Ndi liti pamene anyamata ndi atsikana sayenera kugawana chipinda?

Tengani nthawi yopanga danga lapadera kwa ana, ndikuwapatsa umwini wawo.

Pali mtsutso wosamveka wokhudza ngati abale kapena akazi omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo ayenera kuloledwa kugawana chipinda chimodzi ndipo, ngati ndi choncho, azitenga nthawi yayitali bwanji. Pali malingaliro ambiri pamutuwu popeza pali anthu omwe akuwapatsa, chifukwa chake tidaganiza zopempha katswiri kuti athandize kuthetsa chisokonezocho.

Tidafunsa a Emily Kircher-Morris, MA, MEd, PLPC, ndi mlangizi waluso yemwe amakhala ndi zilolezo ku St. tinkafuna kuti awunikire zochitika zomwe mabanja ambiri amakhala nazo.

Funso: Kodi mukuganiza kuti pakhale zaka zingati pogawa zipinda za anyamata ndi atsikana?

Yankho: Palibe malire azaka zomwe zimafunikira kuti ana ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha azilekana zipinda. Makolo ayenera kuwunika komwe kuli ana awo, kukula, ndikupanga zisankho kuchokera pamenepo.

Nthawi zambiri, ana akakhala pasukulu, amayamba kuzindikira kufunika kodzilemekeza ndipo samatha kusintha pamaso pa abale kapena akazi anzawo; komabe, malo ogona atha kupangidwira izi, ndipo ana amatha kusintha m'malo ena kapena munthawi zosiyana.

Komabe, pofika nthawi yoti ana akutha msinkhu, zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti iwo azikhala omasuka kugawana ndi kupeza chipinda, ndipo kufunikira kwachinsinsi ndi malo kuyenera kulemekezedwa momwe angathere.

Q: Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe makolo ayenera kuyang'ana posankha ngati angalekanitse ana?

Yankho: Ngati pali nkhawa kuti mwana akuchita zachiwerewere, ndikofunikira kuti anawo apatukane. Ngati m'modzi kapena onse mwa anawo agwiridwapo, atha kukhala ndi vuto lomvetsetsa malire achinsinsi.

Ngati mwana afotokoza nkhawa yake pazachinsinsi, mabanja angapindule ngati atenga zosowa zawo ndikugwira ntchito limodzi kuti apeze yankho loyenera.

Funso: Zotsatira zake ndi ziti ngati ana sanalekanitsidwe msanga?

Yankho: Mabanja ena amatha kuwona zabwino zambiri pokhala ndi ana malo ogona nthawi yonse yachinyamata. Ana atha kukhala ndi mgwirizano wolimba wina ndi mnzake ndipo amakhala omasuka kugawana nawo zinthu zawo. Abale anu amathanso kulimbikitsidwa kugona mchipinda chimodzi ndi mchimwene kapena mlongo.

Pamene ana akuyamba kutha msinkhu, kukhala ndi malo omwe angathe kumasuka ndi matupi awo ndikofunikira. Zovuta za mawonekedwe athupi zimatha kubweretsa mwana yemwe samakhala womasuka kapena wosatsimikizika za thupi lake, [komanso] kugawana chipinda chimodzi kumatha kukulitsa nkhawa m'mwana.

Funso: Kodi makolo angathane bwanji ndi vutoli ngati alibe malo okwanira kuwalekanitsa? (Kodi njira zina ndi ziti?)

Yankho: Mabanja omwe amagawana zipinda zosowa atha kupeza mayankho pamavuto. Ana atha kupatsidwa malo awoawo kuti azisunga zovala ndi zoseweretsa m'chipinda chogona. Kupereka malo osinthira zovala, monga bafa, kapena ndandanda yogona, kungathandizenso ana kuphunzira malire oyenera kukhala achinsinsi pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.

Funso: Kodi makolo angafotokozere bwanji kupatukana kwa ana omwe sakufuna kukhala m'chipinda chimodzi?

Y: Pogogomezera zaubwino wokhala ndi malo awoawo, makolo atha kulimbikitsa ana osafuna kuvomereza zosintha momwe angagone. Potenga nthawi yopanga danga lomwe lili lapadera kwa ana, makolo atha kuthandiza ana kusangalala ndikusintha ndikuwapatsa umwini pa danga latsopano.

Q: Nanga bwanji ngati mnyamatayo ndi msungwana ndi abale ake opeza? Kodi izi zimasintha zinthu (za abale ndi alongo apabanja omwe ali pafupi msinkhu komanso omwe ndi osiyana msinkhu?)

Yankho: Izi makamaka zimakhala zovuta zokhudzana ndi msinkhu womwe ana adakhala abale awo. Ngati atasonkhanitsidwa ali aang'ono ... zinthu zikadakhala zofanana kwambiri ndi abale awo. Ana okalamba angapindule pokhala ndi malo awoawo.

Q: Nanga bwanji ngati abale opeza amangoonana kangapo pachaka? Kodi izi zimasintha zinthu?

Yankho: Apanso, izi zitha kukhala zofunikira kutengera msinkhu wa abale opeza komanso pomwe adakhala abale. Mwana akafika poti amvetsetse kufunika kodzilemekeza komanso kukhala payekha, zingakhale zovuta kuyembekezera kuti agawane malo. Komabe, zikadakhala kangapo pachaka kwakanthawi kocheperako, zitha kukhudza anawo pang'ono kuposa kugawana nawo kwakanthawi. Ngati ana ali kutali msinkhu, mwina akuyandikira kutha msinkhu, kapena wina akuwonetsa kufunikira kwachinsinsi kuposa winayo ayenera kukhala ndi malo osiyana.