Momwe Mchiuno M'chiuno Munandiphunzitsira Kukumbatira Thupi Langa Mulimonse

Zamkati

• Chisangalalo chimenecho chinatenga pafupifupi tsiku limodzi
• Phunziro lamphamvu lodzikonda limadziwika ndi azimayi ambiri ovala mikanda
• Pazowonjezera zosavuta izi, mikanda ya m'chiuno imagwira kwambiri mphamvu

Timaphatikizapo zinthu zomwe timaganiza kuti ndizothandiza kwa owerenga athu. Ngati mutagula maulalo omwe ali patsamba lino, titha kupeza ndalama zochepa. Nayi njira yathu.

Pafupifupi chaka chapitacho, ndidayitanitsa mikanda yanga yoyamba m'chiuno. "Wokondwa" zikadakhala zopanda pake. Nthawi imeneyo, sindinadziwe kuti angamalize kundiphunzitsa - koma munthawiyo, ndinali wotsimikiza kuti chingwe cha mikanda chingandipangitse kuti ndikhale wokongola kwambiri.

Mikanda ya m'chiuno ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri kwa azikhalidwe azikhalidwe zaku Africa. Amapangidwa ndi mikanda yamagalasi pachingwe.

Ndidakumana nawo koyamba pomwe ndidaphunzira kunja ku Ghana, komwe ndi chizindikiro cha ukazi, kukhwima, komanso chidwi. Nthawi zambiri amasungidwa achinsinsi, kungoti owasankha okhawo awone. Zikhalidwe zina zaku Africa zimagwirizanitsanso mikanda ya m'chiuno ndi chonde, chitetezo, ndi matanthauzo ena.

Zaka zingapo pambuyo pake, ndidazindikira kuti mikanda ya m'chiuno idatchuka ku United States. Amayi pano amavala pazifukwa zambiri, koma kudzikongoletsa mwina ndikofala kwambiri. Kupatula apo, cholinga choyambirira cha mikanda ndi kukongola. Amakupangitsani kuyimilira ndikudzisilira nokha pakalilore, mchiuno mwadzidzidzi mutadzaza chilakolako.

Mikanda yanga m'chiuno ikafika, nthawi yomweyo ndinayimangirira m'chiuno mwanga ndikudzisilira pagalasi, ndikugwedezeka ndikuvina ndikudziyesa. Amakonda kukhala ndi zotulukapo zotere kwa anthu. Ndinawona kukongola komwe ndakhala ndikuyembekezera kwambiri.

Chisangalalo chimenecho chinatenga pafupifupi tsiku limodzi

Nditawavala usiku wonse, ndidayenera kuvomereza: mikanda yanga m'chiuno inali yaying'ono kwambiri. Mimba yanga inali itakula mwanjira inayake popeza ndinayeza moyenera chiuno changa ndisanagule. Tsopano mikanda yanga idakumba pakhungu langa. Ndinayamwa m'mimba ndikumva kukhumudwa.

Chifukwa chachiwiri chodziwika kwambiri chomwe anthu amavalira mikanda m'chiuno ndikuchepetsa. Cholinga chokhala ngati mikanda ikulunga m'chiuno mwake, amatha kuzindikira kuti mimba yawo ikukula, chifukwa chake munthu amatha kuchitapo kanthu kuti adzichepetse.

Koma sindinkafuna kuonda. Ngati pali chilichonse, ndimafuna phindu kulemera.

Mikanda yanga idakulungidwa ndikudutsa pamimba panga, ndipo nditayang'ana pagalasi, ndidazindikira kuti m'mimba mwanga mudatulukadi. Zimatero nthawi zambiri. Ndinkadana nazo ndikazindikira m'mimba mwanga pakalilore.

Ndili ndi nkhawa komanso nkhawa, ndipo chakudya ndichimodzi mwazinthu zoyamba kudzisamalira zomwe zimasowa ndikadwala.

Mikanda yanga m'chiuno itayamba kundithina, ndinamva kuipidwa ndi mimba yanga yotuluka. Komabe pamene "amakwanira," zimatanthauza kuti sindinadye zokwanira. Kulemera kwanga kumasinthasintha pafupipafupi, ndipo ndidadziwa kuti kutuluka m'mimba kwanga sikudali vuto kwenikweni pano.

Ndipo kotero, m'malo moyesera kuti ndikwaniritse mimba yanga m'chiuno mwanga, ndidagula chingwe cha extender chomwe chimandilola kusintha mikanda kuti igwirizane ndi mimba yanga. Ndimapezeka kuti ndikusintha pafupifupi tsiku lililonse, nthawi zina kangapo patsiku.

Mikanda yanga ikamasulika kwambiri, ndizokumbutsa pang'ono kuti mwina ndimalumpha chakudya. Mimba yanga ikakulanso - chabwino, ndimangotambasula chingwecho ndipo ine komabe kumva wokongola.

Mmalo mokwiya, ndakula ndikugwirizanitsa mikanda yolimbitsa m'chiuno ndikumverera kuti ndikwaniritsidwa. Ndadzidyetsa lero. Ndakhuta ndikudya.

Ngakhale mimba yanga ndi yayikulu bwanji, ndimamva bwino ndikayang'ana thupi langa pagalasi, ndipo zonsezi ndimathokoza chifukwa cha mikanda - mtundu wawo, momwe amakhalira m'chiuno mwanga, momwe amandisunthira, komanso momwe amandithandizira zimandipangitsa kumva mkati.

Zapangidwa ndi tanthauzo Malinga ndi Anita, mwini wa The Bee Stop, kapangidwe kameneka kamatchedwa "Ho'oponopono," kutanthauza "Zikomo, ndimakukondani, chonde ndikhululukireni, ndikupepesa". Mawu awa amawoneka kuti ndi ochiritsa kwambiri tikamanena tokha kapena tikamakhala ndi wina m'maganizo mwathu ndikumuuza kwa iwo.

Phunziro lamphamvu lodzikonda limadziwika ndi azimayi ambiri ovala mikanda

Inde, mikanda imadziwika kwambiri poyendetsa kunenepa. Koma mochulukira, akugwiritsidwa ntchito posangalatsa thupi m'malo mwake.

Mmodzi wojambula mkanda m'chiuno komanso mnzake wa mnzake, Ebony Baylis, wakhala akuvala mikanda ya m'chiuno pafupifupi zaka zisanu ndikuzipanga pafupifupi zitatu. Atangoyamba kumene, adakumana ndi anthu ambiri omwe amaganiza kuti mikanda ya m'chiuno ndi ya anthu akhungu okhaokha kapena anthu omwe amayesera kuonda.

“Kwa ine, kuvala mikanda m'chiuno sikunali kofananira ndi thupi langa. Ndimangokonda kukongola ndi kumverera kwa iwo, "Ebony amandiuza. “Koma ndaphunzira kudzera mwa omwe ndawapangira. Kwa iwo, zimawapangitsa kumva kukhala achigololo komanso omasuka pakhungu lawo. Amakonda kuti sizoletsedwa ndipo amatha kuzisintha kapena kuzichotsa, poyerekeza kuti ayenera kufanana ndi sitayilo imodzi kapena kukula kwake. "

Mnzanga wina, Bunny Smith, wakhala akuvala mikanda m'chiuno kwa zaka zoposa zisanu. Iye adapeza banja lake loyamba pambuyo poti kudzidalira kwake kudali kotsika.

“Nthawi zonse ndikayang'ana pagalasi ndimadziona kuti ndine wonyansa komanso wosakwanira. Ziwalo zanga zomwe zidatuluka kapena zotupa zidandipangitsa kufuna kuzidula, ”akutero.

“Mlamu wanga anandiuza kuti ndiyese mikanda ya m'chiuno, ndipo ndinkakhala pafupi ndi msika waku Africa kotero ndidapita kukagula. Kwa nthawi yoyamba, ndimakonda momwe mawonekedwe anga achikondi amawonekera. Ndipo ndimadzimva wachisangalalo, osati chifukwa choti ndinali nditangotaya thupi (yomwe inali njira yokhayo m'mbuyomu) koma chifukwa ndidawona thupi langa mwatsopano, momwe lidaliri. ”

Bianca Santini wakhala akupanga mikanda ya m'chiuno kuyambira Seputembara 2018. Adadzipangira yekha awiri, mwa zina chifukwa ogulitsa ambiri amalipiritsa zowonjezera pamitengo yotchedwa "kuphatikiza-kukula".

“Anasintha moyo wanga. Ndimadzimva kuti ndine wokonda zachiwerewere, ndimadzidalira, ndipo koposa zonse, ndimakhala womasuka, ”Bianca amandiuza.

"Nthawi zambiri ndimatenga zithunzi za 'kudzikonda' kuti ndizikumbukire kuti ndine wokongola AF ndipo ndiyenera kunena kuti mikanda ya m'chiuno yawonjezeka kuti nthawi ya 'ine' ikuwonjezeka. Iwo ali otengeka kwambiri popanda khama. Anandiyambitsanso m'njira yomwe sindinadziwe kuti ndikufunika. China chake chomwe chimandibwezera pamtima panga komanso m'mimba mwanga. ”

Bianca amapanga mikanda yamakasitomala osiyanasiyana. Ena a iwo amazigwiritsa ntchito monga momwe amachitira - kukulitsa ubale wawo ndi matupi awo. Ena, mosalephera, amawagwiritsa ntchito kuti achepetse kunenepa. Mwanjira iliyonse, cholinga chake pantchitoyo ndichofanana.

“Mikanda ya m'chiuno mwanga ndiyopangira kudzikonda komanso kudzichiritsa. Ndimawalenga ndikusunga cholinga chomwecho monga ndimapangira, ”akutero. "Nthawi zonse ndikawamva ndikamayenda tsiku lonse kapena ndikamadya kapena ndikagona ndimakumbutsidwa za cholinga changa chodzikonda ndi kudzisamalira."

"Ndikawapangira ena, ngakhale atapangidwa kuti azichepetsa, ndimakhalabe ndi cholinga chomwechi pakupanga. Ndiye chifukwa chake anthu amabwera kwa ine kudzawapanga tsopano, kuti awachiritse ndi kuwateteza. ”

Pazowonjezera zosavuta izi, mikanda ya m'chiuno imagwira kwambiri mphamvu

Thupi losintha, kukula, ndi mawonekedwe zimangobwera ndi gawo lokhala munthu. Mudzawoneka wokongola mosasamala kanthu. Ndizomwe mikanda ya m'chiuno yandiphunzitsa.

Ndidatulutsa mikanda yanga mchiuno posachedwa, chifukwa chake ndidawatumiza kwa ojambula kuti akonze (fuulani ku Bee Stop!). Pokhala wopanda mkanda kwa sabata limodzi tsopano, ndimamva kuti ndili wamaliseche, ngati gawo langa silikusowa.

Ndine wokondwa kunena, komabe, kuti maphunziro a mikanda ya m'chiwuno sanandichokere, ngakhale popanda mikanda.

Thupi langa ndi lokongola - m'mimba mwanga mukatuluka, m'chiuno mwanga mukakhala kakang'ono kwambiri, komanso mukakhala pakati. Mikanda ya m'chiuno satero pangani thupi langa lokongola. Iwo angokhala chikumbutso chokondeka, chopezeka nthawi zonse kuti ine ndiri.

Kim Wong-Shing ndi wolemba ku New Orleans. Ntchito yake imagwiritsa ntchito kukongola, thanzi, maubale, chikhalidwe cha pop, kudziwika, ndi mitu ina. Bylines mu Men's Health, HelloGiggles, Elite Daily, ndi GO Magazine. Anakulira ku Philadelphia ndipo adapita ku University of Brown. Webusayiti yake ndi kimwongshing.com.