N 'chifukwa Chiyani Munthu Mmodzi Nthawizonse Amaledzera Ku Phwando La Holiday Ofesi?

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Mumakhala chaka chonse mukukulitsa chithunzi chanu pantchito pofika nthawi yake, kukonzekera misonkhano, kukhala osakwanira. Kenako, kuyesayesa konseko kumathetsedwa mutamwa magalasi awiri a shampeni, mukawauza mwangozi abwana anu kuti mwamukonda munthu ameneyo mu IT. Aliyense amene walandira cheke amakhala ndi nthano yonena za wantchito mnzake yemwe adapita patali kwambiri paphwando la tchuthi chaofesi. Ndiye n'chiyani chimapangitsa fête imeneyi kukhala ufa?

Inde, mowa umachepetsa malingaliro anu. Koma kodi zimasintha kuti ndinu ndani, kapena zimangoulula zenizeni zomwe muli? George Koob, Ph.D, mkulu wa National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, wathera ntchito yake kufufuza momwe mowa umakhudzira machitidwe athu amalingaliro-ndipo ali ndi chidziwitso chofotokozera chifukwa chake wothandizira mmodziyo ndi woyamba kuvina pa tebulo likubwera December. (Ndipo infographic iyi ikuwonetsa Kusintha kwa Thupi la Mowa.)

"Mowa umayambitsa kusokoneza bongo, ndichifukwa chake anthu amaukonda paphwando," akutero a Koob. "Zimamasula lilime, zimachepetsa nkhawa za anthu. Pamene mukupitiriza kumwa mowa, cholepheretsacho chimakula kwambiri." Ili ndiye gawo losangalatsa lakumwa mozungulira omwe mumagwira nawo ntchito: Mwadzidzidzi mumakhala ndi choti munene kwa mayi wazaka zapakati pakuwerengera.

Nthawi yomweyo, ofesi yanu mwina ndi malo m'moyo wanu pomwe muyenera kusungitsa kukhumudwa kwanu. Chifukwa chake onjezani tequila imodzi, ndipo malire anu ayamba kusasinthika. "Ndiwe vuto lamalingaliro, timatcha," akutero a Koob. Mukangodutsa kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso komanso kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso-kotero, pafupifupi zakumwa ziwiri pa ola kwa mkazi - "simungathenso kulamulira maganizo anu."

Kupanda fyuluta yamaganizidwe, cheke. Ndipo mukakhala ndi gawo lodyera, kutengeka kwanu kumakhudzidwanso. Chifukwa chake mwina china chake chomwe mumamverera kuti sichingatuluke mkamwa mwanu, ngati mumadandaula zakukhumudwitsa abwana anu akangotuluka mchipinda. Oo!

Mutha kuyimba mlandu pa mowa, nyimbo ya la Jamie Foxx cha m'ma 2009, koma mutha kudabwa ngati mowa ukuwulula zomwe miseche imatanthauza kuti atsikana omwe mumagwira nawo ntchito alidi. Zikafika pakupeza chifukwa chake ndiwe chidakwa choyipa kwambiri, "palibe sayansi yambiri yozungulira," Koob akuvomereza. (Koma mungafune kufotokoza za Mitundu Inayi Yaumunthu Woledzera, Malinga ndi Science.) “[Kunyansidwa kwadzidzidzi] kumasonyeza kuti pali nkhani zimene munthuyo sakuzidziŵa mwachidwi zimene sizikuthetsedwa.” Munthu wowoneka bwino yemwe mwadzidzidzi amakhala wankhanza akamamwa atha kukhala kuti akubisa mkwiyo ndi ukali pansi pake. Kumwa pang'ono mowa munthawi yachilendo ngati makina osindikizira-kutha kukhala kokwanira kuphulika mbali ija ya munthu.

Inde, mwezi wa December nthawi zambiri umakhala mbali yaikulu ya vuto. "Matchuthi nthawi zambiri amakhala nthawi yamalingaliro," akutero a Koob. "Anthu ambiri amasangalala ndi [iwo], koma amabweretsa zikumbukiro zakale. Anthu amamwa kuti athetse zikumbukiro zowawazo."

Chifukwa chake mungafune kukhululukira anzanu omwe mumagwira nawo ntchito (kapena, kutsokomola, abale anu) ngati atangoyang'ana pang'ono mbale yokhomerera. Ndipo ngati mukufuna kupewa kuwongolera malingaliro anu, tsatirani malamulo omwe mwaphunzira m'kalasi lazaumoyo ku koleji, monga kumwa kapu yamadzi ndi malo ogulitsira komanso kudya mokwanira. Mwanjira imeneyi, mudzasangalala ndi phwandolo-osakhala amene aliyense akunong'onezana nawo chaka chatsopano.

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