Kodi Pali Chiyanjano Pakati pa Kugwiritsa Ntchito Zithunzi Zolaula?

Zamkati

• Yankho lalifupi ndi liti?
• Kodi zolaula zingayambitse kukhumudwa?
• Nanga bwanji zotsutsana - kodi anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lapanikizika amawonera zolaula zambiri?
• Kodi lingaliro loti zolaula ndi kukhumudwa zimalumikizidwa kuti?
• Kodi 'zolaula' zimabwera kuti?
• Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati kugwiritsa ntchito kwanu kuli kovuta?
• Kodi mungapeze kuti thandizo?
• Chofunika ndi chiyani?

Yankho lalifupi ndi liti?

Kawirikawiri amaganiza kuti kuonera zolaula kumayambitsa kukhumudwa, koma pali umboni wochepa wotsimikizira kuti ndi choncho. Kafukufuku samawonetsa kuti zolaula zimatha kukhumudwitsa.

Komabe, mutha kukhudzidwa munjira zina - zonsezi zimadalira mbiri yanu komanso momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito zolaula.

Ngakhale ena angavutike kuti azisangalala ndi zolaula pang'ono, ena amatha kugwiritsa ntchito mokakamiza. Ena amathanso kudziimba mlandu kapena kuchita manyazi pambuyo pake, zomwe zimawononga thanzi lawo.

Izi ndi zomwe muyenera kudziwa zokhudzana ndi zolaula ndi kukhumudwa.

Kodi zolaula zingayambitse kukhumudwa?

Palibe umboni uliwonse woti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumatha kuyambitsa kapena kukhumudwitsa.

Pa kafukufuku yemwe alipo, kafukufuku wina wa 2007 adazindikira kuti anthu omwe amaonera zolaula nthawi zambiri amakhala osungulumwa.

Komabe, phunziroli linatengera kafukufuku wa anthu 400, ndipo adadzinenera okha - kutanthauza kuti pali malo ambiri olakwika.

Kafukufuku wina, wofalitsidwa mu 2018, adagwiritsa ntchito zitsanzo za anthu a 1,639 kuti awone kulumikizana pakati pa kukhumudwa, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, ndi tanthauzo la zolaula za anthu.

Ofufuzawa adapeza kuti anthu ena amadzimva kuti ndi olakwa, amakwiya, kapena amakhala ndi nkhawa akawona zolaula. Maganizo awa angakhudze thanzi lanu lonse.

Koma palibe kafukufuku yemwe akuwonetsa kuti kudya zolaula - zolaula kapena ayi - zitha kuyambitsa kapena kuyambitsa nkhawa.

Nanga bwanji zotsutsana - kodi anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lapanikizika amawonera zolaula zambiri?

Monga momwe zimakhalira zovuta kudziwa ngati kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumatha kubweretsa kukhumudwa, ndizovuta kudziwa ngati kukhumudwa kungakhudze momwe mumaonera zolaula.

Kafukufuku wina wa 2017 adapeza kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amatha kukhala ndi zipsinjo ngati akukhulupirira kuti zolaula ndizolakwika.

Kwa iwo omwe samakhulupirira zolaula ndizolakwika mwamakhalidwe, komabe, kafukufukuyu adapeza kuti zizindikilo zazikuluzikulu zimangopezeka mwa iwo omwe amawonera zolaula pafupipafupi.

Linanenanso kuti "amuna ovutika maganizo amawona zolaula zambiri ngati zothana ndi mavuto, makamaka ngati sakuwona ngati zosayenera."

Mwanjira ina, idatsimikiza kuti amuna ovutika maganizo akhoza khalani ndi mwayi wowonera zolaula.

Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti maphunziro omwewo sanachitike ndi azimayi, anthu osagwiritsa ntchito mabakiteriya, komanso amuna osagwirizana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo.

Kodi lingaliro loti zolaula ndi kukhumudwa zimalumikizidwa kuti?

Pali nthano zambiri zokhudzana ndi zolaula, kugonana, ndi maliseche. Izi, mwa zina, ndi chifukwa cha manyazi omwe amabwera chifukwa cha machitidwe ena akugonana.

Monga nthano yoti kuseweretsa maliseche kumakupangitsa kukula tsitsi m'manja, nthano zina zimafalikira kuti zilepheretse anthu kutenga nawo mbali pazakugonana zomwe zimawonedwa ngati zosayenera.

Anthu ena amakhulupirira kuti zolaula ndizolakwika, motero sizosadabwitsa kuti ena azilumikizitsa ndi matenda amisala.

Lingaliro likhozanso kubwera kuchokera kuzikhulupiriro zokhudzana ndi zolaula - kuti zimangodyedwa ndi anthu omwe amakhala osungulumwa komanso osakhutira ndi miyoyo yawo, komanso kuti mabanja achimwemwe sawonera zolaula.

Palinso chikhulupiliro pakati pa anthu ena kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula nthawi zonse kumakhala kosavulaza kapena "kumaletsa."

Kuperewera kwamaphunziro azakugonana kungatanthauzenso kuti anthu ambiri sadziwa zomwe zolaula zimachitika komanso momwe angagwiritsire ntchito moyenera.

Kodi 'zolaula' zimabwera kuti?

Kafukufuku wa 2015 adawona kulumikizana pakati pa zolaula, kuzipembedzo, komanso kutsutsa zolaula.

Inapeza kuti anthu omwe amatsutsana ndi zolaula mwachipembedzo kapena mwamakhalidwe nthawi zambiri amatha ganizani amamwa zolaula, mosasamala kanthu za kuchuluka kwa zolaula zomwe amawononga.

Kafukufuku wina wa 2015, yemwe anali ndi wofufuza wotsogolera yemweyo monga uja watchulidwa pamwambapa, adapeza kuti kukhulupirira kuti uli ndi vuto la zolaula kumatha kuyambitsa zipsinjo.

Mwanjira ina, ngati ganizani mumakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, mwina mumatha kukhala ndi nkhawa.

Kuledzera, komabe, ndi lingaliro lotsutsana.

Sizivomerezedwa konse kuti kuzolowera zolaula ndimkhalidwe weniweni. American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors, and Therapists (AASECT) samawona ngati chizolowezi kapena matenda amisala.

M'malo mwake, amawerengedwa ngati kukakamiza, limodzi ndi zokakamiza zina zogonana monga kuseweretsa maliseche.

Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati kugwiritsa ntchito kwanu kuli kovuta?

Zizolowezi zanu zowonera zitha kukhala zodetsa nkhawa ngati:

• khalani ndi nthawi yambiri mukuwonera zolaula zomwe zimakhudza ntchito yanu, nyumba, sukulu, kapena moyo wanu
• onerani zolaula osati zosangalatsa, koma kuti mukwaniritse "zosowa" zowonera, ngati kuti mukukonzekera
• onerani zolaula kuti mudzilimbikitse mumtima mwanu
• ndikudzimva kuti ndine wolakwa kapena wokhumudwa chifukwa chowonera zolaula
• Yesetsani kupewa zolaula

Kodi mungapeze kuti thandizo?

Therapy ikhoza kukhala malo abwino kuyamba ngati mukuganiza kuti muli ndi vuto la zolaula.

Wothandizira anu angafunse za momwe mumamvera zolaula, momwe imagwirira ntchito, momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito kangati, komanso momwe ntchitoyi yakhudzira moyo wanu.

Muthanso kuganizira zopeza gulu lothandizira m'deralo.

Funsani othandizira anu kapena adotolo ngati akudziwa zamagulu aliwonse othandizira zachiwerewere omwe amayang'ana kwambiri kukakamizidwa kugonana kapena kudziletsa pazomwe mukuchita m'dera lanu.

Muthanso kuyang'ana magulu othandizira pa intaneti ngati simungapeze opezekapo am'deralo.

Chofunika ndi chiyani?

Lingaliro loti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumatha kuyambitsa kukhumudwa kuli ponseponse - koma silinakhazikitsidwe pakufufuza kulikonse kwasayansi. Palibe maphunziro omwe akuwonetsa kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumatha kukhumudwitsa.

Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti mumakhala okhumudwa kwambiri mukamakhulupirira kuti "mumakonda" zolaula.

Ngati kugwiritsa ntchito kwanu kukukuvutitsani, mungapeze zothandiza kulankhula ndi wothandizira kapena kulowa nawo gulu lothandizira.

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