Kudzipatula Kundiwonetsa Zomwe Amayi Atsopano Amafunikira Kwambiri

Zamkati

• Nthawi
• Kukulitsa tchuthi cha amayi oyembekezera
• Tchuthi chowonjezera chaubambo
• Kusinthasintha
• Thandizo
• Komwe tikupita kuchokera kuno
• Makolo Pa Ntchito: Ogwira Ntchito Zakutsogolo

Ndakhala ndi ana atatu ndi zokumana nazo zitatu pambuyo pobereka. Koma aka ndi koyamba kuti ndikabadwe pambuyo pobereka.

Mwana wanga wachitatu adabadwa mu Januware 2020, kutatsala milungu 8 kuti dziko lapansi litseke. Pamene ndikulemba, tsopano tatha masabata a 10 tili patokha kunyumba. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ine ndi mwana wanga takhala tokha kwa nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe timatulukira.

Zikumveka zoyipa kuposa momwe ziliri, kwenikweni. Nditangodutsa chisokonezo choyambirira pozindikira kuti miyezi iwiri yoyambirira ya moyo wa mwana wanga idzadziwika kuti "Pamaso pa Corona" - ndipo nditangovomereza kuti zatsopano zathu zitha kukhala nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe zimayembekezeredwa - ndinatha kuwona kuti ndinyalanyaza mwatsopano .

Si chinsinsi kuti chaka choyamba atabadwa ndi chovuta kwambiri, zivute zitani. Kupatula kuphunzira zomwe amakonda komanso umunthu wa mwana wakhanda, thupi lanu, malingaliro anu, momwe mumamvera, komanso maubale onse akusintha. Mutha kumva kuti ntchito yanu kapena moyo wanu wachuma watenga gawo. Mwayi mukumva ngati dzina lanu likusintha mwanjira ina.

Kupangitsa zinthu kukhala zovuta kwambiri, mdziko lathu, njira yothandizira pambuyo pobereka ndi tchuthi cha mabanja ndizosakhalitsa. Lingaliro la umayi wogwira ntchito ndikubwerera mwachangu momwe mungathere, kubisa umboni wakuchotsa mwana, ndikuwonetsanso kudzipereka kwanu komanso kuthekera kwanu mobwerezabwereza.

Yesetsani kuchita zinthu mosamala, amatiuza. Koma palibe malire pamene muyenera kusiya kwathunthu machiritso anu kapena kunyalanyaza theka lanu kuti mupulumuke. Nthawi zambiri ndakhala ndikuganiza kuti sikunali koyenera komwe tikufuna, koma kuphatikiza.

Kukumana ndi trimester yachinayi ndikudzipatula kunandikakamiza kuchita izi: moyo wophatikizika pomwe malire pakati pa nthawi yamabanja, kusamalira mwana, kugwira ntchito, ndi kudzisamalira samatha. Zomwe ndapeza ndikuti, mwanjira zina, postpartum in quarantine is easier - mphatso, ngakhale. Ndipo m'njira zina, ndizovuta kwambiri.

Koma kudutsa, kugwiritsa ntchito miyezi yoyambirira ya moyo wa mwana wanga kunyumba ndi banja lathu kwapangitsa kuti zidziwike bwino: nthawi, kusinthasintha, ndi kuthandizira ndizomwe amayi atsopano amafunikira kwambiri kuti akule bwino.

Nthawi

Ndakhala tsiku lililonse ndili ndi mwana wanga kwa masabata 18 apitawa. Izi zimandidabwitsa. Ndiwotalika kuposa tchuthi chilichonse cha umayi chomwe ndidakhalapo, ndipo tapeza zabwino zazikulu chifukwa cha izi.

Kukulitsa tchuthi cha amayi oyembekezera

Ndili ndi mwana wanga woyamba, ndinabwereranso ku ntchito patatha milungu 12 nditabadwa. Ndili ndi mwana wanga wachiwiri, ndidabwerera kuntchito patatha milungu 8.

Nthawi zonse ndikabwerera kuntchito, mkaka wanga unkatsika. Mpopuwo sunali wogwira mtima kwa ine - mwina chifukwa sichimayambitsa kutulutsa kofanana kwa oxytocin. Kapenanso nthawi zonse ndinkadzimva kuti ndine wolakwa kusiya tebulo langa kuti lipope, chifukwa chake ndimangozisiya nthawi yayitali. Mulimonsemo, ndimayenera kumenyera mkaka uliwonse wodalitsika ndi ana anga awiri omaliza. Koma osati nthawi ino.

Ndakhala ndikupopa kuyambira pomwe tidabwera kuchokera kuchipatala, ndikukonzekera tsiku lomwe amayenera kupita ku malo osamalira ana. Ndipo m'mawa uliwonse, ndimadabwa ndi kuchuluka kwa mkaka womwe ndimatulutsa, ngakhale nditadya.

Kukhala ndi mwana wanga wachitatu tsiku lililonse, kwandipatsa nthawi kuti ndimuyamwitse pakufunidwa. Ndipo chifukwa kuyamwitsa ndi njira yoyendetsedwera, sindinawone dontho lofananira lomwe ndimapeza mkaka momwe ndidakumana nawo nthawi zonse m'mbuyomu. Nthawi ino kupezeka kwanga mkaka kudakulirakulira pakapita nthawi pamene mwana wanga wakula.

Kukhala ndi mwana wanga kwandilimbikitsanso. Ana amakula ndikusintha mwachangu. Kwa ine, nthawi zonse zimawoneka ngati zomwe zidathandiza kuti ana anga asinthe mwezi uliwonse ndipo ndimayenera kuwadziwiranso.

Nthawi ino, kukhala ndi mwana wanga tsiku lonse tsiku lililonse, ndimawona kusintha kwakanthawi kwakusintha kwake kapena machitidwe ake mwachangu. Posachedwa, kulemba zazing'ono tsiku lonse kunandipangitsa kukayikira kuti anali chete.

Kuyendera dokotala wa ana kunatsimikizira kukayikira kwanga: Anali kuonda, ndipo Reflux anali wolakwa. Nditayamba kumwa mankhwala, ndidamutengera patadutsa milungu 4 kuti akandiyeze. Kulemera kwake kudakulirakulira, ndipo adabwereranso pa kukula kwake komwe akukonzekera.

Kwa nthawi yoyamba kuyambira pomwe ndidakhala mayi zaka 7 zapitazo, ndikutha kuzindikira kulira kwamitundu yosiyanasiyana. Chifukwa ndakhala ndi nthawi yochuluka yocheza naye, ndimatha kudziwa zomwe amalankhula mosavuta kuposa momwe ndingathere ndi awiri anga ena. Komanso, ndikamuyankha bwino pazosowa zake, amatsika msanga ndikukhazikika mosavuta.

Kudyetsa bwino komanso kuthandiza mwana wanu kukhazikika akakwiyitsidwa ndi zinthu ziwiri zazikulu pakuwona kwanu kukhala mayi watsopano.

Tchuthi cha amayi oyembekezera ndi chochepa kwambiri - ndipo nthawi zina sichipezeka - mdziko lathu. Popanda nthawi yofunika kuchiritsa, kudziwa mwana wanu, kapena kukhazikitsa mkaka, tikukhazikitsa amayi kuti azitha kulimbana - komanso amayi ndi makanda atha kuvutika.

Tchuthi chowonjezera chaubambo

Sindine ndekha m'banja mwathu amene ndakhala nthawi yayitali ndi mwana uyu kuposa awiri athu ena. Mwamuna wanga sanakhaleko kopitilira milungu iwiri kunyumba atabereka mwana, ndipo nthawi ino, kusiyana kwamphamvu m'banja lathu kumadziwika.

Monga ine, amuna anga adakhala ndi nthawi yopanga ubale wake ndi mwana wathu wamwamuna. Wapeza zidule zake zokhazikitsira mwanayo, zomwe ndizosiyana ndi zanga. Mnyamata wathu wamng'ono amasangalala akaona abambo ake, ndipo amuna anga amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi luso lotha kulera ana.

Chifukwa amadziwana bwino, ndimakhala womasuka kupatsira mwanayo pomwe ndikufuna mphindi yina. Ubale wawo wapadera pambali, kukhala ndi manja owonjezera kunyumba ndizodabwitsa.

Ndimatha kusamba, kumaliza ntchito, kupita kukathamanga, kucheza ndi ana anga akulu kapena kungotsitsimula ubongo wanga wokhuthala pakafunika kutero. Ngakhale amuna anga akugwirabe ntchito kunyumba, ali pano akuthandiza, ndipo thanzi langa lamaganizidwe ndilabwino chifukwa.

Kusinthasintha

Polankhula zakugwira ntchito kunyumba, ndikuloleni ndikuuzeni zakubwerera kuchokera ku tchuthi cha amayi pa nthawi ya mliri. Sichinthu chaching'ono kugwira ntchito kuchokera kunyumba ndi mwana m'modzi pa boob wanga, mwana m'modzi pamiyendo panga, ndipo wachitatu ndikupempha kuti mundithandizire kuphunzira kwakutali.

Koma chithandizo cha kampani yanga m'mabanja panthawi ya mliriwu sichodabwitsa. Ndizosiyana kwambiri ndi kubwerera kwanga koyamba kuchokera ku tchuthi cha amayi oyembekezera, pomwe abwana anga anandiuza kuti mimba yanga ndi "chifukwa chosalembetsera mkazi wina."

Nthawi ino, ndikudziwa kuti amandithandizira. Abwana anga ndi gulu sanadabwe ndikasokonezedwa pafoni ya Zoom kapena kuyankha maimelo nthawi ya 8:30 pm Zotsatira zake, ndikumaliza ntchito yanga moyenera ndikuyamikira ntchito yanga mochulukira. Ndikufuna kugwira ntchito yabwino kwambiri yomwe ndingathe.

Chowonadi nchakuti, olemba anzawo ntchito ayenera kuzindikira kuti ntchito - ngakhale kunja kwa mliri - sizimangochitika pakati pa maola 9 mpaka 5. Makolo ogwira ntchito ayenera kukhala osinthasintha kuti achite bwino.

Kuti ndithandizire mwana wanga kulowa nawo pamsonkhano wapasukulu yake, kapena kudyetsa mwanayo ali ndi njala, kapena kumayang'anira mwana yemwe ali ndi malungo, ndiyenera kuti ndikwaniritse ntchito yanga m'magulu a nthawi pakati pa ntchito za amayi.

Monga mayi wobereka pambuyo pake, kusinthasintha ndikofunikira kwambiri. Ana samagwirizana nthawi zonse ndi ndandanda yomwe idakhazikitsidwa. Pakhala nthawi zambiri panthawi yopatukana pomwe mwamuna wanga kapena ine timayenera kuyimba foni ndikulimbana ndi mwana m'manja mwathu… zomwe zatiululira vumbulutso lina lofunika kwa tonsefe.

Ngakhale tonse awiri tikugwira ntchito kunyumba ndi ana, ndizovomerezeka kwa ine, ngati mkazi, kuti ndichite bizinesi ndi mwana pamiyendo panga. Tikuyembekezerabe kuti abambo azisunga moyo wabanja lawo mosiyana ndi moyo wawo wantchito.

Ndine wokwatiwa ndi bambo wokhudzidwa yemwe sanapewe kuchita bizinesi ndikusamalira ana. Koma ngakhale wazindikira chiyembekezo chosanenedwa ndi chinthu chodabwitsa pamene ali wosamalira manja panthawiyi.

Sikokwanira kungopereka kusinthasintha kwa amayi ogwira ntchito. Abambo ogwira ntchito amafunikiranso. Kupambana kwa banja lathu kumadalira kutenga nawo mbali kwa onse awiri. Popanda iyo, nyumba yamakhadi imatha kugwa.

Kulemera kwakuthupi, kwamaganizidwe ndi malingaliro osungira banja lonse kukhala lathanzi komanso losangalala ndilolemetsa kwambiri kwa amayi kuti athe kunyamula okha, makamaka pambuyo pobereka.

Thandizo

Ndikuganiza kuti mawu oti "zimatengera mudzi kuti ulere mwana" akusocheretsa. Poyamba, mudziwo ukukweza amayi.

Akadapanda a banja langa, abwenzi, alangizi othandizira mkaka wa m'mawere, othandizira amchiuno, othandizira kugona, doulas, ndi madotolo, sindikadadziwa chinthu choyamba pachilichonse. Chilichonse chomwe ndaphunzira monga mayi chakhala mfundo zanzeru zobwereka, zosungidwa m'mutu mwanga ndi mumtima.

Musaganize kuti pofika khanda lachitatu, mudzadziwa zonse. Kusiyana kokha ndikuti mumadziwa zokwanira kuti mudziwe nthawi yoti mupemphe thandizo.

Nthawi yoberekera iyi siyosiyana - ndikufunabe thandizo. Ndinafunika mlangizi wa mkaka wa m'mawere polimbana ndi mastitis kwa nthawi yoyamba, ndipo ndikugwirabe ntchito ndi dokotala komanso wothandizira m'chiuno. Koma tsopano popeza tikukhala ndi mliri, ntchito zambiri zomwe ndimafunikira zasamukira pa intaneti.

Ntchito zenizeni ndi GODSEND za mayi watsopano. Monga ndanenera, makanda samachita mogwirizana nthawi zonse, ndipo kutuluka m'nyumba kukakumana ndi vuto lalikulu. Kuwombera, kusamba ndikokwanira mokwanira. Osanena, kudzidalira kokwanira kuyendetsa ndi mwana mukamagona tulo ndichinthu chovomerezeka kwa amayi ambiri oyamba nthawi yoyamba.

Ndakhala wokondwa kuwona mudzi wowonjezerapo wothandizira ukusamukira ku pulatifomu ya digito komwe amayi ambiri azitha kupeza thandizo loyenera. Ndili ndi mwayi wokhala ku Denver, Colorado, komwe thandizo limapezeka mosavuta. Tsopano, ndikukakamizidwa kwa ma digitala kwa ntchito, amayi omwe amakhala kumidzi amakhala ndi mwayi wothandizidwa womwe ndimachita mumzinda.

Mwanjira zambiri, mudzi wamiyambi wasunthira papulatifomu. Koma palibe cholowa m'malo mwathu m'mudzi mwathu mwa abale ndi abwenzi. Miyambo yokhudza kulandira mwana wakhanda m'khola siofanana patali.

Chisoni changa chachikulu ndichakuti mwana wanga sanakumane ndi agogo ake aamuna, agogo ake aakazi, azakhali awo, amalume ake, kapena azibale ake tisanakhale m'malo. Ndiye mwana wathu womaliza - akukula mwachangu - ndipo timakhala mamailosi 2,000 kutali ndi banja.

Ulendo wathu wachilimwe kukachezera okondedwa athu ku East Coast unali wophatikizira kukumananso, ubatizo, zikondwerero zakubadwa, ndi usiku wautali wa chilimwe ndi abale. Tsoka ilo, tinayenera kuimitsa ulendowu, osadziwa kuti ndi liti pomwe tingawone aliyense wotsatira.

Sindinadziwe kuti ndikadakhala wachisoni bwanji ngati miyambo imeneyo itachotsedwa. Zinthu zomwe ndimazitenga mopanda phindu ndi ana anga ena - kuyenda ndi agogo, ulendo woyamba wapandege, ndikumva azakhali awo akuyankhula za momwe mwana wathu amaonekera - amayimitsidwa, kwamuyaya.

Mwambo wolandila mwana umathandizanso amayi. Miyambo imeneyi imakwaniritsa zosowa zathu zazikulu zowonetsetsa kuti ana athu ali otetezedwa, okondedwa, ndi otetezedwa. Tili ndi mwayi, tidzakondwera kukumbatirana kulikonse, casserole iliyonse yapakatikati, ndi agogo achibale onse omwe sanachite bwino kale.

Komwe tikupita kuchokera kuno

Chiyembekezo changa ndi chakuti, monga dziko, titha kugwiritsa ntchito maphunziro ambiri ophunzitsidwa kwaokha, kusintha zomwe tikuyembekezera, ndikupanga zochitika zabwino pambuyo pobereka.

Ganizirani za phindu kwa anthu ngati amayi atsopano athandizidwa. Matenda a Postpartum amakhudza pafupifupi - Ndikutsimikiza kuti izi zitha kutsika kwambiri ngati amayi onse atakhala ndi nthawi yosintha, kuthandizidwa ndi anzawo, mwayi wopeza ntchito, komanso malo ogwirira ntchito.

Ingoganizirani ngati mabanja ali ndi chitsimikiziro cha tchuthi cholipidwa, ndikubwerera kuntchito kunali njira yocheperako pang'onopang'ono yokhala ndi mwayi wogwira ntchito kutali ngati pakufunika kutero. Ingoganizirani ngati tikanatha kuphatikiza gawo lathu monga amayi pantchito yomwe tili nayo komanso chikhalidwe chathu.

Amayi atsopano amayenera mwayi wopambana m'mbali zonse za moyo: monga kholo, munthu, komanso katswiri. Tiyenera kudziwa kuti sitiyenera kudzipereka kuti tikhale opambana.

Ndi nthawi yokwanira komanso chithandizo choyenera, titha kulingalira zomwe zakhala zikuchitika atangobereka kumene. Kudziika pandekha kwandionetsa kuti ndizotheka.

Makolo Pa Ntchito: Ogwira Ntchito Zakutsogolo

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