Kodi Polysexual Amatanthauza Chiyani?

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• Kodi Polysexual Imatanthauza Chiyani?
• Polysexual vs.Pansexual, Omnisexual, ndi Bisexual
• Polyamory vs. Polysexual
• Kufufuza Kugonana Kwa Amuna Kapena Akazi Okhaokha
• Onaninso za

Kwa iwo omwe samatsatira maubwenzi apabanja, okonda amuna okhaokha, ndi nthawi yabwino kukhala ndi moyo. Lingaliro lachiwerewere loyendetsa masewerawa silatsopano, popeza adachita izi bola anthu adakhalapo padziko lapansi, koma anthu amakono afika pamalo pomwe, ngati mungafune, mutha kuyika dzina lolondola pazogonana zilizonse kapena jenda.

Mibadwo yam'mbuyomu sinali ndi mwayi wofanana. Ngakhale kuti mawuwa adakhalako kwakanthawi, zolemba zambiri sizinapeze choyimira kapena ulemu womwe amayenera - mwachitsanzo, kutenga amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mwachitsanzo, zomwe sizimadziwika kwenikweni kwa anthu mpaka Miley Cyrus atadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha mu 2015. The Zomwezo zitha kunenedwa za polysexual, mawu omwe adagwiritsidwa ntchito koyamba m'ma 1920s, koma sanafikire pagulu mpaka 1974, pomwe Noel Coppage adalembera nkhani. Ndemanga ya Stereo m'mene amatchula David Bowie, pakati pa ena, kukhala polysexual. Panthawiyo, Coppage adalimbikitsa mawuwa ndi asexual, bisexual, and pansexual, zomwe sizolondola kwenikweni.

Ndiye kodi kumatanthauza chiyani kukhala amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kwenikweni? Nazi zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa.

Kodi Polysexual Imatanthauza Chiyani?

Ngati mumadziwa zambiri - kapena kokha ozolowereka - ndi mawu oti "polyamory," zitha kuwoneka ngati zikuyendera limodzi ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma sichoncho. Choyamba ndi mtundu wa zibwenzi zosagwirizana ndi mwamuna mmodzi pomwe wina amachita nawo maubwenzi angapo, pomwe omalizawo amakhala okonda kugonana.

"Monga momwe zilili ndi malingaliro onse azakugonana komanso kudziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi, tanthauzo lenileni [la anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha] limatha kusiyanasiyana kutengera yemwe akumasulira ndi / kapena kudzizindikiritsa yekha," akutero wophunzitsa zachiwerewere Gabrielle Kassel, wothandizana naye ku Bad In Bed: Phunziro la Queer Sex Podcast. Mawu akuti 'poly' amatanthauza zambiri kapena zambiri. Choncho, nthawi zambiri, munthu amene ali ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amavomereza kuti ali ndi mwayi wokondana, kugonana, ndi / kapena kutengeka maganizo ndi amuna ndi akazi osiyanasiyana."

Palinso mbendera ya polysexual, yomwe ili ndi mikwingwirima itatu yopingasa: pinki, yobiriwira, ndi yabuluu, yochokera pamwamba mpaka pansi.

Momwe ma polysexual amawonekera samayikidwa mwala. Zimasiyana pamunthu ndi munthu, kutengera omwe amakopeka, chomwe ndichinthu chomwe chingasinthe pakapita nthawi. "Munthu m'modzi wogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kukopeka ndi amuna, anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, komanso amuna," akutero Kassel. "Pomwe wina akhoza kukopeka ndi amuna, akazi, komanso anthu omwe sanachite chilichonse." (Onani: Zomwe Zimatanthawuza Kukhala Osakhala Binary)

Mwanjira ina, palibe njira imodzi yokhalira polysexual.

Polysexual vs.Pansexual, Omnisexual, ndi Bisexual

Kungakhale kovuta kumvetsetsa kusiyana pakati pa mawuwa. Ngakhale kuti onse ndi okonda kugonana ndipo amatha kugawana zofanana - mwachitsanzo, onse amafotokoza zogonana zomwe zikutanthauza kuti munthu amakopeka ndi amuna awiri kapena awiri - amakhalabe osiyana.

Okonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha: Anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi zambiri amayang'ana malingaliro awo okhudzana ndi kugonana pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso amuna kapena akazi anzawo, akutero Tiana GlittersaurusRex, mphunzitsi wa polyamorous ndi womenyera ufulu, komanso woyambitsa nawo buku la The Sex Work Survival Guide. Bisexuality imatha kuwonedwa ngati mtundu wa polysexuality chifukwa imafotokoza kukopa kwa amuna ndi akazi ambiri.

Pansexual: Pakadali pano, "kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumatanthauza kukopeka ndi aliyense mosaganizira kuti ndi wamkazi kapena wamwamuna." Izi ndizokopa, akufotokoza Kassel, ndi za "anthu azikhalidwe zonse." Kwa iwo omwe ali pansexual, jenda silimachita nawo chidwi chawo kwa munthu. M'malo mwake, amangoyang'ana kupyola jenda, amapeza kuti kukopa kwawo kumatengera umunthu wa munthu, luntha lawo, momwe amawonera dziko lapansi, nthabwala zawo, momwe amachitira ndi anthu, ndi mbali zina zakukhala munthu akugawana Dzikoli ndi anthu ena. anthu. Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumasiyana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha chifukwa anthu omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kukopeka ndi ena - koma osati onse - zosonyeza kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndipo atha kupangitsa kuti mawuwo akhale okopa poyerekeza ndi kukopeka ndi wina posatengera kuti ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi. (Zogwirizana: Nthawi ya 'Schitt's Creek' Yomwe Inapangitsa Emily Hampshire Kuzindikira Kuti anali Pansexual)

Amuna ndi akazi okhaokha: Ngakhale ndizosiyana, omnisexual (dzina loyambirira "omni" lotanthauza "onse"), akadali ofanana ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Pomwe pali kusiyana pazikhalidwe ziwirizi "chifukwa chodziwitsa amuna kapena akazi anzawo, mosiyana ndi khungu," akutero GlittersaurusRex. Ndiko kuzindikira kwa amuna ndi akazi komwe kumalekanitsa kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kwambiri. Ndipo kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi kosiyana ndi kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha chifukwa anthu omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kukopeka ndi amuna ambiri - koma osati onse.

Polyamory vs. Polysexual

Inde, choyambirira "poly" chimasungabe tanthauzo la "ambiri" ngakhale mukukamba za polyamory kapena polysexuality, koma kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa ziwirizi ndikuti polyamory ndimayanjano, ndipo amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amagonana. Zogonana ndi zomwe mumakopeka nazo, pomwe zibwenzi ndi mtundu wa maubwenzi omwe mumakonda kuchita nawo.

"Wina yemwe ali ndi polyamorous amatha kukonda anthu angapo nthawi imodzi, ndipo amasankha kuchita nawo makhalidwe abwino, maubwenzi owona mtima kumene kuchita nawo, kulima, ndi kukonda anthu angapo nthawi imodzi kumaloledwa (komanso kulimbikitsidwa!)," akutero Kassel. . Aliyense, ngakhale atakhala kuti amakonda zogonana - kuphatikiza, koma osangolekerera amuna okhaokha - atha kukhala okonda zinthu zambiri. (Zokhudzana: Apa pali ubale wapolamu weniweni - ndi zomwe sizili)

Kumbali inayi, omwe ali ndi ma polysexual amatha kupezeka muubwenzi wamtundu uliwonse, chifukwa malingaliro ogonana komanso maubwenzi alibe chochita ndi wina ndi mnzake, ngakhale atakhala nthawi ndi nthawi.

"Anthu omwe amagonana ndi amuna ambiri amatha kukhala ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kukhala ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha," akutero Kassel. (Zogwirizana: Kodi Ethical Non-Monogamy, and Can It Work for You?)

Kufufuza Kugonana Kwa Amuna Kapena Akazi Okhaokha

Monga momwe katswiri aliyense wazakugonana angakuuzeni, malingaliro azakugonana samangokhala zazitali kwambiri, koma mutha kuzilowetsanso m'moyo wanu wonse. (Lingaliro ili ndi chinthu chaching'ono chotchedwa kugonana fluidity.) Zomwe mumakonda muzaka zathu za 20 sizingakhale zofanana ndi zomwe mumadziwa m'zaka zathu za m'ma 30 - ndipo zomwezo zikhoza kunenedwa ponena za chiyanjano. Pamene mukukula monga munthu, mutha kukhala ndi chidwi, zomwe mumakonda zimatha kusintha, ndipo nthawi zina zimatha kubweretsa zilakolako zina, paubwenzi komanso pamlingo wogonana. Chifukwa chake, ngati mudazindikira kale ngati china, koma mukumva kuti muyitanidwa ndi "polysexual," khalani omasuka kufufuza.

"Monga chizolowezi chilichonse chokhudzana ndi kugonana, kudzuka kwanu komanso chikhumbo chanu zimatsimikizira ngati mukugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha," akutero GlittersaurusRex. Ganizirani kuyang'ana m'mabuku ndi ma podcasts okhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, ndikutsatira ophunzitsa anzawo pazanema, kuti muphunzire zambiri ndikuwona momwe zikuwonekera.

Zachidziwikire, palibe amene amagonana kapena kugonana omwe ali abwino kuposa ena onse. Zowona, munthu amatha kugwira ntchito yabwino kwa wina, koma izi zitha kunenedwa pazinthu zambiri m'moyo. Ndi nkhani chabe, pano ndi pano, kuzindikira chomwe chiri choyenera kwa kugonana ndi zilakolako za ubale, ndikutsamira mu izo. (Werenganinso: Chifukwa Chake Ndimakana Kutchula Kugonana Kwanga)

Chisangalalo chochuluka m'moyo chimachokera ku zakugonana komanso / kapena ubale wanu, ndipo malingaliro osiyanasiyana angakupatseni njira zatsopano zosangalalira ndi kukhutitsidwa ndi kugonana. Ndizofunika kuwunika zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala ndikulola kuti musunthire chisangalalocho ngakhale mutakhala m'madzi atsopano komanso osagawika.

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