Maphunziro 5 Ochokera ku JLaw pa Kukhala ndi Chibwenzi ndi Amuna Okalamba

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Nkhani itamveka wopambana wa Oscar uja Jennifer Lawrence adayitanitsa kuti asiye ndi Coldplay frontman Chris Martin, Sitinganene kuti tinadabwa kwambiri. Pulogalamu ya Njala Masewera Star, 24, adakhala pachibwenzi ndi woyimba wazaka 37 kuyambira Juni, atangosiya "kukomoka" kwake. Gwyneth Paltrow, Mkazi wake wakale wazaka 10, kumapeto kwa Marichi.

Mmodzi wamkati adauza US Sabata kuti chifukwa chakulekanaku chidachitika chifukwa cha ntchito zawo "zamisala", zomwe zidapangitsa kuti ubale wawo ukhale "wamiyala." Ndipo ngakhale tikuvomereza kuti awiriwa amawoneka kuti sangayembekezere kuyambira pachiyambi, tinali ndi chiyembekezo chachikulu cha zisudzo wokondeka komanso wokondedwa wake watsopano.

Koma popeza banjali ndi kaput, tiyenera kukayikira nzeru za Lawrence zongosankha wokwatirana naye wazaka 13 wamkulu, komanso bambo yemwe watha posachedwa m'banja lalitali (ndi ana). Tidalankhula ndi akatswiri awiri azamaubwenzi pazomwe tonsefe tiyenera kukumbukira ngati muli pachibwenzi achikulire, komanso / kapena omwe mwangosudzulana kumene, amuna.

1. Dziwani kuti mwina sangakhale nazo zonse pamodzi. Zachidziwikire, ndizoyesa kuganiza kuti chibwenzi ndi bambo wachikulire chimatanthauza kukhwima ndi kukhazikika mwachisawawa, koma mungafunike kuyambiranso zomwe mukuyembekezera ndi nambala chabe. "Musaganize kuti ndiwokhwima kapena ali ndi mayankho onse chifukwa chakuti ndi wamkulu," akutero a April Beyer, katswiri wazamabwenzi komanso ubale.

2. Khalani ndi moyo wanu. "Ndawona azimayi ambiri omwe adangotengeka ndi malingaliro oti asamalidwe, ndikungochedwetsa njira yawo yomwe ikanawabweretsera chidaliro komanso bata," akutero Beyer. Onetsetsani kuti muli pamaziko olimba nokha, m'malingaliro ndi m'zachuma, kuti mutha kuima nokha ngati mgwirizanowo utha.

3. Kubwerera ndi chinthu chenicheni. "Ngati munthu wasudzulidwa posachedwa kapena wapatukana ndi mgwirizano wanthawi yayitali, zimatenga nthawi kuti athetse vutoli," akufotokoza a Kelly Campbell, Ph.D., pulofesa wothandizirana ndi zamaganizidwe ku California State University, San Bernadino. Ngati apita mofulumira kwambiri, sangakhale okonzeka ndi wokondedwa wina. Chizindikiro chimodzi chochenjeza: kukana kuyankhula za yemwe anali kale kapena kukhudzidwa kwambiri ndi izi - ikhoza kukhala mbendera yofiira yomwe sanakonze kutha kwa mgwirizanowu. Zomwe mukufuna kuyang'ana ndi mawu osalowerera ndale, osapita m'mbali akamalankhula, zosonyeza kuti ali mwamtendere.

4. Ana ake amabwera naye. "Muyenera kuzindikira kuti ana ake-ndi akale adzakhala gawo la moyo wanu ngati mudzakhala naye," akutero Campbell. Ndipo ngati mudakali a 20s, muyenera kulingalira zomwe zikutanthauza kukhala kholo lopeza. Popeza kuti zaka zimenezo zimathera bwino podzizindikira kuti ndinu munthu wamkulu, kubweretsa ana kusakaniza musanakonzekere kungayambitse vuto.

5. Mukuyang'ana chowombera? Chitani zomwezo. Munthu wosakwatiwa posachedwapa akhoza kupereka zosangalatsa zambiri kwa kanthawi kochepa, akutero Campbell. Kuphatikiza apo, ngati "mwangodzipukutira" posachedwa (monga Lawrence, yemwe wapatukana posachedwa ndi bwenzi lake lazaka zitatu), inu ndi mwamuna wanu watsopanoyu mutha kumvana za momwe nonse mumamvera, akuwonjezera. Okondedwa omwe ali ndi zofanana zambiri amakonda kukhala achimwemwe, chifukwa chake ichi chitha kukhala gawo limodzi lofanana.

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