Thandizani mwana wanu kupirira kupanikizika

Achinyamata amakumana ndi zovuta zosiyanasiyana. Kwa ena, akuyesera kulinganiza ntchito yaganyu ndi mapiri a homuweki. Ena angafunikire kuthandiza kunyumba kapena kuthana ndi kuzunzidwa kapena kukakamizidwa ndi anzawo.Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, kuyambika panjira yakukula kumakhala ndi zovuta zake.

Mutha kuthandiza mwana wanu kuphunzira kuphunzira kuzindikira kupsinjika ndikuphunzitsa mwana wanu njira zabwino zothanirana ndi izi.

Zomwe zimapangitsa achinyamata kukhala opsinjika ndi awa:

• Kuda nkhawa ndi ntchito yasukulu kapena sukulu
• Maudindo olimbikira, monga sukulu ndi ntchito kapena masewera
• Kukhala ndi mavuto ndi anzanu, kuzunzidwa, kapena anzawo
• Kugonana kapena kukakamizidwa kutero
• Kusintha sukulu, kusuntha, kapena kuthana ndi mavuto a nyumba kapena kusowa pokhala
• Kukhala ndi malingaliro olakwika a iwo eni
• Kusintha thupi, mwa anyamata ndi atsikana
• Kuwona makolo awo akusudzulana kapena kupatukana
• Kukhala ndi mavuto azachuma m'banja
• Kukhala m'nyumba yosatetezeka kapena yoyandikana nayo
• Kuzindikira zoyenera kuchita mukamaliza sukulu yasekondale
• Kulowa ku koleji

Phunzirani kuzindikira kuti mwana wanu ali ndi nkhawa. Zindikirani ngati mwana wanu:

• Amachita mokwiya kapena mokwiya
• Amalira nthawi zambiri kapena amawoneka ngati akutulusa
• Kutaya ntchito ndi anthu
• Amakhala ndi vuto logona kapena kugona kwambiri
• Zikuwoneka kuda nkhawa kwambiri
• Amadya kwambiri kapena osakwanira
• Madandaulo akumutu kapena m'mimba
• Zikuwoneka kuti watopa kapena alibe mphamvu
• Amagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa

Phunzirani zizindikilo zamavuto akulu amisala kuti muthe kupeza thandizo kwa mwana wanu:

• Zizindikiro zakukhumudwa kwa achinyamata
• Zizindikiro zamavuto

Ngati mukuganiza kuti mwana wanu ali ndi nkhawa zambiri, mutha kuthandiza mwana wanu kuti azitha kuzisamalira. Nawa maupangiri:

• Khalani ndi nthawi yocheza. Yesetsani kukhala ndi nthawi yocheza ndi mwana wanu mlungu uliwonse. Ngakhale mwana wanu sakufuna, awona kuti mwapereka. Chitani nawo gawo pakuwongolera kapena kuphunzitsa gulu lawo la masewera, kapena kutenga nawo mbali pazochitika kusukulu. Kapena, ingokhalani nawo pamasewera, makonsati, kapena masewera omwe amachita nawo.
• Phunzirani kumvetsera. Mverani poyera zakukhosi kwa mwana wanu ndi zomwe akumva, ndikugawana nawo malingaliro abwino. Funsani mafunso, koma osamasulira kapena kulumpha ndi upangiri pokhapokha mukafunsidwa. Kulankhulana momasuka kumeneku kungapangitse mwana wanu kukhala wofunitsitsa kukambirana nanu mavuto ake.
• Khalani chitsanzo. Kaya mukudziwa kapena ayi, mwana wanu amatengera inu monga chitsanzo cha machitidwe abwino. Chitani zonse zomwe mungathe kuti muchepetse nkhawa zanu ndikuzisamalira m'njira zabwino.
• Pezani mwana wanu wachinyamata kusuntha. Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse ndi njira imodzi yabwino yothetsera kupsinjika, kwa akulu ndi achinyamata. Limbikitsani achinyamata anu kuti azichita masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe amakonda, kaya ndi masewera agulu kapena zina monga yoga, kukwera khoma, kusambira, kuvina, kapena kukwera mapiri. Mwinanso mungaganizire zoyeserera limodzi limodzi.
• Yang'anirani tulo. Achinyamata amafunika kutseka. Kusagona mokwanira kumapangitsa kukhala kovuta kuthana ndi kupsinjika. Yesetsani kuwonetsetsa kuti mwana wanu wagona maola 8 usiku umodzi. Izi zingakhale zovuta pakati pa nthawi ya sukulu ndi homuweki. Njira imodzi yothandizira ndikuchepetsa nthawi yophimba, TV ndi kompyuta, madzulo asanagone.
• Phunzitsani luso loyang'anira ntchito. Phunzitsani mwana wanu njira zina zoyendetsera ntchito, monga kulemba mindandanda kapena kuswa ntchito zikuluzikulu kukhala zazing'ono ndikupanga chidutswa chimodzi nthawi imodzi.
• Musayese kuthetsa mavuto a mwana wanu. Monga kholo, ndizovuta kuwona mwana wanu ali ndi nkhawa. Koma yesetsani kupewa kuthetsa mavuto a mwana wanu. M'malo mwake, gwirani ntchito limodzi kuti mulingalire mayankho ndikulola mwana wanu wachinyamata kuti apange malingaliro. Kugwiritsa ntchito njirayi kumathandiza achinyamata kuphunzira kuthana ndi zovuta zawo paokha.
• Sanjani zakudya zabwino. Monga achikulire ambiri, achinyamata nthawi zambiri amafikira zakudya zopanda pake akakhala ndi nkhawa. Kuti muwathandize kulimbana ndi vutoli, lembani firiji ndi makabati anu ndi veggies, zipatso, mbewu zonse, ndi mapuloteni owonda. Pitani ku sodas ndi ma kalori ambiri, zakudya zopatsa shuga.
• Pangani miyambo yabanja. Zochitika pabanja zitha kukhala zotonthoza kwa mwana wanu wachinyamata panthawi yamavuto. Kukhala ndi chakudya chamadzulo cham'banja kapena kanema wamanema kumatha kuthandizira kuthetsa nkhawa zamasana ndikupatseni mwayi wolumikizana.
• Osati kufuna ungwiro. Palibe aliyense wa ife amene amachita zonse mwangwiro. Kuyembekezera ungwiro kuchokera kwa mwana wanu wachinyamata ndizosatheka ndipo kumangowonjezera kupsinjika.

Itanani wanu wothandizira zaumoyo ngati mwana wanu akuwoneka:

• Kuthedwa nzeru ndi kupsinjika
• Amayankhula zodzivulaza
• Amanena zakudzipha

Komanso imbani foni ngati muwona kuti muli ndi nkhawa kapena muli ndi nkhawa.

Achinyamata - kupsinjika; Kuda nkhawa - kuthana ndi kupsinjika

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Mgwirizano wa American Psychological Association. Momwe mungathandizire ana ndi achinyamata kuthana ndi nkhawa. www.apa.org/topics/child-development/stress. Idasinthidwa pa Okutobala 24, 2019. Idapezeka pa Okutobala 26, 2020.

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• Kupsinjika
• Achinyamata Amaganizo