Kodi Bodza Lanu Ndi Chiyani?

Zamkati

• "Sindingathe Kuwonda"
• "Sindidzapeza Chikondi Chenicheni"
• "Ndakalamba kwambiri"
• "Sindidzatulukanso
• Za Ngongole "
• "Sindingasinthe Yemwe Ndine"
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Kuwona mtima ikhoza kukhala njira yabwino kwambiri, koma tiyeni tikumane nazo, mathalauza a aliyense amayaka nthawi ndi nthawi. Ndipo sikuti tikungosokoneza chowonadi ndi anzathu, abale athu, ndi anzathu akuntchito-tikudzinamizanso.

Simon Rego, Psy.D., mkulu wa maphunziro a zamaganizo pa Montefiore Medical Center anati: “Ndi njira yodzitetezera m’maganizo ndi mwakuthupi kupotoza momwe timaonera zinthu nthawi ndi nthawi. "Maganizo odziwikiratuwa amatha kudzaza m'mitu yathu popanda ngakhale kudziwa kapena kulakwitsa kwawo."

Sichinthu chabwino kuyambira pomwe ofufuza a Notre Dame adapeza kuti ulusiwu ungakhudze thanzi lanu. Pakafukufuku wa akulu 110, omwe adauzidwa kuti asamaname sanangonena zowona pafupipafupi, adanenanso zakusintha kwa maubwenzi awo, kugona bwino, kupsinjika ndi chisoni, komanso kuchepa kwa mutu komanso zilonda zapakhosi.

Kuti mukhale ndi thanzi labwino komanso moyo wanu, tsimikizirani kuti mukulakwitsa mabodza asanu awa omwe timawadziwa ndi malangizo athu a akatswiri.

"Sindingathe Kuwonda"

Ngati mukuwoneka kuti simukuyang'ana kukula kwanu, mwayi wanu kulemera ndi chizindikiro cha vuto lalikulu. "Ndizovuta kunena mosabisa zomwe zimavutitsa munthu, koma ndikosavuta kupeza chakudya," akutero a Didi Zahariades, katswiri wa zamaganizidwe ku Portland. "Mutha kunamizira nokha ndikunena kuti, 'Ndili ndi njala,' pomwe kwenikweni mukudzaza malingaliro anu ndikukhutiritsa nthawi yomweyo komanso mphindi yakuiwala mavuto anu."

Onaninso moona mtima momwe mwakhala mukutsatira zomwe mumadya komanso thanzi lanu. Kodi mwakhala wowolowa manja ndi magawo posachedwa? Kudumpha bootcamp Lachiwiri m'mawa chifukwa "simukumva"? Ngati ndi choncho, mukudziwa zomwe muyenera kusintha kuti muyambe kuwona kulemera kwanu kubwerera pansi. Chinsinsi chake ndi kuleza mtima. "Palibe amene amaika mapaundi 40 m'masiku 30, koma zikafika pothana ndi mapaundi amenewo, tikuyembekeza kuti zichitike mwachangu," akutero Zahariades. Landirani kuti utha kukhala ulendo wautali koma umodzi woyenera nthawi ndi khama, ndipo lingalirani kuwona wothandizira kukuthandizani kuthana ndi mavuto aliwonse omwe mukuyesera kuthetsa (kapena kunyalanyaza) mwa kudya.

"Sindidzapeza Chikondi Chenicheni"

Poganizira kuti, malinga ndi a Reuters, pali anthu pafupifupi 54 miliyoni ku US ndipo pafupifupi 40 miliyoni ayesapo kuti apeze chikondi pa intaneti, ndizotheka kuti pali anthu ambiri omwe akupitiriza bodza limeneli. Vuto apa ndilakuti "chikondi chenicheni" ndi chovuta kufotokoza. Cristalle Sese, Psy.D., katswiri wa zamaganizo ku Los Angeles, anati: “Anthu ambiri amayerekezera chikondi chenicheni ndi kupeza munthu woti adzakhale naye pa ubwenzi wabwino, koma padzikoli pali anthu ambiri opanda ungwiro. Ena atha kukhala osasankha koma amazengereza kudziwonetsera okha kuti azikonda ndi kudziwonetsa okha komanso zomwe akuganiza kuti ndi zolakwika zawo. "Ena amakhulupirira," Ngati ndiziwonetsa ndekha ndikukanidwa, ndiye kuti izi zitanthauza kuti ndine wopanda pake, "ndipo amadzitsimikizira kuti ali osungulumwa kuti apewe kupwetekedwa kumeneku," akutero Sese. "Koma kukhala pakhoma monga choncho kumabera mwayi woti mupeze chisangalalo chenicheni cha kuyandikira komanso ubwenzi."

Chifukwa chake tengani mwayi ndikudziyika nokha, ndipo onetsetsani kuti maloto anu sakutengera zomwe sizingachitike m'moyo weniweni wa rom-coms kuyesa kukupangitsani kuganiza kuti msilikali wamasiku ano adzasesa. Choka pamapazi ake. "Ngati mukuyembekezera zenizeni, simungapeze zomwe mukuganiza kuti ndi chikondi chenicheni, koma mutha kupeza chikondi chabwino," akutero Sese. Ngati bambo amakulemekezani komanso kukulemekezani ndikugwira ntchito molimbika kuti mulankhule nanu, ndizovuta kuvomereza jinzi zake zowonda komanso kuti amakupatsani ma carnation m'malo mwa maluwa?

"Ndakalamba kwambiri"

Kugwiritsa ntchito msinkhu wanu ngati chowiringula kumachitika nthawi zambiri ngati wina watopa ndi kuyesetsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zake, atero a Cathy Holloway Hill, wolemba Mabodza, Chikondi & Moyo. Koma pali zitsanzo zambiri zomwe zimatsutsa bodza ili, kuphatikiza a Golda Mier, omwe adakhala Prime Minister wamkazi woyamba wa Israeli ali ndi zaka 70 zokha. Kapena mwina mwamvapo Betty White?

Mukapeza kuti mukulola kuti tsiku lanu lobadwa likulepheretseni, dzifunseni kuti, "Ndine ayi wokalamba kwambiri ndipo ngati ndikuchifuna, ndikhoza kukhala nacho, "akutero Lisa Bahar, wothandizira mabanja ndi mabanja ku Newport Beach ndi Dana Point, CA." Zikumveka ngati zosavuta, koma ndicho chodabwitsa-ngakhale chinthu chophweka kwambiri chimatha kusintha malingaliro kukhala zochita bola titazibwereza tokha mobwerezabwereza. Pambuyo pake timayamba kuzikhulupirira. "

Kuti mutsimikizire kuti zaka zilibe kanthu, dzizungulirani ndi anthu omwe ali ndi zomwe mukufuna ndikuwafunsa momwe adafikirako, Bahar akuti. Ndipo kumbukirani mawu oti "simumasiya kuphunzira." "Kukula kwaumwini komanso ukadaulo kumaphatikizapo maphunziro amoyo wonse. Timapitilizabe kukula tikamakalamba, ndipo zolinga za moyo wathu komanso zomwe takwaniritsa sizikhala ndi zaka," akutero Holloway Hill.

"Sindidzatulukanso

Za Ngongole "

Pamene ngongole zikuunjikana ndipo osonkhanitsa akubwera akugogoda, tsiku lomwe simudzakhalanso ndalama zolipirira zitha kuwoneka ngati silidzabwera. "Ndikosavuta kutenthedwa ndi zomwe mwakumana nazo kenako ndikumverera ngati kuti mwatheratu kwamuyaya," akutero Zahariades. Ndipo pamene inu kale kumverera wosweka, kuwomba wina $20 kapena $50 apa ndi apo sizingaoneke ngati lalikulu zambiri.

Zikumveka ngati chobowolera, koma njira yabwino yokwera kutuluka kufiira ndikupanga bajeti kuti mukhale ndi moyo malinga ndi momwe mungakwaniritsire. Onetsani makhadi obwereketsa ndi ngongole poyamba, ngakhale zitanthauza kuti muwalipira pang'onopang'ono, atero a Sese. Amalimbikitsa Mint.com kutsatira momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito ndalama kapena kuwona owerengera ndalama ovomerezeka kapena mlangizi wazachuma kuti akuthandizeni kupanga pulani.

"Sindingasinthe Yemwe Ndine"

Ngakhale kukumana kwatsopano kungapangitse ena kukhala omasuka, atha kutsogolera ena kukhala ouma khosi ndikukhazikika m'njira zawo. Zovuta pamoyo, kuyambira kuchotsedwa ntchito mpaka kusudzulana mpaka azaumoyo, zitha kutipangitsa kukhala osagwirizana ndi kusintha, akutero Holloway Hill. "Palibe amene akufuna kumva zowawa zamtunduwu, chifukwa chake timayamba kuyesa kuwongolera zochitika zathu mwa kukhalabe pantchito kapena ubale womwe sukukwaniritsa kapena kunyalanyaza nkhani yazaumoyo poopa kulandira nkhani zoyipa." Ndipo nthawi zina timadzitsimikizira tokha kuti sitingasinthe miyoyo yathu, zathu, kapena momwe zinthu ziliri, akuwonjezera motero, timangokhala pansi ndikuvomereza zinthu momwe ziliri.

Ngakhale simungathe kulembanso zakale, mutha kuchitapo kanthu pang'ono kuti mukhale munthu wosiyana kapena wabwino mtsogolo. "Khalani ndi zolinga zazing'ono, zomveka zomwe zingatheke," atero a Paul Hokemeyer, J.D, Ph.D. Kuswa zikhumbo zanu zazikulu mpaka pang'onopang'ono zimabweretsa zochitika zazing'ono zomwe zingakulimbikitseni kuyesayesa-ndikuwonjezera kupambana kwakukulu, akutero.

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