Khalidwe Lodabwitsa Lokoma Limene Limakupangitsani Kukongola Kwambiri

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Palibe chomwe chimakupangitsani kumva bwino za inu nokha kuposa kupereka chithandizo kwa wina amene akusowa. (Zowona, kuchitira ena zabwino pang'ono ndikumapatsa mphamvu kupsinjika, malinga ndi kafukufuku wa 2014.) Ndipo tsopano mutha kuwonjezera chifukwa china chothandizira ena kukhala mndandanda wanu: anthu odzipereka amakhala ndi zochuluka, komanso zabwino, zogonana!

Zoonadi. Mu pepala lofalitsidwa mu British Journal ya Psychology, yotchedwa "Altruism imaneneratu kupambana kwa makwerero mwa anthu," asayansi amanena kuti anthu achifundo amagona nthawi zambiri. Ofufuzawo adafufuza azimayi 192 ndi amuna 105, kuwafunsa kuti kangati amadzipangira mitundu yosiyanasiyana yazodzipereka monga kupereka magazi, kupereka ndalama zachifundo, ndi kuthandiza mnansi. Kenako, amayang'ana mbiri yakudziwonetsa yokhudza munthu aliyense payekha. Zinapezeka kuti anthu omwe adachita bwino kwambiri pazachuma adapezanso zambiri pamapepala. (M'nkhani zokopa, nazi Chifukwa Chake Kungoganiza Kugonana Kwanu Kolimbitsa Thupi Ndikozolowereka.)

Amuna odzipereka akuti amakhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri pamoyo wawo kuposa zopereka zochepa zachifundo, ndipo onse amuna ndi akazi okoma mtima omwe ali pachibwenzi akuti ali ndi zibwenzi zambiri masiku 30 apitawa. Zachidziwikire, nthawi zonse pamakhala zolakwika zina m'maphunziro zomwe zimakhudzana ndi kudzidziwitsa nokha (atha kukhala anthu kunena ndi achifundo?), koma kafukufuku wam'mbuyomu wapeza kuti timawona kuti anthu okonda chidwi amakhala okongola kwambiri. Kuphatikiza apo, ofufuzawo anena kuti kudzipereka ndikopindulitsa chifukwa ndizachidziwikire komanso zowonekeratu kuti wina atha kukhala wokwatirana naye bwino kuti akhale ndi ana.

Ndizo zonse zomwe sayansi imanena kuti "kukoma mtima ndikotentha!" Ndipo ndi zomveka. Palibe chomwe chimatipangitsa kukomoka kuposa kuwona wina akusewera ndi mwana, akuyenda mwana wagalu, kapena akuthandiza mayi wachikulire kuwoloka msewu. Anyamata oipa? Tidutsa.

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