Banja Likhala Lapoizoni

Zamkati

• Ganizirani za ubwana wanu
• Mumayembekezeredwa kukwaniritsa miyezo yosatheka
• Unatsutsidwa mwamphamvu
• Zosowa zanu sizinakwaniritsidwe
• Talingalirani momwe zinthu ziliri masiku ano
• Mukumva kuti mukulamulidwa
• Simukumva chikondi, chifundo, kapena ulemu
• Pali kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala okhudzidwa
• Mumamva mawu achipongwe, kumenyedwa, kapena kumenyedwa
• Kulephera kugwira ntchito kumakhala kosalekeza kapena kosalekeza
• Momwe mungayankhire
• Sankhani zomwe mukufuna
• Gwiritsani ntchito gulu
• Sankhani zomwe mudzagawana ndi zomwe musasunge
• Phunzirani nthawi yokana
• Osayesa kusintha aliyense
• Konzani misonkhano yomwe ingakuthandizeni
• Lankhulani ndi wina
• Nthawi yodula zomangira
• Samalemekeza malire anu kapena malire
• Amakuzunzani mwakuthupi kapena mwamwano
• Amakunamizirani nthawi zonse kapena amakupusitsani
• Kulankhula nawo kapena kuwawona kumabweretsa nkhawa
• Momwe mungayendere 'osalumikizana'
• Sankhani njira yanu
• Konzekerani
• Fotokozani zomwe zikuchitika
• Konzekerani momwe angathere…
• … Ndi zanu
• Kupeza thandizo
• Mfundo yofunika

Mawu oti “banja” angatikumbutse zinthu zosiyanasiyana zovuta kumvetsa. Kutengera ubwana wanu komanso mkhalidwe wabanja wapano, izi zitha kukhala zabwino, zoyipa, kapena zosakanikirana zonse ziwiri.

Ngati mwakhala mukukumana ndi banja lowopsa, malingaliro anu amatha kupitirira kukhumudwa kapena kukhumudwa. M'malo mwake, kuyanjana ndi banja lanu kapena kulilingalira kungakhumudwitse kwambiri.

Mphamvu zoopsa kapena zosagwira ntchito za banja zimakhala zovuta kuzizindikira, makamaka mukadakhazikika. Nazi zina mwa zizindikilo zofala ndi zomwe mungachite ngati muzizindikira m'banja lanu.

Ganizirani za ubwana wanu

Anthu ambiri sazindikira zovuta zakubanja lawo ali ana mpaka atakula.

Zizindikiro zotsatirazi zikusonyeza kuti mwina mwakhala mukukula m'banja loopsa.

Mumayembekezeredwa kukwaniritsa miyezo yosatheka

Achibale amachita maudindo osiyanasiyana nthawi ndi nthawi kuti athandizane. Mwina inali ntchito yanu kuchotsa mbale kuchokera patebulo pambuyo pa chakudya chamadzulo cha Lamlungu. Kapenanso mwina nthawi zina munathandizapo powonera azing'ono anu. Zonsezi ndizabwinobwino.

Koma ntchitozi siziyenera kukulepheretsani kumaliza maphunziro anu kusukulu, kusewera, kapena kugona mokwanira.

Ngati munakulira m'banja loopsa, mwina mungafunsidwe kuti:

• kholo kapena kulanga abale kapena ang'ono kapena kuwasamalira kwambiri
• kutenga maudindo monga kuphika chakudya kapena kugwira ntchito zina zolemetsa musanachite bwino kapena moyenera
• perekani chilimbikitso cham'maganizo ngati kuti ndinu okondedwa kapena munthu wina wamkulu

Unatsutsidwa mwamphamvu

Makolo ambiri amadzudzula kapena kutsutsa machitidwe a ana awo nthawi zina. Koma ndemanga izi ziyenera kukhala zomangika ndikuyang'ana pamakhalidwe, osati pa mwana. Sayenera kukupangitsani kudziona kuti ndinu otsika, osafunika, kapena osakondedwa.

Zosowa zanu sizinakwaniritsidwe

Palibe amene ali wangwiro. Mwinamwake makolo anu sanali okhoza kukutengani kusukulu panthaŵi yake, kukusiyani kuti mudikire. Kapenanso adayiwala kulipira ngongole yamagetsi kamodzi ndipo magetsi adazima masiku awiri.

Koma achibale othandizira akuyenera kukuthandizani pazofunikira:

• kukhazikitsa malire
• kupereka chilango ndi chikondi
• kusamalira thanzi lanu ndi thanzi lanu
• kuonetsetsa kuti mwalandira maphunziro
• kuonetsetsa kuti muli ndi chakudya chodyera komanso zovala zoyera zoti muvale

Ngakhale pakhoza kukhala zinthu zina zomwe zikukhudzidwa, kupita nthawi zonse popanda chilichonse pamwambapa kungatanthauze mwamphamvu kuti banja loopsa kapena loipa lisinthe.

Makolo omwe anali otanganidwa kwambiri m'moyo wanu ndipo sanalole mpata wakukula mwina nawonso alephera kukwaniritsa zosowa zanu poletsa izi.

Danga lamunthu, pathupi ndi m'maganizo, limathandiza ana kukula. Potsirizira pake, mumafunikira kudziyimira pawokha komanso mwayi woti mudzimvere nokha.

Talingalirani momwe zinthu ziliri masiku ano

Ngati mukuganiza kuti mukuthana ndi poizoni wabanja, yambani kulingalira za momwe mumamvera mukamacheza ndi abale anu ena.

Katherine Fabrizio, MA, LPC, amagwiritsa ntchito kwambiri ana aakazi a amayi oopsa. Amapereka lamulo ili lonse:

"Ngati pamapeto pake mumadzimvera chisoni mukakumana ndi achibale anu, mwina pali chifukwa chomveka chofunira izi."

Nazi zinthu zina zofunika kuziyang'ana. Kumbukirani kuti mutha kuzindikiranso izi kuyambira muli ana.

Mukumva kuti mukulamulidwa

Achibale omwe ali ndi poizoni amatha kuyesa kuwongolera mbali zazikulu pamoyo wanu, kuphatikiza maubwenzi anu komanso zisankho pantchito. Angatanthauze (kapena kunena motsimikiza) kuti kutsatira zomwe akuyembekezera ndichikhalidwe cha chikondi chawo ndi kuthandizidwa kwawo.

Simukumva chikondi, chifundo, kapena ulemu

Si zachilendo kuti anthu a m'banja mwawo azimvana nthawi zina. Koma kumapeto kwa tsiku, muyenera kukhalabe ndi chikondi ndi kukoma mtima.

M'banja lamankhwala oopsa, mutha kumva kunyozedwa kapena kunyozedwa m'malo mokondedwa.

Wachibale woopsa akhoza:

• kunyoza kapena kunyoza zosankha zanu
• kuukira malo anu osatetezeka
• chip kutali ndikudzidalira kwanu

Banja lanu mwina silingagwirizane ndi chilichonse chomwe munganene kapena kuchita, koma akuyenerabe kukupatsani chikondi ndi ulemu mukamapeza njira yanu.

Pali kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala okhudzidwa

Wachibale yemwe nthawi zina amagwiritsa ntchito, kapena kugwiritsa ntchito molakwika, mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa siowopsa. Koma zizolowezi zosokoneza bongo komanso zizolowezi zina nthawi zina zimatha kubweretsa zovuta komanso zosavomerezeka m'mabanja.

Zizindikiro izi zitha kutanthauza zawopsedwe:

• Kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo komwe kumakhudza mikhalidwe kapena machitidwe
• kuzunzidwa kapena kuchitidwa nkhanza chifukwa chakuledzera
• kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala obisika kwa akunja ndipo sanakambiranepo

Njira yolekerera kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo imathandizanso kuti pakhale poyizoni.

Mumamva mawu achipongwe, kumenyedwa, kapena kumenyedwa

Mtundu wina uliwonse wa nkhanza uli ndi poizoni - sikuti umangokhudza nkhanza zakuthupi.

Kuzunza kumaphatikizaponso:

• kukhudza kosayenera
• ziwalo zogonana kapena mawu ogodomalitsa
• ndemanga zokhudzana ndi thupi lanu
• kuyitana mayina
• nkhanza
• nkhanza zokhudza kugonana
• kutsutsa mwamphamvu kapena mopambanitsa
• kuyatsa gasi

Nthawi zina, kuzunzika sikophweka kuzindikira.

Mwachitsanzo, inu ndi m'bale wanu mwina nonse mungaponye mayina oyipitsa mukamakangana. Kapena mwina mumatha kuponyerana zovala kuchipinda chanu. Koma mumangopepesa mukapanda kufotokoza za malingaliro anu.

Ngati khalidweli likuchitika mobwerezabwereza ndipo sipangakhale kusamvana kulikonse, utha kukhala ubale wowopsa.

Kulephera kugwira ntchito kumakhala kosalekeza kapena kosalekeza

Mabanja ochepa kwambiri amakhala bwino nthawi zonse. Kusamvana, mikangano pakati pa abale anu, maubwenzi apakati, kapena kulumikizana molakwika ndizofala, makamaka munthawi yamavuto kapena kusintha.

Mwachitsanzo, wachibale atha kukhala ndi poizoni kapena njira zosakhalitsa kwakanthawi chifukwa cha zovuta zomwe sizili pabanja, monga:

• zovuta kuntchito kapena kusukulu
• mavuto ndi abwenzi kapena maubale ena
• nkhawa zaumoyo kapena kupsinjika kwamaganizidwe
• mavuto azachuma

Makhalidwe amenewa ayenera kukhala osakhalitsa. Yemwe akuyenera kupepesa, apepese, ndipo agwire ntchito kuti asinthe machitidwe awo atazindikira.

Kawirikawiri kawopsedwe samasintha kapena kusintha mosavuta. Osachepera, osathandizidwa ndi akatswiri.

Momwe mungayankhire

Palibe njira yolondola kapena yolakwika yochitira ndi mamembala am'banja omwe ali ndi poizoni.

Anthu ena amasankha kusiya kuyanjana kwathunthu. Ena amayesetsa kuthana ndi vutoli pochepetsa kuchezerana ndi abale awo omwe ali ndi poizoni ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti ateteze thanzi lawo akakhala chitani onani banja lawo.

Ngati muli ndi poyizoni, kapena ngati banja lanu lomwe muli nalo lili ndi zinthu zowopsa, malangizowa atha kukuthandizani kuyenda pamisonkhano ndikuthana ndi zovuta zilizonse zomwe zingachitike.

Sankhani zomwe mukufuna

Kuzindikira zomwe mukufuna kuchokera pachibwenzi kumatha kukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi lingaliro lomveka bwino lamalire omwe mukufuna kukhazikitsa.

Nenani kuti mumakonda kucheza ndi mlongo wanu kumapeto kwa sabata, koma osati akafunsa za moyo wanu wachikondi. Mukudziwa kuti adzagawana nawo amayi anu, omwe adzakuyimbireni kuti akutsutseni komanso kukusekani.

Mukufunabe kukhalabe ndiubwenzi ndi mlongo wanu, chifukwa chake yankho limodzi likhoza kuletsa kuchezera kwanu ndi mlongo wanu kamodzi pamwezi ndikumamuwuza pasadakhale kuti simudzakambirana zachibwenzi.

Kukhala ndi malire pochita zinthu kumatha kukupatsani mphamvu ndikukuthandizani kuti muzimva bwino za kulumikizana komwe mungasankhe. Koma mukakhazikitsa malire anu, yesetsani kuti musawadutse. Kugwedezeka kumatha kukubwezerani munthawi yovuta kapena yopanda thanzi.

Gwiritsani ntchito gulu

Mukamacheza ndi achibale anu, musalole kuti akukokereni m'mabanja omwe mungakonde kuti mukhale osiyana. Simuyenera kuchita nawo chilichonse chomwe mungapewe.

Gulu lingaphatikizepo:

• osachita nawo zochitika zosokoneza
• kupewa mitu yomwe imadzetsa mkwiyo
• kusunga zokambirana mopepuka komanso mopepuka
• kuthetsa kukambirana kapena kuchoka ngati kuli kofunikira

Ngati mukuyesetsa kuti musakhale ndi poizoni, yesetsani kukhala ndi chizolowezi cha:

• kusankha zisanachitike mitu yomwe mukufuna kupewa
• kulingalira njira zosinthira nkhaniyo
• kuyankha funso lovuta kapena losokoneza ndi funso lina
• kudziwitsa abale anu kuti simukufuna kukambirana mitu ina

Izi zitha kukhala zovuta poyamba, koma ndimachitidwe ena, amayamba kumva mwachilengedwe.

Sankhani zomwe mudzagawana ndi zomwe musasunge

Simuyenera kugawana chilichonse ndi banja lanu. Mutha kukuwona kukhala kothandiza kusunga zinsinsi zina kwa anthu am'banja omwe ali ndi poizoni omwe ali ndi mbiri yakuzigwiritsa ntchito kukutsutsani, kukunyozani, kapena kukupusitsani.

"Achibale ambiri omwe ali ndi poizoni ndi akatswiri pakukutetezani pokupangitsani kuti muwulule osabwezera. Koma simusowa kuti mudzilongosolere nokha kapena kupatsa aliyense mwayi wopeza malingaliro anu amkati, "akutero Fabrizio.

Musanawone abale anu, ganizirani zokumbutsani zomwe simukanakonda kugawana nawo. Ngati ndi kotheka, pezani njira imodzi kapena ziwiri zosinthira nkhaniyi ngati pakufunika kutero.

Izi zati, nthawi zonse zimakhala bwino kungonena kuti, "Ndikadapanda kuyankhula za thanzi langa / zosankha zanga / luso la kulera / moyo wachikondi," ndikumaliza zokambiranazo.

Phunzirani nthawi yokana

Kukhazikitsa malire ndikukana zinthu zomwe zingasokoneze malowa kungakuthandizeni kuyenda mosavuta kapena pachibwenzi.

Sizovuta nthawi zonse kukana kwa achibale.Fabrizio akuwonjezera kuti, "Mukakana machitidwe am'banja lanu (ngakhale atakhala okwiya bwanji), mumakhala pachiwopsezo kuti angakukanizeni."

Ngati mukudziwa kuti zochitika zingakupangitseni kukhala osasangalala, okhumudwa, kapena osakhala omasuka, kunena "ayi" ikhoza kukhala njira yabwino kwambiri. Mutha kufotokoza malingaliro anu ngati mukufuna, koma osamva ngati muyenera.

Wachibale wapabanja angayese kukunyengererani kapena kukupusitsani kuti musinthe malingaliro. Khalani ndi chidaliro pa chisankho chanu ndipo dziwani kuti mukudzichitira nokha zabwino. Achibale omwe amakukondani ndikukuthandizani ayeneranso kuzindikira ndikuchirikiza chosowacho.

Osayesa kusintha aliyense

Pochita ndi achibale omwe ali ndi poizoni, si zachilendo kukhala ndi chiyembekezo kuti asintha. Mutha kuyerekezera tsiku lomwe adzazindikira momwe adakupweteketsani ndikuyamba kusintha mawonekedwe awo.

Zachidziwikire, anthu atha kusintha ndipo amasintha, koma ndizoposa mphamvu zanu. Kupatula kuwauza momwe mumamvera, kuwafunsa kuti aganizire za malingaliro anu, ndikuwalimbikitsa kuti alankhule ndi othandizira kapena akatswiri ena, palibe zambiri zomwe mungachite.

Munthu yekhayo amene inu angathe kusintha ndiwe. Izi zitha kuphatikizira kuthana ndi malingaliro oyipa omwe amayambitsa, kudzimvera chisoni, kapena kuphunzira kukana.

Konzani misonkhano yomwe ingakuthandizeni

Kudzipatsa mphamvu pazoyanjana zilizonse zomwe mungakhale nazo kungapangitse kusiyana kwakukulu.

Fabrizio akuwonetsa izi:

• Sankhani komwe mungakumane ndi nthawi. Kukumana chakudya chamadzulo pamalo opezeka anthu ambiri kumatha kukuthandizani kuti muchepetse mavuto ena ambiri.
• Ganizirani kuchotsa mowa patebulo. Mowa umatha kukulitsa mavuto pazomwe zachitika kale, chifukwa chake kupewa mowa komanso maphwando omwe amamwa mowa kumatha kuchepetsa mwayi wampikisano wovuta kapena wokhumudwitsa.
• Fotokozani momveka bwino za kupezeka kwanu. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kunena kuti, "Ndili ndi ola limodzi nkhomaliro lero."
• Samalani mayendedwe anu. Mwanjira iyi, muli ndi njira yoti muchokere pakafunika kutero.

Kukhazikitsa misonkhano mmau anu kumakuthandizani kuti mubwezeretse mphamvu ndikumva otetezeka panthawi yolumikizana.

Lankhulani ndi wina

Kaya muli pachiwopsezo cha banja lomwe lili ndi poizoni kapena mukugwira ntchito yothana ndi zovuta zaubwana, kugawana zakukhosi kwanu ndi munthu kungakhale kothandiza kwambiri.

Izi ndizothandiza makamaka kuti mumvetsetse zenizeni ngati abale anu omwe ali ndi poizoni kapena kusokoneza kuyanjana kukupangitsani kudzikayikira.

Kugwira ntchito ndi katswiri wazamaganizidwe ndibwino, koma kutsegula kwa mnzanu kapena bwenzi kungathandizenso. Simuyenera kugawana chilichonse. Nthawi zina ngakhale kupereka chithunzi cha momwe zinthu ziliri kungakuthandizeni kufotokoza zina mwazokhumudwitsa zanu.

Nthawi yodula zomangira

Nthawi zina, kudula kulumikizana ndiko kusuntha kwabwino kwambiri, ngakhale munthu winayo sakufuna kukuvulazani. Ngati chibwenzicho chikukuvulazani koposa zabwino, ndichosankha choyenera kulingalira.

Kusankha kuti muchepetse kulumikizana ndi banja lanu, ngakhale atakuvulazani bwanji, kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Izi zimapangidwa kuti zikuthandizireni kuwongolera malingaliro anu ndi masitepe otsatira.

Samalemekeza malire anu kapena malire

Ngati simukutsimikiza kuti muchepetse kulumikizana ndi chisankho choyenera, a Fabrizio akuwonetsa koyamba kunena zosowa zanu ndikupatsa mwayi abale anu kuti awonetse kuti angalemekeze malire omwe mwawafotokozera.

Ngati sangakwanitse kuchita izi atayesa kangapo, zinthu sizingasinthe posachedwa. Kudula kulumikizana kungakhale kusunthira kwabwino kwambiri pamenepo.

Amakuzunzani mwakuthupi kapena mwamwano

Zimakhala zotetezeka kwambiri kudzipatula kwa abale anu omwe amakupweteketsani. Ngati muyenera kuwawona, yesetsani kukumana nawo pagulu nthawi zonse kapena kukhala ndi wina amene ali nanu.

Kunenedwa mawu kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kuzindikira, koma zitsanzo zina ndi izi:

• kuyitana mayina
• Manyazi amthupi
• mwano kapena kunyoza
• kutsutsa zomwe mumasankha pamoyo wanu
• kudana, kukondera, kapena kutukwana

Amakunamizirani nthawi zonse kapena amakupusitsani

Achibale omwe amanama nthawi zambiri akamanena zoona amatha kukupangitsani kukhala osakhazikika komanso osokonezeka. Mutha kukhala ndi nthawi yovuta kudalira aliyense, banja kapena wina aliyense.

Ngati mungaloze khalidweli ndipo likupitilira, kudula kulumikizana kungakhale njira yokhayo yodzitalitsira.

Kulankhula nawo kapena kuwawona kumabweretsa nkhawa

Mukakhala kuti simukusangalala kuwona banja lanu, kapena ngati kulumikizana kulikonse kumangokhalira kukhumudwa, itha kukhala nthawi yolingalira ngati kupuma kungathandize kuthana ndi vutolo.

Ngati muli ndi malingaliro ngati Nchifukwa chiyani ndikudzivutitsa? kapena Kodi ndiyenera kuwawona? kumbukirani kuti simutero khalani nawo kuwawona kapena kudziyikira nokha pachinthu chilichonse chomwe simukufuna kuthana nacho.

Kudula kulumikizana sikuyenera kukhala chisankho chokhazikika, mwina. Mutha kungofunika nthawi kuti mukhale kutali ndi vutolo.

"Koposa zonse," akutero a Fabrizio, "kumbukirani kuti muli ndi zosankha mukamauza munthu wina za poizoni."

Momwe mungayendere 'osalumikizana'

Kaya mukungofunika mtunda wosakhalitsa kapena kupumula kosatha kuchokera kwa abale am'banja lomwe lili ndi poizoni, zimathandiza kupanga mapulani pasadakhale.

Sankhani njira yanu

Kodi mumakhala otetezeka komanso omasuka kuwauza pamasom'pamaso? Ngati sichoncho, palibe cholakwika pakuimbira foni kapena kutumiza imelo. Kumbukirani, muli ndi zosankha.

Ngati munthuyo ali ndi mbiri yachiwawa, pewani kukumana ndi anthu. Mwinanso mungaganize zopezera chilolezo. Lamulo loletsa kapena loteteza lingafunikire kuti muteteze.

Konzekerani

Ganizirani kubwera ndi mfundo zazikulu zochepa zomwe mukufuna kutulutsa, kusunga zinthu mophweka mpaka kumapeto.

Ngati mwaika malire kapena malire ndipo alephera kuwalemekeza, mungatchule ngati chifukwa chachikulu chosankhira.

Mutha kuwadziwitsa kuti simukumva kukhala otetezeka, akumva, kapena kulemekezedwa m'banjamo. Mutha kungonena kuti ubalewo sugwirizana ndi thanzi lanu kapena kukwaniritsa zosowa zanu.

Fotokozani zomwe zikuchitika

Adziwitseni kuti simumalumikizana nawo kapena kuyimba foni, kuyankha mauthenga, ndi zina zambiri.

Mutha kuwafunsa kuti asalumikizane nanu, koma dziwani kuti atero. Kuletsa manambala a foni ndi mbiri yapa media media kungathandize kupewa izi.

Konzekerani momwe angathere…

Konzekerani momwe angachitire. Ngati mukudziwa momwe amayankhira munthawi zina, mutha kudziwa momwe angayankhire.

Kuphatikiza munthu wokuthandizani, monga wokondana naye kapena bwenzi lodalirika, kungakuthandizeni kuti musataye cholakwa chilichonse, manyazi, kapena kuyimbidwa mayina.

… Ndi zanu

Mukasiya kulumikizana ndi wachibale yemwe ali ndi poizoni, mutha kungomva mafunde kapena kupumula. Sizachilendo kumva chisoni, kudziimba mlandu, kapena chisoni. Khalani ndi nthawi yojambulidwa pambuyo pake kuti muzitha kudzisamalira, kaya ndikucheza ndi mnzanu wapamtima kapena kukayenda kwambiri.

Kupeza thandizo

Kukula m'mabanja opanda thanzi kapena oopsa kumatha kutipangitsa kukhala ndi zovuta zingapo pamalingaliro, pakati pa anthu, komanso m'maganizo zomwe zimapindula ndi chithandizo chamankhwala.

Mwachitsanzo, kuwongoleredwa kapena kusinthidwa kungakhudze kuthekera kwanu pakupanga zisankho zanu. Mutha kukhala ndi mantha kapena kuda nkhawa mukamapanga chisankho.

Muthanso kukhala ndi nkhawa kapena kukhumudwa. "Maubwenzi osayembekezereka kapena odana angayambitse nkhawa, pomwe maubale omwe amakupangitsani kuti musunge chakukhosi angayambitse kukhumudwa," akutero Fabrizio.

Zotsatira zina zakanthawi yayitali za poizoni pabanja zitha kuphatikiza:

• kumva kudzipatula kapena kusungulumwa
• kudzikayikira kapena kudzidalira
• Mitundu yamaubwenzi ovuta kapena osagwirizana
• kudzimva waliwongo, manyazi, kapena kudziona wopanda pake
• nkhani zophatikizira
• kupsinjika kwa posttraumatic
• nkhani zakulera

Kugwira ntchito ndi katswiri wophunzitsidwa bwino kungakuthandizeni kuti muzindikire momwe kawopsedwe kamakhudzira maubwenzi anu komanso moyo wanu. Mukazindikira izi, mutha kuyamba kuchitapo kanthu kuti mubwezeretse.

Mfundo yofunika

Mphamvu zoopsa zakubanja zimakhala zovuta kuzizindikira. Khalidwe lililonse kapena zochitika zomwe zimakupangitsani kumva kuti simukukondedwa, osafunidwa, kapena kungodzipweteka nokha mwina sizabwino.

Mabanja onse amavutika nthawi ndi nthawi, koma mamembala amakondabe, kuthandizidwa, ndi kulemekezedwa. Banja loopsa kapena losagwira ntchito, kumbali inayo, limatha kukhala losakhazikika, lovuta, komanso lodzudzulidwa, ndipo achibale omwe ali ndi poizoni atha kuvulaza kwambiri.

Ngati mwazindikira njira zakupha m'banja mwanu, lingalirani kufikira kwa wothandizira yemwe angakuthandizeni kuti muwone zotsatira za kawopsedwe ndikupatseni malangizo mukamaganizira momwe mungathetsere vutoli.