Moyo Wanga - Vol. 4: Dominique Matti ndi Tania Peralta pa Kulembanso Umayi

Zamkati

• Takulandilani ku Life Balms, Mama edition
• Mafuta a Tania:
  
• Ma Dominican's Life Balms:
  

Kodi timaphwanya motani? Ndipo timabadwa chiyani m'malo mwawo?

Sindinkafuna kukhala mayi.

Ndimabweza. Chowonadi ndichakuti, kwanthawi yayitali, ndinali ndi nkhawa yayikulu yokhudza umayi. Kudzipereka. Ungwiro woyembekezeredwa wa moyo wa mayi m'modzi, wolumikizidwa mwatsopano ndi wina kwa onse bola onse akhale ndi moyo - {textend} ndipo mwina pambuyo pake.

Zovuta za ntchitoyi zimangochepetsedwa ndikaganiza za amayi m'moyo wanga omwe amalowa nawo gawo ngati khungu lachiwiri, osachita mantha kuti akhale awo kwathunthu.

Wotsogola pamndandandawu ndi amayi anga omwe, ndili ndi msinkhu, ndakula ndikuwona kuti ndi wamkulu kuposa udindo wawo mdziko langa. Chimenecho chiwerengeranso amayi omwe amandizinga, ana awo omwe mosamala mosamala.

Awiri mwa azimayi omwe amachititsa amayi kukhala owoneka ngati anthu komanso otheka ndi wolemba ndakatulo Tania Peralta, waku Honduras, Vancouver, ndi Toronto, komanso wolemba nkhani Dominique Matti, waku Jersey ndi Philadelphia.

Pakukhazikitsa kwa Life Balms, ndidafunsa onse a Tania ndi a Dominique ngati angalole kuyankhulana wina ndi mnzake za maulendo awo monga olemba ndi Mamas - {textend} Tania, ku starchild imodzi ya Capricorn, ndi Dominique, awiri okongola ndi ana anzeru anyamata.

Kuthandiza opanga okha Tania pano akhazikitsa nyumba yake yodziyimira payokha, Peralta House, pano. Dominique ali ndi Patreon komwe mungapeze zolemba zake zowunikira komanso zogwira mtima kwambiri.

Monga olemba omwe sagonjetsedwa ndi zovuta zamakampani atolankhani - {textend} zilizonse zomwe mawuwa amatanthauza - {textend} onse a Tania ndi Dominique sakunena zachisoni ndi kupambana kwawo mmoyo wawo komanso ntchito zawo.

Gwirani zokambirana zawo - {textend} ndi malingaliro anga, pafupipafupi - {textend} akamakambirana zaumoyo wam'mbuyomu, kupulumuka, komanso zomwe zimapangitsa zomwe adalemba (komanso zomwe angafunikire kuti apitilize kupanga zosaneneka ntchito yomwe onse amapanga).

Takulandilani ku Life Balms, Mama edition

Amani Bin Shikhan: Chabwino, funso loyamba: Kodi ma 2017 anu anali bwanji? Ndipo 2018 yanu ikuyenda bwanji, mpaka pano?

Tania Peralta: Ndidakhazikitsa zolinga zanga za 2017 ndikuchedwa pang'ono. Ndikuganiza kuti anali Marichi. Ndinkafuna kupeza ntchito yanthawi zonse yolipira ndi maubwino, kukonza ngongole zanga, kutulutsa buku langa loyamba, ndikutuluka mchipinda chapansi [chomwe ndimakhala]. Ndidakwaniritsa zonse pamndandandawu ndipo ndidazichita mwachangu komanso mophweka kuposa momwe ndimaganizira.

Kenako mu Januware chaka chino, ndidachotsedwa ntchito ndipo ndidadana ndi nyumba yanga yoyamba, motero zidawoneka ngati zonse zomwe ndidakwaniritsa mu 2017 zatha. Pomaliza ndidabwerera pang'ono ndikuyamba ndi zolinga zatsopano ndikutuluka, ndikuthokoza ndekha chifukwa ndikayang'ana kumbuyo pa 2017, ngakhale ndi zonse zomwe ndidataya, ndidakali m'malo abwinoko.

Dominique Matti: My 2017 inali yosintha kwambiri. Ndidabereka mwana wanga wamwamuna masiku angapo ndipo chifukwa chazinthu zopanda pake, tidasamukira patadutsa milungu ingapo.

Chifukwa chake ndidakhala miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yoyambirira ndikukhala kunyumba kwa amayi anga ku South Jersey zomwe zidandikakamiza kuti ndikumane ndikulingalira zinthu zambiri. Pofika nthawi yomwe tidabwerera ku Philly, ndinali ndi masomphenya owoneka bwino amomwe ndimafunira kukhala mosiyana. Ndipo ndakhala ndikugwira ntchito kuti ndikwaniritse izi kuyambira pamenepo.

TP: Kusuntha - {textend} ndi ana kapena ayi - {textend} ndizovuta kwambiri.

Mukakhala mayi, zili ngati inu ndi gawo lomwe mumapanga ndi ana anu mumakhala dziko lanu laling'ono lokhala ndi zoopsa zake ndikupambana.
- {textend} Dominique Matti

AB: Izi zikumveka mwamphamvu pazinthu zonse ziwiri. Zabwino zonse mochedwa, Dominique! Ndipo Tania, akuyenda ndikupeza malingaliro! Dominique, unamva bwanji utabadwa?

DM:Kunena zowona, zinali zowopsa pambuyo pobereka. Pali vuto ili pakati panga kukhala otseguka kwambiri pa intaneti, koma kukhala wachinsinsi kwambiri m'moyo wanga, chifukwa chokakamizika kudzipatula panthawi yomwe ndimangofuna kupatukana ndi banja langa laling'ono zinali zovuta. Tania, Ndine wokondwa kuti wabwerera!

TP: Oo, ndikumvetsetsa. Tsoka lomwe ndinabereka pambuyo pobereka silinali lomveka bwino, koma momwe moyo unalili panthawiyo zidandipangitsa kuti ndizitha kuyika banja langa pamalo abwinoko.

DM: Masomphenya a amayi ndi enieni.

TP: Ndikumva ngati simukudziwa mpaka pambuyo pake chifukwa mumayamba kupulumuka. Ndikumva ngati kumveka bwino (monga momwe mwatchulira) kumachokera pakupeza zomwe zikhala zabwino kwa ana m'kupita kwanthawi komanso ngati, kwakanthawi kochepa kwambiri. Monga, tikudya chiyani lero?

DM: Mwamtheradi. Ndinagwiritsa ntchito liwu loti "mwapafupi" za 2017 chifukwa zambiri zinali kuchitika padziko lapansi kunja kwa khomo lathu. Koma ukakhala mayi, zili ngati iwe ndi gawo lomwe umapanga ndi ana ako mumakhala dziko lanu laling'ono lokhala ndi zoopsa zake ndikupambana.

Ndipo mu 2017, zidanditengera mphamvu zanga zonse ndikuwunika kwambiri ndikungoyang'anira zomwe tonse timafunikira kuti tikhale bwino. M'kati mwamakoma anayi aliwonse omwe tidakhala.

TP: Ndikukumva. Ndimakumbukira ndikuwona zinthu zoyipa pa Twitter, koma moyo weniweni umachitikanso kunyumba kwanga. Ndidayenera kutseka kwambiri chaka chatha kuti ndingoyang'ana. Ndizovuta chifukwa mukufuna kusamala ndi inu chitani chisamaliro ndipo ngakhale ngati munthu wopanga, umakhala ngati, "Chabwino, ndingatani pano? Kodi ndingathandize bwanji dzikoli, mwanjira ina? ”

Koma moona mtima, imayambira kunyumba, ngakhale imveke bwanji.

DM: Inde! Ndipo monga, nthawi yonseyi, zimakukhudzani inu ndi zanu ngati zovuta kapena zopweteka pansi pazonse. Koma sikumveka mokweza ngati njala kapena meseji yochokera kwa mwininyumba kapena funso loti magetsi adapita kuti.

Masomphenya a amayi ndi enieni.
- {textend} Dominique Matti

AB: Munayamba liti kukhala mamas? Zinali bwanji mutazindikira kuti muli ndi pakati?

TP: Mwana wanga wamkazi anabadwadi mwachikondi komanso mwachikondi. Tinakhala pamenepo, ndikuyang'anizana ndipo tinali ngati, "Tiyenera kukhala ndi mwana pakadali pano." Zinali zokongola. Kenako ndinakhala ndi pakati ndipo palibe chomwe chinachitika monga momwe ndinakonzera. Sindikudziwa zomwe timaganiza, kupatula kuti timakondana.

Tinalibe ndalama. Tinkangokhala ndi chiyembekezo pa chilichonse. Tidangokhulupirira kuti zinthu zikhala bwino. Tonse tinkadziwa kuti ndife anthu oyenera kukhala ndi mwana. Monga, zivute zitani, munthuyu adzakhala bambo wabwino chifukwa ndi munthu wopambana.

Koma momwe tonse tadutsamo m'miyoyo yathu tisanakhale makolo, sindikuganiza kuti m'modzi wa ife adadziwonera yekha momwe dziko lapansi lingakhalire nkhanza mukakhala munthu wakuda kapena wakuda, kapena gawo wa banja.

Ndikuganiza kuti mphindi yomwe idatizungulira inali nthawi yomwe dokotala adamuika. Ndikukumbukira tikulankhula momwe timangokhala adadziwa kuti zambiri zomwe angatifunse sizinali kufunsidwa ndi banja loyera lazaka zapakati.

Mukudziwa anthu akakufunsani, munganene chiyani ku umunthu wanu wakale kapena zilizonse? Nthawi zonse ndimaganiza za nthawi imodzi yomwe ndinali ndi pakati. Monga, mu trimesters yoyamba ndi yachiwiri. Ndimagwira ntchito ziwiri ndikupita kusukulu ... sindikudziwa momwe ndidachitira. Ndiwo mtundu umodzi wa ine womwe ndimatha kubwerera ndikukumbatira.
- {textend} Tania Peralta

DM: Ndinali ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna woyamba mu 2015, ndili ndi zaka 22. Ndimayandama m'moyo. Ndinali mayi woyeretsa masana komanso wopanga SoundCloud usiku. Ndinkachedwa kugona ndikumenya pa laputopu yanga yotayika chifukwa ndimamva ngati ndikaika ndakatulo zanga pam nyimbo, anthu amamvera. Sindinaganize kuti kungokhala wolemba ndikotheka kwa ine.Komabe, nditazindikira kuti ndili ndi pakati, ndimangokhala ngati, "Chabwino, izi ndi zomwe tikuchita tsopano."

Ndinadutsamo osakhala ndi mwana yemwe ndimamufuna m'mbuyomu, ndipo izi zimawoneka zopweteka kwambiri kubwereranso kuposa kukhala ndi mwana.

TP: Amuna, inenso pamapeto pake. Inenso. Komanso LOL pa "Chabwino, izi ndi zomwe tikuchita tsopano." Ndiwo mphamvu yamayi yayikulu yomwe ikulowerera.

DM: Lingaliro langa linali lachikondi kwambiri mpaka chinali chinthu chomwe chimachitika. Mnzanga wina adandifunsa kuti ndiwathandize kusuntha diresi ndili ndi pakati miyezi isanu ndi iwiri. Ndipo ndimakhala ngati, "O, uku ndikulowetsedwa mu kalabu ya Azimayi akuda omwe nthawi zonse amayembekezeka kukhala othandiza ndipo sanapereke chiwopsezo kapena chisamaliro kapena kukoma mtima." Kupsinjika kumeneko ndikochuluka. Pamwamba pamavuto abwinobwino olera.

TP: Mukudziwa anthu akakufunsani, munganene chiyani ku umunthu wanu wakale kapena zilizonse? Nthawi zonse ndimaganiza za nthawi imodzi yomwe ndinali ndi pakati. Monga, mu trimesters yoyamba ndi yachiwiri. Ndimagwira ntchito ziwiri ndikupita kusukulu ... sindikudziwa momwe ndidachitira. Ndiwo mtundu umodzi wa ine womwe ndimatha kubwerera ndikukumbatira.

DM: Phew. Palibe kalilole wofanana ndi umayi. Zimakuwonetsani zomwe mungachite. Ndi zomwe simungathe. Fuulani kwa inu.

TP: Wandiwononga. Zimakupangitsani kukhala dzanzi - {textend} koma m'njira yabwino. Palibe chomwe chikuwoneka chosatheka. Zimangofunika kupirira.

DM: Ndipo zikakuwonetsani zomwe simungathe kukhala, nah, ndili ndi izi. Kwenikweni, ingondipatsani ine miniti; Ndasokoneza malamulowo. Koma kulimba mtima kumeneku kulinso kosavuta ngati f— {textend}.

TP: Chifukwa chake kukhometsa msonkho, kupangitsa kuti dziko lapansi liyambe kukuwerengerani ngati munthu amene amatha kuchita chilichonse - {textend} ndipo mutha, koma simuyenera kutero.

AB: Munayamba bwanji kulemba? Ndikulemba mwaukadaulo, ngati zinthu ziwirizi zikusiyana ndi inu?

TP: Ndidayamba kulemba kudzera mu ESL ndikuwerenga mapulogalamu nditafika ku Canada kuchokera ku Honduras, chifukwa onse anali ngati, "Inu mwatsalira! Lumikizanani!" Koma ndimakonda kuwerenga ndi kulemba panthawiyi.

M'chaka changa chachiwiri cha sukulu ya utolankhani, mkonzi panthawiyo adandithandizanso kuti ndipange mbiri yanga mu utolankhani wanyimbo. Imeneyo inali nthawi yothandiza chifukwa nthawi zonse ankandipatsa mipata yopangira ndalama. Sindinali wangwiro koma sindinkachita zoipa, choncho nthawi iliyonse ndikapatsidwa chinthu, ndimaphunzira zambiri.

Nditakhala ndi pakati, sindinachite chidwi ndi utolankhani wanyimbo. Ndipamene dziko lolembera lidasinthiratu kwa ine. Ndipo palibenso tanthauzo lolembera mwaukadaulo, kwa ine.

Kodi kukhala wolemba waluso kumatanthauza kuti ndimalipidwa ndi winawake? Yasainidwa kwa winawake? Ndipo ngati sindine, kodi zimandipangitsa kukhala wolemba wopanda ntchito?
- {textend} Tania Peralta

DM: Ndinayamba kulemba kuti ndithane ndi zinthu, ndikuganiza. Ndili mgiredi loyamba, ndidalemba nkhani iyi kusukulu yokhudza dinosaur yemwe amafufuza dzira lake paliponse koma osawapeza. Zoterezi ndizakuti "Kodi Ndinu Amayi Anga?" buku la ana. Izi zidamveka bwino ndipo aphunzitsi anga adatsimikizika panthawiyo, chifukwa chake ndidadzizindikiritsa.

Komanso, kupyola koyambira konse konse abale anga ndi ine tinali ndi gulu la atsikana omwe anali ndi maloto oti ndikhale ngati 3LW, ndipo ndidasankhidwa kukhala wolemba nyimbo. Nditha kulemba nyimbo za bulu wamkulu zomwe zimandiyambitsa ndakatulo. Ndipo sindinayime kwenikweni.

AB: Oo mulungu wanga, Dominique. Ndinkakonda kulemba nyimbo zanyimbo!

TP: OMG!!!!! Ine kotero ndikukhumba tikadakhala anzathu ngati ana.

AB: Kodi mungafotokozere zomwe mukutanthauza pankhani yolemba akatswiri, Tania?

TP: Kodi kukhala wolemba waluso kumatanthauza kuti ndimalipidwa ndi winawake? Yasainidwa kwa winawake? Ndipo ngati sindine, kodi zimandipangitsa kukhala wolemba wopanda ntchito?

Ndikumva ngati ndikadali ndikuganiza kuti ndikutanthauza chiyani. Lingaliro ili la "kulemba kwaukadaulo" ngati khomo longoyerekeza ... Ndipo nthawi zina, sindine wotsimikiza kuti anthu omwe ali kudzera pa khomo limenelo ndi ochulukirapo kuposa olemba omwe akuyembekezera kulowa.

DM: Ndinayamba kulemba mwaukadaulo chifukwa pamene wamkulu wanga anali ngati 1, ndimagwira ma overnights kuyambira 10:30 pm mpaka 6:30 a.m. monga wogwira ntchito m'chipinda cha hotelo, ndipo amuna anga anali kugwira ntchito 7 koloko mpaka 7 koloko masana. kuchipatala, ndipo sindinkagona. Ayi konse.

Mwamuna wanga ndi ine tonse tidakulira ndi amayi osakwatira omwe amachita zozizwitsa zenizeni, ndipo onse ali ngati odabwitsidwa ndi kupsinjika kwathu chifukwa tili ndi wina ndi mnzake, komabe ndizochuluka kwambiri.
- {textend} Dominique Matti

Ndipo tinali osweka. Komanso sindingakwanitse kusamalira ana masana. Kotero m'modzi wa ife amayenera kuyima. Ndipo adapanga zambiri, anali ndi inshuwaransi yazaumoyo, ndipo mwana adayamwitsidwa - {textend} kotero ndi ine amene ndidasiya.

Koma sindinakwanitse kuti ndisapange ndalama, ndipo kukhala mayi kumakufunsani kuti mugwiritse ntchito zonse zofunikira ndipo tidafika poti chinsinsi chotsalira chinali kulemba. Chifukwa chake ndimakhala ngati, "Chabwino ... mwina nditha kupanga ndalama pochita izi?"

TP: Ndikumva zonse zomwe mukunena m'mafupa anga. Mnzanga wanyamula banja lathu m'njira zopitilira imodzi pakadali pano ndipo malo osamalira ana ku Canada nawonso ndiamisala. Chifukwa chake ndili mgulu la ntchito yanga komwe ndalama zanga zimalemba ndikulemba ndakatulo pazochitika.

DM: Inunso mwanyamula y'all! Mukakhala kuti mulibe chuma chothandizira kusamalira ana kapena nthawi kapena ndalama, kapena mwapanikizika kapena china chilichonse, aliyense amatha kunyamula zochuluka kuposa gawo lokwanira ndikuperekanso zambiri.

Mwamuna wanga ndi ine tonse tidaleredwa ndi amayi osakwatira omwe amachita zozizwitsa zenizeni, ndipo onse ali ngati odabwitsidwa ndi kupsinjika kwathu chifukwa tili ndi wina ndi mnzake, komabe ndizochulukabe.

TP: Ndikumva choncho. Amayi anga onse ndi amayi ake ndi angelo enieni: anga anali ndi ana asanu ndipo apongozi anga anali ndi asanu ndi awiri. Tili ndi mwana m'modzi ndipo tatopa. Ndikudziwa kuti si angwiro, koma ndi zitsanzo kwa ife.

Monga mayi, zimandipatsa mtendere kudziwa kuti ine ndi mnzanga taswa kale zochulukira zomwe tonse tidabadwira.
- {textend} Tania Peralta

AB: M'ntchito zanu zonse ziwiri, mumayankhula mosapita m'mbali za zinthu zomwe anthu ambiri samakonda kuzichita, pagulu - {textend} nkhawa, kukhumudwa, kusowa ndalama, kukondana. Kodi mutha kuyankhula chifukwa chomwe mumachitira izi? Ndipo zimatengera chiyani kuti mugawane izi ndi dziko lapansi?

DM: Ngati ndili weniweni, ndili ndi malire oyandikana ndi kudziteteza.

TP: Mukutanthauza chiyani pamenepa, Dominique? Malire osauka amagawika?

DM: Momwe ndimakulira, bizinesi yanga yambiri sinali yanga. Chifukwa chake lingaliro losunga nokha monga njira yodzitetezera silimabwera kwa ine mwachangu monga limachitikira kwa ena.

Mofananamo, ndinakulira m'nyumba momwe sizinali zachilendo kuchita manyazi ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe anthu amachita nazo manyazi.

Pali lingaliro ili lomwe ndimabwererabe ku: "Kodi chilombo chimadziwa bwanji kuti ndi chilombo?" Ndipo yankho lomwe ndili nalo ndikuti, "Limakumana ndi ena." Nthawi zambiri ndimafalitsa zinthu zosawoneka bwino chifukwa manyazi samandigwira kufikira pomwe zandichitira umboni. Ndipo zachinsinsi sizimabwera kwa ine mpaka nditazindikira kuti ndavumbulutsa bala.

TP: Oo.

DM: Chinthu choyamba chomwe ndidalemba, ndinali ndi otsatira asanu ndipo ndimangotulutsa. Idangokhala ngati mawonedwe a 300K. Ndipo zidandipweteka. Ndinkakhala ndi nkhawa ngati sabata. Ndipo zakhudza izi pa ine.

Tsopano, ndikakhala pansi kuti ndilembe, ndimayembekezera yankho la omvera olingalira. Mwanjira zina, zakhala zowopsa, potilembera kwanga kukhala malo abwino kwa ine. Mwanjira ina, zandikakamiza kuti ndizidziwika bwino pantchito yanga.

Sindingaganize za njira ina yabwino yolemekezera mwana kuposa kuchiritsa cholowa choyipa asanamutenge.
- {textend} Dominique Matti

TP: Izi ndi zomwe ndikuyesera kuti ndizigwire chifukwa ndidakhala chete kunyumba, mdera lathu kwanthawi yayitali kotero ndimangopita. Ndili ndi pakati, ndidayamba kuwerenga mabuku a Black ndi Latinx ndichifukwa chake zolemba zidandisinthira. Ndinayamba kuwona zokumana nazo ndi mawu ndi mikhalidwe yomwe ndidakhalamo.

Ndinali ndi pakati nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndinawerenga "Kwa Atsikana Achikuda Omwe Aganiza Zodzipha Pamene Utawaleza Ndi Enuf" wolemba Ntozake Shange ndipo zinali ngati ... kuwerenga kosintha kwa ine. Icho, komanso "Mkazi Wotayika" wolemba Sandra Cisneros. Iwo adapita mwatsatanetsatane pazinthu zowopsa zenizeni.

DM: O mulungu wanga, "Woman Hollering Creek" wolemba Sandra Cisneros wandisintha. Ndili ndi malo osakhazikika pomwe ndikuyembekezeka kudzichepetsera ine komanso kuzungulira kuti ndisamveke. Koma ndataya cholinga changa nthawi zambiri pochita izi. Ndikugwira ntchito molimbika kuti ndikhale wachifundo komanso ndicholinga. Icho chinali chimodzi mwa maphunziro anga a 2017.

TP: Kuti ndiyankhe funso lanu Amani, sindingathe kulemba njira ina tsopano. Ntchito yanga yambiri ndikulankhula ndekha. Ngakhale wogula sawerenga motere.

AB: Kodi mumazipeza ngati zoyipa kapena zowopsa? Kapena onse awiri?

TP: Ndikutanthauza, sindisamala. Nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndimagwira anthu ambiri ndi ntchito yotereyi inali ya Erika Ramirez pomwe adakhazikitsa magazini yake, ILY. Pachigawo chimenecho, ndinaulula zinthu zambiri zosasamala za banja langa.

Ndipo ndikuganiza kuti anthu ena adasokonezeka chifukwa panali mwana wosakanikirana. Ndikuganiza kuti anali ndi nkhawa kuti ndimadziwa zabodza zambiri zokhudza banja langa. Koma nthawi yomweyo, zidandibweretsera mphamvu. Ndine amene ndimanena nkhaniyi. Ndiyo nthawi yayitali kwambiri kwa ine.

DM: Sindingaganize Njira yabwinoko yolemekezera mwana kuposa kuchiritsa cholowa choyipa asadalandire.

TP: Zina mwa ndemangazi zidawonetsa momwe anthu ena samasangalalira kuti ndiwonetse rapper wofatsa (mnzanga ndi woimba). Koma sindisamala kwenikweni. Ndikuganiza kuti zidatipatsa mphamvu zouza nkhani zathu zathu pantchito yathu, zivute zitani. Kuswa mabizinesi.

Zimatengera zambiri kuti mutsirize zinthu ndi thanzi lamaganizidwe. Zimabwera ndikupita kwa ine.
- {textend} Tania Peralta

DM: Inde! Ndi zomwe dokotala wanga adandiuza ndikamafotokoza nkhawa zanga pazomwe ndikugwirapo ntchito. Amakhala ngati, "Ndizosangalatsa bwanji kuti uli ndi mwayi wofotokoza nkhani yomwe anthu ena ambiri amangokuwuzani - {textend} molakwika, pamenepo?"

AB: Kodi "mankhwala amoyo" anu ndi ati kapena zinthu zomwe zimakubwezerani? Zinthu zomwe zimakubweretserani mtendere?

TP: Monga chilengedwe changa, kumaliza zinthu zomwe ndidati ndikanachita. Zimatengera zambiri kuti mutsirize zinthu ndi thanzi lamaganizidwe. Zimabwera ndikupita kwa ine. Kugwira ntchito yathanzi langa kumandibweretsera mtendere chifukwa ndapanga nyumba mkati mwanga. Ngakhale zitakhala bwanji, nditha kungokhala ndekha - {textend} ngakhale m'maganizo - {textend} ndikukhulupirira kuti zonse zikhala bwino.

Monga mayi, zimandipatsa mtendere kudziwa kuti ine ndi mnzanga taswa kale zochulukira zomwe tonse tidabadwira. Monga, ngakhale, ngati Mulungu aletsa, chilichonse chingachitike kwa ife, mwana wanga wamkazi ali ndi mndandanda wazinthu ziwiri kuchokera kwa ife kuti tipeze yemwe adachokera. (Ndipo ... khofi!)

DM: Kuyenda, makandulo, nyimbo, tarot. Mwangozi ndidayamba kuchita zauzimu ndikuyang'ana zipembedzo zamakolo chaka chino. Ndidaleredwa wachikatolika kwambiri - {textend} ngati, ndimasakramenti onse ndi zinthu - {textend} ndipo nthawi ina ndimalola kupita kutchalitchi, koma sindinadzaze malowa ndi chilichonse. Ndinali kuphunzira miyambo ndi zinthu zina koma sizimamveka ngati kuti ndi zanga, chifukwa chake ndakhala ndikulowetsa zinthu zanga limodzi.

Nthawi zambiri ndimagwira ntchito yamakandulo. Ndimasula chipinda, kusankha mitundu yomwe ikuyimira zomwe ndikufuna kukopa kapena kuzipaka, kuvala mafuta azitsamba ndi zitsamba, kutchukitsa mayina a makolo anga, kuyankhula nawo, kukhazikitsa zolinga - {textend} wokongola kwambiri ingopemphererani. Kuyatsa zofukiza, kusewera nyimbo.

Ndizoseketsa: Ndikuzindikira kuti ndine [wowonjezera] amayi ndi agogo anga. Kuyambira ndili mwana, amayi anga amangoyatsa makandulo angapo a vanila ochokera ku Bath ndi Body Work, kuphulitsa Fugees, ndikuyeretsa. Nana wanga ndi wankhondo wopemphera. (Ndipo kuyankhulana uku kubweretsedwa kwa inu ndi phula lavender latte lowombera katatu.)

AB: Mudziko labwino, ndi chiyani chomwe mungafune kuti mumve kuti mumathandizidwa ngati amayi? Monga wolemba?

TP: Yankho langa ndilolunjika ku Toronto: Malo ogwiritsira ntchito malingaliro anga. Ndikumva ngati ndikufunabe kuchita zinthu ndikupitiliza kuyika zinthu, koma palibe malo oti ndichite popanda kulipirira ndekha.

DM: Ndi maudindo onse awiriwa, koma makamaka kukhala mayi, gawo lalikulu lakumverera kuti silichirikizidwa ndi anthu ochepa omwe amawona chilichonse ngati ntchito yeniyeni kapena ntchito yoyenerera kuthandizidwa. Ndi chinthu chomwe sindiyenera kukhala wokondwa kuchita. Nthawi zonse. Kwanthawizonse.

Ndikufuna kufuula, komanso, ndikufuna anthu apereke mwayi wowonera ana anga kwa maola ochepa pomwe amuna anga ali ndi maola 12 kuti ndikwaniritse nthawi yomaliza - {textend} kapena kugona. Ndikufunanso kuti wina abwere pakhomo panga ndi khofi ngati ma sitcom. Ndikulemba, ndikungofuna malipiro olondola. Monga zokwanira kulipira lendi.

Mafuta a Tania:

• "Tao Te Ching:" Zimandithandiza kupeza kumvetsetsa m'moyo wanga watsiku ndi tsiku. Mauthenga mmenemo sakukakamiza chilichonse, imagwira ntchito ngati malangizo ndikupereka njira zina zodziwonera nokha ndi anthu ndi zinthu zokuzungulirani. Zili ngati kuphunzira kuti mukonzekere zinthu [zomwe zidzachitike], zabwino ndi zoyipa. Zili ngati mpweya wabwino kwa ine. Ndikulingalira, m'malo mwa yoga, ichi ndiye chinthu chomwe chimandipangitsa kuti ndizizizira.
• Palo Santo: Palo Santo ndi wapadera kwa ine chifukwa zandithandiza ine ndi banja langa kubwereranso kunyumba m'malo atsopano. Ndi fungo lodziwika bwino komanso lothandiza musanalankhulepo komanso mutatha kukambirana. Ndili ndi Palo Santo, ndimamva ngati ndingathe kuwongolera mphamvu zomwe ndikufuna mnyumba mwanga.
• Mgwirizano wa Starbucks kadzutsa: Ndikumwa tsopano chifukwa nyemba zimachokera kumayiko aku Latin America ndipo sizimandipweteka m'mimba kapena nkhawa. Ndimamwa chikho masana nthawi yopuma [ya mwana wanga wamkazi] kuti ndikhale ndi mphamvu tsiku lonse - {textend} komanso mphamvu zogwirira ntchito maola ochepa atagona usiku. Ndimagwiritsa ntchito French Press. Ndiyo njira yanga yomwe ndimakonda kumwa khofi.

Tsatirani ulendo wa Tania pomwe akhazikitsa nyumba yake yodziyimira pawokha, Peralta House, apa. (Chaka chatha, adasindikiza ndakatulo yake yoyamba, "COYOTES" - {textend} ndiyofunika kuwerenga. Ndikhulupirireni.)

Ma Dominican's Life Balms:

• Cristy C. Road's Next World Tarot: Pakati pa Trump ndi nkhawa yanga, zimangokhala ngati ndikukhala kumapeto kwenikweni kwa dziko lapansi. Sitimayo imalakalaka dziko lapansi lomwe tingamange kuchokera pamabwinja, ndipo popeza zithunzizi zikuwoneka ngati ine ndi anzanga, zimandithandiza kulingalira bwino zomwe ndikadutsamo.
• Makandulo amtundu wa chime: Kwa kanthawi, ndinanyalanyaza kufunikira kwanga kukhulupirira wamphamvu, koma sindinapeze chipembedzo chomwe ndimadzimva kuti ndili m'gulu - {textend} kapena chomwe ndikumverera kuti ndi changa. Pakadali pano, makandulo basi. Ndimakonda kugwiritsa ntchito moto kupemphera chifukwa ndine Wolemera kwambiri, ndipo cholembera chopanda kanthu cha makandulo awa (mosiyana ndi omwe ali ndi zilembo zoyera) chimandilola kulumikizana ndi malingaliro ndi mphamvu zomwe zimandibweretsera mtendere.
• Pocket Moleskine: Ndakhala ndikunyamula chimodzi mwazinthuzi kulikonse ngati, zaka khumi. Ndimazigwiritsa ntchito polemba zaluso ndipo posachedwa, malinga ndi zomwe adandiuza, ndikulemba. Zimandithandiza kuti ndizindikire malingaliro ndi malingaliro anga asananditsutse. Ndizosangalatsanso kukhala ndi malo oti ndikatulukire ndikulemba popanda omvera.

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