchito molimbika pazonse zomwe ndakwanitsa. Izi zandipangitsa kuti ndigwiritse ntchito mphamvu zanga mwankhanza chifukwa nthawi zonse ndimayesetsa kuwonetsa kukhulupirika kwanga. "

"Ndimadzidalira ndekha komanso maluso anga"

Andrea J., wolemba wogulitsa kwambiri wazaka za m'ma 50, akuti, "Ndikuwona kuti ndinali ndani komanso zomwe ndidachita zidanditsogolera ku moyo wokhutira, koma ngati ndingasinthe chilichonse kungakhale kukhulupirira maluso anga patali msinkhu wawo. ”

Andrea akuwona kuti sanali woleza mtima mokwanira ndi iyemwini.

"Ndikulakalaka ndikadazindikira msanga kuti ndikwaniritsa chikhumbo changa cholemba mabuku ndikangomamatira ndikumapitabe patsogolo. Ndinaleza mtima kuti ndichite bwino kotero kuti ndinasiya maphunziro ndikusintha maphunziro pomwe kupambana sikunabwere mwachangu. "

"Ndikudziwa zomwe ndikufuna ..."

Gena R., wolemba tsitsi pakati pa 50s akumva kuti adatenga nthawi yayitali kuti adziwe kuti anali ndani.

"Momwe ndimakondera kufotokozera wachichepere ndikudziyerekeza ndekha ndi Julia Roberts mu kanema wa 'Runaway Mkwatibwi,' pomwe sanadziwe momwe amawakondera mazira ake… chifukwa amawakonda ngakhale mwamunthu wake wapano anakonda lake. ”

"Monga iye, ndimafunikanso kudziwa kuti ndilibe mwamuna, komanso momwe ndimakondera mazira anga - ngakhale amawakonda bwanji."

Gena amakhulupirira kuti anthu amamuwona ngati "msungwana kumbuyo kwa mpando" yemwe amakhala wokondwa nthawi zonse ndipo amatha kuthana ndi mavuto awo onse.

Koma wasintha.

"Sindikuchitanso zinthu zomwe sindikufuna kuchita ndipo ndadzipatsa chilolezo choti 'ayi' ndikupuma. Ngati ndikufuna kukhala pansi ndikuwonera makanema a Hallmark tsiku lonse ndimachita. Ndimadzizungulira ndi anthu omwe ndikufuna kukhala nawo ndipo ndimakhala kutali ndi anthu omwe andifunafuna. ”

“Ndipo sindimamvanso manyazi chifukwa cha zomwe ndalakwitsa. Ndi gawo la nkhani yanga ndipo zandipangitsa kukhala munthu wachifundo. "

“Ndimakhala ndi nthawi yambiri yocheza ndi mwana wanga”

Stacy J. wopanga wazaka za m'ma 50 akuti nthawiyo sinali kumbali yake.

“Ndikulakalaka ndikadakhala ndimacheza ndi mwana wanga ali mwana. Ndinali kusukulu nthawi zonse ndikugwira ntchito ndikusamalira mlongo wanga yemwe anali kudwala komanso ndinali wosauka. ”

Amazindikira kuti ana amakula mwachangu, koma sanazindikire pamenepo.

"Ndikulakalaka ndikadasiya zinthu ndikadakhala ndi maphwando ambiri tiyi wakubadwa kwa nyama zake zomwe adadzala nazo."

"Ndikadavina kwambiri"

"Nthawi zonse ndimadzidalira ndipo ndidaganiza ndisanafike 20 kuti sindivina," akutero a Laurel V., azaka zoyambirira za 50. "Ndipo ndinkakhala chete kumapwando, anthu ena adalankhula zakukhosi kwawo ndikusunthira nyimbo."

Laurel akuwona kuti sayenera kuda nkhawa kwambiri.

"Ndikuwuza ana anga, ngati ndikadatha kubwerera, ndikadavina kwambiri, osasamala zomwe anthu amaganiza ... mwina samandiyang'ana."

"Sindingadere nkhawa za mawonekedwe anga"

Rajean B., mlangizi wa PR wazaka zoyambirira za 50 sanayang'anenso pazowoneka zake.

"Ndili ndi zaka za m'ma 20 ndi 30, ntchito yanga yolankhula pakampani idandiyika kutsogolo kwa kamera ndipo sindinkadutsa kalilole osakonza tsitsi langa, kuyang'ana mano, ndikupaka lipstick. Ndinkachita tulo tofa nato pamene ndinkangoona chibwano nditalankhula kapena kuseka. ”

Rajean adazindikira zomwe zili zofunika koposa zakunja.

“Amuna anga ndi anzanga amandikonda komanso kundikonda monga momwe ndilili osati momwe ndimawonekera nthawi iliyonse. Ndimakonda kuganizira za kukongola kwa mumtima komanso mphamvu zanga. ”

"Ndikufuna kuwonjezera chisomo changa kwa ine"

"Ndimapuma ndisanachitepo ndikumvetsetsa kuti sindiyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro pazonse," akutero a Beth W., azaka zopitilira 50, omwe anali ndi ntchito yothamanga kwambiri ku bungwe lalikulu lophunzitsira.

“Ngati ndimaona kuti ndili pachiwopsezo chodzasiyidwa, kapena kusamvetsetsa, ndimangotseka kapena kumenyera kuti andimvere. Zinali zopanikiza kwambiri mpaka pamapeto pake ndinayamba kudwala, ndimatumba, zomwe zinandichititsa kuthana ndi mantha anga. ”

"Zomwe ndaphunzira ndikuti nditha kuyika chisomo mulimonse momwe zingakhalire mwa kungopuma, ndikudziyimitsa ndekha poyika mapazi anga pansi, motero zimachepetsa kuthamanga kwa adrenaline ndi cortisol kudzera m'dongosolo langa."

Beth akuti kuchita izi kwachepetsa sewero, chisokonezo, ndi kusamvana m'moyo wake ndikulimbitsa ubale wake.

"Sindingadzimve kuti ndikukumana ndi olemba anzawo ntchito"

Nina A., atakwanitsa zaka 50 m'miyezi ingapo akuti, "Ndinali wokhoza kutengera anthu omwe ndimawagwirira ntchito. Sindinazindikire panthawiyo, koma ndikufuna achinyamata azimvetsetsa kuti asapange zolakwitsa zomwezo. "

“Ndinkachita chibwenzi ndi pulofesa wina wachikulire ndili ku koleji. Adali ndi zolankhula zambiri zolipira kumayunivesite apadziko lonse lapansi, ndipo nawonso amamulipirira. Anandipempha kuti ndipite naye kuulendo wopita ku Bali, Java, China, Thailand. Koma ndinali ndi ntchito, ndipo sindinathe kupita. "

“Imodzi mwa nthawi zomwe ndinataya mwayi wokhala 'wogwira ntchito bwino' ndipamene ndinasiya ntchito kuti ndipite kutsegulira kwakukulu kwa Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. Ndidakumana ndi zovuta zambiri pantchito yanga. Koma tangoganizani chiyani? Dipatimentiyi idakwanitsabe kugwira ntchito. ”

Nzeru zambiri ndi chitonthozo zimadza ndi nthawi

Padzakhala nthawi zomwe mungafune zambiri kuposa upangiri kuti muthane ndi zovuta zanu. Nthawi zina, yankho limangokhala nthawi - nthawi yokwanira yopitilira zovuta zomwe muli nazo m'ma 20s ndi 30s kotero mwakhazikitsa njira yothetsera zovuta zomwe zimabwera mzaka za 50 ndi kupitirira.

Mwinanso, ophika odziwika, a Cat Cora, azaka zawo zoyambirira za m'ma 50, afotokoza mwachidule kulimbana kwaunyamata ndi nzeru zakuwonekeranso kwakumbuyo: Ukakhala wachichepere, kukwiya kwako ndikukhumba kuti zonse zitheke kumabweretsa kusamvana, "akutiuza.

"Ndikukhwima, ndakhala wodekha komanso wolimbikitsa mwamtendere mbali zonse za moyo wanga."