Kodi Kulira Pambuyo Pogonana Ndi Kwachibadwa?

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• Kodi kulira ndikofala motani pambuyo pa kugonana?
• Koma bwanji anthu amalira akagonana?
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Chabwino, kugonana ndi kokongola (moni, ubongo, thupi, komanso maubwino olimbikitsira ubale!). Koma kukhudzidwa ndi kusangalala - m'malo mosangalala - mutatha gawo lanu lakuchipinda sikokwanira.

Ngakhale magawo ena azakugonana atha kukhala abwino kwambiri amakupangitsani kulira (kuthamanga kwa oxytocin komwe kumasefukira muubongo wanu pambuyo poti kumatulutsa misozi yachimwemwe), pali chifukwa china cholilira mutagonana:postcoital dysphoria (PCD), kapena kumverera kwa nkhawa, kupsinjika maganizo, misozi, ngakhalenso chiwawa (osati mtundu umene umafuna pabedi) zomwe amayi ena amakumana nazo atangogonana. Nthawi zina PCD imatchedwa postcoitaltristse(Chifalansa chachisoni), malinga ndi International Society for Sexual Medicine (ISSM).

Kodi kulira ndikofala motani pambuyo pa kugonana?

Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa amayi aku koleji 230 omwe adasindikizidwa mu Mankhwala Ogonana, 46 peresenti adakumana ndi zodabwitsazi. Anthu asanu mwa anthu 5 aliwonse omwe anali mu kafukufukuyu adakumana nawo kangapo mwezi watha.

Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, anyamata nawonso amalira atagonana: Kafukufuku wa 2018 wa amuna pafupifupi 1,200 adapeza kuti kuchuluka komweko kwa amuna amakumana ndi PCD ndikulira nawonso atagonana. 41 peresenti adanena kuti akukumana ndi PCD m'moyo wawo wonse ndipo 20 peresenti adanena kuti adakumana nayo mwezi watha. (Zogwirizana: Kodi Ndizolakwika Kuti Thanzi Lanu Kuyesa Kusalira?)

Koma bwanji anthu amalira akagonana?

Osadandaula, kulira kwa postcoital sikumakhala kokhudzana kwambiri ndi kulimba kwa ubale wanu, kuchuluka kwa ubale pakati pa inu ndi wokondedwa wanu, kapena momwe kugonana kuliri kwabwino. (Zogwirizana: Momwe Mungasangalalire Ndi Magulu Awo Onse Ogonana)

Robert Schweitzer, Ph.D., ndi mlembi wamkulu wa bungwe lonena za kugonana Mankhwala Ogonana kuphunzira. Popeza kugonana ndi gawo lodzala ndi malingaliro, ngakhale mutayandikira bwanji moyo wanu wachikondi, kungogonana kumakhudza momwe mumadzionera, zabwino kapena zoyipa. Kwa anthu omwe ali ndi chidziwitso cholimba cha zomwe iwo ali ndi zomwe akufuna (zonse m'chipinda chogona komanso m'moyo), olemba phunziroli amaganiza kuti PCD ndi yochepa. "Kwa munthu amene amadziona kuti ndi wofooka kwambiri, zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri," akutero Schweitzer.

Schweitzer akuti ndizotheka kuti palinso chibadwa cha PCD nawonso-ofufuzawo adawona kufanana pakati pa mapasa omwe akumenya nkhondo yogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (ngati m'modzi amapasa adakumana nayo, winayo amayenera kutero). Koma kufufuza kowonjezereka kumafunika kuyesa lingaliro limenelo.

ISSM imanenanso izi ngati zifukwa zomwe zingachititsire kulira mutagonana:

• Ndizotheka kuti chidziwitso chakugwirizana ndi wokondedwa nthawi yogonana ndichachikulu kwambiri kotero kuti kuswa mgwirizanowo kumabweretsa chisoni.
• Kukhudzidwa kwamaganizo kungagwirizane ndi kugwiriridwa kumene kwachitika kale.
• Nthawi zina, zitha kukhala chizindikiro cha zovuta zaubwenzi.

Pakadali pano, ngati mukuvutika, chinthu choyamba chingakhale kudziwa mbali za moyo wanu zomwe zingakupangitseni kukhala opsinjika kapena osatetezeka, akutero Schweitzer. (Langizo: Tamverani upangiri wa azimayi omwe amadzidalira kwambiri kuti athetse mavuto aliwonse obisalira.) Ngati nthawi zambiri mumalira mukamagonana ndipo zikukuvutitsani, kungakhale bwino kukaonana ndi mlangizi, dokotala, kapena kachipatala.

Mfundo yofunika, komabe? Sizamisala kulira mutagonana. (Ndi chimodzi mwazinthu 19 Zazikulu Zomwe Zingakupangitseni Kulira.)

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