Nkhanza zapakhomo

Nkhanza za m'banja ndi pamene munthu amagwiritsa ntchito nkhanza pofuna kulamulira mnzake kapena wachibale wina. Nkhanza zitha kukhala zakuthupi, zamaganizidwe, zachuma, kapena zogonana. Zitha kukhudza anthu azaka zilizonse, zogonana, zikhalidwe, kapena magulu. Nkhanza za m'banja zikagwiriridwa kwa mwana, zimatchedwa nkhanza za ana. Nkhanza zapakhomo ndi mlandu.

Nkhanza zapakhomo zimatha kukhala ndi izi:

• Kuzunza thupi, kuphatikizapo kumenya, kukankha, kuluma, kumenya mbama, kutsamwa, kapena kumenya ndi chida
• Nkhanza za kugonana, kukakamiza wina kukhala ndi mtundu uliwonse wa chiwerewere yemwe sakufuna
• Kuzunzidwa, kuphatikizapo kutchula mayina, kunyozedwa, kuwopsezedwa kwa munthuyo kapena banja lake, kapena osamulola munthuyo kuti awone abale kapena abwenzi
• Kuzunza kwachuma, monga kuwongolera mwayi wopeza ndalama kapena maakaunti akubanki

Anthu ambiri samayambira pachibwenzi chankhanza. Nkhanza nthawi zambiri zimayamba pang'onopang'ono ndikukula kwambiri pakapita nthawi, pamene ubale umakulirakulira.

Zizindikiro zina zoti mnzanu akhoza kukuzunzani ndi izi:

• Kufuna nthawi yanu yambiri
• Kukuvulazani ndikunena kuti ndi vuto lanu
• Kuyesera kuwongolera zomwe mumachita kapena omwe mumawona
• Kukulepheretsani kuwona abale kapena abwenzi
• Kuchita nsanje mopambanitsa chifukwa chocheza ndi ena
• Kukukakamizani kuchita zinthu zomwe simukufuna kuzichita, monga kugonana kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo
• Kukulepheretsani kupita kuntchito kapena kusukulu
• Kukuyikani pansi
• Kukuopani kapena kuwopseza banja lanu kapena ziweto zanu
• Kukuimbani mlandu kuti muli ndi zochitika
• Kuwongolera ndalama zanu
• Akuwopseza kuti adzadzivulaza ngati mutachoka

Kusiya chibwenzi chankhanza sikophweka. Mutha kuwopa kuti mnzanu angakuvulazani mukachoka, kapena kuti simudzakhala ndi ndalama kapena malingaliro omwe mungafune.

Chiwawa m'banja si vuto lanu. Simungaletse nkhanza za mnzanu. Koma mutha kupeza njira zokuthandizirani.

• Uzani wina. Gawo loyamba lotuluka muubwenzi wozunza nthawi zambiri limangouza wina za izi. Mutha kuyankhula ndi mnzanu, wachibale wanu, wothandizira zaumoyo wanu, kapena m'busa wachipembedzo.
• Khalani ndi dongosolo lachitetezo. Ili ndi dongosolo ngati mungafunike kusiya zachiwawa nthawi yomweyo. Sankhani komwe mupita ndi zomwe mudzabweretse. Sonkhanitsani zinthu zofunika zomwe mungafune, monga makhadi a kirediti kadi, ndalama, kapena mapepala, ngati mungafune kuchoka mwachangu. Muthanso kutenga sutikesi ndikusunga ndi wachibale kapena mnzanu.
• Itanani thandizo. Mutha kuyimbira foni yaulere ku National Domestic Violence Hotline ku 800-799-7233, maola 24 patsiku. Ogwira ntchito ku hotline atha kukuthandizani kupeza zothandizira nkhanza zapakhomo mdera lanu, kuphatikiza thandizo lazamalamulo.
• Pezani chithandizo chamankhwala. Ngati mwakhumudwa, pitani kuchipatala kuchokera kwa omwe amakupatsani kapena kuchipatala.
• Itanani apolisi. Musazengereze kuyimbira apolisi ngati muli pachiwopsezo. Nkhanza zapakhomo ndi mlandu.

Ngati mnzanu kapena wachibale wanu akuzunzidwa, pali njira zambiri zomwe mungathandizire.

• Perekani chithandizo. Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kuchita mantha, kukhala yekha, kapena manyazi. Muwuzeni kuti mulipo kuti mumuthandize momwe mungathere.
• Osandiweruza. Kusiya chibwenzi chankhanza ndi kovuta. Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kukhalabe pachibwenzi ngakhale akuzunzidwa. Kapena, wokondedwa wanu akhoza kuchoka ndikubwerera kangapo. Yesetsani kuthandizira zisankhozi, ngakhale simukugwirizana nazo.
• Thandizani ndi dongosolo la chitetezo. Fotokozani kuti wokondedwa wanu apange dongosolo lachitetezo pakagwa ngozi. Patsani nyumba yanu ngati malo abwino ngati angafunike kuchoka, kapena thandizani malo ena otetezeka.
• Pezani thandizo. Thandizani wokondedwa wanu kulumikizana ndi hotline yapadziko lonse kapena bungwe lochitira nkhanza m'banja mdera lanu.

Nkhanza zapabanja; Kuzunza okwatirana; Kuzunza akulu; Kuzunza ana; Kugwiriridwa - nkhanza zapabanja

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Webusayiti ya Nambala Yoyeserera Zachiwawa Pabanja. Kodi nkhanza za m'banja ndi chiyani? www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined. Idapezeka pa Okutobala 26, 2020.

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