Njira Yodabwitsa Kupanikizika Kwaubwenzi Kumakupangitsani Kulemera

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Mukudziwa kuti kutha kumatha kukukhudzani - mwina kukhala abwinoko (nthawi yochulukirapo yochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi!) Kapena zoyipa (oh hai, Ben & Jerry's). Koma kodi mumadziwa kuti mavuto amubwenzi angayambitse kunenepa ngakhale mutakhala pachibwenzi? (Phunzirani za njira zina zachilendo zomwe thupi lanu limachita mukapanikizika.)

Kwa zaka zinayi, ofufuza aku University of Michigan adatsata anthu opitilira 2,000 okwatirana omwe adakhala limodzi kwa zaka 34 ndipo adawalembera chiuno, kulimba kwaukwati, kupsinjika, ndi zina zambiri. Iwo anapeza kuti mwamunayo akamapanikizika kwambiri ndi mmene ubwenzi wawo ulili, m’pamenenso amalemera kwambiri ndipo mkazi wake anawonjeza-kufikira mainchesi anayi m'chiuno mwawo pophunzira. (Zodabwitsa, pomwe azimayi anali zochepa madandaulo aubwenzi, amuna awo amatha kuchulukana. Ofufuza akuganiza kuti izi zitha kukhala chifukwa zikutanthauza kuti mkaziyo samasamala.)

"Ukwati umakhudza kwambiri thanzi," wolemba wamkulu Kira Birditt, Ph.D., pulofesa wothandizira pa yunivesite ya Michigan Institute for Social Research anatero m'mawu ake. "Kupsinjika komwe amakumana nawo, osati kupsinjika kwa munthu, kumalumikizidwa ndi kuchuluka kwa m'chiuno. Mphamvu iyi ya kupsinjika idalinso yamphamvu makamaka m'maubwenzi apabanja."

Ndipo musaganize kuti chifukwa choti simunakwatirane kwazaka makumi atatu kuti chikondi chanu chachinyamata chidzakutetezani. Birditt akuti zovuta zakupsinjika kwa anzanu ndizofanana kwa maanja achichepere, ngakhale akuwona kuti mwina simungamve zovuta zathanzi monga mabanja achikulire. (Koma mukangolemera, kuchuluka kwamafuta amthupi kumatha kuyambitsa kuponderezana koopsa.)

Ngakhale zili choncho, uthenga wake ndiwowonekeratu: Kupsinjika kwa maubwenzi kumakhudza onse awiri, motero nonsenu muyenera kutenga nawo mbali pakuwongolera. "Ndikofunika kuti maanja apeze njira zothetsera mavuto limodzi pogwiritsa ntchito njira zabwino zothetsera mavuto monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi limodzi, kukambirana modekha, ndikupanga zolinga zomwe akugawana," akutero.

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