Shawn Johnson Adali Weniweni 'Amayi Olakwa' Atasankha Kusayamwitsa
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Ngati pali chilichonse chomwe Shawn Johnson ndi mwamuna wake Andrew East aphunzira m'miyezi itatu kuyambira pomwe adalandira mwana wawo woyamba padziko lapansi, ndiye kuti kusinthasintha ndikofunikira.
Patatha masiku atatu makolo atsopano atabweretsa mwana wawo wamkazi Drew, kunyumba kuchokera kuchipatala adatopa ndikulira kwake kosatha. Iye sanali latching, kusuntha iye anali katswiri kuchipatala, ndipo anali kugwiritsa ntchito zingwe zake zazing'ono zamawu kuti awonetsetse kuti onse m'chipindacho azidziwa. "Amakhala ngati, Sindikufunanso kuchita izi, ”Johnson akuti Maonekedwe.
Awiriwa anali atakhazikitsidwa pa kuyamwitsa, koma ngakhale atayesa zoletsa zingati ndi alangizi omwe amabweretsa kuti athandize, Drew analibe. Posakhalitsa, adayitana zowonjezera zofunikira - mpope wa m'mawere ndi botolo. "Ndikukumbukira kupopera koyamba, ndikumupatsa botolo, ndipo adasangalala nthawi yomweyo," akutero Johnson. "Mutha kudziwa kuti ndi zoyenera kwa iye."
Kudyetsa m’mabotolo kunali kumagwira ntchito bwino mpaka, patapita milungu iwiri, zinaonekeratu kuti Johnson sanali kutulutsa mkaka wokwanira wa m’mawere. Usiku wina wovuta kwambiri, wodzala ndi misozi, East akuti adayamba kugwiritsa ntchito abambo awo ndikuyamba kufufuza njira zabwino kwambiri za mkaka wa m'mawere. Adafika pa Enfamil Enspire, ndipo awiriwa (omwe tsopano ndi olankhulira mtunduwo) adaganiza zowonjezera mkaka wa m'mawere wa Johnson ndi formula.
Si makolo okhawo atsopano omwe amapanga chisankho ichi, mwina. Ngakhale lingaliro la American Academy of Pediatrics loti ayamwitse kokha kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yoyambirira ya moyo, ochepera theka la makanda amangoyamwitsidwa m'miyezi itatu yoyambirira, ndipo kuchuluka kwake kumatsikira ku 25% pamwezi wachisanu ndi chimodzi, malinga ndi Malo Othandizira Kuletsa ndi Kupewa Matenda. Ndipo, mofanana ndi Johnson, amayi ena angasankhe kuwonjezera kapena kudyetsa mkaka wosakaniza kokha ngati sakutulutsa mkaka wokwanira, ali ndi matenda enaake, akubwerera kuntchito, kapena kukhala ndi mwana amene akudwala kapena wobadwa msanga. (ICYMI, Serena Williams anasiya kuyamwitsa kukonzekera Wimbledon.)
Kwa Johnson, kuchoka pa lingaliro lakuti “bere ndi labwino” mwa kuyamwitsa mwana wake wamkazi mkaka wa m’mawere ndi mkaka wa m’botolo chinali chosankha choyenera, komabe chinam’pwetekabe ndi liwongo. “Ndimaona ngati pali kusalidwa kotero kuti ngati sukuyamwitsa, mwanjira inayake umakhala wopanda pake kwa mwana wako,” akutero Johnson. "Ndikumva kuwawa ngati mayi, kumverera ngati ukusowa, ndipo sindikuganiza kuti amayi ayenera kumva choncho chifukwa sali."
Kukakamizika kumeneku kukhala mayi "wangwiro" sikungogwera pa olandira mendulo za golide wa Olympic. Hafu ya amayi atsopano amamva chisoni, manyazi, kudziimba mlandu, kapena kukwiya (makamaka chifukwa cha zovuta zomwe samayembekezera komanso kusowa chithandizo), ndipo oposa 70% amadzimva kuti akukakamizidwa kuchita zinthu mwanjira inayake, malinga ndi kafukufuku wa amayi 913 omwe atumizidwa ndi NTHAWI. Kwa Johnson, izi zimabwera m'mawu atsiku ndi tsiku ochokera kwa anthu ochezera pa intaneti - kapena abwenzi - kumuuza kuti atha kuyesa kuyamwitsa kapena kufunsa ngati adayesapo kubwezera Drew pa bere lake kuti awone ngati angayamwitse. (Zokhudzana: Kuvomereza Kowawitsa Mtima Kwa Mkazi Pakuyamwitsa Ndi #SoReal)
Ngakhale Johnson ndi East adawerenga pamndandanda pazosankha zawo zakulera pa intaneti, aphunzira kutengera khungu lakuda. Amayesa kudzikumbutsa kuti ayenera kukhala panjira yoyenera ngati mwana wawo wamkazi ali wachimwemwe, wathanzi, ndi wodyetsedwa—osati kukuwa ndi kulira. Kupita Kummawa, kusintha kwa chakudya choyambirira kwalimbitsanso banja lawo: Potenga katundu wambiri, amatha kuwonetsa Johnson kuti ali ndi ndalama ndipo ali wofunitsitsa kuchita chilichonse chomwe angathe, akutero. Kuphatikiza apo, East tsopano amakhala ndi nthawi yolumikizana komanso mwayi wolumikizana ndi mwana wake wamkazi yemwe sakadakhala nawo.
Ndipo kwa amayi amene amaona kuti akukakamizika kulera mwana wawo mwanjira inayake kapena kuweruzidwa chifukwa chosiyana ndi mmene zinthu zilili panopa, Johnson ali ndi langizo limodzi lokha: Limirirani inu ndi mwana wanu. "Ndikuganiza, monga makolo, simungathe kumvera anthu ena," akutero. "Iwo akulalikira zomwe zinawathandiza, chifukwa chake amaganiza kuti ndizolondola. Koma mumangofunika kudziwa chomwe chili choyenera kwa inu. Ndi njira yokhayo yomwe mungapulumukire. "