Malangizo 5 Omwe Anandithandiza Kuyenda pamavuto Aakulu mzaka za m'ma 20s

Zamkati

• Funsani thandizo - ndipo nenani mosapita m'mbali
• Limbikitsani zosintha zanu zaumoyo
• Patience ndi mnzako wapamtima
• Funani thandizo kwa akatswiri
• Phunzirani kuvomereza kuti moyo sudzakhalanso chimodzimodzi
• Kuyenda pamavuto sikophweka, koma kukhala ndi zida zoyenera kuthana nazo kungathandize

Nditakhala ndi khansa yaubongo pa 27, Nazi zomwe zidandithandiza kupirira.

Mukakhala wachinyamata, zimakhala zosavuta kumva kuti simungagonjetsedwe. Zoonadi za matenda ndi zovuta zingawoneke kutali, zotheka koma zosayembekezereka.

Mpaka pomwepo, popanda chenjezo, mzerewo mwadzidzidzi uli pansi pa mapazi anu, ndipo mumapezeka kuti mukuwoloka kupita kwina.

Zitha kuchitika mwachangu komanso mwachisawawa monga choncho. Zomwe zidandichitira.

Miyezi ingapo nditakwanitsa zaka 27, anandipeza ndi khansa ina yaubongo yotchedwa anaplastic astrocytoma. Chotupa cha 3 (kuchokera ku 4) chomwe chidachotsedwa muubongo wanga chidapezeka nditangoyambitsa kafukufuku wofufuza za MRI, ngakhale madotolo angapo akundiuza kuti nkhawa yanga sinali yoyenera.

Kuyambira tsiku lomwe ndinalandila zotsatira, zomwe zidawonetsa kuchuluka kwa gofu pamiyendo yanga yakumanja ya parietal, kupita ku lipoti la matenda omwe adatsata craniotomy kuchotsa chotupacho, moyo wanga udasungunuka kuchokera ku chinthu china chomwe chimagwira ntchito kudzera kusukulu yomaliza maphunziro winawake ali ndi khansa, akumenyera moyo wake.

M'miyezi ingapo nditadziwika, sindinakhalepo ndi mwayi wowonera ena angapo omwe ndimawakonda podutsa pakusintha kwawo kowopsa. Ndatenga foni kumasamba osayembekezereka ndikumvetsera nkhani yovuta yatsopano yomwe yasokoneza mabwenzi anga apamtima pansi, omwe onse ali ndi zaka 20.

Ndipo ndakhalapo pomwe timadzinyamula pang'onopang'ono.

Potsatira izi, zakhala zikuwonekera kwa ine momwe kukonzekera 20-somethings timapeza pazinthu zopweteka kwambiri, makamaka mzaka zoyambirira kuchokera kusukulu.

College siyiphunzitsa kalasi zoyenera kuchita mnzanu kapena mnzanu wapamtima kapena m'bale wanu akuchitidwa opaleshoni yomwe sangakhale nayo. Kudziwa zomwe mungachite pakagwa zovuta nthawi zambiri kumaphunzira movutikira: kudzera m'mayesero ndi zolakwika komanso zokumana nazo pamoyo.

Komabe pali zomwe tingachite, njira zomwe tingathandizirane wina ndi mnzake, ndi zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zosapiririka zisamavutike kuyenda.

Monga katswiri watsopano wokayikira padziko lapansi pamavuto apakati pa 20s, ndasonkhanitsa zina mwa zinthu zomwe zandithandiza kupyola masiku oyipitsitsa.

Funsani thandizo - ndipo nenani mosapita m'mbali

Zowonekeratu kuti izi zitha kumveka, kupempha thandizo kuchokera kwa abwenzi ndi abale panjira yamavuto ikhoza kukhala chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri kuchita.

Mwini, kulola anthu kundithandiza kwakhala kovuta. Ngakhale masiku omwe ndimakhala wopanda mphamvu chifukwa chocheza ndi chemo, ndimayeserabe kuchita izi ndekha. Koma tengani kwa ine; izo sizikufikitsani kulikonse.

Winawake nthawi ina anandiuza, pakati panga ndikutsutsa thandizo, kuti pakagwa tsoka ndipo anthu akufuna kuthandiza, imangokhala mphatso kwa iwo monganso kwa inu kuwalola. Mwina chinthu chokhacho chabwino pamavuto ndi momwe zimawonekera kuti omwe mumawakonda amakukondaninso ndipo akufuna kukuthandizani poyipitsitsa.

Komanso, popempha thandizo, ndikofunikira kunena mwatsatanetsatane momwe zingathere. Kodi mufunika kuthandizidwa ndi mayendedwe kupita kuchipatala? Kusamalira ziweto kapena ana? Wina kuti ayeretse nyumba yanu popita kukaonana ndi dokotala? Ndapeza kuti kupempha kuti ndikadye chakudya kwakhala chimodzi mwazinthu zopempha zambiri kuyambira nditapezeka.

Adziwitseni anthu, kenako aloleni achite ntchitoyi.

Kukhala wadongosolo Mawebusayiti monga Give InKind, CaringBridge, Meal Train, ndi Lotsa Kuthandiza Manja atha kukhala zida zabwino zolemba zomwe mukufuna ndikusankha anthu kuti azizungulira. Ndipo musachite mantha kupatsako wina ntchito yakulemba tsamba kapena tsamba.

Limbikitsani zosintha zanu zaumoyo

Wina akadwala kapena akuvulala, ndizofala kwa iwo omwe ali pafupi kwambiri nawo kufuna kudziwa zomwe zikuchitika komanso momwe akuchitira tsiku ndi tsiku. Koma kwa munthu amene akuyenera kulumikizana ndi zinthu zonse zofunika, izi zitha kukhala zotopetsa komanso zovuta.

Ndidazindikira kuti nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi nkhawa kuti ndimaiwala kuuza munthu wofunikira m'moyo wanga china chachikulu chikachitika, ndikudzimva kuti ndili ndi mantha chifukwa chobwereza kapena kutchulanso zosintha zaposachedwa mu chisamaliro changa, matenda anga, ndi malingaliro anga.

M'mbuyomu, wina adandiuza kuti ndipange gulu lotseka la Facebook kuti ndidziwitse ndikusintha anthu panjira. Ndi kudzera pagululi pomwe abwenzi ndi abale adatha kuwerenga zosintha patsiku la craniotomy yanga ya maola asanu ndi limodzi, ndipo pambuyo pake ndimavutika kuchira ku ICU.

Miyezi ikadutsa, yakhala malo oti ndimatha kukondwerera zomwe ndakwaniritsa ndi gulu langa (monga kumaliza milungu isanu ndi umodzi ya radiation!) Ndikuziwonjezera zonse zaposachedwa osafunikira kuuza aliyense payekhapayekha.

Pambuyo pa Facebook Facebook si njira yokhayo yodziwitsa anthu omwe mumawakonda momwe mukuchitira. Muthanso kukhazikitsa mindandanda yamakalata, ma blogs, kapena maakaunti a Instagram. Ziribe kanthu komwe mungasankhe, mutha kukhalanso ndi wina wokuthandizani kuti muzisunge izi.

Patience ndi mnzako wapamtima

Kaya mukukumana ndi mavuto azaumoyo, kuwonerera wina akumenya nkhondo kuti achire kuchokera ku zoopsa, kapena mkati mwa ngalande zachisoni zokhudzana ndi imfa ndi kutayika, kudekha kudzakupulumutsani nthawi zonse.

Ndizovuta kuvomereza. Koma mwachangu momwe zinthu zimasunthira munthawi yamavuto, zimayendanso pang'onopang'ono.

Kuchipatala ndikupeza bwino, nthawi zambiri pamakhala nthawi yayitali pomwe palibe chomwe chimasintha. Izi zingakhale zokhumudwitsa. Ngakhale ndizosavuta kuzichita kuposa zomwe ndachita, ndidazindikira kuti kuleza mtima kumatheka kudzera m'njira zosiyanasiyana, kuphatikiza:

• kupuma pang'ono
• kuyeserera kupuma kwambiri
• kulemba zomwe zasintha kale
• kukulolani kuti mumve zonse zazikulu komanso zokhumudwitsa
• kuvomereza kuti zinthu zimasintha ndikusintha pakapita nthawi (ngakhale zitakhala zazing'ono)

Funani thandizo kwa akatswiri

Ngakhale abale ndi abwenzi atha kukhala othandiza kwambiri popereka chithandizo, ndikofunikanso kupeza wina atachotsedwa mkatikati mwanu yemwe angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi mavutowa mozama.

Kaya "akatswiri othandiza" ndi othandizira, akatswiri amisala, kapena owongolera zachipembedzo kapena auzimu, pezani munthu wodziwa zomwe mukufuna kuti mupulumuke zokumana nazo pano.

Magulu othandizira nawonso ndi odabwitsa. Kupeza anthu omwe akumvetsetsa zomwe mukukumana ndizofunikira kwambiri. Ikhoza kupereka malingaliro osakhala nokha paulendowu.

Yang'anani kwa ogwira nawo ntchito kapena malo osamalira anthu kuti mudziwe komwe mungapeze magulu othandizira. Ngati simungapeze imodzi, pangani mmodzi mwa anthu omwe mumakumana nawo kudzera mukukumana nawo kapena pa intaneti. Osasiya kufunafuna chithandizo. Kumbukirani: Mukuyenera.

Kupeza thandizo loyenera kwa inuNgati mukufuna kulankhula ndi akatswiri azaumoyo, onani malangizo awa:

• Zonse Zokhudza Zaumoyo Wam'maganizo
• Momwe Mungapezere Chithandizo Chotsika mtengo

Phunzirani kuvomereza kuti moyo sudzakhalanso chimodzimodzi

Ngakhale tikhoza kutsutsana ndi malingaliro awa ndikulimbana ndi zonse zomwe tiyenera kunena "sizikhala choncho kwa ine," chowonadi ndichakuti, mavuto atatha, zonse zimasintha.

Kwa ine, ndimayenera kusiya pulogalamu yomwe ndimakonda.

Ndidameta tsitsi.

Ndinkayenera kupereka nthawi yanga ndi ufulu wanga kuchipatala tsiku lililonse.

Ndipo ndidzakhala kwamuyaya ndikukumbukira za ICU komanso tsiku lomwe ndidamva matenda anga.

Koma pali zokongoletsera zasiliva pazonsezi: Sikuti kusintha konse kudzakhala koyipa. Kwa anthu ena, amaphunzira zinthu za iwo eni, okondedwa awo, kapena dera lawo zomwe samayembekezera.

Sindinamvepo kuthandizidwa monga momwe ndikuchitira tsopano, kapena kukhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi moyo. Zonse zikhale zowona: Kukwiya, kufuula ndi kukuwa ndi kumenya zinthu. Komanso onaninso zabwino zomwe zilipo. Onani zinthu zazing'ono, mphindi zokongola zamtengo wapatali zachisangalalo zomwe zimapitilira tsiku lililonse lowopsa, ndikudzilolera kukwiya kuti mavutowa alipodi.

Kuyenda pamavuto sikophweka, koma kukhala ndi zida zoyenera kuthana nazo kungathandize

Pokhudzana ndi kukumana ndi zovuta, palibe njira yothetsera koma kudutsa, monga mwambiwo umanenera.

Ndipo ngakhale kuti palibe aliyense wa ife amene ali wokonzeka mokwanira kukumana ndi tsoka, ngakhale tili ndi zaka 27 kapena 72, zimathandiza kukhala ndi zida zingapo m'manja mwathu zotithandiza kuyenda munthawi zovuta zino.

Caroline Catlin ndi wojambula, wotsutsa, komanso wogwira ntchito zaumoyo. Amakonda amphaka, maswiti wowawasa, komanso kumvera ena chisoni. Mutha kumupeza patsamba lake.