Moyo Wanga - Vol. 5: Diane Exavier ndi Zomwe Zimatanthauza Kusamalira

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• Mafuta a Moyo a Diane:
  

Kodi zikuwoneka bwanji kusamalirana - {textend} mwamakhalidwe, moyenera, komanso mwachikondi?

Tapita kwa mphindi, koma tabwerera ndikulumpha!

Takulandilaninso ku Life Balms, mafunso angapo pazinthu - {textend} zogwirika komanso zosagwirika - {textend} zomwe zimatithandiza kupyola.

Pakukhazikitsa uku, ndimayankhula ndi wolemba ndakatulo waku Brooklyn, wolemba nkhani, wolemba zisudzo, komanso mphunzitsi, Diane Exavier. Ndinadziwana naye Diane kudzera mwa mnzake ndipo nthawi yomweyo ndinayamba kuwerenga malingaliro ake pa Twitter, kuyambira nkhani zachisangalalo zoyipa mpaka mafunso olingalira za momwe tingakhalire bwino, limodzi.

Koma ndipamene ndidayamba kusinkhasinkha za chisamaliro - {textend} makamaka, pazomwe zimatanthauza kusamalira ulusi womwe umakhudza zonse zomwe munthu amachita m'moyo wawo - {textend} ndidamumvetsetsa, komanso momwe ndimatha , kwa nthawi yoyamba.

Kwa Diane, chisamaliro sichikanatha kusudzulidwa pamakhalidwe omwe amayendetsa moyo wake. Ndipo kotero, mwachilengedwe, chisamaliro chosasunthika chidakhala gawo lalikulu.

Conundrum yofunika kuthetsedwa.

Chisamaliro chiri pazinthu zapadziko lapansi kwambiri: matupi, nthaka. - {textend} Diane Exavier

Moyo ndi wovuta.

Bukhu lake - {textend} anti-elegy "Teaches of Peaches" - {textend} limalemba izi, kutsatira kutayika kwa mphaka wake ndi dzina lomweli. Koma chilankhulo chomwe Diane amagwiritsa ntchito kuti amve chisoni komanso chisamaliro komanso malo opangira mawonekedwe zimapangitsa chisomo popanda kudzipereka.

Ndipo ndikuchezera uku pomwe timabwerera ku zoyambira ndi waluso: Chisamaliro ndi chiyani, kwenikweni? Ndipo ndichiyani chomwe, pamene zonse zanenedwa ndikuchitidwa, zimatisunga pano, kulumikizana wina ndi mnzake?

Amani Bin Shikhan: Muli bwanji, boo? Mukukhala bwanji?

Diane Exavier: Ndili bwino! Ndi HOT mu B.K., makamaka kuyesera kukhala bata ndikugwira zokwanira dzuwa lino. Muli bwanji?

AB: O, chimodzimodzi. Kutentha sikutheretu ku Toronto mwina, koma sindingadandaule. Kupanda kutero, ndili ... pafupi-pafupi. Pakhala kanthawi kovuta, sindinganame. Koma mwadutsa malingaliro anga posachedwapa - {textend} mawu anu kusamala, makamaka.

Mungayambe ndi kundiuza za ntchito yanu? Ndipo lingaliro lanu la chisamaliro?

DE: Mawu. Chinthu chotsimikizika. Ndine wojambula - {textend} wolemba, wopanga zisudzo, komanso wophunzitsa. Nthawi zina zolemba zimamveka ngati zolimbitsa thupi mu semantics, koma ndimachita chilichonse mwazinthuzi, nthawi zina limodzi, nthawi zina mosiyana. Nthawi zonse kuyesa kusonkhanitsa, komwe kumatha kuyambira pagulu mpaka pagulu.

Malingaliro anga ozungulira chisamaliro ndi chikhalidwe - {textend} mzimu - {textend} momwe ntchitoyo imagwiridwira. Ndikuganiza kuti nthawi zonse ndakhala ndikugwira ntchito mosamala, koma zangokhala zaka zingapo zapitazi pomwe ndakhala ndikutha kufotokoza chisamaliro monga mawu ndichinthu china chomwe ndikutsatira ndikuwongolera.

AB: Kodi munayamba bwanji kugwira ntchito yomwe mumagwira? Kodi ndi zochuluka motani zomwe zimatsata njira yolowera akatswiri?

DE: Mawu anga oyamba pakupanga zaluso adabwera koyamba kudzera pazowonetsa zaluso ndili mwana: kupita kusukulu kumalo osungirako zinthu zakale, nthawi yamaluso mukalasi. Ku sukulu yanga yasekondale, tinali ndi zikondwerero za Khrisimasi ndi Masika pomwe kalasi iliyonse imaphunzirira ndikuyeserera nyimbo zitatu (a Jackson 5, a Beach Boys, ngakhale Mariah Carey!) Ndikusewera gulu lakusukulu. Iwo anali chinthu chachikulu kwambiri.

Ndinali mwana wamanyazi, koma ndinkakonda kuchita zikondwererozi. Ndidakonda lingaliro la kuyeserera, kuchita, kenako kugawana. Ndipo ndikuganiza kuti zidandipatsa mwayi wokhala wokangalika kwakanthawi kochepa, kunja kwa komwe ndimatha kukhala chete.

Chifukwa chake, ndimakhala wokonda zaluso nthawi zonse. Kenako ndikudumphira kusukulu yasekondale, ndinalowa kalabu yovina komwe timayang'ana kwambiri kuvina kwamakono, ndipo aphunzitsi anga adandiuza kuti achite maphunziro aunyamata ku Whitney Museum.

Iyo inali nthawi yanga yoyamba kuwona zaluso mwaukadaulo zomwe sizinakhudzidwe ndi malingaliro a kukhala waluso. Kunali anthu m'maofesi omwe amagwira ntchito pamakompyuta ndikupanga makope ndikuchita zomwe zimawoneka ngati zothandiza. Ndinkagwira ntchito mu dipatimenti yophunzitsa ndipo zinali zomveka kwa ine, popeza ndimakonda zaluso ndi kuphunzira, uwu ukhoza kukhala ntchito yabwino.

Ndakhala ndikukopeka kwambiri ndi ukoma kuposa momwe ndimakhalira ndikukangana ... ndichinthu chowonekera: chithunzi chachikulu motsutsana ndi chaching'ono. - {textend} Diane Exavier

Chifukwa chake kulowa kwanga muukadaulo kunali ntchito yopanga zaluso. Ndipamene ndimayang'ana kwambiri pakuwongolera: chitsogozo, kukhazikika, kukhala ndi omvera.

Ndipo osakondweretsanso kutchuka kapena kutchuka.

Ndikumva kuti sindine wojambula kwambiri, makamaka chifukwa ndine mwana wamkazi wa anthu aku Haiti omwe sanabwere ku Brooklyn kuti mwana wawo adzachite "zaluso." Ngakhale pano, amayi anga amadandaula kuti sindinakhale woweruza kapena china chake chomwe chimamveka ngati "ntchito".

(Sanena loya, zomwe ndimaona kuti ndizabwino.)

AB: Chifukwa chiyani mukuganiza kuti zikunena kuti amayi anu sanena loya?

DE: Sindingathe kuyanjana (Khansa, mwana wapakatikati poleredwa, mwana wamakhalidwe abwino wa alendo, mkazi wapadziko lapansi), koma ndimamva kwambiri za chilungamo ndi chilungamo cha zinthu, ndikudziwa kuti anthu amphamvu ali osakondwera ndi chilungamo.

Ndipo mwina ndi zaka zonse zomvera kwa Sisters of Mercy, koma nthawi zonse ndakhala ndikukopeka kwambiri ndi ukoma kuposa momwe ndimakhalira ndikukangana ... ndichinthu chowonekera: chithunzi chachikulu motsutsana ndi chaching'ono.

AB: Ndimaona kugwirizana pakati pa chisamaliro ndi chilungamo kukhala kosangalatsa. Kodi mungandilankhule zambiri za izi - {textend} "mzimu" wachisamaliro, kudzipereka kwanu ku chilungamo?

DE: Ndine wophunzira woyipa kwambiri wa zisudzo (malo ophunzirira omwe ndili ndi madigiri anga onse), koma chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zisudzo zidayesapo kale ndizochita zachifundo.

Anthu amavala nkhanizi kuti zikhale mu nsapato za anthu ena. Ndipo mwina pali chiyembekezo kuti seweroli litatha, udzakhala utabwerera kumoyo wako m'thupi lako, utayimitsidwa kwakanthawi, wasinthidwa mwanjira ina.

Osati zisudzo zonse zomwe zimafuna kuchita izi, koma zambiri zimatero. (Ndipo zisudzo zambiri zimalephera izi, koma ndiye zokambirana zina zonse.)

Ndikukula ndipo dziko likuipiraipira, ndiyenera kutsutsa malingaliro anga akumvera chisoni: ndi chiyani, momwe imagwirira ntchito, momwe amagwiritsidwira ntchito. Ndipo zomwe ndazindikira nditakambirana zambiri zokhumudwitsa ndi abwenzi apamtima ndi omwe ndimagwira nawo ndikuti pali kulephera kwakukulu kwakumvera chisoni chifukwa sikokwanira.

Sikokwanira kungochita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwa maola awiri ndi theka zonse kuti magetsi abwerere kumapeto kwa chiwonetserochi ndikupita kunyumba ndili bwino osakhudzidwa kwenikweni.

Koma pamene ndasintha machitidwe anga, zokongoletsa zanga, komanso zokonda zanga zosamalirira, ndapeza kuti imafuna zambiri kwa aliyense: opanga, ochita zisudzo, omvera, ngakhale opanga.

Ndi chisamaliro, si malingaliro anzeru chabe a "moyo" kapena "chidziwitso" omwe ali pachiwopsezo. Chisamaliro chiri pazinthu zapadziko lapansi kwambiri: matupi, nthaka. Pali zotsatira zaposachedwa kwambiri ndi thupi. Ndipo ngati ndiyitanitsa thupi kuti lidziwike, kodi chimafunika chiani?

Ndimapita kunyumba, choyambirira. Ndipamene ndidakumana ndi chisamaliro chomwe chandipangitsa kuti ndizitha kuyankhulapo, ndikulankhula za chilichonse. - {textend} Diane Exavier

Chisamaliro si lingaliro. Akudyetsa anthu, akupereka malo okhala. Ndizokhudza. Ndizosiyana ndi kukhala omasuka pamene imayesa kupereka chitonthozo.

Chisamaliro ndi cha kukulitsa ndikusamalira.

Sikuti ndimalingaliro (monga mwanzeru). Ndikutanthauza, tawonani komwe "lingaliro" latipezera ife. Anthu awa ndi antics awo a Chidziwitso! Ndi zakutchire.

AB: Kotero mu "kukulitsa ndi kusamalira," mumapezeka bwanji kuti mukukhazikitsanso magawo ena azisamaliro? Kodi mumatanthauzira bwanji zamakhalidwe anu chisamaliro, titero?

DE: Chabwino, ndine wokondwa kuti mwafunsa izi. Chifukwa ichi ndichachikulu, chinthu chachikulu kwa ine: ntchito yamoyo komanso kulemba - {textend} izi kuyesera kufotokoza momwe ndimasamalirira.

Ndimapita kunyumba, choyambirira. Ndipamene ndidakumana ndi chisamaliro chomwe chandipangitsa kuti ndizitha kuyankhulapo, ndikulankhula za chilichonse.

Ndipo kotero, tanthauzo lamakhalidwe anga osamalira limayamba ndi ubale. Inde! Makhalidwe abwino ndikusaka ubale.

Zachidziwikire, ndimaganizira za banja langa choyamba - {textend} anthu omwe ndinali ndi mwayi wokhala nawo woyang'anira chisamaliro changa. Pambuyo pake, abwenzi, ogwira nawo ntchito, ngakhale omwe akudziwa kwakanthawi. Ndinu ndani? Mukuchokera kuti? Mukutani kuno? Awa ndi mafunso.

Momwe mayankho amafananira kapena kusiyanasiyana, ndimatha kudziwa kuchuluka kwa ubale.

Mukudziwa, nthawi zambiri ndimamva kusamalidwa kwambiri ndikamalimidwa ndikukula. - {textend} Diane Exavier

Chifukwa chake mutha kukhala banja langa kapena simungakhale banja langa. Ndizabwino. Koma ngati tiyankhira mafunsowa pamwamba, titha kuvomerezana zaumunthu wathu ndikuwuyendetsa kapena kuyenda limodzi.

Ndiyenera kulembetsa thupi lako kuti ndi laumunthu komanso labwino. Kotero kuti ngakhale tidzakhalabe alendo, padzakhala chisamaliro china. Kupatsa kumaseweranso. Komanso kuzindikira.

AB: Mmmmm.

DE: Pali mawu achi Haiti, Moutn mounn se mounn, amuna onse mounn pa menm. Zikutanthauza "Anthu onse ndi anthu, koma sianthu onse omwe ali ofanana." Ndikumva ngati uwu ndiye mutu wa zamakhalidwe abwino.

Koma ziyenera kusintha momwe mafunso omwewo amagwiritsidwira ntchito kupolisi.

AB: Mukutanthauza chiyani pamenepa?

DE: "Ndinu ndani? Mukuchokera kuti? Mukutani kuno?" Awa ndi mafunso anga pamene akutsegulira kuthekera kokhudzana ndi anthu.

Koma awa ndi mafunso omwewo omwe amapangidwa ndi anthu odzipereka ku zoyera, ufumu, ndi kuthamangitsidwa ngati njira yotsekera zitseko ndikupanga malire. Chifukwa chake chidwi chomwe chimayang'ana kuzindikiritsa [kwapakati pa gulu] chimasandulika chiwopsezo [ikachoka m'bwaloli].

AB: Ndi liti pamene mumaona kuti amakusamalirani kwambiri?

DE: Ndiroleni ine ndilowe mu malingaliro anga.

AB: Kwambiri zoyipa zanga.

DE: Mukudziwa, nthawi zambiri ndimamva kusamalidwa kwambiri ndikamalimidwa ndikukula.

Chifukwa chake wina akandiphikira chakudya kapena amachita kanthu kakang'ono kuti ndikhalitse pansi kapena kunditonthoza, zimandidabwitsa chifukwa ndimakhala munthu wosakwanira. Ndipo sindimakonda kupempha thandizo. Koma ndikathandizidwa popanda ngakhale kupeza mimbayo kuti ndiyipemphe. Samalani!

Chifukwa zikutanthauza kuti wina wakhala akundiyang'ana komanso kundifunafuna.

Ndimangowona [amayi anga] akupereka ndikupereka, ndipo ndikuganiza kuti zidakhudza momwe ndimawonera chisamaliro ngati chinthu chomwe sichingagulitsidwe koma chinthu chomwe chili ndi malamulo ake. - {textend} Amani Bin Shikhan

Komanso, kupempha thandizo - {textend} ichi ndichinthu chomwe ndikuyesera kuti ndigwirepo!

Sindimasangalatsidwa ndi chisamaliro changa - {textend} sikuti sindine woyenera. Ndikungodziwa kuti ndikusamalidwa mokwanira ndipo chisamaliro china chikadzafika, ndidzakhala woyamikira kwambiri.

Ndipo ndimapeza kwenikweni wokondwa ndikawona chisamaliro chikupita kudziko lapansi popanda chitsimikizo cha zochitika zenizeni. Wina akachita kanthu kakang'ono: kugwira chitseko, kusambira MetroCard, kunyamula matumba, kupereka malangizo.

Palibe chitsimikizo pamenepo, sichoncho? Inu simumapeza kalikonse ka izo. Ndipo komabe! Zimamveka ngati chizolowezi chachiyembekezo kuti winawake adzakuchitirani zomwezo. Ndipo tikusowa zozizwitsa zosaoneka izi. Ndi momwe mzimu umagwirira ntchito!

Mwina ndichifukwa chake sindimakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kudzisamalira ndekha. Ndikungo ... know - {textend} trust - {textend} kuti ndisamaliridwa chifukwa ndimayesetsa kusamalira - {textend} to tend to - {textend} zinthu zondizungulira tsiku lililonse.

Ndipo chifukwa Ndawona anthu ena ambiri akusamala, osawoneka monga momwe nthawi zina amatha kukhala, moyo wanga wonse. Ndikulingalira ndicho chikhulupiriro.

AB: Ndizopenga kwambiri chifukwa kamphindi kotsiriza kamamveka chimodzimodzi ngati amayi anga. Ndendende. Ndipo zimandipangitsa misala chifukwa sindinathe kuwona chithunzi chachikulu cha chisamaliro chake.

Ndimangomuwona akupereka ndikupereka, ndipo ndikuganiza kuti zidakhudza kwambiri momwe ndimawonera chisamaliro ngati chinthu chomwe sichingogulitsa koma chinthu chomwe chili ndi malamulo ake, nawonso - {textend} komanso ngati munthu yemwe nthawi zambiri amadzimva kuti "sakusamalidwa" mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, kupanga zovuta pamzerewu ndizovuta, chifukwa zimawoneka ngati ndikutaya chithunzi chokulirapo posaka zopambana zazing'ono.

Komano, izi zimabweretsa machitidwe azisamaliro, machitidwe ake ndi magwiridwe ake: Kodi ndizongoseweretsa chabe? Kodi ndikuteteza? Ndi chiyani? Ndiye ndimadzipeza ndekha kubwerera pa square one.

Ndimachita chidwi ndi mtundu wanu wamaganizidwe chisamaliro pachifukwa chimenecho.

DE: Zolimba komanso nthawi zonse. Ndakhala pano ndikuponya maso anga pakumvetsetsa kwanga kwa chisamaliro monga ndidatchulira dzina chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti ndi chowonadi ngakhale sindimamva.

Nthawi zonse amakhala amayi athu, sichoncho?

AB: Nthawi zonse. Nthawi zonse, nthawi zonse, nthawi zonse.

DE: Zolankhula zenizeni, ndine wosungulumwa kwambiri. Nthawizonse zakhala. Ndili mwana, ndinkangokhala phee kwa maola ambiri. Nthawi zina pamakhala mtendere. Koma nthawi zambiri, ndimasungulumwa.

Nthawi zonse ndimamva ngati pali dzenje laphanga mkati mwanga. Ndipo ndimakhala nawo. Ndazolowera. Nthawi zina zimawonekera ndipo zimangokhala kwa ena.

Ndipo musandipangitse kuyamba kuwonera amayi anga akusamalira ndi chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro - {textend} perekani ndi kupereka ndikupatsanso, monga mwanenera - {textend} ndikukhala obwerezabwereza! Koma nthawi zonse amadzuka kuti aperekenso. Sindikumvetsa.

Koma ndichithunzi chachikulu ... kapena njira ina yakumvetsetsa komanso kuwona nthawi. Sanapereke chifukwa cha zopambana zazing'ono. Uku sikopambana kwenikweni.

Ndikuganiza kuti china chake chimachitika mukakumana ndi thupi ... kuti kufikira wina, pali malire omwe amapangidwa pakati pa thupi.

Ndipo ndikuganiza kuti ndi nthawi yomwe amayang'ana, ndipamene chipambano chimakhala.

Kotero iyo si miniti, ola, sabata, miyezi ingapo, ngakhale chaka. Kudalira kuti nthawi ya winawake ichitidwe bwino. Ndiwo "utali wautali" weniweni wa chilungamo kapena chilichonse chopanda pake. Koma simungafikire kumeneko ngati simukufuna kugwira ntchito molimbika pakadali pano.

AB: Ubongo wanga umayamba gummy kuganizira izi zoyipa. Zonse ndi zochuluka komanso zosakwanira ndipo zina ndizofulumira. Koma ndikumverera kuti ndinu: mwana wosungulumwa. Zomwezo, zomwezo, zomwezo. Komabe chimodzimodzi.

Ndikungoganiza za ulusi womwe ndinawerenga tsiku lina. Tsambalo lidati: "Monga momwe ndimamvera nthawi zambiri ndimagwiritsa ntchito thupi langa, mawu anga, kupenyetsetsa kwanga ndi zina mwanjira yomwe ndikuyembekeza kuti idzafika zakale za munthuyo."

Zimangondigunda nthawi zonse - {textend} ndizovuta kusamalira ndi kusamalira m'njira zomwe zimakhudza osati kungotipangitsa kumva kuti tachita zokwanira. Kudziwa nthawi yosamalira sikokwanira ndikudziwa nthawi yoti mukankhire zambiri kapena zilizonse. Zonse ndi ... zopanda umboni.

Zonsezi ndikuti, malingaliro anu amathandizira kutambasula malingaliro amenewo kwa ine za chisamaliro chotani - {textend} chomwe kupatulika ndi ntchito yake kuli.

DE: Chifundo. Ndiye kuti, kupambana kwanga kwakukulu ndikulakwitsa kwanga kwakukulu.

Nthawi zonse ndimayesetsa kuyika thupi langa panjira ya wina ndikuyembekeza kuti nthawi idzafika ndikuti nditha kukwaniritsa zomwe adachita kale kapena atha kufikira zakale komanso zapano, kutengera mbiriyo, kupita mtsogolo.

Kodi kugwiritsa ntchito [chisamaliro] ndi chiyani, ngati zenizeni, zogwiritsa ntchito? Ndizovuta, kotero, ndizovuta kwambiri.

AB: Ndizoti sindingathe kugwedeza malingaliro kuti ndichinthu chomwe chiri ... chofunikira kwa ine. Osati kukuyankhulirani, koma zimamverera ngati momwemonso.

DE: Inde! Ndikulemba dzulo ndipo mawu okhawo omwe ndimaganiza kuti ndikufuna kufotokoza izi anali "ofunikira."

AB: Zikomo kwambiri chifukwa cha ichi - {textend} ya nthawi yanu, momwe mumaonera. Sindingathe kudikira kuti anthu awerenge iyi.

DE: Zikomo kwambiri, kwambiri chifukwa chofikira komanso kulemba komanso kuyesa komanso kusamalira tsiku lililonse lopweteka.

AB: Mtsikana! Inunso! Ndimachita mantha ndikutali, nthawi zonse.

Mafuta a Moyo a Diane:

1. Kuyenda ndi madzi: Simungalumikizane kwenikweni ndi madzi, koma ndasokoneza madzi omwe ndimamwa ndi 200% nthawi yotentha ndipo nkhope ikusangalala. Ndimakondanso ndipo ndimayenera kuyenda maulendo angapo. Ndiwo mafuta ofunikira kwambiri.
2. Chisamaliro chakhungu: Ndili ndi khungu lopaka mafuta kwambiri. Ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito mzere wa Ole Henriksen Balance - {textend} choyeretsera gel ndi hydrator - {textend} kwa chaka chimodzi ndi theka ndipo zimathandizidwadi ndi kuphulika, kutsekeka kwa ma pores, ndikuwongolera mafuta. Sauna scrub yochokera pamzere womwewo imatenthetsa mukamaigwiritsa ntchito pankhope yanu ndipo ili ngati, "ooh la la!" Chingwechi ndichokwera mtengo kwambiri, koma chimatenga nthawi yayitali ndipo tsamba la Ole Henriksen limakhala logulitsa nthawi zonse. Komanso, ali ndi chida choyeserera chotsika mtengo chomwe chingakutengereni pafupifupi miyezi itatu, chokwanira kudziwa ngati chikukuthandizani.
3. Mabuku: Posachedwa, "Abale Osamukira" wolemba Patrick Chamoiseau, "Mu Wake: On Blackness and Being" wolemba Christina Sharpe, ndi "black maria" wolemba Aracelis Girmay.

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