Zomwe Nkhani ya 'Obadwa Motere' Imalakwika Pankhani Ya Kukhala Waukali

Zamkati

• Mbiri Yachidule ya 'Wobadwa Motere'
• Mtsutso (W) Wotsutsana ndi 'Wobadwa Mwanjira Ino'
• Kotero… Kodi Anthu Amabadwa Ndi Queer?
• Kodi Timachokera Kuti?
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Kwezani dzanja lanu ngati munayamba mwafuulapo, kugwedeza, ndi kunong'oneza pamodzi ndi mawu odziwika akuti "Ndili panjira yoyenera, mwana ndinabadwira motere." Mavuto ndi omwe dzanja lanu lakweza. Komabe, ngakhale sichoncho, mwina mumadziwa zomwe zakhala kulira kwankhondo kwazaka pafupifupi theka: Wobadwa chonchi.

Zosavuta momwe zingakhalire, mawuwa afotokozedwa ndi omenyera ufulu wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha pakusintha chikhalidwe, malamulo, komanso ndale kudzera munyimbo, zikwangwani, ndi mayankhulidwe. Ndipo munjira zambiri, "wobadwa mwanjira iyi" anali chizindikiro chodziwika bwino cha kayendetsedwe kaukwati.

Komabe, mawuwa alibe zolakwika zake. "Kumene nkhani ya" wobadwa motere "ikusowa mosazindikira," atero a Rae McDaniel, mlangizi wovomerezeka wazachipatala komanso wochita zachiwerewere ku Chicago. Ndipo kusowa kwamtunduwu kumatha kuchititsa anthu osawadziwa kumasulidwa.

Mbiri Yachidule ya 'Wobadwa Motere'

Mawu oti 'wobadwa mwanjira iyi' adayamba kulowa mu lexicon yodziwika bwino ndikumasulidwa kwa woimba nyimbo komanso womenyera Edzi, nyimbo ya Carl Bean ya 1977, "Ndidabadwa Motere." Ndili ndi mawu akuti "Ndine wokondwa, ndine wosasamala, ndipo ndine gay, ndinabadwa motere," nyimboyi inakhala nyimbo ya LGBTQ + ya nthawi yake. Pambuyo pake, idalimbikitsanso Lady Gaga's 2011’Wobadwa Mwanjira Ino, "yomwe idathandizira mawuwo ndi mpweya wabwino, kuwalola kupitilizabe kulira kwa gulu lachifumu. (PS, ngati mukuwerenga izi ndipo simukumva bwino? Nayi chikumbutso kuti ndiwe.)

Chidule cha nkhani ya "wobadwa mwanjira iyi" ndikuti anthu achifwamba amayenera ufulu chifukwa mfumukazi yawo ndi chibadwidwe komanso chibadwidwe - kotero kumanidwa ufulu wa munthu wina chifukwa chololera kwawo ndizopanda pake monga kumamuletsa ufulu chifukwa cha mtundu wawo wamaso.

Chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe zidapezekanso, malinga ndi a Jesse Kahn, L.C.S.W., C.S.T., director and Therapist Therapy ku The Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center ku NYC, ndikuti ndizosavuta kwa anthu omwe sanachite mantha kumvetsetsa, chifukwa chake amamvera chisoni. Mwanjira ina, ngati mulibe chibadwa wosakhoza wokopeka ndi amuna ndi akazi osiyana ndi anu, ndiye, chabwino, muyenera kulandira ufulu.

Poyamba, anthu ambiri achifwamba adalandiranso mawu achidule chifukwa amatsutsana kwambiri ndi mbiri yachipembedzo yomwe imati kudandaula ndi njira yosankhira moyo, akutero Kahn. Lingaliro lakuti queerness ndi kusankha limagwirizana ndi lingaliro lakuti queerness ndi tchimo - ndipo motero, tchimo limene wina angakhoze kulipewa, ngati atakhala ndi mphamvu pang'ono, akuwonjezera ovomerezeka ogonana ogonana ndi munthu wodabwitsa Casey Tanner, MA, LCPC, Katswiri wazakampani zopanga zosangalatsa LELO. "Wobadwa motere nthano imatsutsana ndi izi pokana lingaliro loti munthu wodekha ali ndi ubale uliwonse ndi mphamvu, ndipo m'malo mwake (kwa achipembedzo) kuti Mulungu adatipanga motere," akutero. Ndizomveka kuti iyi ndi nkhani yosangalatsa kwa anthu osawadziwa omwe amagonana nawo monga gawo lawo - makamaka anthu achikazi m'malo azipembedzo.

Mtsutso (W) Wotsutsana ndi 'Wobadwa Mwanjira Ino'

Ngakhale mawuwo anali othandiza m'mbiri, masiku ano, anthu ambiri a LGBTQ + amakhulupirira kuti mawuwa amatanthauza kupita patsogolo kwakanthawi.

Pongoyambira, imapatsa mwayi iwo omwe amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo ngati chinthu chokhazikika, chosasintha, pomwe chimalepheretsa iwo omwe ali ndi vuto logonana kapena jenda monga zinthu zosintha, zamadzimadzi, zosintha nthawi zonse. (Onani: Kodi Chachiwawa Chakugonana Ndi Chiyani?)

Vuto ndi izi? "Palibe kusiyana pakutsimikizika kwa munthu yemwe amadziwa kuti ali ndi zaka zapakati pazaka zinayi komanso wina amene atuluka zaka za m'ma 60," akutero a McDaniels. Ndipo zimachotsa mfundo yoti anthu ambiri sadziwa kuti ndi opusa ayi chifukwa ali ayi queer… koma chifukwa anakulira m'malo osasinthasintha kapena odana ndi LGBTQ + komwe kuyesa kugonana kapena jenda sikukadakhala kotetezeka, kapena chifukwa chosowa mwayi wamaphunziro kapena chilankhulo, akutero. (Mukufuna kukumbutsidwa kuti ndi angati amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso amuna kapena akazi okhaokha? Onani: LGBTQ + Glossary of Gender and Sexuality Definitions.)

Lingaliro la "kubadwa chonchi" limanyalanyazanso mfundo yakuti kugonana ndi jenda zimatha kusintha pakapita nthawi. Kwa ena, chisinthikochi chimachitika chifukwa chilankhulo cha kugonana ndi jenda chasintha, akutero Tanner. "Chilankhulo chokhudza jenda ndi kugonana chimakula mofulumira, chikugwedezeka pafupifupi zaka zitatu zilizonse, choncho siziyenera kudabwitsa kuti momwe timadzifotokozera tokha zikhoza kusintha mofulumira pamodzi ndi kupita patsogolo kumeneku," akutero. Chifukwa chake, "sizachilendo konse kuti anthu azilandira chilankhulo chomwe chimagwirizana ndi zomwe akumana nazo, kenako ndikupeza nthawi ina yolumikizana," akutero.

Kwa ena, kugonana kwawo kapena jenda kumasintha mosavuta chifukwa umunthu wawo, maonekedwe, ndi kukopa kwasintha pakapita nthawi. Zowonadi, kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti malingaliro azakugonana ndichinthu chomwe chimasintha ndikusintha mpaka kukhala munthu wamkulu, malinga ndi kafukufuku wina wa 2019 wa anthu pafupifupi 12,000 omwe adasindikizidwa mu Zolemba Pakafukufuku Wogonana. (Werenganinso: Zomwe Zikutanthauza Kuphatikiza "X" M'mawu Monga Womxn, Folx, ndi Latinx)

Chifukwa chinanso chomwe anthu a LGBTQ + amatsutsana ndi mawu oti "obadwa chonchi" ndi chifukwa amasunga ufulu walamulo wokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi jenda la munthu (komanso m'banja), m'malo mopatsa anthu onse ufulu wonse. Kwenikweni, ndi ufulu wocheperako kuposa kunena kuti "munthu aliyense ayenera kulandira ufulu womwewo."

Kotero… Kodi Anthu Amabadwa Ndi Queer?

Pamapeto pake, ili ndi funso lolakwika. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa ngakhale funso loti "nchiyani chimapangitsa wina kukhala wopusa?" ndichosangalatsa, vuto ndikuti, funsoli limangofunsidwa za zizindikiritso zomwe zidatchulidwa pansi pa dzina la LGBTQ + ndipo osanena zakugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Ndilo funso lomwe likuganiza kuti kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndiko chizolowezi, komanso kuti kugonana kwina kulikonse ndikolakwika chifukwa cha chilengedwe (DNA) kapena kulera (kulera, chikhalidwe chozungulira, kulera kwachipembedzo, ndi zina zotero) zolakwika. Mwanjira ina, funso ili limagwira ntchito yonyansa ya heteronormativity, lomwe ndi lingaliro loti munthu aliyense ndi (ndipo ayenera kukhala) wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso cisgender (pomwe malingaliro anu achimuna amafanana ndi amuna omwe mudapatsidwa pobadwa).

Kumveka bwino: Izi sizikutanthauza kuti kudzuka sikubadwa - kwa anthu ambiri ndizofunika kwambiri.M'malo mwake, cholinga apa ndikufufuza chifukwa chake kupitiliza kugwiritsa ntchito "kubadwa motere" ngati kulira kokulirakulira kumayang'ana kwambiri chifukwa chomwe anthu amafunikira ufulu (chifukwa timabadwa motere!) ufulu (chabwino, dzulo).

Kodi Timachokera Kuti?

Kaya ndinu ovuta nokha, kapena ozunguliridwa ndi anthu omwe ali, ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti mfumukazi ndiyabwino mosiyanasiyana. Monga Tanner ananenera, "palibe njira yodziwikiratu, yochitira zinthu modzidzimutsa, kukumbatira zachiwerewere, kutuluka ngati queer, kapena kuphatikizira queer." Ndipo pofotokoza kuti anthu onse amakasitomala amakumana ndi kubadwa kwawo, nkhani yobadwa mwanjira imeneyi imasokoneza mfundo yomweyi.

Kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti tiyenera kuyimitsa kaye pa Lady Gaga's bop? Ayi! Komabe, izo amachita zikutanthauza kuti ogwirizana enieni akuyenera kusintha kuchoka pazolungamitsa bwanji gulu la LGBTQ likuyenera kulandira ufulu, ndipo ali ndi chidwi chofuna kutipatsa ufuluwu. (Onani: Momwe Mungakhalire Mgwirizano Wowona ndi Wothandiza)

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