Zinatenga Kukhala Ndi Mwana Wachisanu Kuti Potsiriza Ndiphunzitseni Ubale Wathanzi ndi Kuchita Masewera Olimbitsa Thupi

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• Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi sizomwe ndimaganiza kuti zinali

Ndili ndi ana asanu sindimangomva nthawi zonse ndikuganiza, koma zakhala zofunikira kuyesetsa kumvera thupi langa.

“Kokerani maziko anu pamodzi ndi breaatthheeee… ”Mlangizi anatero, akuwonetsa kutulutsa kwake kwamphamvu ndi milomo yotsatira.

Ataimirira pamwamba panga, adakhala kaye ndikuyika dzanja m'mimba mwanga momwe munali mushy. Atazindikira kukhumudwa kwanga, adamwetulira ndikundilimbikitsa modekha.

"Mukupita kumeneko," adatero. “Abwana anu akubwera palimodzi.”

Ndinayika mutu wanga kumbuyo kwa mphasa yanga, ndikulola mpweya wanga kuti upite mwaulemu wopanda ulemu. Kodi ndimafikadi? Chifukwa moona mtima, masiku ambiri, sizimamveka.

Popeza kukhala ndi mwana wanga wachisanu pafupifupi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yapitayo, ndapunthwa ndikazindikira modzichepetsa ndikutsegula maso kuti zonse zomwe ndimaganiza kuti ndimadziwa zolimbitsa thupi ndizolakwika.

Ndisanakhale ndi pakati, ndimavomereza kuti ndimakonda kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse. M'malingaliro mwanga, kulimbitsa thupi kwambiri, ndimakhala bwino. Minofu yanga ikawotcha kwambiri, ndimachita zolimbitsa thupi kwambiri. Momwe ndimadzuka, ndikumva kuwawa kwambiri kuti ndingasunthe, umboni womwe ndinali nawo ndikadakhala kuti ndimalimbikira ntchito.

Kukhala ndi pakati ndi mwana wanga wachisanu ndili ndi zaka 33 (inde, ndidayamba molawirira, ndipo inde, ndi ana ambiri) sanandiyimitse - ndili ndi pakati pa miyezi 7, ndimathabe kuphwanya mapaundi 200 ndipo ndimanyadira ndekha pakukwanitsa kwanga kupitiliza kukweza zolemetsa mpaka nthawi yobereka.

Komano, mwana wanga adabadwa ndipo monga momwe ndimagonera usiku wonse, chidwi changa chofuna kupondaponda mu mtundu uliwonse wa masewera olimbitsa thupi chidatha. Kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi sikunamveke kosangalatsa. Zomwe ndimafuna kuchita ndikungokhala kunyumba nditavala zovala zabwino ndikumunyamulira mwana wanga.

Ndiye mukudziwa chiyani? Ndizomwe ndinachita.

M'malo modzikakamiza kuti "ndibwerere mawonekedwe" kapena "kubwereranso," ndidaganiza zondichitira zinazake zokongola: ndidatenga nthawi yanga. Ndinatenga zinthu pang'onopang'ono. Sindinachite chilichonse chomwe sindimafuna kuchita.

Ndipo mwina kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga, ndidaphunzira kumvera thupi langa ndikuchita izi, ndidazindikira kuti zimatenga kukhala ndi mwana wachisanu kuti pamapeto pake ndikhale ndiubwenzi wabwino ndi zolimbitsa thupi.

Chifukwa ngakhale njirayi ikuchedwa kukhumudwitsa, kuphunzitsanso masewera olimbitsa thupi kwatsegulira maso anga ku chowonadi chovuta: Ndidali nazo zolakwika kwathunthu.

Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi sizomwe ndimaganiza kuti zinali

Pomwe ndimangoganiza kuti kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndichokwaniritsa komanso kukondwerera momwe ndingathere chitani - ndikulemera bwanji, kapena squat, kapena benchi, pamapeto pake ndidazindikira kuti, zolimbitsa thupi ndizambiri zamaphunziro omwe amatiphunzitsa momwe tingakhalire moyo wathu.

"Wakale ine" adagwiritsa ntchito zolimbitsa thupi ngati njira yopulumukira, kapena njira yotsimikizira kuti ndikwaniritsa china chake, kuti ndinali wofunika kwambiri chifukwa ndimakwanitsa zolinga zanga.

Koma zolimbitsa thupi siziyenera kukhala zakungomenya matupi athu kuti azimvera, kapena kuyendetsa mwamphamvu komanso mwachangu pamalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi, kapenanso kukweza zolemera zolemera kwambiri. Ziyenera kukhala za machiritso.

Ziyenera kukhala zokhudzana ndi kudziwa nthawi yoti muchite zinthu mwachangu - komanso nthawi yoyenera kuzitenga pang'onopang'ono. Ziyenera kukhala zokhudza kudziwa nthawi yokakamiza komanso nthawi yopuma.

Choyambirira, chiyenera kukhala cha kulemekeza ndi kumvera matupi athu, osati kuwakakamiza kuchita zomwe timaganiza kuti "akuyenera" kuchita.

Lero, ndine wofooka mwakuthupi kuposa kale lonse. Sindingathe kukankha kamodzi. Ndinavutitsa msana wanga pamene ndimayesa kupondereza thupi langa "labwino". Ndipo ndimayenera kunyamula bala yanga ndi cholemera chomwe ndimachita manyazi kuti ndingoyang'ana. Koma mukudziwa chiyani? Tsopano ndili pamtendere ndi komwe ndili muulendo wanga wolimbitsa thupi.

Chifukwa ngakhale kuti sindine woyenera monga kale, ndimakhala ndiubwenzi wabwino kuposa kale ndi zolimbitsa thupi. Pambuyo pake ndaphunzira tanthauzo la kupuma moona, kumvera thupi langa, ndikulemekeza paliponse - ngakhale zitandichitira motani.

Chaunie Brusie ndi namwino wogwira ntchito ndi yobereka yemwe adasandutsa wolemba komanso mayi watsopano wa ana asanu. Amalemba za chilichonse kuyambira zachuma mpaka thanzi mpaka momwe mungapulumukire masiku oyambilira aubereki pomwe zonse zomwe mungachite ndikuganiza za kugona konse komwe simukupeza. Tsatirani iye apa.