Zinthu 5 Zomwe Ndidaphunzira Zokhudza Kupeza Chibwenzi ndi Mabwenzi Nditasiya Mowa

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• Anthu ali ndi mafunso opusa ambiri.
• Kukhala pachibwenzi popanda mowa sikovuta.
• Mukatsanzikana ndi anzanu.
• Mutha kupindula kwambiri.
• Khungu lanu mwina liziwoneka lodabwitsa.
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Ndikauza anthu kuti ndidasamukira ku New York City kuti ndikhale wolemba wanthawi zonse, ndikuganiza kuti amaganiza kuti ndine Carrie Bradshaw IRL. Osadandaula kuti nditangoyamba kusuntha (werengani: ndanyamula masutikesi awiri akukwera masitepe anayi), sindinkagonana ndi ma dudes (osatinso m'modzi mwa anthu apamwamba a Manhattan), ndili ndi zaka khumi kuposa wolemba wongopeka , ndipo sindinamwe mowa kuyambira nthawi yanga yoyamba kumene ku koleji. Palibe cosmopolitans kwa ine, zikomo.

Nkhani yanga ya mowa ndi sewero lochepa. Ndamwa mwina maulendo khumi ndi awiri mmoyo wanga ndipo, mwachidule, sindimakonda. Sindimakonda momwe zimandipangitsira kumva kapena momwe zimakondera, ndipo sindimakonda momwe mowa umandipangitsira kuti ndichepetse miyezo yanga, yanga komanso ya ena. (Ndicho chifukwa chimodzi chomwe anthu ambiri oganiza bwino athanzi.)

Pomwe chilumba cha Manhattan chimatha kulumikizidwa nthawi zonse Kugonana ndi Mzinda (komanso mosemphanitsa), moyo wanga ndi New York ndi zakumwa zochepa zapinki ndi zidendene, komanso seltzer ndi Metcons (CrossFit anyamata, ngati mukuwerenga izi, moni!). Vuto ndiloti, chikhalidwe cha moyo wa New York City chimakhalabe chodabwitsa monga momwe HBO imadziwonetsera yokha.

Monga msungwana wosaganiza bwino ndikukhala m’dziko lotayirira, ndaphunzira zinthu zambiri zokhudza ineyo, kukhala ndi chibwenzi, kupeza mabwenzi, ndipo, pamapeto pake, thanzi langa. Apa, kuyang'ana mkati momwe zimakhalira kukhala munthu wodzisunga pa bar.

Anthu ali ndi mafunso opusa ambiri.

Kodi mumamasuka bwanji?Ndiye mumatani ngati wina aliyense akumwa?Mukusangalala bwanji? Ndipo wokondedwa wanga (ugh): Inunso simusuta udzu? Ndiye mumapanga cocaine? Mndandanda wa zopusa zomwe ndimamva-makamaka pamene mowa ndi ntchito yaikulu-ndi yaitali, koma malingaliro ambiri ndi mafunso amatsatira mutuwu. (BTW, ndichifukwa chake ubongo wanu umati inde kwa chakumwa chachiwiri.)

Sindinayambe ndasankhapo zosankha zanga ndikukayikira ngati chisankho changa chosamwa (chisankho chokha chomwe chayandikira ndi nthawi yomwe ndidabwerera kumoyo wanga weniweni a Big atagona ndi mzanga, koma iyi ndi nkhani ina).

Poyamba, ndimamva kuti ndiyenera kufotokozera mwatsatanetsatane aliyense amene adafunsa. Tsopano, nthawi zambiri ndimangomwetulira kapena kupereka yankho la liwu limodzi kapena awiri. Nthawi zina, wina amangonena za zovuta zawo ndikulakalaka kusiya mowa, ndipo pamapeto pake timakhala ndi zokambirana zosangalatsa za momwe mowa umathandizira pazochitika zathu zapano. (Nawa kalozera wathunthu wamomwe mungalekerere kumwa mowa). Koma nthawi zambiri, ndimaseka funsoli ndipo aliyense amapitiliza ndi madzulo awo a sip-sip-schmooze.

Kwa gulu lililonse la anzanga pantchito yanga yamoyo, masewera olimbitsa thupi, sekondale, koleji, ndi zina zambiri - panali nthawi yomwe aliyense amayenera kuzolowera kuti sindimamwa (ndikufunsa mafunso opusa). Patha zaka pafupifupi zisanu ndamwa, ndipo tsopano palibe abwenzi anga apamtima (kapena ngakhale omwe ndimadziwana nawo) omwe amandiyankha ngati sindimamwa - ndi alendo okha omwe amafunsa. M'malo mwake, abwenzi anga ambiri andigulira maphukusi asanu ndi limodzi a LaCroix ngati akuchita phwando. Achimwemwe kwa abwenzi oganiza bwino.

Kukhala pachibwenzi popanda mowa sikovuta.

Ndiuzeni pali mzere wodziwika bwino wonyamula kuposa "Tiyeni tigwire chakumwa" ndipo, ndikuwuzani kuti mukunama. Mowa ndi "munthu" wachitatu pazibwenzi zambiri komanso zogonana.

Ngati kumwa ndizochita zomwe zimabweretsa ziyembekezo zachikondi pamodzi komanso njira yachiwerewere yochuluka, kodi ndizotheka kukopana, kuchita zibwenzi, ndi kugona popanda izi? Zamgululi atha kunena kuti ayi, koma ndikuti inde!

Chibwenzi changa chomaliza Ben * anali wosamwa mowa mwauchidakwa-ndipo chinali chifukwa chachikulu chomwe chibwenzi chathu chidakhalapo bola. Titalekana, ndinayambiranso chibwenzi ndipo ndinapeza kuti kukopana ndi chibwenzi popanda mowa ndikosangalatsa (ndipo ndizotheka!).M'malo mokumana ndi omwe angafune kukhala pabalaza, ndimakumana nawo pa bokosi langa la CrossFit, kalasi ya yoga, kapena malo ogulitsira mabuku (chabwino, chomalizachi sichinachitikebe, koma ndikuyesera ~ kuwonetsera ~ izo). Ndimakumana nawo kudzera pa anzanga, masewera usiku, kapena zochitika zantchito. (Zogwirizana: Ndidayesa Kutenga Amuna Ku Gym Ndipo Sizinali Zovuta Zonse)

Ndikapeza "tizimwa zakumwa" ndikamayang'ana mapulogalamu azibwenzi, ndingonena kuti sindikumwa mowa pakadali pano ndikupangira malo ena oti ndikomanirane. Ndipo pomwe ma dudes sali pansi ndi pulani yanga yopanda mowa (yomwe yachitika kawiri kokha)? Zikomo, lotsatira.

Ndakumanapo ndi zokongola za ma smoothies m'malo mwa ma margs, tsiku lochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kapena malo odyera omwe ali ndi magulu azosewerera pamasewera. Pitilizani, ndiuzeni tsiku loyamba, lachiwiri, ndi lachitatu labwino. Ndidikila.

Mukatsanzikana ndi anzanu.

Pa mizere yonse yachiwonetsero, yomwe imagwirizana kwambiri ndi moyo wanga ndi mphamvu ya mabwenzi anga achikazi. Nditasiya kumwa, anzanga ena sanasangalale kapena sanamvetse-ndipo ubalewo unayamba. Zimenezi zinali dalitso chifukwa zinandithandiza kudziwa kuti ndani anali anzanga enieni. Chidwi changa chodziŵika bwino chinali ngati fyuluta yapamwamba ya mabwenzi anga. (BTW, Nazi zomwe azimayi achichepere amafunikira kudziwa zauchidakwa.)

Chofunika koposa, kusamwa sikunalandire gulu lowoneka bwino la azimayi m'moyo wanga (ndinanena kuti andigulira LaCroix?!). Kwa zaka zitatu zapitazi ndikukhala ku New York, ndakhazikitsa gulu la anzanga omwe akusangalala kutuluka monga akukhalamo. Zachidziwikire, nthawi zina timapitabe kumalo omwera mowa ndi kumakalabu (ndipo, inde, ndipita). Koma nthawi zambiri timakhala ndikuwonera Anatomy ya Grey kubweretsanso, kuyitanitsa chakudya cha ku Thailand, ndi miseche. (Ndipo sikuti ife-atsikana-usiku-okha ndiomwe timachita.)

Mutha kupindula kwambiri.

Sindine katswiri wothamanga, koma ndimagwira maganyu ku CrossFit, ndipo masiku ambiri mumandiphunzitsa maola awiri kapena atatu patsiku. Sindingathe kuwerengera ndendende ndili wamphamvu kwambiri kapena wamtima wathanzi kuposa momwe ndingakhalire ndikamwa. Koma chomwe ndikudziwa ndi chakuti kutaya madzi m'thupi kapena kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa sikunandisokoneze luso langa lochita masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena kupereka zonse ku WOD. Ndipo ndasintha msanga kwambiri kuposa othamanga ena omwe anali m'bokosi langa omwe adayamba CrossFit mkati mwa miyezi iwiri kuchokera ine. (Majini, maphunziro, kapena kuledzera? Sindikudziwa, koma ndivomereza.) Akatswiri amavomereza kuti mudzakhala olimba kwambiri mukapanda kumwa. (Onani: Kodi Mowa Ungamwe Wambiri Bwanji Musanayambe Kugonana Ndi Moyo Wanu?)

Khungu lanu mwina liziwoneka lodabwitsa.

M’zondichitikira zanga, kusamwa kwandipulumutsa ku matenda ambiri apakhungu. Sindine wokongola kukongola, koma khungu langa limakhala lowala kwambiri komanso lofanana kwambiri ndi la anzanga omwe amamwa. Zowonadi, ndimakhala ndi ziphuphu nthawi zina, koma kwakukulu, khungu langa limawonekera.

Ndidafunsa dotolo ngati chidwi chofuna kudziwa mochenjera chinali matsenga opulumutsa khungu ndipo ndikapeza china chake: "Mowa umasokoneza khungu lanu, chifukwa chake anthu omwe amamwa mowa amakhala ndi khungu lomwe limawoneka louma komanso lakwinyika poyerekeza ndi omwe samamwa, "atero a Anthony Youn, MD, FACS, dokotala wodziwika bwino wa pulasitiki. "Kulekerera mowa kumatha kuchotsa izi ndipo kumathandizanso kuti khungu lanu liwoneke lonyowa kwambiri. Kuphatikizanso apo, kuchotsa mowa kumatha kuchepetsa kutupa ndikupangitsa khungu lanu kuti liziwoneka lofiira, losasangalatsa, komanso lokalamba."

Mfundo yofunika? Pali maubwino ambiri azaumoyo kusiya kumwa mowa kwakanthawi kapena zina-ndipo ndi oyenera machesi aliwonse otayika, abwenzi akale, kapena FOMO oledzera.

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