Sayansi Yotsutsa Kugonana Zodzikongoletsera

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• Chifukwa Chodzipangitsa Kugonana Ndi Chodabwitsa Chodabwitsa
• Momwe Mungakhalire Ogonana Pazomwe Mungachite
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Hei, msungwana, onaninso zopeka zomwe mumakonda za Ryan Gosling chifukwa zimapezeka kuti ndizodzikongoletsa modabwitsa The Notebook sikuti amangotsatira kanema. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa chifukwa chake kudzipangitsa kugonana-mukudziwa, kugonana pambuyo pa ndewu kapena ngakhale kupatukana-kumakhala kotentha kwambiri.

Chifukwa Chodzipangitsa Kugonana Ndi Chodabwitsa Chodabwitsa

Pamene maanja amakangana-kaya ndi za kukhala kum'mwera cholowa m'chikondi ndi mnyamata wosauka kapena kungokonda kuti mtsikana Instagram pambuyo-amphamvu mahomoni amamasulidwa. Kuthamanga kwa adrenaline, noradrenaline (hormone ndi neurotransmitter), ndi testosterone kumayambitsa mkhalidwe wodzuka kwambiri, watero kafukufuku wochokera ku yunivesite ya Valencia ku Spain. Ndipo ngakhale, poyamba, kudzutsa mkwiyo sikungakhale kopanda chidwi, ndife olumikizidwa mwachilengedwe kuyankha chilichonse chomwe chingasokoneze ubale wathu, ngakhale utapangidwa ndi ife, akulemba woimira ubale wama psychologist Samantha Joel mu blog positi za phunziro la Psychology Lero. Lingaliro lakuwopseza kuphatikiza ndi mphamvu ya mahomoni mu ubongo wathu ndizomwe zimatitengera kuti tisakwiye kwambiri ndikukhala ndi chikhumbo.

"Kudziwopseza kumeneku kumayambitsa dongosolo lolumikizirana - dongosolo lokhazikitsidwa ndi biologically lomwe limagwira ntchito kuti maubwenzi anu ofunikira asungike," adalemba Joel. "Nthawi zonse zikalumikizidwa, zimakulimbikitsani kuti muwonjezere kuyandikana kwanu ndi chitetezo ndi ena ofunikira, monga wokondedwa wanu."

Joel akuwonjezera kuti kugonana kungakhale njira yabwino yothetsera chibwenzi pambuyo poopsezedwa. "Pomwe kukangana kumatha kukupangitsani kumva kuti muli kutali ndi mnzanu, kugonana kumatha kugwira ntchito kuti mubwezeretse kukondana komanso kuyandikirana," adalemba. (Yogwirizana: Nthawi Yoyenera Kulankhula Za Chilichonse Muubwenzi.)

Momwe Mungakhalire Ogonana Pazomwe Mungachite

Zikuwoneka kuti pali njira yolondola komanso yolakwika yogwiritsa ntchito chilakolako chotsatirachi. Monga aliyense amene adagonana ndi m'modzi akudziwira, zimagwira ntchito - mwina kutentha kwakanthawi. Komabe, zotsatira zake zimakhala zamphamvu kwambiri kotero kuti kukopa kwa kugonana kodzikongoletsa kumatha kukhala kosokoneza (komanso kopanda thanzi) monga cocaine, malinga ndi Seth Meyers, Ph.D., katswiri wa zamaganizo, monga momwe anafotokozera Psychology Lero.

"Chowonadi ndichakuti zodzikongoletsa zambiri zimachokera pakumverera ndikuwonetsa kukhumudwa kwakukulu pamikangano yoopsa, osapeza lingaliro lililonse pambuyo pake. Chifukwa anthuwa amadwala ndikumva mathedwe owopsa, amakhala ndi njala yosinthira magiya ndikudumphira kumalekezero ena - kuti mumve kukwera komwe kumabwera ndi kupanga," akulemba. (Zokhudzana: Zinthu 8 Zomwe Mumachita Zomwe Zingasokoneze Ubale Wanu.)

Joel akuvomereza kuti okwatirana sayenera kugwiritsa ntchito zogonana atamenyanirana ngati chida chomenyera mkwiyo wawo, koma akupereka njira ina yabwino kwambiri: "Zotsatira zake ndizazovuta kwambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu azimva kukondana komanso kukopeka ndi anzawo - mkanganowo yathetsedwa bwino,” akutero. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kupanga ndi mawu musanapange zogonana. Kuphatikiza apo, muubwenzi wathanzi, maluso olumikizirana omwe amafunikira kuti athetse mkangano ndi omwewa omwe mungagwiritse ntchito kuti mugonane. (Werengani njira 9 izi zakugonana.)

Sitikunena kuti muyenera kumenya nkhondo kuti mukhale ndi zodzoladzola zodabwitsa - koma sikulakwa kupezerapo mwayi panthawiyi zikachitika! Ndipo bola ngati mukugwirabe ntchito pazomwe zimayambitsa nkhondoyi, zitha kulimbitsa ubale wanu.

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