Zomwe Zili Bwino Ngati Simunakwaniritse Zolinga Zanu Zonse Chaka chino

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Tonse tili ndi zolinga. Pali zing'onozing'ono, zatsiku ndi tsiku (monga, "Ndithamanga kilomita imodzi lero"), ndiyeno pali zolinga zazikulu, zapachaka zomwe timakhala pansi pa chizindikiro chowopsya "kutsimikiza." Mukamafotokozera malingaliro anu a 2016, mwina mukuganiza kuti pofika pano, miyezi 12 pambuyo pake, mukadakhala kuti mwasiya kukula chifukwa cha kulemera kwanu akuyenera kutaya kapena kuti pamapeto pake mukadachotsa zolakalaka zanu za chokoleti zabwino. Tili pafupi ndi chaka cha 2017, ndipo mwina simuli pafupi ndi komwe mumaganiza kuti mungakhale. Mwina zikutenga nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe amayembekezera, kapena mwina mwazindikira kuti sizichitika konse.

Ndizo zabwino. "Nthawi zina malingaliro samakwaniritsidwa," atero a Gina Van Luven, wokamba zaumoyo, wolemba, komanso mphunzitsi. Nthawi zambiri zikachitika, mumadzimenya. Ndipo njirayi, mukaganiza, sikukuyandikitsani pafupi kuti mukwaniritse zolinga zanu. Zimangokupangitsani kumva kukhala oyipa. "Kudzigwetsa nokha ndikudzigonjetsera," akutero Van Luven.

Yankho labwino: Pezani njira yopitira patsogolo. Erin Clifford, mphunzitsi wathunthu wathanzi, akuti zili ngati kumenya nkhondo ndi mnzanu. Mukudziwa kuti sikuli kwathanzi kupitilizabe kukangana mobwerezabwereza, ndipo malingaliro omwewo akuyenera kugwiranso ntchito mukakwaniritsa zolinga zanu. "Sizithandiza aliyense kudzimenya okha pazomwe sizinachitike kale," akutero.

Mutha kukopeka kuti mupewe kukhumudwitsidwa kwathunthu mwa kulumpha zisankho chaka chino. Koma pali phindu popanga zolinga ndikuzikwaniritsa, ngakhale simukuzikwaniritsa. "Imodzi mwamawu omwe ndimakonda ndi akuti, 'Zikunena za kupita patsogolo osati ungwiro,'" akutero Clifford. (Zokhudzana: Akatswiri a 25 Amagawana Malangizo Awo Kuti Akwaniritse Cholinga Chilichonse)

Tinene kuti mwayamba chaka ndi cholinga chotsitsa mapaundi 10, ndipo mwangotaya angapo. "Zikondwerereni mapaundi awiri omwe mwataya!" Van Luven akuti. Cholinga chanu chochepetsa thupi mwina chidakuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi zizolowezi zabwino. Mwinamwake tsopano mukugunda masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse kapena mumalakalaka saladi pa cheeseburgers. Izo ndi zinthu zonyadira nazo, ziribe kanthu zomwe sikelo ikunena. "Pali zisankho zabwino zomwe zimapangidwa pochita zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zopindulitsa, chifukwa chake yang'anani pazinthuzi," akutero Van Luven.

Pambuyo poganizira zomwe mwapeza kulondola, ganizirani chifukwa chake zolinga sizinakuyendereni bwino. "Ngati simukukwaniritsa zolinga zanu nthawi zonse, muyenera kufunsa chifukwa chake," akutero Van Luven. Kodi cholinga chake chinali chokwezeka kwambiri kapena chosatheka kuchiyeza? Kodi zinali zosatheka? Kodi mumazipanga kukhala zovuta kwa inu nokha? "Ndiko komwe matsenga ali: kukumba ndikuzindikira chifukwa chomwe mukusankhira zosayenera m'malo mwazabwino," akutero Van Luven.

Tengani maphunziro amenewo ndipo muwagwiritse ntchito kuti apange malingaliro anu a 2017. Yambani pokhala achindunji momwe mungathere. Ngati mukufuna kuchepa thupi, lowani muyezo womwe mukufuna kutaya komanso momwe mungachitire. "Apa ndipomwe malingaliro ndi zolinga zambiri za anthu zidalephera m'mbuyomu, ngati alibe malingaliro enieni," akutero Clifford. Kodi mulowa nawo masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena ganyu wophunzitsa? Kapena tulukani chakudya chanu cham'mawa ndikupanga oatmeal m'malo mwake? Khazikitsani dongosolo lenileni, ndipo onetsetsani kuti zikuyenda bwino pamoyo wanu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati simuli munthu wam'mawa, musadzipereke kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi musanayambe ofesi, Clifford akutero.

Dzifunseni kuti n’chifukwa chiyani ganizo limeneli lili lofunika kwa inu. Zitha kutengera kulingalira pang'ono (Clifford amalimbikitsa kufalitsa nkhani kuti mubwere ndi "chifukwa" chanu), koma kuzindikira chifukwa chomwe cholingacho kungakuthandizeni kukhala okhudzidwa nthawi zikavuta. Muthanso kukhalabe panjira powonera momwe moyo wanu udzakhalire mukadzakwaniritsa cholingacho. Lembani malingaliro anu mu magazini yomweyi kapena ikani mawu olimbikitsa kapena zithunzi mozungulira nyumba yanu kapena pa visor yanu yamagalimoto pomwe mutha kuwawona tsiku lililonse, Clifford akuti. Pomaliza, pezani mamembala kapena abwenzi omwe adzayendere nanu ndikukuyimbani mlandu. "Ali ngati otsogola anu," akutero Clifford.

Musaganize kwa mphindi ina za chiyani sanatero zichitika mu 2016. Ndi chaka chatsopano, ndipo mukuyamba kuyambira pomwepo. "Mwadzipereka tsopano," akutero Clifford. "Ukuyamba tsopano." Ndipo tsiku lililonse lomwe mumayandikira pafupi ndi chilichonse chomwe mwapanga kuti mukwaniritse ndikupambana nokha.

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