Chonde Thandizani Kuthetsa Kupweteka Kokuwononga Moyo Wanga Wogonana

Zowawa panthawi yogonana ndizosavomerezeka.

Zojambula ndi Alexis Lira

Q: Kugonana kumangondipwetekera, ngakhale ndimapita mopitirira mafuta. Pamwamba pa izo, ndimamvanso kumva kuwawa kwambiri komanso kuyabwa kumeneko. Zonsezi zimawononga zonse zokhudzana ndi kugonana, chifukwa sindingathe kukhala omasuka 100 peresenti. Thandizo, ndingatani?

Ayi, izi sizovomerezeka - {textend} ndipo zosavomerezeka, ndikutanthauza kuti musayembekezere kuti kugonana kungakupweteketseni ndipo muyenera kungoluma mano ndikunyamula. Kusakhala womasuka ndichinthu choyipa kwambiri chomwe chitha kuchitika panthawi yogonana, koma palibe chifukwa chochitira mantha.

Zinthu zoyamba poyamba. Lankhulani, ngakhale mutakhala wamanjenje kapena wamanyazi. Inu nokha simuli woyambitsa zowawa. Chachiwiri, funsani dokotala wanu kapena wochita masewera olimbitsa thupi kuti muwone ngati mulibe vuto la yisiti kapena matenda am'mimba. Mukapeza kuwala kobiriwira kuti zonse zikuwonekeratu, izi ndi zomwe ndikufuna kuti muganizirepo: kuyambitsanso ulendo wanu wogonana ndikuwunikanso tanthauzo la kusangalala ndi chisangalalo - {textend} nokha.

Ndimapeza kuti anthu amakhala ndi tanthauzo laling'ono kwambiri lachiwerewere (makamaka kugonana kwa abambo, chifukwa simukufuna kulowa mkati kuti mukhale ndi vuto). Koma aliyense ndi wosiyana, chifukwa chake ponyani zoyembekezerazo pazenera. Kuti mutonthozedwe, muyenera kukhala ofunitsitsa kuyesa, kuwongolera, ndikutsimikizira zenizeni.

Tulutsani kalendala yanu ndikusungirani nthawi yomwe mumayika sabata iliyonse. Khalani omasuka, achidwi, komanso osachita mantha. Kuti mudzisangalatse nokha, pezani zomwe mumakonda kwambiri, ndipo phunzirani zonse zomwe mungathe ndi thupi lanu. Dziwani zomwe zikuyenera kukhala m'malo kuti mumve bwino mthupi lanu komanso kukhala omasuka.

Kodi mukufunikira chiyani kuti mukhale omasuka komanso otetezeka? Mukaona kuti kudzifufuza kwanu kumamveka kodabwitsa kapena kopusa poyamba, landirani malingalirowo kenako ndi kuwasiya apite. Bwerezani izi kwa inu nokha: Ndili bwino, ndili ndi thupi lanyama, ndipo ndibwino kuti musangalale.

Pamene kudzidalira kwanu kukukulira, mutha kuyitanitsa mnzanu wapano kuti adzafufuze nanu. Sungani mphindi 30 pasabata (osachepera) kuti mugawane zogwirana ndi zolaula. Tengani mosinthana, ndi mphindi 15 iliyonse yopatsa komanso yolandila, kuyambira koyamba osagwira. Kulowerera kotereku kumatha kubweretsa zogonana, ngati mungasankhe.

Koma kumbukirani, izi ndizofufuza zenizeni, kukulitsa kuzindikira kwa thupi, ndikuwona chisangalalo. Palibe cholinga chotsutsana. Ngati mukufuna thandizo lina kuti muyambe, nthawi zina shawa lotentha, makandulo a aromatherapy, kapena nyimbo zotsitsimula zitha kuthandizira kuthana ndi mavuto. Ponseponse, ndikulangiza kuti ndiyimikire kaye zachiwerewere zomwe zimapweteka kwambiri chifukwa, pamapeto pake, zomwe zimachitikazo zitha kuwononga zambiri.

Ngati mukusewerera zakusinthaku ku SO yanu, musalankhule za izo m'chipinda chogona mukamayesetsa. Ndibwino kukambirana izi pa chakudya chamadzulo kapena poyenda. Mfundo apa ndikupanga malo omwe okonda zachiwerewere amalandiridwa, osakakamizidwa kuti muchite kapena kutsatira tanthauzo lina loti kugonana ndi chiyani.

Kusintha pang'ono pamaganizidwe anu momwe mumawonera zosangalatsa komanso momwe mumaonera kulola kutuluka mthupi lanu kungakuthandizeninso kusangalala ndi kugonana.

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