Kodi Kutanthauzira Kumatanthauza Chiyani Kukhala Amuna Kapena Amuna Okondana?

Zamkati

• Kodi ndi ofanana?
• Kodi kukhala onunkhira kumatanthauzanji?
• Kodi zikutanthauza chiyani kuti asexual?
• Kodi zikutanthauzanji kuzindikira ndi zonse ziwiri?
• Kodi pali zina zomwe zili pansi pa ambulera ya asexual / aromantic?
• Kodi izi zikuwoneka bwanji pochita?
• Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani pamaubwenzi apakati?
• Kodi ndibwino kusafuna chibwenzi konse?
• Nanga bwanji zogonana?
• Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati ndipamene mungakwaniritse pansi pa ambulera ya ace, ngati sichoncho?
• Kodi mungaphunzire kuti?

Kodi ndi ofanana?

"Aromantic" ndi "asexual" sizikutanthauza chinthu chofanana.

Monga momwe mayina akunenera, anthu onunkhira samakopeka, ndipo anthu ogonana samakopeka ndi kugonana.

Anthu ena amadziwika kuti ndi onunkhira komanso osakanikirana. Komabe, kudziwika ndi limodzi la mawuwa sikutanthauza kuti mumadziwika ndi enawo.

Nazi zomwe muyenera kudziwa ndikukhala aromantic, asexual, kapena zonse ziwiri.

Kodi kukhala onunkhira kumatanthauzanji?

Anthu okonda zonyansa samakopeka kwenikweni. Kukopeka ndi kufuna kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina.

Kutanthauzira kwa "maubwenzi okondana" kumatha kusiyanasiyana munthu ndi munthu.

Anthu ena onunkhira amakhala ndi zibwenzi. Angafune kukondana popanda kukopeka ndi munthu winawake.

Chosiyana ndi zonunkhira - ndiye kuti, munthu amene amakopeka ndi chikondi - ndi "alloromantic.“

Kodi zikutanthauza chiyani kuti asexual?

Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha samakopeka ndi kugonana. Mwanjira ina, samva kufunika kogonana ndi anthu ena.

Izi sizikutanthauza kuti sagonana konse - ndizotheka kugona ndi wina osakopeka naye.

Chosiyana ndi kugonana - ndiko kuti, munthu amene amakopeka ndi kugonana - ndi "kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha."

Kodi zikutanthauzanji kuzindikira ndi zonse ziwiri?

Sikuti anthu onse ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi onunkhira, ndipo sianthu onse onunkhira omwe amatsata - koma anthu ena onse!

Anthu omwe ali onunkhira komanso osangalala sakhala ndi chidwi chilichonse chokhudzana ndi kugonana kapena kukondana. Izi sizitanthauza kuti samalowa mu zibwenzi kapena kugonana.

Kodi pali zina zomwe zili pansi pa ambulera ya asexual / aromantic?

Pali mawu ena ambiri omwe anthu amagwiritsa ntchito pofotokoza za kugonana kwawo komanso zachikondi.

Zina mwazomwe zili pansi pa ambulera ya asexual kapena onunkhira ndi monga:

• Kodi izi zikuwoneka bwanji pochita?

  Munthu aliyense wamatsenga onunkhira amasiyana, ndipo munthu aliyense amakhala ndi zokumana nazo pokhudzana ndi maubale.

  Komabe, ngati nonse muli onunkhira komanso osakanikirana, mutha kuzindikira chimodzi kapena zingapo zotsatirazi:

  • Mudakhala ndi chikhumbo chochepa chogonana kapena chibwenzi ndi munthu winawake.
  • Mumavutika kulingalira momwe zimakhalira mukakhala mchikondi.
  • Mumavutika kulingalira momwe chilakolako chimamvera.
  • Anthu ena akamakamba zakukopeka ndi winawake, simungathe kufotokoza.
  • Mumadzimva osalowerera ndale kapena kunyansidwa ndi lingaliro logonana kapena kukhala pachibwenzi.
  • Simukutsimikiza ngati mumangomva kufunika kogonana kapena kukhala pachibwenzi chifukwa ndizomwe zimayembekezeka kwa inu.

  Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani pamaubwenzi apakati?

  Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha atha kukhalabe ndi zibwenzi kapena zogonana, kutengera momwe akumvera.

  
  

  Pali, pambuyo pa zonse, zifukwa zambiri zogonana ndi munthu wina kapena kulowa muubwenzi - sizomwe zimakopeka ndi iwo.

  Kumbukirani kuti kukhala aromantic ndi asexual sikutanthauza kuti wina sangathe chikondi kapena kudzipereka.

  Kupatula zokopa zakugonana, anthu atha kufunafuna zogonana kuti:

  • kutenga pakati ana
  • kupereka kapena kulandira chisangalalo
  • kulumikizana ndi wokondedwa wawo
  • sonyezani chikondi
  • kuyesa

  Momwemonso, kunja kwa kukondana, anthu atha kukhala ndi zibwenzi kuti:

  • kholo limodzi ndi wina
  • dziperekeni kwa munthu amene amamukonda
  • kupereka ndi kulandira chilimbikitso

  Kodi ndibwino kusafuna chibwenzi konse?

  Inde! Simuyenera kukhala pachibwenzi kapena kugonana kuti mukhale osangalala.

  Thandizo lachitukuko ndilofunika, koma mutha kulipeza pokhazikitsa mabwenzi apamtima komanso ubale wapabanja - zomwe tonsefe tiyenera kuchita, kaya tili pachibwenzi kapena ayi.

  "Maubale a Queerplatonic," mawu omwe amapangidwa ndi gulu la anthu onunkhira komanso ogonana, amatanthauza maubwenzi apamtima omwe si achikondi kapena kugonana. Iwo ali pafupi kuposa ubwenzi wapakati.

  Mwachitsanzo, ubale wopitilira muyeso ungaphatikizepo kukhalira limodzi, kulera limodzi, kuthandizana m'maganizo ndi mayanjano, kapena kugawana zachuma ndi maudindo.

  Nanga bwanji zogonana?

  Inde, ndibwino kuti musafune kugonana. Sizitanthauza kuti china chake chalakwika ndi inu kapena kuti ndi vuto lomwe muyenera kukonza.

  Anthu ena ogonana amagonana, ndipo ena amadziseweretsa maliseche. Ena sagonana.

  Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha atha kukhala:

  • Kugonana, kutanthauza kuti sakufuna kugonana ndikupeza lingalirolo kukhala losasangalatsa
  • Kugonana-osayanjanitsika, kutanthauza kuti samakondanso kugonana
  • Kugonana kovomerezeka, kutanthauza kuti amasangalala ndi zochitika zina zogonana, ngakhale atakhala kuti alibe zokopa zamtunduwu

  Anthu atha kuwona kuti malingaliro awo okhudzana ndi kugonana amasintha pakapita nthawi.

  Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati ndipamene mungakwaniritse pansi pa ambulera ya ace, ngati sichoncho?

  Palibe mayeso oti mudziwe momwe mumakondera kapena kukondana - ndipo izi zitha kupangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuzizindikira.

  Ngati simukudziwa ngati mukukwanira pansi pa ambulera ya asexual / aromantic, mutha kuganizira izi:

  • Lowani nawo magulu kapena magulu - monga foramu za AVEN kapena foramu za Reddit - komwe mungawerenge za zokumana nazo za ena monga anthu achabechabe komanso onunkhira. Izi zingakuthandizeni kudziwa momwe mukumvera.
  • Lankhulani ndi mnzanu yemwe mumamudalira yemwe amamvetsetsa zamatsenga ndi aromanticism.
  • Lowani nawo magulu a LGBTQIA + okonda asexual komanso onunkhira kuti mugwirizane ndi anthu amalingaliro ngati anu.
  • Onetsetsani pang'ono ndikuganizira momwe mumamvera mukakopeka ndi kugonana.

  Pamapeto pake, ndi inu nokha amene mungadziwe kuti ndinu ndani.

  Kumbukirani kuti munthu aliyense wamatsenga kapena wonyezimira ndi wosiyana ndipo munthu aliyense amakhala ndi zokumana nazo zawo pazochita zaubwenzi.

  Kodi mungaphunzire kuti?

  Pali zinthu zingapo zapaintaneti kwa anthu omwe akufuna kuphunzira zambiri za asexuality ndi aromanticism.

  Nawa ochepa:

  • Asexual Visibility and Education Network, komwe mungafufuze matanthauzidwe amawu osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi kugonana komanso malingaliro
  • Trevor Project, yomwe imathandizira kulowererapo pamavuto komanso kuthandizira achinyamata achinyamata, kuphatikiza achinyamata achichepere komanso onunkhira
  • Asexual Groups, tsamba lawebusayiti lomwe limalemba magulu azipembedzo padziko lonse lapansi, monga Aces & Aros
  • magulu asexual kapena onunkhira am'deralo ndi magulu a Facebook
  • mabwalo ngati forum ya AVEN ndi subsexdit ya Asexuality

  Sian Ferguson ndi wolemba komanso wolemba pawokha ku Cape Town, South Africa. Zolemba zake zimakhudzana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, chamba, komanso thanzi. Mutha kufikira kwa iye Twitter.