4 ProDommes Gawani Ndendende Zomwe Zili Kukhala Dominatrix IRL

Zamkati

• Kodi Dominatrix Ndi Chiyani?
• Ndani Amapita ku Professional Dominatrix?
• Ubwino Wogwira Ntchito ndi Dominatrix
• Kodi Session yokhala ndi Professional Dominatrix Ndi Chiyani?
• Kukhala Dominatrix Zimatenga (Luso!) Ntchito
• Zili Bwanji Kukhala Dominatrix?
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Kutchuka kwaEuphoria ndipoKugwirizana, ma TV awiri omwe amasonyeza kuti Dominatrix monga otchulidwa kwambiri-Kat Hernandez ndi Tiff Chester, motero-akusonyeza kuti anthu amadabwa kwambiri ndi lingaliro la Dominatrix.

Tsoka ilo, pali kutsutsa kwakukulu kwazithunzi zonse ziwiri za BDSM. Anthu ambiri amakhudzidwa chifukwa Kat ndi wazaka zazing'ono, udindo wake monga Dominatrix ndikulimbikitsa. Ena amangoyang'ana momwe adalakwiraKugwirizanaChiwonetsero ndi chilolezo ndi malire mu ubale wa D/s. Ndipo makanema onse awiriwa akuimbidwa mlandu wopititsa patsogolo anthu osowa pogonana omwe amapulumuka (makamaka ogonana).

Ichi ndichifukwa chake "simungadalire zomwe mwawona munyuzipepala za Dominatrix kuti mumvetsetse zomwe timachita, chifukwa chiyani timazichita, ndife ndani, kapena machitidwe otetezeka a BDSM amawoneka bwanji," akutero Andre Shakti, Dominatrix katswiri, wophunzitsa za kugonana, ndi mphunzitsi wapamtima.

Poganizira izi, Shakti ndi ma Dominatrices ena atatu amagawana momwe Dominatrix ilili. Apa, amafotokoza zomwe Dominatrix kwenikweni ndi, ndi zinthu ziti zomwe angachite ndi kasitomala, momwe gawo likuwonekera, komanso momwe limakhudzira miyoyo yawo yomwe si akatswiri.

Kodi Dominatrix Ndi Chiyani?

Mnzathu wabwino Merriam Webster amatanthauzira Dominatrix monga "mkazi yemwe mwakuthupi kapena m'maganizo amalamulira wokondedwa wake pakukumana ndi sadomasochistic." (Ndipo, inde, nthawi zonse amatchulidwa, monga kugwedeza mphamvu zomwe zikukhudzidwa.)

Kutanthauzira kumeneku ndikolondola, akufotokozera Swell Cat, mayi wopitilira muyeso yemwe amawunikira mwezi ngati wogwirira ntchito pa intaneti komanso Dominatrix, akuwona anthu ambiri omwe siabinagine, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, kapena anthu omwe amagwirizana ndi akazi amadziwikanso kuti Dominatrices.

Koma ngati simukudziwa "kukumana ndi sadomasochistic", tanthauzo lake ndi lothandiza monga kumenya Google kuti mudziwe ngati muli ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana. Kukumana kwachisoni ndikuti "pomwe wina amatenga nawo gawo pomvera kink ndi BDSM," akufotokoza Shakti. (Ngati mukufuna chotsitsimutsa pa BDSM, fufuzani pa BDSM Beginner Guide mwachangu, ndiye bwererani apa.)

Ndikofunikira kunena kuti pali kusiyana pakati pa moyo wa Dominatrix ndi akatswiri a Dominatrix, atero a Lola Jean, Dominatrix komanso ophunzitsa zogonana. Anthu ena amafuna kutenga udindo waukulu 24/7 - kutanthauza kuti ali ndi wina wowatumikira nthawi zonse, ngakhale kunja kwa chipinda chogona kapena ndende. Awa ndi moyo wa Dominatrices.

Kwa ena, monga omwe adafunsidwa pankhaniyi, kukhala Dominatrix ndiudindo waluso. "Mukakhala akatswiri, mumatha kuwongolera bwino kink kapena BDSM," akufotokoza Shakti. "Anthu amabwera kwa inu kuti adzapeze luso limeneli, ndipo kugulitsana ndalama kumachitika. Ndi ntchito yogonana."

Komabe, ngakhale "Dominatrix ndilo liwu lomwe mumawona pafupipafupi mumawailesi, sizimakhala mawu omwe anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito," akutero a Jean. M'malo modziwika kuti "Dominatrix," anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito mawu oti Domme kapena Dom. Kapena ProDomme/ProDomme ngati ali akatswiri. (Nkhani yonseyi yokhudza ProDommes.)

Ndani Amapita ku Professional Dominatrix?

Dziwani izi: Palibe imodzi mtundu wa kasitomala. Anthu azaka zonse, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, machitidwe, ndi mafuko atha kusankha kulemba ntchito ProDomme. (Ngakhale kuli koyenera kutchula izi chifukwa ProDommes ambiri amalipira pakati pa $200 ndi $400 pa ola, makasitomala ambiri ndi apakati kapena apamwamba).

"Makasitomala anga amayendetsa masewerawa kuchokera kwa ma CEO apamwamba, madokotala ochita opaleshoni, ndi maloya kupita kwa maanja, azimayi odziwikiratu, anthu osinthana, ndi anthu okhala ndi khola labuluu akungoyang'ana kuti afufuze ndikukulitsa chiwerewere chawo, kugonjera kwawo, ndi kulumikizana kwawo moyenera," akutero Ashley Paige, katswiri wa Dominatrix wa NYC.

Ubwino Wogwira Ntchito ndi Dominatrix

Mukudabwa kuti bwanji wina angalembetse Dominatrix? Zifukwa zosiyanasiyana. "Anthu ena amatifunafuna chifukwa adawona 'Makumi Asanu a Grey' ndipo ali ndi chidwi choyesera BDSM koyamba," akutero Shakti. Malingaliro ake, "kulemba ntchito katswiri ndi imodzi mwa njira zabwino kwambiri komanso zotetezeka zoyambira kufufuza BDSM, kinks, kapena fetishes." Izi ndichifukwa choti pali njira zabwino (r) zochitira zinthu monga chikwapu, kukwapula, kukwapula, kutsamwa, kapena kumenyedwa mbama - zonse zomwe akatswiri amadziwa, koma mnzake sangadziwe. Kuphatikiza apo, wothandizira amatha kupanga zomwe Jean amachitcha, "malo opanda chitetezo chakuthupi kuti mufufuze zokhumba zanu," momwe mnzake (makamaka mnzake wosakonda) sangakwanitse kuchita.

Anthu ena amafunafuna ProDommes kuti azisewera zongopeka zenizeni. "Nthawi zina makasitomala amakhala atalemba zolemba zonse zokhala ndi mizere yeniyeni yomwe akufuna kuti ndinene pazochitika," akutero Shakti. Kapenanso, atha kufunsa zachiwerewere. Pankhani yomaliza iyi, makasitomala adzalemba ntchito akatswiri kuti achite izi (eya, ProDommes ali ndi ukatswiri). Paige, mwachitsanzo, amakhala ndi "sadomasochism, kusintha kwa machitidwe, kupondereza mwamphamvu, kusewera kwakanthawi, komanso kulanga kwamakampani, kusewera kwamagetsi, kusewera thupi, kumenya masewera olimbitsa thupi, kusewera koyambirira, kuphunzira kuchimbudzi kwathunthu , ndi tantric kink yokhala ndi chidwi chogwiritsa ntchito mpweya ndi catharsis ... kungotchulapo ochepa. " Zina mwazophatikizapo poop, chakudya, kuwaza, kuzunza, kusewera, kuchita manyazi, kuzunza mawere, masewera azachipatala, kuzunza tambala ndi mpira, kuzunza kwamabele, kusewera, komanso kukhomerera. (Kuti mumve zambiri ~ zonsezi ~, mungafune kuwona Upangiri Wotsogolera ku Kink lolembedwa ndi Tristan Taormino ndi Barbara Carrellas kapena Decoding Kink Yanu ndi Galen Fous.)

ICYWW, makasitomala safunikira kudziwa ndendende zomwe akufuna kuyesa asanafike ku ProDomme-akatswiri atha kukuthandizani kuzindikira izi. "Ngati wina sakudziwa zomwe akufuna kuyesa, tidzakambirana za chinthu chomaliza chomwe adachita maliseche, zolaula zomwe amasangalala nazo, zomwe amaganiza, komanso zomwe akufuna kumva nthawi yayitali," akutero Jean . "Ndigwiritsa ntchito chidziwitsochi ndikupangira zomwe ndikuganiza kuti mwina zingagwirizane ndi izi, kenako tidzakambirana." (FYI, awa ndi malingaliro ofala kwambiri ogonana.)

Kodi Session yokhala ndi Professional Dominatrix Ndi Chiyani?

Nthawi zambiri, kusinthana pakati pa ProDomme ndi kasitomala kumayamba pomwe kasitomala amakambirana ndi Dominatrix mdera lawo ndikulumikizana ndi Domme omwe akuganiza kuti ndi oyenera. Kenako, awiriwo azicheza (kudzera pa imelo, foni, kapena malo ochezera) pazomwe kasitomala akufuna; ngati kuli kokwanira, amapangana nthawi. Ngati sichoncho, a Domme nthawi zambiri amatha kulumikiza kasitomala ndi akatswiri omwe angakhale oyenera, atero Shakti.

Pambuyo pake, amagwirizana malo ndi msonkhano. "Misonkhano yambiri imachitikira mchipinda cha hotelo kapena m'ndende yazamalonda pomwe muli zipinda zazing'ono zambiri," akutero a Jean. Ma Dommes ena amapita kunyumba kwa kasitomala kuti akalipire ndalama zambiri, koma nthawi zambiri pokhapokha atagwirapo ntchito limodzi," akutero (chifukwa, chitetezo).

Mphindi 5 mpaka 15 zoyambirira za gawoli zikuphatikiza kungolankhula komanso kukhala omasuka wina ndi mnzake, malinga ndi Shakti. "Ngakhale titakambirana kale zomwe zichitike, tidzakambirananso kachiwiri. Kenako tidzakambirana za thupi lawo zolemala zilizonse, kupweteka kwa minofu, kapena zopweteka zomwe zingasokoneze zomwe tikukonzekera kuchita, "akutero. "Ndiye, kasitomala adzandilipira, ndipo tikhala pamalopo." Kutalika kwa zochitika kumasiyana, koma kwa iye, nthawi zambiri zimakhala mphindi 45 mpaka 50.

China chake chomwe mungadabwe nacho ndikuti, nthawi zambiri, zochitika siziphatikiza zogonana. "Ngakhale pali zochitika zambiri zomwe zimakhala ndi chikhalidwe cha kugonana monga nkhonya kapena prostate play, Professional Dominatrices ambiri sagonana ndi makasitomala awo," akutero Paige.

Pambuyo pake, "tikhala kanthawi kochepa kuti tiwone momwe akumvera," akutero Shakti. Ndiye, ngati malowo ali ndi shawa, kasitomala angasankhe kugwiritsa ntchito. “Kenako timagwirana chanza ndikusiyana,” akutero.

Makasitomala ena amakhala ndi zongopeka zomwe "amafunikira" kuti azikhala moyo kamodzi. "Anthu omwe ndi atsopano ku BDSM amakonda kundisungitsa magawo angapo kuti titha kulowa nawo pang'onopang'ono," akutero Shakti. Anthu ena amakhala ndi maimidwe okhazikika nthawi zonse ndi ma ProDommes awo. (Zogwirizana: BDSM Yapulumutsa Ukwati Wanga Wolephera Kutha Kwa Banja)

Kukhala Dominatrix Zimatenga (Luso!) Ntchito

Pali lingaliro lolakwika kuti ntchito yogonana si ntchito "yeniyeni" (*kupukuta diso*), koma izo sizingakhale kutali ndi choonadi. "Kukhala Dominatrix kuli pafupi kwambiri kuposa kunyamula chikwapu ndikukalipira munthu," akutero Paige. Kukhala wokhoza kuchita nawo BDSM kumatanthauza kudziwa momwe mungakwapulitsire, kukwapula, kutsamwa, ndi zina zambiri popanda kuchititsa munthu kuvulaza (kapena kusagwirizana). "Ife omwe timakonda kwambiri ntchito yathu timapita ku zokambirana, kuwerenga mabuku, kufufuza, ndikukhala ndi maola odzipereka ndi maola ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi kuti aliyense athe kuyenda bwino kuposa kale - ngakhale izi zikutanthawuza kuchoka ndi (zovomerezeka). kuvulala kapena awiri, "akutero.

Ma Dominatrices amafunikanso maluso apamwamba olumikizirana. "Ndizovuta kutulutsa zidziwitso kuchokera kwa makasitomala ena, ndipo muyenera kudziwa zomwe akufuna komanso zomwe amakonda osachita ngati mukuzula mano," akutero Shakti. Mufunikanso chidziwitso champhamvu komanso kuti muzitha kuyesa mphamvu za anthu, "kuti muwathandize kumva kuti akuthandizidwa, ovomerezeka, komanso otetezeka mu gawo lonse," akutero. Makasitomala ambiri amabwera pagawo ndimanyazi kwambiri pazokonda zawo zakugonana kapena zomwe amakonda, ndipo ProDomme iyenera kuwathandiza kudzutsa malingaliro amenewo, akutero Shakti. (Ndichifukwa chake amayi ambiri akugwiritsa ntchito BDSM ngati chithandizo chamankhwala.)

O, ndipo "uyenera kukhala wothandizila wako, woyang'anira, wopanga masamba awebusayiti, wotsatsa, wopanga malonda, woyang'anira media, wolemba-wolemba, komanso wojambula / wojambula vidiyo," akuwonjezera. Inde, pali chifukwa chake ntchito yogonana imatchedwa kugonanantchito.

Koma musamawerenge molakwika: Izi sizitanthauza kuti ma Dominican onse akuyenda mu mtanda. "Pali malingaliro olakwika akuti mwina sitikhala nyumba kapena tikungoponyera mazana, koma sizowona," akutero Shakti. "Pali ochita zachiwerewere ambiri omwe ali apakati."

Zili Bwanji Kukhala Dominatrix?

Ndizosiyana kwambiri kuposaKugwirizana kapenaEuphoria mwina inu mukhulupirire. Pongoyambira, ziwonetserozi zitha kuwonetsa kuti ProDommes sangakhale mumayanjano athanzi / achikondi. Kwenikweni, ndi zabodza. "Ambiri aife timatha kusunga maubwenzi kunja kwa ntchito yathu!" akutero Jean. "Inde, nthawi zina ntchito yathu imapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta chifukwa timafuna okondedwa omwe amamvetsetsa ndikuthandizira ntchito yathu, koma ndizotheka." Ngakhale nthawi zina ma ProDommes amakhalanso ma Dommes muubwenzi wawo wachikondi / wogonana IRL, "ena amakhala osinthika, ogonjera, kapena vanila m'moyo wawo weniweni," akuwonjezera Shakti. (Tanthauzo, angakonde kusiya ulamuliro nthawi zina kapena nthawi zonse, kapena angakonde moyo wogonana popanda kink kapena BDSM.)

Kupitilira apo, Paige amagawana kuti kukhala Professional Dominatrix kwamulemeretsa kwambiri moyo wake."Zandithandiza kupeza mphamvu zanga komanso kukhala ndekha m'njira zambiri kuposa momwe ndingathere," akutero. "Ndipo luso komanso zokumana nazo zambiri zomwe ndapeza chifukwa chokhala Dominatrix, ndatha kuzigwiritsa ntchito pazinthu zonse zamoyo wanga ... Ndine munthu wabwino yemwe amatha kukhala wofunitsitsa moyo chifukwa chokhala Dominatrix. " (Zowona: Kugonana kwa Kinky Kungakupangitseni Kukhala Osamala.)

Mfundo yofunika: "Anthu ambiri alibe mwayi wokhala zenizeni komanso zowona ndi chikhumbo chawo kwina kulikonse m'miyoyo yawo," akutero Paige. "Ngakhale, inde, kukhala Dominatrix kumatha kuphatikizira ziwonetsero zonse za zikwapu ndi maunyolo omwe mumawawona pa TV, ndizowona mtima pazokhudzana, kulumikizana, ndikupanga catharsis. China chake chomwe timafunikira zambiri mdziko lamisala lino," akutero. Zowona zimenezo.

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