Chifukwa Chake Tiyenera Kuyankhula Zokhudza Kukhumudwa Pakati pa Mimba

Zamkati

• Sepideh Saremi, wazaka 32, atayamba kulira pafupipafupi ndikumverera kuti watopa komanso atatopa panthawi yomwe anali ndi pakati, anali atazilemba mpaka kusintha mahomoni.
• Kukhumudwa panthawi yoyembekezera sichinthu chomwe mungathe 'kugwedeza'
• Manyazi andilepheretsa kupeza thandizo
• "Zinangokhala ngati nyali yazimitsidwa muubongo wanga"
• Inali nthawi yoti athandizidwe
• Mfundo yofunika

Sepideh Saremi, wazaka 32, atayamba kulira pafupipafupi ndikumverera kuti watopa komanso atatopa panthawi yomwe anali ndi pakati, anali atazilemba mpaka kusintha mahomoni.

Ndipo, monga mayi woyamba, samadziwa za pakati. Koma patadutsa milungu ingapo, Saremi, wochiritsa matenda amisala ku Los Angeles, adazindikira kuti anali ndi nkhawa yayikulu, nkhawa zake, komanso kumva kuti palibe chofunikira. Komabe, ngakhale adaphunzitsidwa zamankhwala, adangochiona ngati kupsinjika kwa tsiku ndi tsiku komanso gawo la mimba.

Pofika trimester yachitatu, Saremi adayamba kutengeka ndi chilichonse chomuzungulira ndipo sanathenso kunyalanyaza mbendera zofiira. Ngati adokotala amamufunsa mafunso wamba, amamva ngati akumutenga. Anayamba kulimbana ndi mayanjano onse omwe sanali okhudzana ndi ntchito. Ankalira nthawi zonse - "osati motere, amayi omwe ali ndi pakati," akutero Saremi.

Kukhumudwa panthawi yoyembekezera sichinthu chomwe mungathe 'kugwedeza'

Malinga ndi The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) ndi The American Psychiatric Association (APA), azimayi pakati pa 14 ndi 23% azimva zipsinjo zakukhumudwa ali ndi pakati. Koma malingaliro olakwika okhudza kupsinjika kwa chiberekero - kukhumudwa panthawi yoyembekezera komanso pambuyo pobereka - atha kupangitsa amayi kukhala ovuta kupeza mayankho omwe amafunikira, atero Dr. Gabby Farkas, wothandizira ku New York yemwe amakhazikika pankhani zakubala zaumoyo.

"Odwala amatiuza nthawi zonse omwe achibale awo amawauza kuti 'azigwedeze' ndikudziyanjanitsa," akutero Farkas. “Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti kukhala ndi pakati komanso kukhala ndi mwana ndi nthawi yosangalala kwambiri pamoyo wa mayi ndipo ndi njira yokhayo yochitira izi. Pamenepo, azimayi amakhala ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana panthawiyi. ”

Manyazi andilepheretsa kupeza thandizo

Kwa Saremi, njira yopita kuchipatala inali yayitali. Paulendo wina wachitatu paulendo wawo wachitatu, akuti adakambirana zakukhosi kwake ndi OB-GYN ndipo adauzidwa kuti adakumana ndi zoyipa kwambiri ku Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale (EPDS) zomwe adaziwonapo.

Koma pamenepo ndi kuthandizira kukhumudwa panthawi yapakati, atero a Catherine Monk, PhD komanso pulofesa wothandizana ndi Medical Psychology (Psychiatry and Obstetrics and Gynecology) ku University University. Kuphatikiza pa mankhwalawa, akuti, ndibwino kumwa mankhwala ena opatsirana, monga serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs).

Saremi akuti adakambirana zakupezeka kwa mayesowo ndi womuthandiza, yemwe amamuwona asanakhale ndi pakati. Koma, akuwonjezera, madokotala ake onse adalemba.

"Ndidadzinenera kuti anthu ambiri amanama pazowonera, motero mphambu yanga mwina inali yokwera kwambiri chifukwa ndikadakhala munthu yekhayo wowona mtima - zomwe ndizopusa ndikaganiza za izo tsopano. Ndipo amaganiza kuti sindikuwoneka ngati wokhumudwa [chifukwa] sindinkawoneka ngati wakunja. "

"Zinangokhala ngati nyali yazimitsidwa muubongo wanga"

Sizingatheke kuti mayi yemwe adakumana ndi vuto la kupsinjika panthawi yomwe ali ndi pakati azimva zamatsenga mwana wake akabadwa. M'malo mwake, malingaliro amatha kupitilira. Mwana wake wamwamuna atabadwa, Saremi akuti zidamuwonekera mwachangu kuti anali pamavuto am'maganizo.

"Pafupifupi atangobadwa - ndikadali mchipinda choberekera - zidangokhala ngati magetsi onse azima muubongo wanga. Ndimamva ngati kuti ndaphimbidwa mumtambo wakuda ndipo ndimatha kuwona kunja kwake, koma palibe chomwe ndidawona chanzeru. Sindinamve kuti ndili ndi intaneti, makamaka mwana wanga. "

Saremi adayenera kuchotsa zithunzi zongobadwa kumene chifukwa akuti sakanatha kulira, ndipo atafika kunyumba, adachita mantha ndi "malingaliro owopsa, olowerera."

Poopa kukhala yekha ndi mwana wake wamwamuna kapena kuchoka panyumbapo ali yekha, Saremi akuvomereza kuti adataya chiyembekezo komanso kukhumudwa. Malinga ndi Farkas, malingaliro awa ndiofala pakati pa azimayi omwe ali ndi vuto la kubadwa kwa chiberekero ndipo ndikofunikira kuwakhazikika powalimbikitsa amayi kuti apemphe thandizo. "Ambiri a iwo amadzimva olakwa chifukwa chosasangalala 100% panthawiyi," akutero Farkas.

"Ambiri amalimbana ndi kusintha kwakukulu kwakubala mwana kumatanthauza (mwachitsanzo. moyo wanga sulinso za ine) ndi udindo wazomwe zimatanthawuza kusamalira munthu wina amene amadalira kwathunthu, "akuwonjezera.

Inali nthawi yoti athandizidwe

Pofika nthawi yomwe Saremi adagunda mwezi umodzi pambuyo pobereka, anali atatopa kwambiri komanso atatopa kotero kuti akuti, "Sindinkafuna kukhala ndi moyo."

Anayambadi kufufuza njira zothetsera moyo wake. Malingaliro ofuna kudzipha anali apakatikati osakhalitsa. Koma ngakhale atadutsa, kukhumudwitsako kunatsalira. Pafupifupi miyezi isanu pambuyo pobereka, Saremi adakumana ndi mantha oyamba paulendo wopita ku Costco ndi mwana wake. "Ndinaganiza kuti ndinali wokonzeka kupeza thandizo," akutero.

Saremi adalankhula ndi dokotala wake wamkulu za kukhumudwa kwake, ndipo anali wokondwa kudziwa kuti anali waluso komanso wosaweruza. Anamutumiza kwa wothandizira ndipo adamuuza mankhwala a antidepressant. Adasankha kuyesa chithandizo choyamba ndipo amapitabe kamodzi pa sabata.

Mfundo yofunika

Lero, Saremi akuti akumva bwino kwambiri. Kuphatikiza pa kuchezeredwa ndi womuthandizira, amatsimikiza kugona mokwanira, kudya bwino, ndikupeza nthawi yolimbitsa thupi ndikuwona abwenzi ake.

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