Chifukwa Chomwe Ndikulira Ndikudziyang'anira Kwatsopano

Zamkati

• Ubwino wolira
• Kulola kuti iziyenda

Monga mvula, misozi imatha kuyeretsa, kutsuka nyumbayo kuti iwonetse maziko atsopano.

Nthawi yotsiriza yomwe ndidakhala ndi gawo labwino la kubwebweta linali Januware 12, 2020, kuti ndikhale ndendende. Ndikukumbukira bwanji? Chifukwa linali tsiku lotsatira kutulutsidwa kwa chikumbutso changa ndi buku loyamba, "Half the Battle."

Ndimakhala ndikumverera kokhudzidwa ndikumalira kwa masana ambiri. Kudzera m'misoziyi, pamapeto pake ndinatha kumvetsetsa komanso kukhala mwamtendere.

Koma poyamba, ndimayenera kudutsa.

Ndikukumbukira, ndimayembekeza kugawana nthano yanga ndi matenda amisala, komanso ndimadandaula kuti bukulo lidzalandilidwa bwanji.

Sinali nkhani yangwiro, koma ndinayesetsa kukhala wowonekera poyera komanso woona mtima momwe ndingathere. Nditawamasulira padziko lapansi, mita yanga yodandaula idadutsa padenga.

Choipitsanso zinthu, bwenzi langa lapamtima laubwana ndidamva kuti ndamuwonetsa ngati mnzake woipa ataliwerenga.

Ndinathedwa nzeru ndipo ndinayamba kufunsa chilichonse. Kodi nkhani yanga ikanakhala yodzutsa anthu? Kodi zikuwonekeratu zomwe ndikuyesera kufotokoza m'masamba awa? Kodi anthu alandila nkhani yanga momwe ndimafunira, kapena andiweruza?

Ndinkangokhalira kukayikira mphindi iliyonse ndikuyamba kuganizira mozama chilichonse. Mantha anandigwira, ndipo misozi inatsatira. Ndidasokoneza ubongo wanga kuyesera kuti ndione ngati ndikadakhala kuti ndidayeneranso kugawana chowonadi changa poyamba.

Nditakhala ndi nthawi yokhala pansi momwe ndimamvera, ndimadzimva kuti ndili wamphamvu komanso wokonzeka kudziko lapansi.

Misozi inanena zonse zomwe sindinathe. Ndikumasulidwa kuja, ndidamva kuti nditha kuyimilira m'choonadi changa ndikulola molimba mtima zaluso zanga kuti zidziyankhulire zokha.

Nthawi zonse ndimakhala munthu wokhudzidwa. Ndimvera chisoni anthu mosavuta ndipo ndimamva ululu wawo. Ndichinthu chomwe ndikukhulupirira kuti ndidalandira kuchokera kwa amayi anga. Ankalira akuwonera makanema, makanema apa TV, kucheza ndi anthu osawadziwa, komanso nthawi zonse zazikulu zaubwana wathu timakula.

Tsopano ndili ndi zaka 30, ndazindikira kuti ndikufanana naye kwambiri (zomwe sizoyipa). Masiku ano ndikulirira zabwino, zoyipa, ndi zonse zomwe zili pakati.

Ndikuganiza kuti chifukwa ndikamakula, ndimaganizira kwambiri za moyo wanga komanso momwe ndimakhudzira ena. Ndimaganizira kwambiri zomwe ndikufuna kuti zolemba zanga zikhale padziko lapansi lino.

Ubwino wolira

Nthawi zambiri kulira kumawoneka ngati chizindikiro cha kufooka. Komabe, pali maubwino angapo azaumoyo pakulira mokhazikika nthawi ndi nthawi. Chitha:

• Kwezani mtima wanu ndikuwongolera mtima wanu
• kuthandizira kugona
• kuthetsa ululu
• zimalimbikitsa kupanga ma endorphins
• kudziletsa
• detoxify thupi
• Kubwezeretsa kukhazikika kwamaganizidwe

Nthawi ina ndinamva mayi wina wachikulire akunena kuti, "Misozi imangokhala mapemphero amumtima." Nthawi iliyonse ndikalira, ndimakumbukira mawu amenewo.

Nthawi zina, zinthu zikakhala kuti simungathe kuzilamulira, palibe zambiri zomwe mungachite koma kumasula. Monga mvula, misozi imagwira ntchito monga yoyeretsa malingaliro, kutsuka dothi ndi zomanga kuti ziwulule maziko atsopano.

Kusintha malingaliro anu kungakuthandizeni kuwona zinthu mwanjira ina.

Kulola kuti iziyenda

Masiku ano, sindimadziletsa ngati ndikufunika kulira. Ndimalitulutsa chifukwa ndaphunzira kuti kuisunga sikundipindulitsanso.

Ndimalandila misozi ikabwera chifukwa ndikudziwa ikadzatha ndidzakhala bwino. Ndi chinthu chomwe ndikadakhala nacho manyazi kunena m'ma 20s. M'malo mwake, ndinayesera kubisala nthawi imeneyo.

Tsopano ndili ndi zaka 31, palibe manyazi. Chowonadi chokha ndi chitonthozo mwa munthu yemwe ndili, komanso munthu amene ndikukhala.

Nthawi ina mukadzamva kuti mukufuna kulira, tulutsani! Mverani, pumani, gwirani. Mwangochitapo kanthu chapadera. Palibe chifukwa chochitira manyazi. Musalole kuti aliyense akulankhuleni zakukhosi kwanu kapena kukuuzani momwe muyenera kumvera. Misozi yanu ndi yolondola.

Sindikunena kuti pitani kudziko lapansi kuti mukapeze zinthu zodzipangitsa kulira, koma nthawi ikadzakwana, ikumbatire popanda kukana.

Mutha kuwona kuti misoziyo idzakhala chida chothandiza kukuthandizani pakafunika kutero.

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