Momwe mungauze mwana wanu kuti muli ndi khansa

Kuuza mwana wanu za matenda anu a khansa kungakhale kovuta. Mungafune kuteteza mwana wanu. Mutha kuda nkhawa kuti mwana wanu adzatani. Koma ndikofunikira kukhala ozindikira komanso owona mtima pazomwe zikuchitika.

Khansa ndichinthu chovuta kusunga chinsinsi. Ngakhale ana aang'ono kwambiri amatha kuzindikira zinthu zikavuta. Pamene ana sadziwa chowonadi, amawopa zoyipa. Ngakhale sakudziwa, mwana wanu angaganize nkhani yomwe ingakhale yoyipa kwambiri kuposa zomwe zikuchitika. Mwachitsanzo, mwana wanu akhoza kudziimba mlandu kuti mukudwala.

Muli pachiwopsezo kuti mwana wanu aphunzire kuchokera kwa wina kuti muli ndi khansa. Izi zingawononge kukhulupirika kwa mwana wanu. Ndipo mukangoyamba kulandira chithandizo cha khansa, mwina simungathe kubisa zovuta zoyipa kuchokera kwa mwana wanu.

Pezani nthawi yabata yolankhula ndi mwana wanu popanda zododometsa zina. Ngati muli ndi ana opitilira m'modzi, mungafune kuuza aliyense payekhapayekha. Izi zidzakuthandizani kudziwa zomwe mwana aliyense amachita, kukonza malongosoledwe a msinkhu wake, ndikuyankha mafunso awo mseri. Mwana wanu amathanso kuletsedwa kufunsa mafunso omwe ndi ofunika kwa iwo pamaso pa m'bale wawo.

Mukamalankhula za khansa yanu, yambani ndi zowona. Izi zikuphatikiza:

• Mtundu wa khansa yomwe muli nayo ndi dzina lake.
• Ndi gawo liti la thupi lanu lomwe lili ndi khansa.
• Momwe khansa kapena chithandizo chanu chingakhudzire banja lanu ndikuyang'ana momwe zingakhudzire ana anu. Mwachitsanzo, auzeni kuti simungathe kucheza nawo nthawi yayitali ngati kale.
• Kaya wachibale kapena womusamalira wina angakhale akuthandiza.

Mukamalankhula ndi ana anu za chithandizo chanu, zingathandize kufotokoza:

• Mitundu yamankhwala yomwe mungakhale nayo, komanso kuti mutha kuchitidwa opaleshoni.
• Za nthawi yayitali yomwe mudzalandire chithandizo (ngati mukudziwa).
• Kuti mankhwalawa akuthandizani kuti mukhale bwino, koma atha kubweretsa zovuta zina mukamalandira.
• Onetsetsani kuti mwakonzekeretsa ana nthawi isanakwane kusintha kwakuthupi, monga tsitsi, komwe mungakumane nako. Fotokozani kuti mutha kuonda, tsitsi lanu, kapena kuponya kwambiri. Fotokozani kuti izi ndi zovuta zomwe zimatha.

Mutha kusintha zambiri zomwe mumapereka kutengera msinkhu wa mwana wanu. Ana a zaka zapakati pa 8 ndi ocheperako samatha kumvetsetsa mawu ovuta okhudza matenda anu kapena chithandizo chanu, chifukwa chake ndibwino kuti musavutike. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kuwauza kuti mukudwala ndipo mukusowa chithandizo kuti chikuthandizeni kukhala bwino. Ana azaka zisanu ndi zitatu kapena kupitilira apo amatha kumvetsetsa pang'ono. Limbikitsani mwana wanu kuti azifunsa mafunso ndikuyesetsa kuyankha moona mtima momwe mungathere.

Kumbukirani kuti ana anu amathanso kumva za khansa kuchokera kwina, monga TV, makanema, kapena ana ena kapena achikulire. Ndibwino kufunsa zomwe amva, kuti mutsimikizire kuti ali ndi chidziwitso choyenera.

Pali mantha ena omwe ana ambiri amakhala nawo akamaphunzira za khansa. Popeza mwana wanu sangakuuzeni za mantha awa, ndibwino kuti muwadziwitse nokha.

• Mwana wanu ndi amene amamuimba mlandu. Sizachilendo kuti ana aziganiza kuti china chake adachita khansa ya kholo. Muuzeni mwana wanu kuti aliyense m'banja mwanu sanachite chilichonse chothetsa khansara.
• Khansa imafalikira. Ana ambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa kuti khansa imafalikira ngati chimfine, ndipo anthu ena m'banja lanu adzaigwira. Onetsetsani kuti mwana wanu adziwe kuti simungathe "kutenga" khansa kuchokera kwa munthu wina, ndipo sangapeze khansa mwa kukugwirani kapena kukupsopsonani.
• Aliyense amamwalira ndi khansa. Mutha kufotokoza kuti khansa ndi matenda oopsa, koma mankhwala amakono athandiza anthu mamiliyoni ambiri kupulumuka khansa. Ngati mwana wanu amadziwa wina yemwe wamwalira ndi khansa, adziwitseni kuti pali mitundu yambiri ya khansa ndipo khansa ya aliyense ndiyosiyana. Chifukwa choti amalume a Mike adamwalira ndi khansa, sizitanthauza kuti inunso mudzatero.

Mungafunikire kubwereza izi kwa mwana wanu nthawi zambiri mukamalandira chithandizo.

Nazi njira zina zothandizira ana anu kuthana ndi vuto la khansa:

• Yesetsani kukhala ndandanda yanthawi zonse. Ndandanda ndizolimbikitsa kwa ana. Yesetsani kusunga nthawi yodyera komanso nthawi yogona.
• Adziwitseni kuti mumawakonda ndikuwayamikira. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka ngati chithandizo chanu chikukulepheretsani kukhala ndi nthawi yochuluka nawo monga kale.
• Pitirizani ntchito zawo. Ndikofunikira kuti ana anu apitilize ndi maphunziro anyimbo, masewera, ndi zina zomwe mutaweruka kusukulu mukadwala. Funsani anzanu kapena abale anu kuti akuthandizeni kukwera.
• Limbikitsani ana kuti azicheza ndi anzawo ndikusangalala. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka kwa achinyamata, omwe amadziona ngati olakwa pakusangalala.
• Funsani achikulire ena kuti alowemo. Muuzeni mnzanu, makolo anu, kapena abale ena kapena abwenzi kuti azicheza ndi ana anu nthawi yomwe simungathe.

Ana ambiri amatha kupirira matenda a kholo lawo popanda zovuta zazikulu. Koma ana ena angafunikire thandizo lina. Adziwitseni dokotala wa mwana wanu ngati mwana wanu ali ndi izi.

• Zikuwoneka zachisoni nthawi zonse
• Sangathe kutonthozedwa
• Ali ndi kusintha kwamakalasi
• Amakwiya kwambiri kapena amakwiya msanga
• Amalira kwambiri
• Zikuvuta kulingalira
• Amasintha njala
• Ali ndi vuto logona
• Amayesera kudzipweteka okha
• Osachita chidwi ndi zochitika wamba

Izi ndi zizindikilo zakuti mwana wanu angafunikire thandizo lina, monga kulankhula ndi mlangizi kapena akatswiri ena.

Tsamba la American Cancer Society. Kuthandiza ana pomwe wina m'banja ali ndi khansa: kuthana ndi chithandizo. www.cancer.org/treatment/children-and-cancer/when-a-family-member-has-cancer/dealing-with-treatment.html. Idasinthidwa pa Epulo 27, 2015. Idapezeka pa Epulo 8, 2020.

ASCO Cancer.Net tsamba lawebusayiti. Kuyankhula ndi ana za khansa. www.cancer.net/coping-with-cancer/talking-with-family-and-friends/talking-about-cancer/talking-with-children-about-cancer. Idasinthidwa mu Ogasiti 2019. Idapezeka pa Epulo 8, 2020.

Tsamba la National Cancer Institute. Pamene kholo lanu lili ndi khansa: chitsogozo cha achinyamata. www.cancer.gov/publications/patient-education/When-Your-Parent-Has-Cancer.pdf. Idasinthidwa mu February 2012. Idapezeka pa Epulo 8, 2020.

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