Okondedwa Makolo, kuda nkhawa ndi ana ndi vuto lalikulu

Zamkati

• Kodi ana ambiri akukhala ndi nkhawa masiku ano?
• Nchifukwa chiyani ana ali ndi nkhawa?
• Kuthandiza mwana wanu kuthana ndi vuto la nkhawa
• Thandizani ndi nkhawa
  

Holly, * wopanga zida ku Austin, Texas, anali ndi vuto la postpartum ndi mwana wake woyamba, Fiona, yemwe tsopano ali ndi zaka 5. Masiku ano, Holly amamwa mankhwala kuti athane ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa. Koma amakhalanso ndi nkhawa kuti tsiku lina nkhawa izidzakhudza mwana wake wamkazi - komanso mwana wake wamwamuna, 3 tsopano.

Holly akufotokoza kuti Fiona akhoza kukhala wamanyazi komanso wokakamira. "[Ine] sindinali wotsimikiza ngati zinali zachilendo kuchita kwa mwana kapena china chilichonse," akutero Holly.

Ndiye, panali zomwe Holly tsopano amatcha "chochitika." Masabata angapo atayamba sukulu ya mkaka chaka chino, Fiona adavulala pabwalo la tchuthi ndipo adatumizidwa kwa namwino.

"Ndikuganiza kuti anali yekha kwa pang'ono, kenako sanaloledwe kubwerera kumapeto," akukumbukira Holly. "Ndikuganiza kuti adadzimva kuti sangasinthe, zomwe zidawonekera kuti," Sindikonda namwino. 'Kenako sankafuna kupita kusukulu, ndipo adayamba kudandaula m'malo angapo. Sankafunanso kupita kuphika, kenako kuvina. Tsiku lililonse, kupita kusukulu kunakhala kuzunza, kukuwa, kulira. Zinatenga nthawi kuti mtima wake ukhale pansi, ”akufotokoza.

Holly ndi amuna awo adalankhula ndi aphunzitsi a Fiona komanso namwino. Koma patadutsa milungu ingapo, Holly adavomereza kuti alibe zida zoyenera kuthana ndi vutoli. Anapita ndi Fiona kwa dokotala wake, yemwe adamfunsa mwanayo mafunso angapo. Kenako dokotala wa ana adalangiza amayi ake kuti: "Amakhala ndi nkhawa."

Holly adatumizidwa kwa wothandizira ndipo adayamba kupita ndi Fiona kukamuchezera sabata iliyonse. "Wothandizira anali wosangalatsa ndi mwana wathu wamkazi, ndipo anali wokondwa nane. Anandipatsa zida zothandizira kuti ndiyankhule ndi mwana wanga komanso kuti ndizimvetsetsa zomwe zimachitika, "akutero a Hollys. Holly ndi Fiona adapitiliza kuwona wothandizirayo kwa miyezi itatu, ndipo Fiona wasintha modetsa nkhawa ndi nkhawa yake, akutero a Holly.

Pokumbukira za thanzi lake laubwana, Holly akukumbukira kuti, “Ndinkadana ndi sukulu ya mkaka. Ndinalira ndikulira, ndipo gawo lina la ine limadabwa, Kodi ndachita chiyani kuti ndipange izi? Kodi adabadwa motere kapena akumupangitsa misala? ”

Kodi ana ambiri akukhala ndi nkhawa masiku ano?

Holly sali yekha. Ndidafunsa makolo angapo omwe akhala ndi nkhawa, omwe ana awo awonetsanso zodetsa nkhawa.

Kuda nkhawa kwa ana tsopano kwachulukirachulukira kuposa m'badwo wapitawu, atero a Wesley Stahler, othandiza mabanja ku Los Angeles. Iye akuwonjezera kuti pali zinthu zambiri zosiyana zomwe zimakoka, kuphatikiza ma genetics. Stahler anati: "Nthawi zambiri makolo amabwera kudzadzudzula okha chifukwa cha zomwe zimapangidwa ndi majini." Koma zenizeni, pali zambiri zomwe zimasewera. "Pali zochitika zakale, poyerekeza ndi nthawi yomwe tinali ana," akufotokoza.

Onjezerani pamenepo mikangano yokhudza magawano andale zisanachitike komanso posankhidwa, ndipo nkhawa masiku ano ikuwoneka kuti yakhala vuto lonse pabanja. Chofunikanso kwambiri kudziwa ndikuti zovuta zamavuto ndizomwe zimafala kwambiri ku United States.

Kuda nkhawa kumatanthauzidwa kuti ndikulephera kulekerera zovuta, Stahler akufotokoza, ndikuwona zinthu zomwe sizowopsa kwenikweni zowopseza. Stahler akuwonjezera kuti m'modzi mwa ana asanu ndi atatu (8) komanso wamkulu m'modzi mwa anayi ali ndi nkhawa. Kuda nkhawa kumawonekera munjira zakuthupi ndi zamaganizidwe, kuphatikiza m'mimba, kuluma misomali, kusinthasintha, komanso zovuta pakusintha.

Anthu amakumana ndi kuyambana-kapena-kuthawa poyankha komwe akuwopseza. Nthawi zambiri nkhawa mwa ana imazindikira molakwika ngati kuchepa kwa chidwi, Stahler akuti, omwe angawoneke ngati ana omwe sangathe kukhala chete. Fidget spinner, aliyense?

Rachel *, mphunzitsi wa kalasi lachinayi ku Los Angeles, akuti wawona kuwuka kwakukulu pamavuto ndi kupsinjika kwa ophunzira ake pazaka zisanu zapitazi.

Zotsatira zake, Rachel wasintha mawu ake ndi njira zothetsera mabanja.

"M'mbuyomu, ndikadagwiritsa ntchito mawu ngati amanjenje, kuda nkhawa, kutanganidwa kufotokoza momwe mwana amapwetekedwera mkalasi pamaphunziro awo kapena malingaliro awo momwe ena amawaonera. Tsopano, mawu akuti nkhawa amabweretsedwera pazokambirana ndi kholo. Makolo amafotokoza kuti mwana wawo amalira, kwa masiku, nthawi zina, kapena kukana kutenga nawo mbali, kapena kugona, ”akufotokoza motero Rachel.

Katswiri wazamisala wa ana ku Brooklyn a Genevieve Rosenbaum awonanso kuwonjezeka kwa nkhawa pakati pa makasitomala ake kwazaka zambiri. Chaka chatha, adatinso, "Ndinali ndi ana asukulu apakati, onse motsatizana, onse omwe anali ndi nkhawa yakusukulu. Onse anali ndi mantha owopsa pofunsira kusukulu yasekondale. Zimakhudza kwenikweni. Zikuwoneka kuti zikuipiraipira kwambiri kuposa momwe ndimakhalira nditayamba. ”

Nchifukwa chiyani ana ali ndi nkhawa?

Stahler akuti zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa ndizambiri: kulumikizana kwaubongo ndi kulera. Mwachidule, ubongo wina umakhala ndi nkhawa kuposa ena. Ponena za chigawo cha kulera, pali majini.

Nkhawa imabwerera ku mibadwo itatu, Stahler akuti, ndiyeno pali zitsanzo za makolo zomwe akuwonetsa ana awo, monga kugwiritsa ntchito kwambiri mankhwala opangira ziwombankhanga kapena kutanganidwa ndi majeremusi.

Kuphatikiza apo, chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa "kulera akambuku komanso kuwonongera nthawi, ana masiku ano ali ndi nthawi yocheperako - ndipo ndi momwe ana amakonzera zinthu," akuwonjezera Stahler.

Ann, mlangizi wabungwe ku Portland, Oregon, yemwe ali ndi zaka 10 ali ndi nkhawa poyendera madotolo ndi madokotala a mano komanso wachinyamata wazaka 7 yemwe ali ndi nkhawa, adayesetsa kuchepetsa izi potumiza ana ake ku Waldorf Sukulu, yopanda zofalitsa komanso nthawi yokwanira pakati pamitengo.

“Ana sakupeza nthawi yokwanira yachilengedwe. Akuwononga nthawi yambiri pazida, zomwe zimasintha mawonekedwe aubongo, ndipo dziko lathu lapansi masiku ano lakhala likuphulika nthawi zonse, "akutero Ann. "Palibe njira yomwe mwana woganizira amatha kuyendera zinthu zonse zomwe zimabwera nthawi zonse."

Ann ali ndi mbiri yazowopsa ndipo amachokera ku "mzere wautali wa anthu osazindikira," akufotokoza. Iye wagwira ntchito yochuluka pa nkhawa yake yomwe - yomwe yamuthandizanso kuyang'anira ana ake.

"Tili ana, panalibe chinenero chokhudza izi," akuwonjezera Ann. Iye wayamba, ndipo amasunga, zokambiranazo ndi ana ake kuti atsimikizire mantha awo ndikuwathandiza kuwachotsa. "Ndikudziwa kuti zimathandiza mwana wanga wamwamuna kudziwa kuti sali yekha, kuti akukumana ndi vuto lenileni [ali ndi nkhawa]. Kwa iye, ndizothandiza, "akutero.

Lauren, wolemba mafashoni ku Los Angeles, akuti adapempha ndikulandila thandizo laukadaulo kwa mwana wawo wamwamuna wazaka 10, yemwe ali ndi nkhawa. Pa 3, adadziwika kuti ali pa autism spectrum. Akuti, ngakhale atakhala kuti ndi wachilengedwe, mwana wake wamwamuna nthawi zonse amakhala akumupeza. Koma nthawi ina m'mbiri, mwina sanalandire thandizo lomwe anafunika.

Monga Ann, Lauren akufotokoza kuti nthawi zonse amakhala wosamala. "Zomwe banja langa limachita nthawi zonse, ndi izi, amapitanso patsogolo! Kuyambira pano amvetsetsa kuti izi ndizovuta, ”akutero.

Pambuyo pa chaka chatha ndi mphunzitsi watsopano, wosadziwa zambiri yemwe "adakhumudwitsa mwana wanga" - adakhala nthawi yayitali muofesi ya wamkuluyo atabisala mobwerezabwereza pansi pa tebulo lake - Banja la a Lauren lagwiritsa ntchito njira zochiritsira zosiyanasiyana, kuphatikizapo neurofeedback, komanso kusinkhasinkha komanso kusintha kwa zakudya. Mwana wake wamwamuna wasintha bwino chaka chino.

"Sindingapangitse mwana wanga kukhala wozizira, koma ndimamuphunzitsa njira zothetsera mavuto," akutero Lauren. Tsiku lina chaka chino mwana wake atataya chikwama, Lauren akukumbukira kuti zinali "ngati kuti ndanena kuti banja lake lonse laphedwa. Ndinamuuza kuti titha kupita ku Target ndikumupezera yatsopano, koma anali mwamantha. Potsirizira pake, analowa m'chipinda chake, ndi kuimba nyimbo yomwe amaikonda pa kompyuta, ndipo anatuluka nati, 'Amayi, tsopano ndikumva bwino.' ”Ichi chinali choyamba, akutero Lauren. Ndi chigonjetso.

Kuthandiza mwana wanu kuthana ndi vuto la nkhawa

Atazindikira kuti mavuto am'banja ndi osiyana, Stahler akuti pali zida zofunika kuthana nazo zomwe amalangiza kwa makolo omwe ana awo amawonetsa kapena adapeza matenda a nkhawa.

Thandizani ndi nkhawa

• Pangani miyambo ya tsiku ndi tsiku pomwe mumazindikira zomwe ana anu angathe kuchita.
• Dziwani kulimba mtima ndikuvomereza kuti ndibwino kuopa ndikupanga china chake.
• Tsimikizirani mfundo zomwe banja lanu limayendera. Mwachitsanzo, "M'banjali, timayesa zatsopano tsiku lililonse."
• Pezani nthawi yopuma tsiku lililonse. Kuphika, kuwerenga, kapena kusewera masewera. Osachita nawo nthawi yophimba.
• Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse; Stahler akuumirira kuti mphindi 20 za nonstop cardio zitha kukulitsa nkhawa.
• Funsani akatswiri ngati pakufunika kutero kuti mukambirane ngati mankhwalawa angakhale oyenera kwa mwana wanu.

Kuti mumve zambiri pakakhala nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa, pitani ku Anxcare and Depression Association of America. Nthawi zonse funani akatswiri musanayambe njira iliyonse yothandizira.

Mayina asinthidwa kuti ateteze zinsinsi za omwe amapereka.

Liz Wallace ndi wolemba komanso mkonzi waku Brooklyn yemwe adasindikizidwa posachedwa ku The Atlantic, Lenny, Domino, Architectural Digest, ndi ManRepeller. Zithunzi zilipo pa elizabethannwallace.wordpress.com.